TAKING A PAUSE

Daily dose of bull-shitery with occasions break-downs and insufferable deep dark thoughts of mine.

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Sometimes we need to lose something in order to understand it's value in our lives.

Lucifer S1:EP6 

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Jealousy

Recently, I have had a topic with my friends about jealousy. Generally, in a relationship there bound to be jealousy whether little or alot, small or big? Not sure how you are suppose to describe jealousy but it’s gonna be ugly right? 

I use to think that jealousy in a relationship does not have a positive effect on the relationship. Jealousy can lead to lies, whether a white lie or not, and it also can lead to fights. Lots of fights in ancient relationship history (being exaggerating) can boils down to just one word, Jealousy. 

Whatever the case may be, being jealous can sometimes turn off your partner whether you are a guy or a girl or whatever gender you may be. 

After break-ups over and over again, I’ve learnt something. 

And this is my conclusion to jealousy or emotions in the matter of fact. 

It’s okay to be jealous, to be angry at your partner or to be sad. Whatever the emotions you are feeling in the relationship is justifiable but it is what you do with the emotions you are feeling that matters. The action put fore after what you feel matters. 

What makes you a better partner or what makes your partner falls in love with you more is how you react. 

You can feel jealous, and what you choose to do after feeling jealous is important. Let’s say for example, you are jealous that your partner is spending a lot of time with this best friend of his/her’s. He/she might have been ignoring your for awhile, missing a few texts or forgetting to call you or even tell you where he/she is. Now, you feel jealous. What course of actions would be the best take here? This is where it is important because yes, he/she might have been wrong to ignore you or forget about you due to whatever glorified reasons he/she has. Do you get angry? start hurling hurtful words out of your mouth just to get his/her attention? Or put this jealous into use and fuel it to do something sweet and nice to show your affection and telling your other partner that you feel neglected. 

what’s important is how you use these emotions to fuel your next course of actions. Whether good or bad, you decide for yourself. 

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About Me

Basically, just here to unload daily scraps of thoughts generated during the unholy witching hour that prevents me from the most basic reset button in daily life, sleep. 

Please feel free to leave any nasty, hateful, constructive or nice comments because I’m not here to teach you how to react or feel to whatever I am writing. So please, blast away if you need to as I need. 

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It isn't wrong to be or to feel jealous, is what actions to choose to act when you feel jealous that matters.

probably mine, but who knows.