I Don’t Get It
I guess what bothers me most is that my darling Ace can’t just be “Ace” and let the world revolve around whoever Ace is, not think of my Ace as “asexual” alone. I don’t understand the need to fight to make the world recognize that there are asexuals. Why the fight? Haven’t there always been asexuals? Is there asexual oppression and killings of mind, body, spirit that goes undefended/uncared about?
And tell me, please, what...do you want the world to know about asexuality? What do you want people to do? What would you most like to see happen? Is your sexual behavior (or lack thereof) how you define yourself as a person?
If you can answer these questions then maybe I will get a better sense for the NEED to slap a label on your sexuality. Right now it makes me sad.
I understand having a way to say how you’re oriented sexually (or not.) What I don’t understand is why it’s so important to define it to the Nth detail - what is Ace, what is not Ace but is...I don’t remember all of the other labels along the spectrum. Are people just looking for ways to fit in? Are they lonely? I search for meaning.
I don’t get it. I don’t stop loving, nor accepting. I just don’t get it. I and the world likely want to know who you ARE. I hope it’s more than what you will think/do/feel in a sexual situation. How do you identify as YOU? I welcome your thoughts.
Thanks,
Mom
