#visibly different

[ayronaught]

It's kinda annoying that i can't properly lift my left eyebrow because this is actually me

[coolkaius]

Marginalized Identities List

This page is only meant to be a starting point to bring awareness to the various reasons why people are marginalized or discriminated agains

Will never be comprehensive, complete, or perfect. This page is only meant to be a starting point to bring awareness to the various reasons why people are marginalized or discriminated against.

I will always be open to constructive feedback to change/add/remove things on this list. I am no expert on any of these things, but I did make an effort to use respectful language. If anyone has suggestions to make it more respectful or modern, please let me know. Doesn't matter how old this post is. My DMs are open.

[mar-zelle]

I was sitting in a staff meeting and a co-worker shared a personal story. She and her husband took DNA tests to confirm that they were not related so their baby would not be deformed “because nobody wants that.”

[ayronaught]

Admist all the VD drama, I had two really nice experiences as a VD person today that I want to share. For visibly different people, to remind us that not everyone is an asshat, and for other people, to prove that you can treat us like everyone else.

(1) At the opticians, my guy didn't push me to bring up my VD specifically, just asked general health stuff (as they always do – but many see my VD and think it's the biggest part of my health profile when it Absolutely Is Not.)

And he only pointed out my left eye being slightly droopy (a muscle thing) when it was literally a problem because my eye was too shut for him to work properly and he needed to gently keep it open to be able to do his job

(2) There was a new guy at my Bible Study and I could immediately tell he's the kind of guy to make remarks about everyone for comedy.

He didn't bring up my VD, though, even though it's easy material, and instead went after my music taste, and we ended up debating Switchfoot vs. Skillet, instead of me awkwardly deflecting personal questions

[ayronaught]

Non visibly disabled people, i PROMISE you that there is no original joke you can make about visible disabilities and visible differences so stop trying and piss off

[ayronaught]

Do you think it'd be rude if someone posted something like "i do not have a visible physical difference, so i don't experience the same kind of ableism people who do have visible physical differences, but recently i experienced an injury that left me temporarily visibly different, and the way i was treated by people while out and about made me empathize a lot more with visibly different people. Don't be weird to strangers guys. Leave that visibly different and/or disabled person existing near you alone. Don't stare."?

Just asking because, while i myself am visibly disabled, it is not because of the way my body looks*, and i recently got some pretty severe burns that look real weird and have caused stares and comments from other people, and it made me even angrier about how visibly different people are often gawked at like zoo animals. Would it be rude or presumptuous or otherwise disrespectful to make a post about this or should i leave it only to visibly different people to speak about the ableism they face?

*(To be clear, i am not visibly disabled because of a mobility aid either)

Thank you for your time!

Obvious disclaimer that i am only one person and other visibly different people may have other opinions (which I'd like to hear, btw)

Plain text: Obvious disclaimer that i am only one person and other visibly different people may have other opinions (which I'd like to hear, btw)

I don't see a problem with your post. You're not claiming to speak for us as a community, but you're empathising. You had an experience, and it just so happens to align with our daily lives.

I would feel iffy if you tagged it under visible difference tags because VD is kinda a long-term thing, and your injury, I assume, isn't, so idk. You don't have that lived experience that comes from living with a VD for months or years, or the knowledge that this is your reality forever (/a very long time)

I would also just be really careful about how you phrase it because even within the VD demographic, people with a limb difference and face difference and significant scarring are all VD, obviously, and have things in common in terms of ableism we face, but it's also different. So you aren't going to relate to someone with a limb difference, and probably not a face difference either (unless the burn is on your face).

Just like how visibly disabled people all face similar types of discrimination, but a mobility aid user, someone with obvious ID, a visibly different person, and a person with a movement disorder are going to have specific experiences that don't overlap. And then the subcatagories within them and so on and so forth.

Ultimately, anon, I personally wouldn't take offence if I saw your post while scrolling around. It's a bit preachy at the end, but I wouldn't be upset, just slightly amused at the tone, if anything.

[f1]

[infxnatum]

((Once I do a good rp with him

I’ll reveal why Nova isn’t like normal Lycanroc

Anyone who knows who he is outside of the Pokeverse can probably figure it out

The hint is in his name. Codename: Nova))