Hello! I wanted to take a moment before this weekend to address something with those of you who follow me here. (🫶🏼)
You may have noticed that my messages and ask box are currently closed to non-mutuals. While I turned off anonymous asks a long time ago, I’ve decided to close them all entirely for the time being.
I want to be very clear about why: bullying and harassment. In all my years on this site, I have never logged on to unpromptedly hurt or bring someone else down. I say "unprompted" because I’m not going to pretend I’m a perfectly submissive person who doesn’t bite back—I have, and I will continue to defend myself when necessary. However, I usually prefer to just block and move on.
I love sharing my interests, selfies, and life with you all, and I truly appreciate the kind messages and questions I receive. But please remember:
* I have a life: I have a job, hobbies, and privacy to maintain. I am not always logged on. None of us should be. I do not come on here to chat daily, it’s usually a quick scroll or share.
* Don’t take it personally: If I don’t respond, it isn’t a slight against you. A lot of messages are sent to my ask and my DMs. When the app is refreshed or re-opened, your message may be moved down and most of the time I miss them.
Unfortunately, someone recently took a lack of response personally and tried to "humble" me. I returned their energy and blocked them, but they proceeded to spend the day harrassing me from multiple new accounts.
As adults, we have to do better. Whether you are in your 20s like I am, 30s, or older, we need to treat each other with respect and mind our own business. I have blocked and reported all associated accounts.
I won’t be posting their username or the screenshots for now since the behavior has stopped, but if you are worried about your own safety, please comment or reach out so I can let you know who to watch out for.
Protect your peace. Have a great weekend!











