TheLifeofTay: NYC BLACK BBW Sugar Baby

[taydaleader]

I want to get in to being an escort but I don’t know where to begin. Or how to go about it without it overlapping my SB life. Any & every tips or advice ladies?

[defineyourgrind]

[sugargirly]

more sugar tips 🍬

Block him if he does ANY of these things:

-uses incorrect grammar/spelling consistently

-describes graphic and sexual situations

-ever lowers your allowance because he doesn’t “have enough today”

-insults you

-asks you to drive a long distance and refuses to help cover it if you do decide to go

-brings up the cost of the hotel room in your allowance. “The hotel is 100 so it’ll be 400 instead of 500”

Don’t settle ladies.

These are signs of a broke ass bitch. Real wealthy men have class and are respectful to potential dates.

[knifenymph]

if you are seeing this, you are going to prosper. you are experiencing a new part of your life where you will bloom into a better version of yourself and flourish. abundance is coming your way; love is coming your way; peace and clarity are coming your way. you have nothing to fear and even less to worry about. the darkness around you has been the soil and you are now getting ready to sprout. you are going to prosper

[alittlebitvintage89]

Cracked this Tinder thing

Okay so I think I have actually cracked Tinder for sugar babies. My profile reads “I enjoy the company of classy older men who love to spoil me. I’m intelligent, curvy, vibrant and would love to get to know you over cocktails next to the waterfront.”

Then I match with guys with signs they’re wealthy in their profiles, then they message and always mention something about spoiling me. So I say okay let’s go out for lunch, take a walk then do a bit of shopping. And they’re so down. Then on the shopping trip you can test their generosity and get a sense for whether they’re worth seeing again.

Salts will just unmatch and disappear because they know they will have to buy you things from the start. It also sets it up so that it is clear to them I do not come for free and my tastes are expensive.

[cruelintentions92]

POT Dating Tips

1. Always confirm the same day that you guys are meeting. These men have crazy schedules and they can cancel on you same day, best to know before you do your hair & makeup. 

2. Never drive or uber a long distance to meet them. They should offer to come to you and if they don’t they should offer to uber you. I always get ubered to my dates, I never give them my real address obviously but somewhere close that I could walk or a place I could drive to and leave my car. Driving or ubering a far distance because he said he would reimburse you isn’t worth the risk. These men ain’t shit! they will lie to you. Don’t risk being out of gas or money, never worth it. 

3. Always vet them before you meet them, nothing worse than going on POT date to find out he wants to pay you 200 per meeting. ASk questions nothing to invasive but just enough to see if can meet your needs. If you want monthly allowances make sure he’s open to that. IF he wants to do per meet to start, discuss how much. You can obviously negotiate a better price in person, but make sure you guys are in the same range $$$.  Don't’ waste your hair/makeup and a cute outfit on a fuck boy who thinks he’s a sugar daddy. NEVER go on the POT with someone who gives you weird vibes, I mean if he’s weird over the phone he probably won’t be better in person, nothing is worth your safety. 

4. Be cute but comfortable, Opt for the heels that are more comfortable over the ones that may look better with the outfit.  Nothing worst than being out and having your feet hurt the entire time. 

5. Be sexy and alluring without showing too much. I have big boobs so no matter what I wear their gonna show, but I always wear dresses that aren’t  too tight or show that much cleavage. He may want to take you to social events with his colleagues or friends, you don’t want to show up on your first encounter with your boobs out or a dress that barely covers your ass. You want to give off a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets vibe. You don’t have to spend much to look great, Forever 21 or Zara has great dress options that are affordable. Macy’s always has in store sales on shoes ( Got a couple of heels from there), DSW also. A little black dress with some cute heels and some simple accessories can go a long way, ladies. For new sugars, you can spend under 100 bucks buy a cute outfit that you can re-wear to multiple POT dates. Ball on a budget until you can get him to take you, to Saks ;)

6. Knowledge is key! reading book  Ho Tactics and the art of seduction has really stepped my sugar skills up. Body language and confidence is everything! This may sound silly but I practice my faces in the mirror so I can get an idea of what I’m looking like when I say certain things, also what angles i look best in so I know how to tilt my head or smile. You have to mindfuck these to give you everything you want but never had. I always give eye contact it shows that you are really engaged it also turns guys on. I always order martinis or wine because of the way the glass fit in your hand. Eating a  olive off a  toothpick while eye fucking a guy will drive him crazy. Always ask follow up questions, whens he’s going on and on about his job or life, in general, show that your interested make comments be engaging. Also, brush up on current events, I use the SKIMM to help keep me up to date on current events. Be pretty but also cultured.

7. Always choose a high-end restaurant in your area. I usually yelp and look for restaurants with $$$ that has the best reviews, I legit have been to areas in D.C that I wouldn’t have been able to afford or even heard of. Set your standards high and don’t lower them. Don’t ever go out with a guy who thinks going to some cheap chain restaurant is acceptable. Like your makeup shouldn’t cost more than the menu. Gain knowledge on the nicest spots in your area, if he wants to take you somewhere lower end that’s the easiest way to spot a Splenda. If it doesn’t go anywhere at least you got to go to a nice ass restaurant, ate some good ass food, and drank some wine that cost as much your textbooks. Still a win. 

8. If you’re meeting for a quick date such as Starbucks ( which I don’t even recommend, they give me Splenda vibes)  make sure you choose a time when it’s not too pack. You don’t want to walk into a packed Starbucks with the line to door and no seats for your first date it sets an awkward tone. You want to be in a quiet setting where you can discuss the arrangement privately, without random people walking by every minute.  Choose a time after lunch, or later in the evening. 

9.Safety First! Never give out private information, give out fake email address, phone numbers, etc. The only thing I’m truthful about is that I’m a student and my age. Never get into a POT car, or go back to his place. I also send my friends my location so they know where I’m at all times. Also download a safety app, very useful. If a guy gives you weird vibe excuse yourself to the bathroom and call a uber, try to find a different exit and leave his ass. Never meet up in a sketchy area or place. Make sure the place is public and that it is quiet but moderately packed. Never meet up too late in the night, and don't’ over a drink. Overdrinking puts you in a bad head space which can lead to a bad situation that could be unsafe. I have no more than 3 cocktails on date depending on the time we are together. These sites are filled with psychos, be careful !. 

10. Last but not least Never give up the pussy until you get yours. Things happen maybe you drank too much, or he was really cute so the chemistry was there but it is never a good idea to sleep with POT before the arrangement has been hashed out.  This is not normal dating and he is not your bf. Unless he’s paying your bills, tuition, rent or aiding your makeup addiction why does he deserve pussy???? Always get your first, these men will fuck and dip out never to be seen again. GIving him quick access will not get your bills paid sis, don’t do it. Before you think about giving him some think about your rent that’s about to be due, the tuition you still have to pay, that car payment, or Rihanna new makeup line that’s about to drop.  Pussy is power use it wisely!

Feel free to add on ladies. Pusssy is power, let’s encourage each other and help each other to mindfuck these men! #TeamVagina

[thesugaringescort]

“Be amBITCHous today. Do no harm, but take no shit.”

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[caspergutman]

Escorts make $100 a hand job — but entrepreneurs like me? We make $5,000 a night. Welcome to the new economy of the oldest profession.

[cov0cateur]

Interesting read.

[sugarbbyxo-deactivated20160708]

Sugar Baby Guide w/ 200+ tips!

So I recently ran into a sugar “master post” on here but noticed a lot of the links were broken. Since there are so many aspiring sugar babies with a ton of questions I thought I’d make a new one! Here it is: a very long compilation of my favorite tips and tricks from sugar babies all over tumblr. Enjoy! Xoxo

Safety

Deleting yourself from the internet

Sending pictures via google voice texting 

Square cash warning 

Amazon gifts safety

COP or POT?

Tips to remaining safe as a sugar baby

Phone safety

What information should you give your SD?

Verify him

Safety links for sugar babies

All about screening

How SD’s can track where you live

The Miranda warning

Internet safety tips

Receiving packages

Staying safe as a sugar baby

Sugar baby safety 

Sugar baby safety tip

Sugar baby safety & catfishing

Free background check website

Is he the real deal?

Tricking him to keep your privacy

Keeping your privacy

Very important hoe safety tip

Free-styling

Free-stying guide

Eye-contact

Turning vanilla to sugar

How to approach men while free styling

Free-styling and where to meet sugar daddies

Where to freestyle

All about free-styling

Free-styling and how to trigger a mans generosity from the start

Free-styling tips

Top three places to freestyle

Free-styling & staff

What NOT to ask him

Meeting SD’s online

Craigslist title tip

Ashley Madison

Sugar dating and craigslist

List of sugar dating sites

Sugaring using tinder

Tindering tip

How to tinder

Craigslist masterpost

Craigslist sugar

Writing/writing back to messages

The perfect message

How to message men on sugar sites

Sugaring: Tinder and OkCupid

Perfecting your message

More messaging advice

Sugar sites to check out

Weeding through messages on sugar sites

Allowance, financials, and budgeting

How to get the allowance you want

How to ask your sugar daddy for an allowance

Allowance or pay per meet?

All about money

Cash/gifts on a POT date

What form should I take my allowance in?

How to make real money

Sugar baby banking tips

Spending your sugar money

Asking for money on a POT date

Getting him to buy you something

Financial advice

Drain his bank account

When he says he doesn’t feel comfortable with allowance…

Saving money

How much can he really pay you?

Budgeting tips for sugar babes

Tips on spending your sugar money

Allowance and AmEx cards

Let’s talk budgeting

5 questions to ask before agreeing to allowance offer

What to say to get the allowance you want

Sugar banking

Allowance and bank laws

Random cash tips

He pays for what he wants

Investing 101

Allowance negotiation tactics

The art of sugar dating

How to handle a first date with a POT

What NOT to talk about on a POT date

Organizing your POTs

How to: manipulate the conversation 

How to create a positive impression

6 ways to make your sugar date the best date he’s ever had

What the hell am I going to talk to him about?!

50 unusual date ideas

Checklist the night before your date

What you need to do before your POT date

Your first POT date

Dining etiquette

Dining etiquette pt. 2

How to fake confidence

Conversation tips

Confidence

Classy conversation topics

First date conversations with your SD

What to bring in your purse on a sugar date

Bullshit to spit on dates

Things to know about wine

First date advice

How to handle a first date

100 “non allowance” questions to ask a POT on a date

How cheat your way through small talk

Conversation topics

Developing your personality

The psychology of persuasion

Seduction, manipulation & negotiation

Remember: You are an actress/actor

The art of seduction

Strategies to try on your SD

Sugar negotiation

Bullshitting 101

Make him take you seriously

How to make him want to say yes

Body language 

Master guide: Body language linguistics 

Manipulation tips

How to manipulate people into liking you more

Sugar manipulation

How to keep wealthy men coming back to you to give you more

Emotion, seduction and manipulation

Marketing yourself

How to attract a man

Perks of sugaring - power

Being your SD’s fantasy

Manipulation success

The girlfriend experience

Keeping your SD

Treat your SD right… Or someone else will

Keeping him hooked

Don’t become familiar or ordinary

Become his fantasy

Don’t forget the details

Keeping your sugar daddy

 Bedroom tips

Treating your SD right

How to keep an SD interested

Showcase yourself to yourself to your SD

Blowjob tips (for uncircumcised penises as well)

Blowjob tips

Appearance

How to make yourself more attractive

Fashion tips and dress codes

How to dress “sugar”

Hoe products

Fuck-proof makeup list

How to be a kept woman

Looking elegant

Sex prep

Lingerie masterpost

20 beauty tips

Charming cash out of your sugar daddy

Vaginal hygiene 

Invest in yourself

Sugar tote essentials

Contouring cheat sheet

A hoes guide to body care

Sugar baby check list

Platonic Sugar

A tip for aspiring sugar babes

Being a platonic SB

Being a pure sugar baby

Sugar Travel

Traveling with your SD

Travel etiquette for sugar babies

Sugar baby travel tip

Traveling sugar

General tips/info on sugaring

The rules of sugaring

Sugar baby manifesto

Sugar baby academy

How to find a sugar daddy in 6 simple steps

This lifestyle isn’t for everyone

The secrets to being a successful sugar baby

Random sugar baby tip

Great sugar tip

“Thing’s I’ve learned from living with sugar babies”

25 tips to make you better sugar

Being a successful sugar baby

10 golden rules of sugar dating

General sugar baby tips

Sugar baby general guide

Apps every sugar baby needs

Sugar baby mentality

Sugar baby survival tips

Sugar baby wisdom

Sugar baby resources

What being a SB is all about

6 common sugar baby mistakes

Remain calm, cool and collected

Things you need to remember when you start sugaring:

What SB’s often forget

You are not asking for too much!

Beginning advice for newbies

Tips for new sugar babies

Always have a plan B

Tip to new sugars

So you want to be a sugar baby…

What would you tell your newbie SB self if you could go back?

5 newbie mistakes and how to avoid them

Patience

Remember this when you become a sugar baby

4 things every aspiring SB should know

“How do I become a sugar baby?”

How to stand out as a sugar baby

“Learn from my sugar mistakes”

“When is right to start sugaring?”

Tips from a successful sugar baby

6 tips for aspiring SBs

All about him

How to know if he’s the right sponsor

Sugar daddy check list 

Don’t believe what he says

How to get him to raise your allowance

POTs

Filtering the POTs

How to spot a fake POT

Things POT’s say when they’re trying not to pay

Distinguishing sugar from salt

10 questions to ask a POT before a relationship

Figuring out if they’re salt without going on a date

“What should I say?” And personality

Don’t be mundane and predictable

When he asks “What are you willing to do sexually?”

When he complains about paying you

When he asks if you’ve had an arrangement before 

Communicating your standards

How to say “no” to your SD

How to insist on a condom

What to say when he asks “What are you looking for?”

When he says “I’ll pay you later”

Your sugar profile

Writing tips

Make your profile work for you

Face shot or no face shot? 

Random tips/things/misc.

P.O. boxes and why you should have one

“Advice I received from a whale SD”

Long distance sugar

How to be a boss ass bitch

Why love is poison for a heartless gold-digger and a guide to the antidote

How to organize your hustle 

Sugaring from scratch

“Sex is sex, but money is money”

Mandatory sugar tool

No luck finding a sugar daddy?

The official sex worker reading list

Getting your sugar daddy back

Sugar baby texting

Suggested sugar reading list

[sugarbbyxo-deactivated20160708]

Can’t believe this has 3k notes!

[keepitpushinggg]

Going to read this

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Money 101: Sugar Babies

“How much do you want?”   

(read below on how to negotiate this correctly)

DO NOT be tempted to answer until you have more details about the arrangement’s expectations (i.e. meeting frequency, exclusive vs. open, intimate vs. platonic, online vs. physical, etc.). 

DO have HIM give you a range or the amount first. In all negotiations, it’s best to have the other party make an offer.  The amount he proposes will suggest how loaded and serious he is.  More importantly, it demonstrates how he values your time.

DO NOT be fooled by his common-luxury car (BMW, Mercedes, etc.); cars, like these, can be leased for a few hundred dollars/month and are available to the common man (to fool you).  The rich can easily afford cars like Ferraris, Lambos, Maseratis, etc… The BMW to the rich, is like a Honda Civic to the middle class - it’s nothing special and proves nothing except he’s probably broke making payments on his BMW to impress you.

Also, the rich will have no problem allowing you to order whatever you want off the dinner/lunch menu.  If they cringe when you order a $20 to $30 drink then they’re probably a poser.  Cut your loses and keep looking.

Remember:

A rich sugar daddy will have NO PROBLEM offering an amount first, a poor sugar daddy (or wannabe) will be looking to negotiate a bargain rate (don’t fall for it).  Ultimately, it’s about measuring what value he places on the relationship and you.  If he’s rich, thousands of dollars in your pocket will mean more to you than it does to him.  Therefore, let him offer first.