Temple of Babalon

I'm a male Dom, and gentleman sadist, in London, UK, who has a strong belief that sex should be passionate, inspirational and filthy. I think sex is spiritual, sex is magick, and no matter how deep, dark and degrading it gets it can transform everyone concerned for the better. If done with wisdom. ____________________________ I think many people don't really understand sex, and fewer still really understand D/s. It is transcendent and transformative, and frequently the dirtier it gets the more powerful and inspirational the effects... if you know what you're dong. ______________________ As will become obvious I like girls submissive, bi, filthy and courageous. I'm lucky enough to have one, (and if you'd like to know more about her, she has her own rather lovely blog at artofbabalon) but I'm always looking for more... If you'd like another way to communicate with me you can find me on Fetlife as MageofBabalon, or you can email me at: mageofbabalon at gmail dot com. __________________________________ This is a NSFW Blog for me to post photos that I've stumbled across that have inspired me, but also phrases and writings that equally inspire.. Not for the young or easily offended. __________________________________ hit counter

[templeofbabalon]

Just returning briefly to say goodbye...

So it’s the eve of the smutapocalypse.. the dawn of filthagedon... the night before a million perverts call out in despair only to be silenced. The end of ‘Adult’ Tumblr.

Other, better, people than I have written and hopefully will continue to write about what a sad, destructive, and limiting thing this is. But I just wanted to briefly mourn the loss of the community we had on here - and salute one last time the fellow explorers of sexuality, the boundary pushers, the transgressors, and the loving, open, kind, curious people that came this way.

I haven’t posted on this blog in years, but there were a couple of years where I really put some time in... and find a modicum of renown in a small but beautifully twisted domain of the internet. Through this blog I found lovers and friends had experiences I had only previously dreamed of, shared thoughts and ideas, hopefully helped a few people think a little more clearly about their sexuality and desires, and learned a huge amount from other people sharing their own experiences, thoughts and feelings. 

It was, in a word, awesome. As well as fascinating, exciting, warm, loving, educational, stimulating and deeply, deeply sexy.

Things have moved on in the years since... I’m still very happily with my Scarlet girl, and whilst we’ve left London behind for a rural idle, and whilst we’re not quite so actively perverted, we are deeply happy together. Life is good - don’t ever let anyone tell you that poly is a death of a relationship, or that a desire for crazy, depraved, sex with delightful people is an indication of bad mental health or lack of personal growth. We’re as happy together as any couple of which I can think, and living good lives.

So one last time - thank you all for posting here, sharing your thoughts, ideas, fantasies, perversions and desires. Thank you for getting in touch and saying hello - you were lovely (and, you know, if you happen to come across this and want to say hello again I’m sure I’d be delighted to hear from you - I’m still at [email protected]). Thank you for the wonderful, brave, and talented sex workers who have created the material I’ve been so stimulated, inspired and energised by over the years. Thank you for being a community of smart, open-minded, stimulating and loving people.

Things change, communities come and go, but I hope someday once again to find somewhere that brings as much stimulation, friendship, worth, and depraved, despicable, degrading fucking as this place.

Take care lovely people - find someone you trust and do the dirtiest thing your heart desires. You’ll feel so much better for it.

[bdsmfeed]

[templeofbabalon]

I will confess i find it hard to resist slipping my hand into the dress of a well presented girl... Naturally, just the ones that I have a particular... familiarity... with. But generally with littler regard for surroundings or circumstances. 

There is something particularly sensual about feeling that slide, feeling the softness of the skin, the weight of the breast, the impression of a nipple on one's palm... And the expression it tends to provoke is rather delightful to. It can be shock, surprise, indignation... But a good way to give a reminder - you are just care-taker of this body, it belongs to me. To be used whenever, wherever, and in whatever way I choose. Your blushes, squirms or complaints are really nothing to me. My amusement outweighs all of that... Remember your place, and your function.

[templeofbabalon]

I missed you, like A LOT!

I'm so terribly sorry not to have been around for you... But I'm back! For the time being anyway... 

Just remember, I'm a sucker for attention - so just write me interesting comments and questions now and again...

[templeofbabalon]

i am in love with your way with words and the beauty i find in them, and it is a dream of mine to one day, in the least, be able to meet you in person. (of course i feel like the first step to doing this would be to get off anon, but im not comfortable doing just that, so it may end up staying a dream.)

Ah, the poignancy of beautiful possibilities that go unrealised...

Well, Anon, if you ever reconsider, you know where to find me... I'm really quite charming - and not terribly dangerous - in person you know. 

[templeofbabalon]

So glad you're back! I missed seeing your posts on my dash (as well as feeling the little rush I get from them)

Thank you, Anon. And thank all you others for the very sweet messages on my 'return'. It's lovely to think I've been missed. 

I can't promise any great consistency of posting, but I'll try to be around a little more... Thank you to those who have taken the time to get in touch again.

I hope I continue to create those little rushes.

[snowce]

[templeofbabalon]

This is just the beginning... but you're starting in the right place.

[templeofbabalon]

I really enjoy kinky sex but most men are apprehensive to even try when I give them permission. Is there a website where a submissive and Dom can get together or even perhaps a dating website that can help me weed out the passive sexual men?

If you've not come across it, then fetlife is likely what you are looking for.

It's not really arranged like a dating site, that's not it's primary purpose, but it's a pretty good way to connect with people - either by finding those who are geographically close to you, or by posting in forums with people who have similar interests. Good luck with the search...

[templeofbabalon]

Reading your blog is incredibly seductive. But for some of us, there is the stepping out into the real scene and discovering that many BDSM players are NOT very attractive and that good Doms are pretty rare, -and that is deeply discouraging... like we'd have a better chance at winning the lottery. I'm not a novice but my experiences (over ten years) have never gone beyond "that was interesting" and I will admit, sometimes I am resentful and despairing when I read your blog.

I'm sad to say that this is a story I hear rather too often... It does seem to be hard to find good partners, and good Doms in particular. And a bad Dom can be a horrible, dangerous, or just deeply disappointing thing.

The only thing I can say is that there is more and more information out there, more and more discussion, more and more presentations of the 'right' way to do things. We can only home that more people are taking the journey to understand themselves, understand their power, and understand how submissives work, that will allow them to be good and powerful Doms. God knows the rewards are worth it - even if the road is rather long, and rather hard.

I hope you find what you're looking for... In the meantime I'll keep blogging and home to inspire some Doms as to what is possible (and what is required), as well as making subs demand rather more.

[artofbabalon]

[templeofbabalon]

The American Whore had mixed feelings about my belt... The sound of it when I hit her with it in the cave, however, was a delight. It slammed into her body with a very distinct crack, then the echoes reverberated around for a few seconds afterwards... a caress after the initial impact of sound.

A large, ancient, cave, it would seem, is an excellent place to beat a girl. I recommend it. In she is so damn pretty when she looks sad.

[artofbabalon]

[templeofbabalon]

There's always that question, when you've been away, of where you will find the motivation to come back and start posting again... Vanity, vanity will do it.... :)

Why not a beautiful picture of a gorgeous girl kneeling at my feet. The American Whore's second visit was a grand success in many ways. She was, in fact, far more at ease with being naked in public than I was having her naked... until my Dom head kicked in, and I realised that I really didn't give a fuck anymore.

As one can see from the above, she's a gorgeous girl... As may be less immediately obvious, she's also loving, kind, smart and as filthy as one could hope for. I miss having her around the place, but I'm honoured to be a part of her journey.

[templeofbabalon]

So I just got this delivered... happy to have picked it up cheap on eBay. Not *entirely* sure what to do with it... Some kind of towel hook, perhaps? 

Ah well, I'm sure it'll prove useful if the American Whore visits again...

[templeofbabalon]

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It seems my girls feel a little threatened by how polite the Tumblerinas are when they get in touch with me. 

I suppose they feel threatened because they are too lazy to make an equal effort themselves...

[templeofbabalon]

3000 and up...

I've not thought about my follower count very much of late, but I've recently burst through the 3000 barrier which is... remarkable and lovely. Thank you all for following along, and I hope I continue to entertain, stimulate and provoke.

Particular thanks to those of you who have paid me the compliment of asking such interesting and provocative questions of late, who have been kind enough to feel I could help with my answers. Whilst I very much enjoy writing all the filthy captions, and generally allowing my id to run rampant, I do also very much enjoy the opportunity to share my experiences and whatever insight I've gained over the years. I very much appreciate the reaction I get to these pieces, and it's very gratifying to know that, in some cases at least, it's made a difference.

D/s is, as I so often say, a truly wonderful, life enhancing, thing. It is, however, complicated and difficult and too often mis-understood. I very much enjoy the opportunity I have to explore and illustrate some of the pleasures it brings, the excitement and passion it evokes, the beauty and terror of the D/s dynamic... as well as the approaches, attitudes and knowledge that make it possible, practical and safe. That's the balance we all strive for - to go so deep into the darkness we forget about the light for a while... whilst ensuring our path back is reliably marked, and that we can retrace our steps safely, and return happily into the place we live.

Thanks to all of you who have got in touch with comments, questions, or thanks - I do appreciate it every time, and I do try to get around to answering everyone in the end... even if there is a bit of a pause sometimes. It does, still, always happy to see my inbox with a number above it. 

Now, maybe I'll see about coming up with something to 'celebrate' the extra followers... Hmmm... what to do... what to do...

Take care all of you, and thanks for following along...

[wildsavage17]

[templeofbabalon]

They will test the chains that bind, they will examine them and find their limits. They will ensure they are tight and secure. They will seek out the weakest point and discover if there is any chance of escape. They don't do it because they wish to get away, but because they need to be certain that they cannot.

Subs test us - not because they are bad subs. But to ensure we are not bad Doms.

[templeofbabalon]

I've set myself the task of going through your archive one month at a time, one a day. No more or less than that. It's meant to tease me while my Sir is busy. I've just finished one and I'm realizing that it's going to actually be more challenging to stop myself than it is to get through it all. Lovely blog.

My, that is rather lovely. How nice to be source of torment for you. I hope you find things that are suitably stimulating... But you had better stick to your rule. Otherwise I'm sure there will be consequences...Enjoy, my dear.

[templeofbabalon]

dear Sir, your bog is delightful. I spends way to much time on it. You always talk about beautiful redhaids and blonds. But would you also enjoy a skinny girl with beautiful brown hair?

Thank you for the kind compliment. I hope you continue to enjoy what you find here. On the issue of girls, types of girls, and looks, I am aware that I have a tendency to talk about blondes and red heads. The latter because this blog has a particular connection with a particular red headed goddess. The former because my fantasy figures often lean that way. However, as I know I've said before, there's a big difference between girls in fantasy and girls in reality. The degree to which I'm attracted to a particular girl is not determined by something as simple as hair colour. It has much more to do with personality, presence, energy, body language, sexuality and overall looks. I have fallen for many girls over the years, and there is very little that they have in common when it comes to looks. Apart from, perhaps, long hair. I really do like good long hair on a girl, no matter what its colour. Not that short haired girls are ruled out, just that I do really like elegant long hair...

[templeofbabalon]

May You please explain Your own concept of the state of being 'present'? I love what it evokes in my own mind and truly enjoy what I understand that state to be within my own D/s experience, but would be fascinated to read Your take on it. Thankyou!

I’ll do my best to oblige…

I do think being present is a key to being a good Dom, a good sub, or indeed a good lover. At its simplest level it is ensuring your mind is where you are - that you aren’t losing yourself in thoughts of the future, thoughts of the past, or fantasies of things being other than how they actually are. That you are, as fully as possible, experiencing this precise moment.

When in therapy mode I once explained mindfulness to a client as being like walking a dog. There’s you - your consciousness - and there’s the dog - your thoughts. An untrained dog has a tendency to get distracted very easily, to go hurtling away after things that interest it, to go chasing down odd sounds and smells and ideas. This is what our mind is like when it’s easily distracted - it’s rushing into the future, making plans, or into the past, re-living old experiences. Our consciousness is always completely ‘now’, but our thoughts may be anything but. At it’s worse we have anxiety, where we are compulsively ‘rehearsing’ negative events in the future, obsessing over particular outcomes. Or we get lost in the past, reliving old mistakes, reviewing past experiences, getting lost in nostalgia or depression. The ‘dog’ of our thoughts is not well trained, and it hurtles around all over the place.

Mindfulness is about teaching the dog to walk to heel. It is about being able to ensure that our thoughts are where we are. That they follow along calmly with the present moment. That whilst we might allow them to go chasing off after something interesting from time to time, we can return them to the present with a single command.

Being present is about having our thoughts and our consciousness on what is happening right now. We only have so much mental space, and if we are thinking of other things we will not be fully experiencing what is happening right now. This is madness if right now is pleasurable - we should be filling our mind with all that wonderful sense data, that is giving us tastes and sounds and sensations which are pleasurable. But if we are doing something complex like Doming or subing, we must also be taking in information and making decisions based on it. As a Dom I need to be focussed on my submissives expression, her words, her body language, her responses to my movements. I must be fully with her, empathising, trying as hard as possible to follow her experience so that I know what she needs next. If I’m away on some flight of fantasy, if I’m planning what I’m going to do next, if I’m steadily working my way through a list of things I’ve decided are to be the evenings activities… well, I might miss something very important. I might mis-judge where she is at or what she needs or how she is feeling. And that can be very bad.

Being present increases the pleasure of the individual, but it also increases their ability to read, and respond appropriately, to a situation. It makes life more vivid, more powerful. I know some submissives say that one of the reason they like being hit is that it immediately makes them fully present, makes everything else fall away, and they get that sense of being ‘really alive’. You don’t actually need to be hit to experience it, but… I guess it helps.

I find an occasional mindfulness practice is helpful in all areas of life - particularly as a way of dealing with anxiety. But the ability to present makes sex *so* much better. Not being present is like putting a film on and then starting to read a book… if you aren’t giving it your full attention, is it really what you want to be doing? If it’s really what you want to be doing, why not savour every moment of it? I also think we are very good at sensing - at least subconsciously - if someone is present with us or not. If they have wandered away into their own mind it distances us from them, makes us feel a lot less close… The best lovers are always those who are most with us… we can build a connection with is so much more powerful, and have an experience that is much more memorable.

All in all - be present in what you do, be mindful of our actions, and fill yourself with the pleasure of now. It really is the thing that leaves you feeling most alive…