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Getting put on new meds

(screwthisimrecovering)

Don’t let anyone qualify your existence with, “as long as it is to the best of your ability.” Your illness is not subject to their approval. They don’t get to decide who is a good chronically ill person and who is a bad one. You are all good. You are all doing your best. You are all dealing with a lot of crap right now and THEY DON’T GET TO DECIDE IF IT IS GOOD ENOUGH!

cathagbheag

If u wanna be my friend u have to understand that sometimes I can’t cope with conversations. And just because I’m on tumblr effectively shouting into the void but not replying to your message doesn’t mean I hate u it just means that the thought of talking to anyone in depth is extremely overwhelming

whatshouldwecallrecovery

Hypervigilance.

openblogtomyabusivemother

Children have a fundamental need to believe their parents will keep them safe. Children are hardwired to know that they are too vulnerable to protect themselves from the dangers of the world and they’re also hardwired to believe that their parents are going to protect them, no matter what. Therefore, when a parent is abusive, the child resorts to believing that is it not abuse, but warranted behavior for their inability to be a good child. Basically, for a child, it is safer to believe they are a bad child than it is for them to believe that their parent is harming them. This is an amazing coping technique that gets many children through horrifying childhoods, however as an adult, it creates severe problems. Therefore, to have happy adulthoods, we must come to terms with the fact that we were abused. This is incredibly difficult work, but for those survivors who can manage it, a much better life is in store. Other effects of abuse include: ● difficulty with love or trust ● poor self-image ● permanent physical disability ● anti-social/violent behavior ● death - suicide or homicide ● drug and/or alcohol abuse ● troubled relationships ● depression ● anxiety ● eating or sleep disorders ● caring or loving too much, which is co-dependency ● withdrawal ● self-destructive behavior

Source: http://www.rdvic.org/index_files/MythsandFactsAboutChildAbuse.htm

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thischroniclife

"You're looking a lot better than last time I saw you!"

chronic-illness-cat

from the amazing perplecks.co.uk

[picture of a cross-eyed Siamese cat’s head against a gyronny (a triangle-sectioned background) with six shades of blue. Top line of text reads: There is no comfortable sleeping position.|| Bottom line of text reads: There is only toss and turn until you’re too tired to move anymore.]

thelamedame

I call this the merri-go-round of painsomnia

I usually get all rolled into my blankets and stuff. pain-burrito. crappy crepe.

hauntinglybeautifulsoul

let's play "what did I eat to make my stomach want to kill me this time"

indexcard

can the science side of tumblr explain why >_> is more aesthetically pleasing than <_<

equalopportunityenby

Westerners read everything visual, including signs with no words and art, from left to right and up to down. When the composition of an art piece pulls us against that, it makes us uncomfortable, and this also holds true for emoticons. Which is why (: is also weirder than :). It breaks the flow of the sentence.

drunp-archive-deactivated201711

oh there was an actual answer okay then

tastefullyoffensive

(photo by fistfullofcookies)

the-pizza-doge

Why do parents always assume their kid is lazy when they get bad grades? Like maybe help your kids by talking to them, not punishing them. This is how I failed math and didn’t even know I had number dyslexia for years.

thesecretkeith

When my sister was in high school she struggled a LOT with math. Like I know a lot of people find it really difficult (myself included), but I mean she was really really bad at it. She has always been a very smart, creative and sensitive person, but math made no sense to her, to the point where passing seemed impossible.

I will always remember that twice a week, around the kitchen table, my sister would sit down with my dad for hours, and they would try to work out her math homework. I should mention that my dad is an artist, and art teacher. Truth be told I think he struggled with math just as much if not more then she did. But twice a week you could hear them downstairs, going back and forth, trying to figure it out together. Some nights would be smooth and easy, some nights I could hear them arguing from one floor up about factors or equations, not in anger but in mutual frustration.

I remember the day that she passed. My sister couldn’t wait until my dad’s school day ended, so she called him at work. She gleefully announced to him “I got a D-!”. We could hear him through the phone as he exclaimed “She got a D!” excitedly to his class. Still through the phone we heard his students clapping, laughing and whooping in congratulations. Seldom has a grade in our household been so celebrated.

Just thought a shitty picture like this should be accompanied by a story about a person’s parents who actually gave a shit about helping their kid instead of mocking and punishing them.

joshfornerwrites

People with mental illness require specialist resources and services in the workplace, however unlike their physically disabled counterparts, this is rarely accounted for or even thought about.

Whereas physical disability has been legislated for in the workplace, mental illness (key word: ILLNESS) seems to continue to lag behind, with the majority of society expecting that people should just “get over” their illness.

It’s time that workplaces became more flexible around rostering, advocacy, structure and support for people suffering from a mental illness, or else sustainable work for these people will become near-on impossible.

clinicallydepressedpug

Physical disability still needs a lot of consideration and compliance in providing accessible workspaces as well.

bogleech

Please remember that having private spaces and private things is kind of a universal, basic human need. It doesn’t necessarily mean that those are even controversial or negative things you HAVE to keep private, it’s just essential for most people to have things of “their own” in order to feel like they are independent human beings.

Denial of privacy is one of the most insidious forms of abuse out there.

I had someone in my life once whose logic was “you shouldn’t want anything private unless you know I wouldn’t like it, which automatically makes it my business.”

They once pored through my facebook history while I was asleep, looking for things to get upset about. I hadn’t been hiding anything, but it still felt violating and disgusting. Never tolerate anyone who would do that or defend it.

blktauna

Hmm this was my parents.

Couldn’t even keep my bedroom door closed.

a-boy-cutting

falsedetective

5 years ago i was a fucking mess & now i’m a fucking mess but at peace with it and with cooler fashion sense

vigraythom-blog

“i don’t understand you didn’t act mentally ill before”

hey. i’ll let you in on a secret. some mental illnesses develop overtime. some mental illnesses just appear with little or no warning signs. mental illness happens suddenly sometimes. so shut up.