#violaf

[solar-eclippse]

Number one favorite problematic ship dynamic:

Middle-aged villainous mentor/parental figure x younger, headstrong, less villainous protegé who may or may not have actually agreed to being mentored. They are weirdly affectionate/close with each other in ways that are somewhat suspicious given the rest of their dynamic.

[kylesdove]

bro kissing @omegaverse-yuri for the tag:

Share 13 songs in heavy rotation!!

Most of these are governed by whatever fic I’m writing at the moment so most of these are Violate-coded but there’s a few outliers ofc 🖤🩷 (Spotify links & in no particular order)

1. Maybe by Flower Face (literally the plot of Pretty Little Thing rn lmao…)

2. We Hug Now by Sydney Rose (this is actually my guilty pleasure Colin Zabel song 😔 idk it makes me miss him)

3. Numb by Marina (this one is just a banger, newly discovered and I am certainly going to listen to it to death)

4. Pulsar Star by Anya Nami (urghhh kind of my dark!Tate coded but also giving me major Bugonia vibes 🤔 so that’s a plus)

5. Mr. Brightside by The Killers (my ultimate Colin Zabel ballad. It plays in the bar scene in MoE & it is HIM down to the last line 😭)

6. I like the way you kiss me by Artemas (just too good, I go through a phase every few months where I play this one on repeat lol)

7. The Blade by AURORA (so damn Violate coded it makes me sick BUT also very Violet x Olaf coded, in particular my current Violent Shades fic, the blood/blade motif is just perfection ✨)

8. The Essence by AURORA (this one actually has a lot of different meanings to me… big one being the love/hate relationship children of abuse often have with their abuser, especially when it’s a parental figure. So mainly been thinking of my boy Kyle 🥲)

9. I’m so Lucky! (slowed) by Lucky Twice (dorky asf but it’s another Colin one for me to cry to)

10. Hellfire by Reinaeiry (The Hunchback of Notre Dame will always own my heart so this one needs no explanation.)

11. Possession by Melanie Martinez (😒 yeah I’m in my Melanie phase again smh. this one is actually soooo Kai coded it’s insane, I’m not even a Kai girly but wow pls listen)

12. The Way by Fastball (just a damn good song. Should have been played to oblivion in the early 2000s but alas it’s an underrated gem.)

13. Hollow Hearts by Peter Gundry (obligatory instrumental track because little known fact about me: I’m a soundtrack girly. I value lyrics in songs a ton but my heart belongs to instrumentals so here’s one (of many) that I’ve been playing while I write my obnoxious fanfiction.)

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[divineviper]

That other post got me on the subject of Violet's particular developmental trauma, and it's Sunday morning so get ready for some wordvomit. Separate post because a) it's a separate topic and b) whooo boy you can't talk about Violet Baudelaire's experiences without themes of sexual abuse.

Content warnings: Sexual abuse, assault, cultural assumptions about childhood sexual abuse, rape culture, and related themes. Some talk about Violaf fanworks.

Also, disclaimer: I haven't picked up the books in a few years and I may misremember some details. I read The Beatrice Letters a while ago but haven't gotten to ATWQ or any of the subsequent material.

First off: shout-out to Daniel Handler for creating a book series that, in a kid friendly way, is thematically honest about how it feels for a child to be sexually abused. It was so helpful in understanding things that happened to me AND reminding me that you can be a whole person alongside your experiences.

Also, I would be remiss if I didn't mention the fan creators processing along with the series. People really hate to be honest about this because of the ick factor, but I processed my own trauma through Violaf fic. Shoutout to you, creators. I see you, I wish you well on your journeys, and thank you. I'll be talking about canon mostly, but as I speak about it, you all are in my heart.

One thing I think the Netflix series and the books nail is how trauma comes about. While yes, traumatic events are important, it's what happens after that can matter more than graphic details that can tip from an examination of toxic power to a spectacle of toxic sex.

Excuse me while I sneeze--ooohOUTLANDER--ahhGAME OF THRONES. Where were we?

The Nebulous, Unclean Event(s)

We set the stage for Violet's unique developmental trauma with, of course, the stage play. In The Bad Beginning, Violet narrowly escapes being forced into marriage to her guardian under threat of the lives of her siblings.

The premise is absurd, as much of the series is when it's giving readers the honest mirror to uncomfortable truths about the world.

It brings to the fore:

Sexual abuse can be about sex, but it's about power most of all

Sexual abuse rarely shows up as a clean, distinct, easily explainable event

It's difficult for anyone, let alone children, to understand what is happening to them in the moment

The world will go on, often relentlessly, giving survivors little time to process what happened.

Violet spent a lot of the first half of the book being established as the caretaker, and the latter half both throws that identity on its head and reminds the reader that she's as much a victim as her siblings. Iirc the line "I'll touch you whenever I want" comes from the books and I was SHOCKED to hear it in the series, but glad it remained there. It's viscerally upsetting, which is true to life.

Handler has said that he has issues with people pushing back on Olaf's behavior because villainous people do villainous things. Lots of narratives about childhood sexual abuse are afraid to be honest because it's icky.

But how do you think survivors feel?

The Absent Aftermath

And after all of that, things just keep happening. No safe adult stops to acknowledge the sexual exploitation of a fourteen-year-old girl. They can't--there is no justice available to her, and everyone knows it. Violet just has to deal.

She later endures:

Comments about her body

Being touched without her consent

Adults undermining her expertise because of her gender

Tacit dismissal of her exploitation by purportedly-safe adults

An equally absurd mirror of sexual exploitation, this time with Medical Trauma

Reckoning with nuanced history of perpetrators in her life

And even through all of these things that happen to real-life survivors every day, Violet remains a whole person separate from her victimhood. It's one of the most hopeful narratives I've ever had the delight of experiencing.

I just wish I could help people understand why something so bleak on the surface feels so deeply empowering to me.

[aqours]

i think what makes violaf such an endearing dead dove ship is how unapologetic it is. you know how there's a lot of ships people try to bullshit their way around pretending it's not that bad??? ain't no fucking WAY you're bringing that dove to life with violaf and that's beautiful

[violafzine]

Happy Valentine's Day! A Good Match Zine is now available online! Treat yourself to a steamy, scary, straight up erotic zine for FREE today! 🔥🍷♥️🔪 Dropbox Link (Available as PDF and EPUB)

Art by the amazing @florenceisfalling

[dearest-solitude]

In Security

A girl awakes in a car with no memories.

[countessviolet]

Wild Embers ~ pt. 3 ~ Kiss me through the phone, I'll see you later on

The Baulderlaire siblings stay on the run from Count Olaf and become dubious criminals to survive. Phone booths in the middle of nowhere may start ringing unexpectedly, Violet learns while getting gas. Don't answer the phone unless you're ready to speak to whoever is on the other end.

[s-softersoftest]

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just wanted to mention, I published a copy of my fic Freaks Like Us on ao3! It debuted in the violaf zine A Good Match and now it's available for anyone & everyone. Thanksssss