Fuck that really hit home. There's a guy that I talk to (not in that way, for me at least) he's head over heels in love with me and texts me when I wake up, til my head hits the pillow. He tells me all his problems and constantly sneaks them into conversations and he believes if we're together I can fix him. He's not dark Jim but I don't know how to tell him i cant help him anymore. It's draining me.
Oh I know bubba!
It’s a form of emotional manipulation tbh and I can only say that because I’m going through it myself (though not romantically). It’s a relentlessness and the best thing you can do is to sit him down and let him know the impact it is having on you. It’s hard and a brave thing to do, but to encourage him that it isn’t fair on either of you for him to fixate on you. The pressure and expectation isn’t good for either of you and you need to step away, you cannot be the one to help him through what is going on.
Take some time away and don’t let him try to change you, no matter the accusations he may throw at you or what he might think. You’ve got to be strong enough to say this is me and if you don’t like it then that’s that, I’m not going to change who I am to fit your perception of who and what I should be.
I’m learning to do it and still trying every day 💛
