How’d I Get Here?

Ex-stripper, ex sugar baby

[sleepyreyrey]

Strong words to use on a Resume

If you have ever had to write a resume for work or for an application, then you know the hardest part is figuring out what type of words to use that sound professional and and intelligent.

Example: If an application asks you if you have any relevant experience for a job at a day care center and you have experience, like you have babysat children. You would look at the words in the columns to see what words you should use that will help your resume stand out. You might put down “Have supervised and attended to children on a regular basis.”

I hope this is helpful to you.

[rampyourvoice]

Now this is a great resume list of action words.  I love that it’s broken down by types of jobs.  Saving for future use.

[the-quaintrelle]

Fuck this just sucked the managers dick you’ll get hired, make sure he’s married though so he feels guilty..,

[buddhaprayerbeads]

A complete guide to develop a healthy soul. Come and find your type.

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[alittlebitvintage89]

Bitchhh, I’m getting back in the bowl

[bpdattentionseeker]

My favorite Shady/Illegal tips

*If you don’t have a stamp, reverse your destination and return addresses. The post office will deliver it to the return address for free

*One bag of garbage from a McDonald’s dumpster has hundreds of receipts in it, each of which has a survey. Submit each one for lots of free food

*Holding a cell phone to your ear justifies loitering. This aids in public urination, dumpster diving, stalking, trespassing, etc

*If you’re going to plagiarize, plagiarize something in a foreign language. Use a translator and spend a few minutes touching up the results.

*If they have free refills, save your cup. Next time you eat there, your drink is free.

*A plastic coffee stir stick can fool any push in coin acceptor that loads the coins on edge. Just insert stir stick, push the mechanism forward until you feel the stick hit a bump, push the bump down with the stick and push the mech all the way in

*If you look like you know what you’re doing, no one will bother you.

*When lying, always include something slightly embarrassing, or something that makes you look bad, as part of your story. It’s not only going to disarm their skepticism (admitting to something embarrassing gives an impression of humility), but even if they remain skeptical, they’ll be left wondering why you would make something up that you’d rather keep secret if it were true

*Using Clorox or any bleach will turn the red/pink liquid detection dot on electronic devices back to white so they replace them under warranty

* “A drug dealer in DC taught me to pick my nose if the police are staring at me. No one picks their nose if they think someone is watching them, so it’s the ultimate way of being nonchalant.”

* "I learned that you can get into almost any special event by wearing a chef coat. Even just carrying one and walking like you know where you’re going will work every time. Most people don’t want to look stupid by asking you who you are.“ 

* "My go to missing work call was never “I’m sick”, it was “Family problems”. They never questioned it, it’s vague enough and embarrassing enough that nobody ever asks.“ 

*As part of the employee training at Target, they teach you that if a customer argues over a price, and the full price is under $20, to just give it to them for whatever price they claim. It’s cheaper for the company to move on to the next customer than to call in a price check.

*Put a rolled up sock in the change slot on a vending machine, come back back 4 days later….and pull sock….you will be 6-ish dollars richer.

*If it’s a small lie, like who farted or who put the empty milk carton in the fridge, I’ll tell a terrible lie. I’ll not be able to hold a straight face, contradict myself, basically suck at lying.Now everyone I know thinks I can’t tell a lie to save my life. So when I really need a big lie, I nail it every time. No one ever suspects me when I lie straight faced.

*Bring crutches to an airport. Bypass every line (including boarding) and you are chauffeured to your gate the second you pass through security.

*Make up a secret to share with someone- they may open up and share far more valuable real secrets.

*Here’s a classic. Drive over to your 7/11 of choice. Fill up a Slurpee and drop some candy bars in that bitch. Make sure the candy bars aren’t showing. Cover the Slurpee and pay for it. Free Snickers bitch.

*I tell everyone i’ve never done any drugs. Suddenly everyone offers me cocaine, ecstasy, pot, lsd. I think i’ve had $200 worth of drugs each weekend for free.Same with liquor. "Im not drinking tonight” BOOM! Everyone gives me booze. Its like everyone wants to break your integrity as soon as you tell them you are not doing whatever they are doing.

*If you need to cash from an ATM and its not a large amount, buy a 5 cent piece of gum from a gas station that has the cash back option. Its cheaper than a $3 charge

*Act less intelligent than you really are. Acting stupid can get you out of some tricky situations. Feigning ignorance is way better than admitting you knew better but did it anyway. My old man used to say ‘It is easier to beg forgiveness than ask for permission’…sometimes it’s true.

*Every time I fly, when I land I’ll pen a little complaint to the airline that flew me. You know, I’ll come up with something like “oh, they denied me a drink! Oh, the food wasn’t vegetarian!” Whatever miscellaneous hogwash potpourri comes to my crazy brain. And like clockwork, within a business day, they’re reimbursing me with a $50 voucher, a $100 voucher, I can sell that on the secondary market.

*I’ve always had a lot of success in shutting nosy people up by blaming any personal issue on allergies. Crying from a panic attack? Allergies giving me puffy eyes. What’s that mysterious pill I’m taking? Allergy meds. Why am I acting spaced out/hungover/tired? Allergies meds making me drowsy.

*If you really wanna get away with some shit, buy a reflective vest, a white hard hat, and a clipboard. You can go ANYWHERE.

[trustfundkiller]

How To Manipulate People Into Liking You More

Original Content From Reddit

1. Be good looking. Don’t be not good looking.

Good looking people are always well received and have a greater margin of error. Serious mistakes will still cost them, but little blunders will not cost them in the way it costs ugly people. This one is hard to control though. You can influence this by working out, good hygiene, pay for nice teeth, wear high quality clothing.

2. Remember peoples names. Use them frequently.

Remember everyones name. When you see them, use their name and smile. Everyones favorite word is their own name.

3. Touch people. Body language.

when you are talking with someone, occasionally touch their shoulder or lightly grab their arm while laughing at a joke they made. Go for high fives/brofist. Do playful pushaways (more roughly with guys). Give firm handshakes. If guy/girl, go for playful palm reading. Occasionally mirror the body language of person you are talking to (not all the time or its obvious and creepy). Do not cross your arms or put hands in your pockets when talking to someone (defensive body language). Use your hands when talking to amplify your communication. Hold eye contact 70-90% of the time. Learn to smile naturally on command and do it frequently.

4. Make people feel like they are important

When talking 1 on 1 with someone, do not get easily distracted by outside things. Stay focused. LISTEN to what they say, occasionally repeat it back to them in different words/summarize after they say their bit and then ask them a question about it. Ideally convo should be 70/30 with them being 70% talking and you 30%. Just enough on your part that it does not feel like they are being interviewed. As above, smile naturally when they tell a joke (even if its not funny).

When talking to a group of people, learn to make each person feel they are the most important person you are talking to. This is very difficulty to master (I certainly havent mastered it). It’s about utilizing eye contact, body language and engaging with those in the group that engage with you.

5. Be funny and mysterious. Learn to converse well.

When its your 30. Reveal a little about yourself but never too much. Always leave a few critical details out, leave people wanting more. Make jokes. Learn to make fun of the other person in a non-cruel and playful way. NEVER insult their taste. aka NEVER insult their favorite band/movie/artpiece/author/philosopher/scientist/politician etc.

On the subject… you do not have to avoid religion and politics. Actually I would encourage it… BUT do not be argumentative. Perhaps give a a non threatening “light” countering view (like weed legalization) and ask them to share their views and they make them think you have possibly been persuaded by them. People often do not get to talk about religion/politics and when they do someone is there to yell at them and argue with them and make them feel bad. Stand out by letting them almost persuade you. However this leads into another important point.

Do not share your views on everything. Do not be a fedora or a bible thumper. Do not be a liberal or a conservative. Give 100% support to neither side and nooone. allow them to fight for your approval but never fully give it anyone. People will respect you for being open-minded and will do good things for you while trying to win you over. Great politicans win the hearts of people by being ambigious and never being too stuck on a philosophical or political point. Be loosy goosy and mysterious.

6. Be positive.

Do not be overly positive about EVERYTHING. But generally be positive. Be fun. Be spontaneous. Be a “dancer” not a “wallflower.’ The world sucks. We get it. Everyone knows. Thats why we need some damn positivity. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop imagining yourself as the victim of circumstances outside of your control. Don’t waste energy hating people. Don’t complain about anything ever. Never. Just never. Yes, its tough. But the world is 99% complainers. Find someone who doesn’t complain and you might just start a religion or cult around them. World is going to end tomorrow? Sounds like a good time to go dancing, enjoy the stars and make love.

7. Learn Skills and get good at them.

Horse-riding. Guitar. Dancing. Acrobatics. Magic. Math. Judo. Swimming. Writing. Painting. Acting. Fixing machines. Electronics.

Whatever it is, get good at it. Enjoy it. The world is full of people who just sit on facebook/reddit or watching tv or reading crappy fiction novels. Be someone who has a skill or enjoys doing something productive and people will want you in their lives, they will idolize you. You will have intrinsic worth.

8.Be Narcissistic but set your ego aside.

Do not let people insult you. If someone jokes at you, joke right back and laugh. Never be insulted. You are a god. Gods are not insulted by mortals. But do not talk about yourself, do not complain, do not have a victim complex. You are a god, you do not need approval. You are not worried about the loss of a friend or a girl who does not appreciate your godliness. But you are not rude. You are above them. This kind of attitude is hard to cultivate and maintain, but people will be drawn to you if you learn to utilize a kind of narcissism.

9. Learn to speak properly 2.

Lower the tonality of your voice at end of statements. Do not uptalk. Learn to pause between sentences, 2 seconds is good. Learn to speak a bit slower. (see Carl Sagan, Obama etc.) Do not be nervous about silences. Utilize silence.

10. Do not be a know-it-all. Make other people feel smart.

This one is tough. Learn to come off as intelligent but never try to one-up people. Do not be a know-it-all. Come off in body-language and attitude, in skills and success - come off as intelligent. But in conversation, do not always be correcting people. Do not try to constantly teach people. A wise teacher teaches by success and through kindness. Do not insult people for having differing opinions or not knowing something. Let people teach you. Remember that everyone you meet knows something(s) you don’t. Let them teach you. Be open minded. Refer to 5 though, let them enlighten you but maintain some skepticism, do not be won over too easily. People are constantly being told by other people they are stupid, stand out by making them feel smart.

11. Give specific compliments to specific people, do it rarely and only when desrved.

Another one I had to edit to add. Generic compliments like “you are beautiful” or “you are nice” or “you are a good person” or “you are smart” are given ALL the time. They mean nothing. It is very evident that you are trying to win them over, it’s lazy, and it just inflates their ego. Yes, for all the negativity in the world and people telling them they are stupid - most people have massive egos (which is why you need to learn to set aside your ego while being a narcissist. wei wu wei, bitch). Everyone has now been brought up being told they are special, the are the hero(ine) of the story, they are destined for greatness. We live in a culture of the ego-maniacal. Vague compliments only inflate this false sense of ego and make people think you are trying to get something from them.

Women and hot guys get these kinds of vague compliments daily. They essentially become a screening process on who not to talk to. Forget it.

However, specialized compliments are good for the less egotistical. The more genuine they seem or are, the better. They don't have to be genuine of course, they just need to appear genuine. “That’s a cool hat” or “wow you nailed that dance” or “how did you get a 90 on that test?” are much better.

Do not compliment people with super-egos. These people take all forms of compliments as fodder for their ego. they will toss you aside like a cheap snack bar wrapper. Learn to be different by not complimenting these people. Play hard to get. Make light jokes towards them. Treat them as an equal or lesser. These people crave that, deep down inside they often desire an equal and are tired of being treated like idols.

12. Learn to read people. get what you want by learning to give people what they want. Be the trojan horse.

Each person is different. As 11 illustrates, everyone wants something different. Learn to read people and give them what they want. Some people want to be insulted, some people want to be idolized. Some of them want to huuurt you~~ No but seriously, a good tactician changes his/her strategy to the battefield and the state of affairs. Learn to vary your approach. Give people what they want (not usually physial objects, this is metaphysical/metaphorical) and they will often willingly give you what you want.

My best example for this is anal. I used to just ask girls I was dating “Can we do anal?” and the answer is 99% no. It’s not a sexy way of going about it and its too upfront. Play the trojan horse. If you meet a girl who likes to be dominated, dominate her, and she will love anal. Meet a girl whose never orgasmed, and give her an orgasm while your finger is in her butt, and she will love anal. Meet a girl who wants to be dominant, and let her dominate - and she will love anal. This seems like just idiotic sexual advice, but it is metaphorical for a lot of things in life. You can substitute anal for a lot of things - a pay raise, a promotion, going skydiving, moving in together, getting a record deal etc. There are plenty of things in life that may seem to people a one-sided deal that will cause them pain. Rather than charging the gates and being confrontational or begging for what you want - learn to sneak in like the trojan horse. Many of these things often end up being good for both parties (I bet whoever Jay Z convinced to sign him ended up happier for it later).

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This is just a “brief” list. If you aren’t willing to do these things, you don't really want to be liked. You only kind of want it. For further reading see:

48 laws of power

Wisdom of Psychopaths

Influecne

What every BODY is saying

How to win friends and influence people

How to talk to anyone: 92 little tricks for big success

The Charisma myth

The Art of SEDUCTION

~By HellsArchitect From Reddit via this link <view on reddit>

[socalsugarprincess]

Reposting so I read this weekly

[essenceofrose]

Apps are dead. Free styling is scary. This is the best alternative: business events.

Idk if these are available in the US or other countries but there’s an app called EVENTBRITE in Australia and it has all these events from clubbing to investor meet ups. Some are free, some you have to pay for.

I browse through them, looking for events where:

-there’ll be a Large turnout (tech events) or

-events pecific to an industry with high income professionals (investors! Whether that’s in stocks, bitcoin, tech, property.etc) or

-VIP passes are being sold (usually expensive, I just get the free pass but you’ll know there will be people there who will pay for the VIP pass. Those are the people especially to look out for.)

I say I’m from a startup (true) and pitch my idea to them as an excuse to start talking.

I recommend saying something along those lines- that you want to start a business, are looking for a job in that specific industry, want to learn more about the topics of the event.

They will be impressed to a see a young cute girl that is so hardworking and offer to meet up and give you advice. This is how you get in!

Make sure to dress nice. I’ve gone to some of theses events wearing jeans and sneakers and you look so out of place. Now I wear a cute pencil skirt with an off the shoulder top and it looks professional without you looking like a 90 year old.

Also a tip: most of the people will already know each other and will be standing together in a small circle. Just walk up to any of these circles with a space in between the people and introduce yourself to the closest person. Then turn and shake hands with everyone else. And bam you have successfully networked.

Trust me it really is as easy as this. Especially if you are on the younger side, people will appreciate that you put in the effort to come and help you (even though they don’t know your true intentions!)

My Uber driver once said it perfectly: if you smile and dress the part, nobody can say no to you.

I hope this helps and good luck!

-Xoxo A

[beneficeduvagin-deactivated2019]

Whenever I see a woman throw everything they do, all their motivation for a man, I shake my head.You are not even in a relationship with him yet he has 24 access to your attention? Then you want me to find you the men I deal with? 

The POTs I deal with would swallow you whole. Certain vanilla women think sugaring or dating these high level men is easy because of attraction. Vanilla men hate me because I am accustomed to demanding what I want, and leaving when I don’t. I won’t chill for free, won’t sext free, won’t cuddle for free, won’t travel unless there is a reservation, won’t walk in the rain (send me travel), have sympathy sex and etc. I remember having to repeatedly call my ex’s phone and having him not answer. 3 years later and I no longer call men. I no longer place myself in a predicament where I have to pull someone towards me.

Standard has a lot to do with the men I date. They give me things because I won’t stay if they don’t. 

[brainybrownsugar-deactivated202]

🙌🙌💅

[alittlebitvintage89]

Forever inspiration

[alittlebitvintage89]

Any babies know what happened to Arianna?

She was sugar baby tumblr goals a couple years ago but now I can’t find any of her posts or her blog. I’m just curious....

[astrolocherry]

Aries Attracts people by: Exuberance, capturing and inspiring the inner child, spontaneity, innocent mischief, determination, appetite for life and deep immersion with friends, will to defend at all costs, the philosophy of trying over and over again Loses people by: Antagonism and constant provocation, unpredictable outbursts, intimidation, temper, control, immaturity, treating people like resources

Taurus Attracts people by: Beauty and love, nurturing and open mindedness, creativity and sensibility, social intuition, given respect, wise guidance, consistency and composure, temptation and co-operation  Loses people by: Possession and control, lack of validating or defining state of relationship, lack of engagement in their interests, inflexibility, overly touchy and sensitive behaviour, treating people like resources  

Gemini Attracts people by: Wit, charm, and humour, intrigue, mystique and marvellous quantity of mind, adaptability and captivating conversation, libraries of information, spontaneity, curiosity, innocent mischief, infectious anticipation for the future  Loses people by: Erratic and unpredictable presence and communication, constant debating and provoking, dishonesty, forgetting engagements and important details, playing devil’s advocate

Cancer Attracts people by: Receptivity and ability to sooth disturbance, inclusive embrace, idealistic teachings and knowledge, humour and offbeat eccentricities, tender arms and wise guidance Loses people by: Constant repetition of destructive behaviours, withdrawal, unpredictable and one off outbursts of repressed rage, intrusive behaviour and trying to fix everybody’s problems, overly invested worrying and martyrdom 

Leo Attracts people by: Charisma, magnetism, and heart, playfulness and creativity, leadership, sense of justice, invested blessing in the lives of others, and competence, honour, appetite for life, will to defend at all costs, warm vitality, courage   Loses people by: Ego centrism, controlling behaviour, constantly demanding validation, lack of engagement in their interests, unpredictable outbursts, touchiness and over sensitivity 

Virgo Attracts people by: Wit, mind, sensibility, selfless giving and empathic conscience, wise guidance, stimulating conversation and knowledge, ability to care and nurture, natural proficiency and considerate Loses people by: Intrusive problem solving and fretting, critique, paralysed emotional defences, frequent disengagement, nagging

Libra Attracts people by: Natural appeal and mystique, adaptability and given respect and intrigue, cool charm and social skills, morality and empathy, relatable and sympathetic, and wise counsel, high ideals and opportunistic Loses people by: Being unassertive and allowing it to build into a monumental outburst, imitation or echoing, obsession with relationships and romantic encounters, dependency

Scorpio Attracts people by: Depth and allure, emotional bonding, safeguarding and undying protection, intellect and mystique, loyalty and slowly revealed vulnerability, ability to inspire inner confidence   Loses people by: Antagonism, control and possession, withdrawal and reactivity, emotional coldness and emotional paralysis, self-righteousness, disconnecting privacy, staunch defence of personal ideologies

Sagittarius Attracts people by: Playful humour, wisdom and intelligence, natural joy, faith and generosity, laughter, fascinating philosophies, high ideals and opportunistic nature, infectious anticipation for the future  Loses people by: Brutal and cruel honesty, refusing to apologise, diminishing and judging opinions and beliefs, self-righteousness, unpredictable temper, disinterested unless personally involved 

Capricorn Attracts people by: Thoughtful gestures and sensibility, respect and honour, natural grace and competence, loyalty, wise counsel, resilience and unspoken support and reliability, social adaptability   Loses people by: Lack of engagement and attention to their interests, emotional defences and paralysis, authoritarianism, trying to fix everybody’s problems, demand for conformity 

Aquarius Attracts people by: Captivating charm and compassion complexity, humour, loyalty, marvellous mind, eccentricities, and humanitarian conscience, high ideals and inspiring imagination, exaggerated curiosity   Loses people by: Self-righteousness and brutal honesty, emotional defences and paralysis, lack of deep personal engagement, unreasonable arguments and opposition  

Pisces Attracts people by: Wisdom and warmth, innocence and covert power, inspiration and social intuition, responsiveness and mystique, adaptability and spiritual radiance  Loses people by: Constant repetition of destructive behaviours, emotional projection, over dependency, overly invested worrying and fretting, martyrdom 

C

[queenallie001]

THE most accurate I’ve seen. #LEOBaby 🦁

[ithotyouknew2-deactivated201710]

Random observations I've made as a sex worker:

Men who drive porsches are cheap

Men who are shorter than you in heels (but not in flats) are more generous

Cancer men are good for rinsing but not worth long term relationships

Married men are a toss up but are typically more ideal

Men under 45 are trash, period

A man who will date you if you’re younger than his child is trash

[ithotyouknew2-deactivated201710]

Some of the richest and most generous men drive a Mercedes day to day but most likely have another sports car as well

Real estate in a big city is most lucrative

Finance guys are cheap

Doctors are insufferable

Shorter men are just better all around but only if you’re a bit taller than average (5'6" or above) I think they subconsciously are you as more equal

The best sds tend to date older women.

A man who appreciates curves over skinniness will probably stick around longer

[ithotyouknew2-deactivated201710]

A man who drives a BMW will try to fuck for free with no exceptions period

[biscaynesugarxo]

Soo true about the porsche thing omg! I always wondered why I cringe when I see guys driving them especially in miami cuz they’re almost always rented… C-H-E-A-P

[milkhoneysquared-deactivated201]

Sugar Baby Haiku

Listen up old man

I don’t have time for your shit

I am not your wife

*snaps* *bongo drums*

[theblackseductress]

The Social Calendar: 2018 Edition

Added some new events - some are world renowned and others may not be but are still notable. All are great events to attend if you’re wanting to move in more affluent circles and/or if you’re wanting to meet potentials.

January

Davos World Economic Forum

Sundance Film Festival

Snow Polo World Cup

Art Stage

February

Fashion Weeks {The Big 4: New York, London, Milan and Paris}

Gran Ballo Della Cavalchina

White Turf International Horse Races

Vienna Opera Ball

Dubai International Boat Show {starts at the end of February}

Super Bowl

Il Ballo del Doge

Film Award Season {ends}

Berlin Film Festival

Yachts Miami Beach {formerly known as Miami Yacht and Brokerage Show}

March

Dubai International Boat Shows {ends at the beginning of March}

Miami Winter Music Conference

Dubai World Cup

Geneva International Motor Show

Baselworld

International Ballet Festival

Cricket World Cup

Art Basel Hong Kong

April

US Masters

Milken Institute Global Conference

Singapore Yacht Show

Pebble Beach Food & Wine

Antigua Sailing Week

May

Cannes Film Festival

Glyndebourne Opera Festival

Chelsea Flower Show

Monaco Grand Prix

The Phillips Collection Annual Gala

Concorso d’Eleganza Villa d’Este Car Show

Kentucky Derby

Met Gala

Hamptons Social Circuit {begins}

Frieze Art Fair New York

Vegas Uncork’d

June

Ibiza {Opening parties start this month}

Art Basel Switzerland

Royal Ascot

Bilderberg Conference

US Open Golf Tournament

Veuve Clicquot Polo Classic {NY/NJ}

G8 Summit

The London Yacht, Jet & Prestige Car Show

The French Open

Henley Royal Regatta {starts in June}

Cartier Queen’s Cup {sometimes starts in May}

July  

Wimbledon

Jaeger-LeCoultre Polo Gold Cup

Henley Royal Regatta {ends in July}

Swim Week Miami

The Proms {starts this month}

Festival Napa Valley

Serpentine Summer Party 

Montreux Jazz Festival

August

PGA Championship

Pebble Beach Concours d’Elegance

Beijing International Music Festival

September

Venice Film Festival

Salon Prive Supercar Show

Fashion Weeks {The Big 4: New York, London,Milan and Paris}

Cannes Yachting Festival

Ibiza {Closing parties start this month}

Ryder Cup Golf Championship

Clinton Global Initiative Annual Meeting

The Proms {ends this month}

Monaco Yacht Show

US Open {Tennis}

Singapore Grand Prix

Fine Art Asia {starts}

October

Fine Art Asia {ends}

Ibiza {Closing parties end this month}

UNICEF Masquerade Ball

Veuve Clicquot Polo Classic {Los Angeles}

Frieze Art Fair London

November

Melbourne World Cup

Abu Dhabi Grand Prix

UNICEF Snowflake Ball

Film Award Season {begins}

December

Art Basel Miami

La Scala Opera House Opening Night

Nobel Prize Award Ceremonies & Nobel Banquet

And some good advice from @thecorporatebarbie: “Ladies, also put together or find a social calendar in your city and do your best to go to these events! You can make a lot of connections that way.”

And if you do not see an event on the list - reply, reblog or message me and I’ll add it! 

[brownbarbiesugar-deactivated201]

THISTHISTHIS

[brownbarbiesugar-deactivated201]

Bringing this back bcos relevant ✨

[somalisugarbabe-deactivated2018]

giiirl! I need to step up my dating game because I’m seen too desperate and needy when I’m interested in someone. Please share more of the vanilla rules you follow!

Here’s my rules for vanilla dating ( or POT dates) that I have used and stood by for the past few years.

1) Never text a man first, never initiate plans or hangouts, I let him run things. When a guy first texts me, I don’t respond for at least three hours and always end the conversation first, saying I’m busy or in a rush. When men ignore your messages and calls, they often do it to see how the woman responds, so if you act clingy or desperate for a response, that ruins everything. Vice versa, imagine a man doing the same if you ignored their messages and calls? And they act clingy and desperate for a response? You would be put off immediately or call the man creepy! Think first before you call or text a man. Always be classy and aloof. Long story straight, NEVER TEXT A MAN FIRST. LET HIM COME TO YOU. SHOW HIM THAT YOU HAVE A LIFE TO LIVE THAT IS EXCITING AND FULFILLING AND IT DOESN’T MATTER IF HE’S IN IT OR NOT.

2) Never accept a date after Wednesday. If a guy really likes you, he will reserve plans on the weekend to take you out so you can spend more time together. Which is why most men will ask early on in the week if you’re free Friday or Saturday. So, if he texts you on Thursday to hang out on Friday, its because he’s got no plans, bored, or wants sex. If you have any sense or self respect you would say HELL NO. It’s too last minute and screams you’re a last minute resort. DON’T EVER LET A MAN MAKE YOU HIS LAST MINUTE CHICK. It means you aren’t their first choice and was only asked because he knows you are readily available, into him, and desperate for his attention. Even if you have ZERO plans and REALLY into the guy,  TURN HIM DOWN GENTLY, and make him wonder who’s taking YOU OUT when mention you already have plans. If he’s really into you, he’ll be sure to plan accordingly next time.

3) Don’t text any men during the weekend. As soon as it’s Friday, its blackout  until Monday afternoon. This is allow you to avoid any last minute texts to meet up, hook up, or make a giant mistake. I notice men get very curious and end up texting me more as I ignore them on the weekend. Be exactly like that  bad bitch in Drake’s “Hotline Bling” that got him confused and curious. 

4) Don’t friend him on Facebook, Snapchat or IG. If you already did, don’t like or comment on anything he posts. EVER. Don’t even look at his feed or stories. He’s gonna start creeping on yours and wondering why you aren’t complimenting him like the other girls are. Girls that constantly are on social media stalking men are pitiful and sad; it’s also hella toxic. 

5) Just be a goddamn mystery. Keep things fun, outgoing, but distant at times. When you go on the first date, don’t spend more than two hours together. Make the guy want more with everything you do. Don’t kiss too long, don’t hug too long, don’t give too much attention. All this is building up to make the guy fall for you as quickly as he can. When you put everything on the table and show too much interest, it makes things too easy and boring for the males. Even if the guy is meek, shy, or awkward, men are all hunters. Anything you start in this world, you got to keep it going, relationships included. Which is why men, even if you chase them down, give them bomb ass pussy, treat them good, they will always go after the women that don’t give them the time of day or attention because they ENJOY the chase more so that the “pick me” chick that is so readily available to them. 

[cherrybabe101-deactivated202004]

Hmmmm.

[luxurysugarlife]

Tired of Online Sugar?

Let me tell you about the DC Scene for my beauties that are tired of SA and many others… Remember, you gotta spend money to make money!

1. Hang out at private clubs. 

Chevy Chase Club 

Metropolitan Club

Trump National Golf Club

Potomac Boat Club

University Club

Cosmos Club 

Sulgrave Club

2. Go to Five Star, Michelin Rated, & Authentic Restaurants

Tail-Up Goat

Plume

Kinship 

Minibar

The Dabney

Ocean Prime

Mastros

Blue Duck Tavern

Cafe Milano

3. Hang out at Five Star Hotels but look busy & like you belong 

Mandarin Oriental 

Four Seasons

Ritz Carlton (Georgetown, 22nd, & Tysons) 

Sofitel

Trump

Willard

Park Hyatt

4. Go to the Rooftop & Cigar Bars - Freestyle 

The Graham 

POV

The Watergate

Shely’s Back Room

Civil

5. Participate in events

Washington Theatre

The Kennedy Center

Verizon Center

The Washingtonian Events

6. Hang out in wealthy areas

City Center

Tyson’s Corner Galleria 

Georgetown 

Downtown 

22nd Street

Annapolis

Leesburg

Potomac

Chevy Chase

8. Look Cute but not overtly sexy

Form fitting dresses that are not too revealing

Skirts

Anything flowy

Nice fitting jeans

Sexy top

Heels or wedges

9. Speak! (I’m a little more flirty) I’ll have a book or notepad in hand while looking busy

“The tie looks great on you.”

“Did you pick out that color?”

“Why haven’t we met yet?”

“Are you texting me, because I haven’t received it yet.”

“Drinking without me?”

“Somethings missing ____ (insert catchy line).”

“How long have you been waiting on me?”

“You don’t have to look anymore, I’m right here…”

See I’m quite direct, humorous, and flirty. Tap into your sensuality. He’ll appreciate your courage!

10. Get out of your own head, you got this!

[joeblack885]

How to analyze a POT. $$$

I read a lot of girls posting analysis of income, and tell if the guy can afford to have a sugar baby. Here is my take: Big city and single: 250k Big city and married: 350k Not big city and single: 150k Not a big city and married: 250k Net worth and income do not always have a direct relationship with each other. Scenario 1: guy makes 50k and inherited 5 million Scenario 2: guy makes 300k and spends it all.

I think you should use this for a basis of what you are looking for a pot to spend minimum: 3000/month big city and 2000/month not big city.

Now, I firmly believe that someone who is making more than 400k per year is smart enough not to reveal his true net worth. Why would someone smart enough to make that kind of money put himself at risk of blackmail by showing off? What girls should be more concerned about is how much he is willing to spend on you. I think anyone making 200k has the spending power (depending on circumstances) to afford at least 2000/month.

For my profile, I put an income and net worth to portray the type of allowance I want to spend. I don’t reveal my true income. I don’t reveal my true net worth.

How to tell if someone is rich AND willing to spend $:

Not by how he dresses. My father used to take me to clothing trade shows when I was young. He pointed out. See everyone in suits! They are not the rich guys. Look for the guys who are dressed casually in T-shirts ( Egyptian cotton), they are the ones who don’t have to look nice because they hire people for that.

Not by his car ( although there are minimum standards. An E class would be a minimum as well as A6, 5 series, etc “hybrids excluded”) anyone who drives anything less is either lying or cheap. If you make 200k and drive a civic, ur not gonna be spending thousands on an arrangement. Reason being, these cars are safer, more comfortable, and shows that a man is into luxury hence, able to afford a SB.

Drinks. Anybody making 50k can afford a restaurant bill. But they can’t afford good champagne. On your next pot date, tell them you like champagne and ask if they would like to “have champagne with you” ( never ask to share a bottle) In effect, what you have done is tactfully put them in a position to reveal what they are comfortable with or whether they are comfortable and accommodating. A man who is serious about impressing a girl will order a bottle whether they like it or not. Anyone who has money has had champagne and can tolerate it even if they don’t like it. If they tell you they will have something else, in effect they are forcing you to order by the glass (aka shitty stuff). ( this is my opinion and may not be correct for all guys) but one thing is true, if he orders a bottle of something nice, he is willing to spend money on you. You can’t get good champagne at a restaurant for under 150 dollars (small city prices) and 250 (big city). This, in my opinion is a good sign for a pot date. Lol. So many guys are gonna hate me for this but I’m tired of all these bullshit guys ruining it for real SD’s.

His watch. At some point, ask him the time and compliment him on his watch. Ask about it and take genuine interest. Google it later and if it’s worth 5k and up, he is a pot that will have money for a consistent arrangement. I know a lot of rich people and 98% of the ones making 300k+ have a watch worth 4-5k minimum. No exceptions. This shows he has disposable income to spend on himself and you. Nobody poor spends their tax return on a 5000 watch. 1000 maybe. Watches for men is the gift they treat themselves for being successful. They all do it. If you spend 1000 on a watch, you only have one. If you spend 5000 on a watch, chances are you have more than one. Also, anyone with a Rolex is a douche (opinion) because they just want to show off. For that price, there are so many other options that are far more satisfying than a Rolex. Now, if he says the watch has sentimental value (eg. his father gave it to him) then price is not important.

Travelling. (Note: this applies to 80% of pots) Anyone with money and who is willing to spend money on you (aka discretionary spending) will like to stay in nice hotels. This is not a maybe or an option because rich people (half have expense accounts) don’t stay in shitty hotels in big cities (does not apply to small cities due to lack of options) Talk about travel. Then mention ritz Carlton or trump hotels. Ask them if they have stayed in those chains. Ask them what hotel chains they like. You can read up on them online and pricing. When a man doesn’t cheap out on hotels, this is a big $$$ sign that they like luxury (aka:you) and will pay for it.

With these three things, you will be able to determine if he is willing to spend money on you. Being rich doesn’t matter if they are cheap. All that matters is if they are willing to part with their money.

[travelingsugarlady-deactivated2]

Great tips!

[redsugarlipsbaby-blog]

How to get any guy to come to you freestyling..

Or in any situation really.

If you notice a guy who has potential or you’re attracted to, the best thing you can do is eye contact. Not random but purposeful and distracting eye contact that sends a message.

Example: You are in a bar and see a man across the way, expensive suit, hot, ect ect. If he’s not glancing at you yet every now and then (he should be you’re hot as fuck) look in his general direction (not straight at him) until you see him look your way. Then clearly lock eyes, smile and look down still smiling. Don’t look to the side it shows disinterest like your passing over them for the next guy or not seeing them at all.

Now his interest should be piqued. Keep your peripherals open so you can tell when he’s looking at you again and do the same thing, with small changes in reaction. Sometimes a small wink or tilt of head or a slight smile with longer eye contact. Nothing over the top. It’s all about the obvious but small body language. 2 or 3 times of this I guarantee he will come over to buy you a drink.

Guys usually don’t approach you in a bar purely because they are worried about getting rejected. Showing them that your welcome to them approaching at that time will increase the chances of them meeting you. And it’s not obvious so if he’s a douche and you want to continue searching, you’re not announcing to the whole room your intentions by walking up to random dudes.

[brownstatuesquesugarbaby-deacti]

To the anon who asked about sugaring literature, I just came across this so I thought I’d share it. Enjoy and sugar on 😘