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21 // feminism + personal blog // autistic + gnc + febfem

[tardigradefem]

Hello! Longtime radblr lurker here, I decided to finally make this blog to learn about radical feminism in more depth! I'll probably just reblogging things that I find informative/interesting for the most part, along with some fandom and personal stuff. I'm trying to read more books and make more art this summer, so I might also post about that eventually!

Feel free to interact, I'd love some feminist book/blog recommendations :)

[tardigradefem]

Made a very quick n messy mini zine!

[radfae]

have y’all seen the shit going on on twitter rn around the ‘i forgot you were a man’ stuff because jesus

[radfae]

for anyone without context i guess on twitter someone made a short comic entitled ‘i forgot you were a man’ to vent about their close friend of many years saying something misogynistic. and twitter has decided to make this a meme because they’re on her for ‘hating men’. misogyny is so extremely casual and commonly accepted isn’t it

[radfae]

this girl is literally being bullied and publicly humiliated for speaking about her own experiences in her personal life about misogyny and people are either saying that her comic was put in a way that hurt men’s feelings or what her friend said wasn’t actually misogynistic so she’s just using it as an excuse to pick on men

[anonymouswasfemale]

I liked the comic it's so sad what's happening to her

[radfae]

seriously! i reblogged it when i first saw it, before people started meme-ing it, and i’m sad it’s gone now

[radfae]

hahahaha i sent this on my break at work. i didn’t notice i put reblogged instead of retweeted

[radfemsiren]

There’s literal 50k liked posts calling her out for “Misandry” by people with trans flags and demiboi shit in their bio, feminism is so dead bruh 🫤

[barbievspredator-deactivated202]

And that's why we shouldn't befriend men.

[radfae]

a couple people asked so here is the comic. credit to ashmatics on twitter, i hope she gets more love around here than on there

[dykeulous]

when are people going to speak up about how hard it is for neurodivergent women & girls? we are told to mask our entire lives & we often go misdiagnosed/undiagnosed just because we don’t act like your average white five year old autistic boy. we are told we aren’t neurodivergent, but then are ostracized for the crime of being neurodivergent. we learn how to mask very early on in life because of strict female socialization, but the second we get tired of masking or get comfortable enough to deviate from societal norms; we get called weird freaks. we get mocked for the simplest things, such as being so heavily interested in something & daring to talk about it. we get called lazy & creepy for not knowing how to fit in, for not getting social cues, for not understanding how to “act properly” & for questioning this neurotypical-centric world & its societal norms. we get called rude, mean, blunt, we get lectured for “being way too literal” & “not having a filter” just because we are being our authentic selves. i cannot count the numerous times people have called me a mean girl & talked behind my back about how rude i am, or straight up yelled right in my face how i “need to quit being so fucking mean”. whenever i asked what the problem was, i would be faced with a “you know what you did. own up to it!”. i would be called manipulative, cunning, i would get told i had a victim complex. all neurodivergent people face such struggles, but we need to acknowledge that our society is a patriarchy, and that medicine is androcentric & it is harder for women & girls to be diagnosed because neurodivergency has a male model base, and medicine simultaneously ignores & fails to consider sexist socialization. neurodivergent women are subject to more dangerous forms of misogyny, and are more likely to be victims of sexual assault & sexual coercion. and because males are generally allowed a freer childhood, neurodivergent men & boys generally face more sympathy & feel more free to express themselves without the need to mask.

**also, all neurodivergent women & girls feel free to talk to me about their special interests/and or hyperfixations, on this post and in general**

[dressed2k1ll]

[magnetictapedatastorage]

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nonconforming women are hated for rising above their station. for having too much self-respect.

nonconforming women are stereotyped as aggressive feminists, spinsters, lesbians, mentally ill, or wanting to be men... just because they want to be treated equally.

when a woman refuses to wear makeup, shave her body, or wear high heels, and instead dresses in a typical 'male' way, she's not any less clean, but is treated as a dirty even though she's meeting the standard men are held to. she's refusing to do all the little extras because they serve only to demean her for men's enjoyment.

ask yourself this: what would happen if men were asked to do all these things (makeup, shaving his body, wearing heels, not to mention all the social things like raising kids etc)? they would laugh! so why do women do them?

[pillarsalt]

[vvvvvvvvvvvvv1-deactivated20260]

Masturbation addiction in females

Masturbation addiction can happen to women, with or without the aid of pornographic material. When women who struggle with this are brought up, it is often met with disbelief and even malice- but it is very much a real thing, and feminism should be there for these women. It can be from trauma, but is not always.

Masturbation addiction can look like:

-Masturbating even when unaroused

-Being unable to lay down without pleasuring yourself

-Telling yourself you will not masturbate that day/night, but being unable to stop yourself

-Stomach cramps after masturbating

-Not feeling content, relaxed, and/or renewed after finishing

-Losing sleep due to masturbation habits

-Being unable to concentrate on work

-Arousal feeling more like pain than pleasure

-Rarely, if ever, actually orgasming, just tiring out

-Pain in your knees, feet, elbows, fingers, etc

-Lack of interest in sex with other people, even when you want to

-Wanting to masturbate even when in rooms with other, clueless, people

Barriers to getting help:

-Shame and stigma

-Male-centric conversations around addiction

-Shame from other women over the idea that this is a male problem

-Sexual harassment when discussing the problem in spaces dominated by men

-Disbelief by professionals, or the idea that all conversations of masturbation addiction come from shame around sexuality

-On the other hand, little people willing to listen and offer help other than religious groups

-No solutions given other than completely disengaging with sexual behavior

Why it matters:

-Women deserve a healthy relationship with our bodies and sexuality

-If it escalates to sex addiction, can become dangerous

-If combined with watching porn, can even further hurt ones self-image and sense of sexuality

-May stem from sexual trauma

-Can get in the way of work, responsibilities, and relationships

-May involve and reflect other feminist issues-porn addiction, lack of healthy female sexuality, sexual abuse, homophobia, etc

If you are a women with addiction to masturbation, you deserve to have a healthy sexual life without pain or shame. You deserve boundaries and you are still allowed to say no to anyone who tries to take advantage of you. You are not more like a man than other women, you are not predatory. If you are lesbian or bisexual, your addiction to masturbation is not proof that your sexuality is broken. You are not broken, no matter your situation.