me, an asexual: *still completely confused about what is so attractive about butts*

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me, an asexual: *still completely confused about what is so attractive about butts*
I keep seeing these posts about how sad or upsetting it is to see CHILDREN who identify as ace. So this is a friendly reminder to all my ace minors who may need to hear it today.
1. You are NOT sad, and no one has a right to be upset by your identity. 2. You do not need to explain, to an adult person or anyone else, what you consider sexual attraction, or why you think you are not experiencing it. No one has the right to ask you to question your own identity. 3. You do not need to listen to anyone trying to convince you you are probably more gay or more straight, or anyone trying to change the way you identify in any other way. 4. Asexuality is not about whether you have had or are having sex. If you self-identify as asexual, that is not you sexualizing yourself, and you are not harming yourself by taking on a label that MIGHT change in the future. and don’t ever let anyone convince you otherwise. 5. You are not required to keep an open mind that your orientation may change. It MIGHT change, and if it does, i hope you can welcome and enjoy whatever you are feeling when it arrives. But you aren’t required to participate in the rituals of dating, crushes, or experimenting just to prove that it’s really NOT what you want.
I am a firm believer in self-exploration, and obtaining self-knowledge through questioning what we know about ourselves, and the world. But the way ace kids are constantly expected to provide answers for how we are the way we are, and what it means, and how we’re really really open to being something else, is just disgusting. It does more to turn kids AWAY from relabeling or reexamining themselves.
If you’re a minor, and you ID as ace, then you’re ace. You’re not broken, or alone, you’re not wrong, and you don’t need to answer for it.
I'm always scared if I tell someone I'm asexual they're going to invalidate it, what if they're right? Is asexuality a real thing?
Well, I have about 3000 followers on this blog that will say its a real thing. And thousands of others who have never heard of my blog. So many people have a similar experience to you. Sexologists cite asexuality as a valid experience (starting with Kinsey in the 50s).
I can understand your fear and anxiety, but just know that you’re not alone <3
Biromantic aces are wonderful, amazing, and valid pass it on 💖💜💙
Interview: Bridget
Today we’re joined by Bridget. Bridget is a phenomenal hobbyist who loves to draw. She loves to draw a variety of things, mostly using pens and markers. Her images are positively beautiful and show a great eye for lines and color, which you’ll soon see. Bridget is a passionate artist with a wonderful amount of enthusiasm. My thanks to her for taking the time to participate in this interview.
WORK
Please, tell us about your art.
I’m not a professional artist, but drawing has been a hobby of mine for as long as I can remember! I mostly draw in pen or marker and usually just in black and white. Color is still something I find a little intimidating except for in little splashes!
What inspires you?
Seeing the work of other people definitely is inspiring. An artist I follow closely at the moment is Dana Terrace…seeing her work made it click for me that as an artist you can truly make anything you want, even if it’s a little creepy or strange. The wonderful thing about art is that there are so many ways to make it, and none of it is wrong!
What got you interested in your field? Have you always wanted to be an artist?
Art is not my professional field, but it is something I’ve practiced on and off since I was a little kid. I actually got my degree in technical geography, so while art is not at the center focus of my work, it still helps to have a good eye for visual displays.
Do you have any kind of special or unique signature, symbol, or feature you include in your work that you’d be willing to reveal?
Not at the moment!
What advice would you give young aspiring artists?
I still consider myself to be a young inspiring artist, but something I’ve picked up along the way is to look at a broad variety of artistic styles. I know that I always have trouble drawing eyes, and so I’ll go and look up several different artists and practice drawing in their style until I find a combination of something that works for me! I’d never claim or post anything that I copied from another artist, but it is definitely very helpful to practice by copying the pros.
ASEXUALITY
Where on the spectrum do you identify?
Until recently I identified as asexual, but recently I’ve discovered that I’m closer to demisexual.
Have you encountered any kind of ace prejudice or ignorance in your field? If so, how do you handle it?
In my field I have not encountered any, but I also don’t tend to bring up my sexual preferences in everyday conversation, ha ha! In my personal relationships I have had some difficulties…I dated someone for several years, and about halfway through the relationship it dawned on me that I did not experience the same desires as my partner did. My partner didn’t understand, and often left me feeling like I was ‘broken’ or not fulfilling my side of the relationship. It caused a lot of heartbreak. I ended the relationship; there were several reasons why we didn’t work out, but our differing sexual goals definitely played a part.
At this point I thought I was completely asexual. However, I entered a new relationship about six months ago, and it surprised me to find that I was experiencing some attraction to my new partner in ways I never had before. This has led me to the conclusion that I’m demi, and also that it’s entirely possible for my identity to shift with time and experiences.
What’s the most common misconception about asexuality that you’ve encountered?
That something is wrong with you for not feeling sexual attraction, that you have a disorder of some kind. It took me a long time to come to terms with the fact that I’m not ‘broken’…when I finally found resources describing asexuality, I was thrilled to have a word to describe how I identify myself.
What advice would you give to any asexual individuals out there who might be struggling with their orientation?
That it’s totally okay to shift your stance on your identity. Assigning a label to your identity is a great thing to be able to do, but don’t feel like you’re locked into it forever. It’s okay to change your identity as you explore your preferences!
Finally, where can people find out more about your work?
I post my art to Instagram, at bridget_tuttle_art
Thank you, Bridget, for participating in this interview and this project. It’s very much appreciated.
Shout out to all the aces who are intersex.
Having one thing going on that’s pathologized is bad enough, but two?
You’re awesome and I love you.
I hope asexual, aromantic and aroace trans girls and women are having a good day.
To anyone with suicidal thoughts this year, thank you for sticking around. I'm so glad you are here.
Reblog if you accept asexuals and think they’re valid.
real talk aros and aces of colour are so great!!! theyre all amazing isnt that incredible?
🌸 I hope that black women who’re on the asexual spectrum have an amazing day!!! 🌸
My asexual experience
My opinion on people doing the sex: rad
My opinion on me doing the sex: unrad
I've been told not to act like a "special snowflake" a couple times in my life,because I behave a little differently than expected sometimes. I believe I'm ace and aegoromantic,is it really possible that I just want to be different?
Dear lord I hate the term special snowflake. Because it causes lovely people like you, who are simply trying to understand their place in the world and whatnot, to doubt themselves and second guess and become anxious. My advice is to literally just ignore those people. Its easier said than done, I understand (I’ve struggled with this worry for as long as I can remember). But what you have to understand is that you’re no being a /special snowflake/ just because you found words to describe your experience. You’re lovely, and valid, and this community supports you.
Asexuals are wonderful 😍 Asexuals are valid 😊 Asexuals are part of the LGBT community 😄 I hope every asexual has a wonderful day!!
violets are blue
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i’m ace as heck
so let’s cuddle instead