youβve probably seen posts telling you that itβs okay not to have sex if you donβt want to, that youβre never obligated to perform sexual acts if youβre uncomfortable with it
and thatβs great, Iβll repeat that a thousand times, but I would just like to add that you also donβt have to sext if you donβt want to. you donβt have to send nudes if you donβt want to.Β you donβt have to do anythingΒ sexual if you donβt feel like it or it makes you uncomfortable, even if itβs βjustβ digital.Β
if somebody tells you theyΒ βneedβ it, theyβre an asshole. you donβt owe anybody anything sexual, not even if theyβre your partner. you donβt have to send them anything to make them like you or keep them interested, because someone who cares more about sex than about your comfort isnβt somebody you need in your life. sex is just a want, but consent is a need.
you donβt have to sext.
you donβt have to take nudes.
you donβt have to do anythingΒ to please somebody else if you donβt want to.
