I can't believe I needed to make this blog yet here we are

steph. 20. lesbian. she/her. no terfs allowed

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what do you think about people who use the label bi and pan interchangeably?

pan is just a holier-than-thou word for bi. just kinda inherently biphobic and transphobic and often homophobic to call urself pan

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Sorry to ask something like this, but is there really much of a point towards more "exclusionist"-like blogs? I feel like in the end, people are spending way too much time complaining and whining over things they don't have control over instead of working to make a positive influence in their own communities. It feels like essentially wasting your life from an "outsider's" (I don't really know how to describe this) perspective. I know you have a life outside of this, but I'm still perplexed.

good question! there is absolutely no point. everybody needs a niche :)

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What’s a women? If it isn’t biological what do you think the definition of women should be?

what’s a women haha

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Hi a close friend has been scrolling your blog for two days and sending me the absolute worst posts possible and I need u to know you're complicit in me losing my mind

always here to help ❤️

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The LGBT community is not the Island of Misfit Toys, there’s an actual fucking point to our existence. It’s not just a fun club for anyone who feels like they don’t fit every social norm. We are Oppressed, Lindsay

[angel-cakies]

So true! That’s why it’s for more than just LGBT!! (That’s why there’s a + if ya didn’t know! Kinda weird that you didn’t add it though) Asexuals, aromantics, demisexuals, pansexuals, omnisexuals, polysexuals, lithromantics, polyamorus people, quoisexuals, fictosexuals, amatosexuals, autosexuals, teramoric people, scoliosexuals, zedsexuals, diversexuals, homoflexibles, heteroflexibles, and any other queer identities I forgot. We all belong 😼 don’t let anyone tell you otherwise 💜💜💜

-mod ouma 💜

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wow, this response is incredible... yes of course the turmerics are valid and lgbt <3 also if any scoliosexuals follow me on here pls hmu i have major scoliosis and am willing to send sexy spinal curvature pics in exchange for compensation <3 <3

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Instead of calling yourself “she/her” just call yourself “female”. The word female is being demonised, which is basically misogyny, and people who refuse to use it in a header are not helping.

have u considered that you’re actually stupid af lol

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"no terfs allowed" that's ironic right?

nah i think nasa should outlaw gravity for terfs so they all fall off the earth and float into space and die

[cowardly-bisexual]

Can we please shift the conversation from whether labels are "valid" and start asking substanial questions such as are they useful? Are they useful politically or for building communities and movements? Do they make sense? How are they materially different from other labels? What kind of message do they send about people who don't subscribe to that label? Why would we need them? What are they based on? What is their history, origin and purpose? Are they useful irl? Why do they make use feel different than older, more stigmatised labels?

Let's move beyond individual feelings and immediate gratification and start asking what's useful and helpful for us as a movement if we want to achieve material change

[cowardly-bisexual]

All I ever get as a response when criticising certain labels is "you're wrong, xyz is valid!!!"

Okay but is it useful? Is it harmful? Does it make sense? Why do we need it? Let's have a real conversation bitch, I'm past this "everything is valid" kindergarten nonsense

[horriblewarlock]

Pansexuals when they see someones genitals instead of their heart

[mexicanboy-deactivated20200810]

In bernies America pansexuality is illegal

[zzzanzzz-deactivated20201124]

notice how it's a pandemic and not a bidemic

[parkchaewongf-deactivated-deact]

1d reacts to you coming out as asexual

harry: “i’m asexual as well darling! love is love! let’s be qqps for life!”

liam: “i mean… can we still fuck?”

zayn: “why couldn’t you just stay in the closet.”

niall: “um.. ok?”

louis: “aw well love i frankly don’t quite get it.”

[juanulove]

well behaved women rarely make the aphobe list

[andreablog2-deactivated20220425]

[jennybystudiokillers-remade-dea]

i know everyone thinks the terms ‘top’ and ‘bottom’ and even ‘verse’ are inherently related to sex. that’s pretty common, but i’d like to remind everyone they’re part of asexual culture as well

when you’re asexual/aroace, you’re a top if you initiate hugs with your significant other or queerplatonic partner, and a bottom if it’s the other who always initiates them. you’re a verse if you and them take turns.

this might seem silly but it’s important for us to use terms who can describe our experiences too, please signal boost.

[hedestroyedhiscage-deactivated2]

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The LGBT community is not the Island of Misfit Toys, there’s an actual fucking point to our existence. It’s not just a fun club for anyone who feels like they don’t fit every social norm. We are Oppressed, Lindsay

[veepersjeepers]

im really fucking hoping this isnt some ace exclusionary bullshit

benefit of the doubt, it isnt

[ok-ok2]

Bad news, it is

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bad news, it is :(

[urparty]

Lesbian is a gender in and of itself 

[urparty]

Women who love women and specifically don’t love men will always have a uniquely complex relationship to womanhood in the sense that being a woman is almost inextricably tied to loving a man, so removing this from a woman’s identity removes a fundamental element from her subconscious understanding of what it means to be a woman. so many lesbians feel disconnected from womanhood not because they love other women but because they don’t love men, because this is so easy to internalize as an inherent aspect of being a woman and that makes it very easy not to feel like one. gender only exists within the societal framework which constructed it and because that society is so patriarchal and binary its perception of the woman gender is skewed through that lens. so i don’t think that society necessarily hates lesbians for loving other women, i think it hates lesbians for not loving men, for being women improperly. many women feel disconnected from womanhood for myriad reasons but this particular experience with gender and being a woman is one that belongs only to lesbians, so when i say that lesbian is its own gender this is what i mean.