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radical feminist, anti-porn, anti-"sex work", gender critical, my main is .terfysm, I collect posts here that I don't want to put on my main

[undead-vigor]

[roundo]

“carry diseases and shit” yeah this is just homophobic 

[hidetothink]

"Why not fuck a vulva, they're better than some dirty shit-hole, lol hot wings and bottoms right?"

We get it, your entire sense of homosexuality comes from social media

[shirkers2018dirsanditan]

i genuinely cannot believe this shit. why do we live in this timeline. is this supposed to be perceived as solidarity or something because this is regular racism. what is it about these businesses that makes you assume sex is involved? what is it about these women?

someone in the fucking replies called this “whorephobia.” WHOREPHOBIA. so not only did this white male terrorist call these women sexual temptresses and blame them for their own murders, not only did the police propagate this rhetoric and defend the murderer, not only did so called progressives and anti-racists then further allow this white man to define these women’s existence, but now you’re also calling them whores. okay

[little-skellig]

I used to be a sports therapist. I worked in a gym. My website was completely professional and was very clearly for sports massage. I even had a disclaimer next to my contact information saying that I did NOT provide sexual services and to please not contact me with inappropriate requests.

That didn’t stop me from getting disgusting phone calls and texts regularly from men. Sometimes they would ask outright if I did happy endings or how much I charged for sex, other times they would skirt around, asking cryptic questions like “do I have to wear underwear” or “do you do FULL body massage” and every time I got one of those calls my heart would start hammering and I would be so fucking scared because even after I’d told them no, I knew that they knew where I worked.

I could fill a book with every horrible phone call, with every man who seemed ok on the phone and then acted like a fucking pyscho in person. I’ve feared for my life multiple times, and if I hadn’t been in a building full of people, I’m CERTAIN they would have done me serious harm.

I made such a huge effort to seem reputable with my website, my conduct etc., but these men don’t give a shit. And I wish people knew that when they make comments like those in the tweet above. And people say things as a joke like “oh you’re a massage therapist? You don’t do happy endings do you lol” (Something I heard from SO many people in every day life) and I wish I could tell them what female massage therapists go through.

And I’m white. My old colleague was Chinese and did ACUPUNCTURE, not even massage, and she got absolutely flooded with disgusting racialised sexual requests. Asian women get it SO much worse. It fills me with rage that it’s being treated as a logical conclusion to come to that they must have been doing sexual massage because they worked in a spa and were Asian. I don’t understand how people are saying this and not realising how disgusting and racist it is?? Even if they were, do people not understand how stating that as a logical assumption effects every Asian massage therapist? Every Asian woman full stop?

This is why I think prostitution hurts all women. It makes men see women as commodities to be bought and sold. Who cares if you’re a sports therapist or acupuncturist and your website says specifically not to call with inappropriate requests? If I’m paying you then what’s the difference?

If you are pro prostitution and you’ve never actually done it, see if you can handle being a non sexual massage therapist. Try a year of men phoning you and asking to pay to have sex with you. Try a year of men getting their dick out when you’re alone in a room with them. Try a year of men getting obsessed with you and telling you they feel so connected to you and that they think you’re meant to be together while you’re massaging them. These are all things that happened to me and I can’t describe how degrading and terrifying those experiences were. I’m not even a prostitute and see how little respect these men had for me. Imagine how they treat women who they’ve paid to legally rape.

[terfystry]

This is why I think prostitution hurts all women. It makes men see women as commodities to be bought and sold. Who cares if you’re a sports therapist or acupuncturist and your website says specifically not to call with inappropriate requests? If I’m paying you then what’s the difference?

[...]

Imagine how they treat women who they've paid to legally rape.

[niftysodomy]

A woman: So I recently developed ovarian cancer & I could sure use someone to talk to about it

Trancels on Tumblr: Um this is kinda problematic sweetie. Trans women dont have ovaries & ur sure being cissexist when u bring them up. Bringing up the cancer u have in an organ that’s exclusive to females is transphobic & by trying to discuss a womens’ issue youre basically saying you want all trans women to DIE, so uh…

[blackswallowtailbutterfly]

And for anyone who thinks this is an exaggeration, there was a woman who made uterus art because she had uterine cancer and TRAs were all calling her a TERF.

[58magpie58]

@nightfirestorm @neversayaloud

[thatkindoffeminist]

Women in a infertility support group have their language policed by a TIM (who has a child) who joined the group because he’s infertile as the result of his transition

Woman told that she’s no longer allowed to discuss her female anatomy in a woman’s cancer support group as it makes the TIM in the group feel unsafe and is not allowed to set up a female support group where they can discuss female-specific cancers/issues/symptoms

Woman gets harassed for saying pussy hats should be allowed at the woman’s march

Trans person calls the pussy hats transphobic and racist

Woman told that she’s being transphobic/insensitive to trans people because she’s worried about how having a hysterectomy will affect her womanhood

Women in a group are told that they’re making trans/NB people uncomfortable by mentioning anything related to the female body as being the ‘best part of being a woman’

Woman said that having her children and being a mother was what she loved about being a woman -called heteronormative and exclusive

Woman told to stop complaining about PPMD and endometriosis because some people would kill to have a period 

FGM is transphobic

But sure! Women are never silenced about their biology!

[valariestan-deactivated20230811]

wow so true bestie

[terfystry]

Hmmmm

[lasdelaintuicion]

Levi's whore⁷ on Twitter

“American women can afford to refer to themselves as non-men. We can't. We're not even seen as humans here in Nigeria. We're still being sol

[strawberry-crocodile]

Browsing through a feminist blog that’s 100% hard hitting women’s issues and not seeing a single post about trans women be like “are you a cryptoTERF or just complicit in transphobia? We may never know.”

[itsjustwokehomophobia-deactivat]

this is better then any strawman

[camaradarulitos]

Yall are fucking insane. Let women talk about male violence and depravity in peace. Go bother all your little trans identified male friends instead and let them know that they should respect women.

[birthdaypigeon]

Fucking hate when terfs try to use lesbians for their agenda like no ma’am. I love and am sexually attracted to trans women. They are women they were born women they are biologically women. I am a massive dyke and I love all women don’t rope me into your weird bullshit

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

bi women at it again

[terfysm]

You are just using the wrong word to describe yourself, OP.

Homosexuals (Gays and lesbians) are attracted to the same sex, bisexuals are atttracked to both sexes and heterosexuals are attracted to the opposite sex. Asexuals are not sexually attracted to anyone.

It's not a bad thing to be any of these sexualities. Sexualities are not about looks or gender. Sexualities are not identities, they are just descriptions.

I have blue eyes. Saying "I have brown eyes" is just wrong. If I look at a car and say "That's the moon" that's just wrong. Words have meanings, and that's important. If they didn't have meanings your post would not make any sense, it'd just be letters grouped together.

[johanna-swann]

Trans women are women. Therefore being a lesbian inherently includes attraction to trans women.

[terfystry]

Define "woman".

[hello-homophobes]

Terf doesn’t mean lesbian except when it means lesbian

[moonstarfem]

Body neutrality feels so much better than body positivity. You don’t have to think your body is beautiful to love and appreciate it. You don’t have to fetishise your stretch marks by calling them tiger marks and sexualising them. You don’t have to feel sexy to feel good about yourself. It feels way more freeing to just abandon beauty standards all together, instead of trying to force them onto every aspect of your appearance.

[she-volution-deactivated2022052]

i know i shouldn’t throw the word trauma around easily, but i think that girls fearing rape and forced pregnancy before they even turn into a teenager is actually traumatic, but society doesn’t discuss it much because 50% of the population experiences it. like we don’t really know how our minds have been affected by living in such a misogynistic world surrounded by people that we consider potential rapists, it must be bad, but it’s just so normalised, we act like it’s just another aspect of socialisation similar to girls being expected to like pink.

[fairy25]

also like, actually physically experiencing it before we even turn into teenagers or at the very least hearing about our friends or relatives experiencing it like this isn’t something whispered about and made believe, this is something very real and tangible and creeping into our beds at night while our brothers sleep soundly or are the very ones doing the creeping

[butchviking]

I don’t think anyone (certainly no-one reasonable) would argue that physically experiencing it isn’t traumatic though. It’s very obvious that that’s a traumatic experience, especially for a child. what much of the world doesn’t recognise as traumatic is the living in fear aspect that affects pretty much every single girl in the world.

[radfemarchive-deactivated202304]

I often have male “subs” blogs following me so everytime I see a suspicious url I go to their blog to block them and can’t help but notice how absurdly different female “dominance” is from male, female pleasure is rarely or staight up never mentioned, everything is about penis and men’s desires of having something done to them,objectifying pictures of women everywhere with messages written on them like “I’m gonna cage your cock” or a woman in a very clearly male gazey position with “Women rule”, the women wear special sexualized clothing and even high heels, and the thing that mostly draws my attention: it tries to mimic the sexual violence men inflict on women, of course by puting women to do things that don’t provide them any pleasure, calling men misogynistic slurs, sometimes puting them to wear high heels and “girly” clothes, it’s so clear that the entire point is making them aroused by feminizing them and treating them like men treat women (what’s more misogynictic than that?).The very fact that these men like to follow feminist blogs says it all, they masturbate to the political movement that aims for women’s freedom, they take it and use it for their own sexual gratification.What I’m trying to say is that it is an objective fail when people try to use female “"dominance”“ as a gotcha for criticism against misogynistic fetishes that revolve around violence against women and female servitude, two sides of the same sexually exploitive,male-serving coin.

BDSM is a men’s thing, nobody can convince me otherwise.

[cliteralviolence]

^^^^ this. I made a similar post about this, I was really pissed off that men think my activism and my voice is masturbation fodder, but you really articulated the difference well and what about the imagery is so incredibly different from male doms (which you hardly even see). Female subs are objectified just as much as female doms. It’s not a true reversal at all!

[user87262893]

Hi! I’m writing a paper on prostitution (I’m in favour of the Nordic model) but my professor told me I should focus more on the POV of the sex workers themselves. Do you have any suggestions on how to do that - are there any good resources from (ex)sex-workers who are anti-prostitution? I’m struggling a bit; I can find things from sex workers who are pro, but not so much a radfem perspective.

Ex-sex worker Rachel Lloyd’s NYT article about how legalizing sex work leads to higher rates of trafficking

Prostitution research that features many statements from ex-prostituted women

Research the European Parliament did over Sexual exploitation and prostitution and its impact on gender equality

“Prostitution is not a job. The inside of a woman’s body is not a workplace” by Julie Bindel, founder of Justice for Women

Kat Lee, former sex-worker, discussing her time in the industry and the harm she saw

Prostitution in Five Countries: Violence and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, interviews collected from prostitutes, (92% report wanting to leave the industry)

“My work as a prostitute led me to oppose decriminalisation” published in the BBC

Interviews with prostituted individuals in New Zealand reveal that a majority of prostituted people in the country did not feel as if decriminalization had curbed the violence they experience, demonstrating that prostitution is inherently violent and abusive

One study of prostituted women in San Francisco massage parlors found that 62% had been beaten by customers

The “workplace” homicide rate among prostituted women in Colorado is seven times higher than what it was in the most dangerous occupation for men

An investigation commissioned by the European Parliament found that in countries with legal prostitution, such as Austria, “the effect of regulation can be a massive increase in migrant prostitution and an indirect support to the spreading of the illegal market in the sex industry.” 

After New Zealand decriminalized prostitution in 2003, there were still reports among prostituted persons of “continuing stigma” and “harassment by the general public.” In addition, there was little difference in disclosure of occupation to healthcare professionals before and after decriminalization. 

One study with data from 150 countries found that those with “legalized prostitution experience a larger reported incidence of trafficking inflows.”

A large-scale evaluation of the legalization of prostitution in the Netherlands, coordinated by the Ministry of Justice, found that licensed brothels did not welcome frequent regulatory inspections. This undermines their willingness “to adhere to the rules and complicates the combat against trafficking in human beings.”

New Zealand’s Prostitution Law Review Committee found that a majority of prostituted persons felt that the decriminalization act “could do little about violence that occurred.”

The Committee further reported that abusive brothels did not improve conditions for prostituted individuals; the brothels that “had unfair management practices continued with them” even after the decriminalization.

Evaluations have found that regulation of prostitution creates a façade of legitimacy that hides sexual exploitation, and that brothels can “function as legalized outlets for victims of sex trafficking.”

I have more if you need them :)

[thisistheirs-deactivated2021011]

Let’s end cissexism :D

[trareceipts]

If this is really all y’all have to complain about, which boils down to “doesn’t believe in my nonsense identity” then you’re not oppressed at all and have zero room to complain.

[vladscastle-deactivated20231022]

[thatkindoffeminist]

Women: We live in fear of being raped. Police don’t take us seriously or just think that we’re lying. Men abuse us. We get turned down for promotions over less qualified male colleges. We get paid less and more likely to live in poverty. We’re treated as stupider, lesser, and irrational just for being women.

Black People/PoC: We get murdered and abused by the police just for existing. And protesting against that gets us arrested, beaten, or worse. We get longer prison sentences than most. We get passed over for jobs and promotions. We’re more likely to live in poverty. We’re more likely to get a substandard level of education.

LGB People: We get attacked and shouted out for holding our partner’s hand. We’re told we’re gross for our inherent sexuality. We get disowned by our family because of our sexuality. We’re more likely to be homeless. In many places, it’s still illegal to be gay or to marry our same-sex partner.

Disabled People: We cannot access certain things or services because of our disability. Our minimum wage is lower. Our financial support is minimal and often not enough. We face employment discrimination. We face healthcare discrimination.

OP: Okay, but some people don’t use ’they/them’ pronouns or will say ’ladies and gentlemen’ which excludes non-binary people so that’s like the same thing

[lokeangaybitch]

Oppression isnt a contest but since you insist:

Dustin Parker, McAlester, OK

Alexa Neulisa Luciano Ruiz, Toa Baja, Puerto Rico

Yampi Méndez Arocho, Moca, Puerto Rico

Monica Diamond, Charlotte, NC

Lexi, New York, NY

Johanna Metzger, Baltimore, MD

Penélope Díaz Ramírez, Bayamon, Puerto Rico

Layla Pelaez Sánchez, Puerto Rico

Serena Angelique Velázquez Ramos, Puerto Rico

Nina Pop, Sikeston, MO

Helle Jae O’Regan, San Antonio, TX

Tony McDade, Tallahassee, FL

Dominique “Rem'mie” Fells, Philadelphia, PA

Riah Milton, Liberty Township, OH

Jayne Thompson, Mesa County, CO

Selena Reyes Hernandez, Chicago, IL

Brayla Stone, Sherwood, AR

Merci Mack, Dallas, TX

Shaki Peters, Amite City, LA

Bree “Nuk” Black, Pompano Beach, FL

Summer Taylor, Seattle, WA

Draya McCarty, Baton Rouge, LA

Tatiana Hall, Philadelphia, PA

Marilyn Cazares, Brawley, CA

Tiffany Harris, The Bronx, NY

Queasha D. Hardy, Baton Rouge, LA

Brian “Egypt” Powers, Akron, OH

Aja Raquell Rhone-Spears, Portland, OR

The individuals listed above are transgender victims killed in 2020 simply for being trans. Most of them were trans women of color. All of them were innocent. 

The leading causes of death for transgender people is either being bullied and harassed to suicide or being killed simply because they are trans. We can have our healthcare taken away at any time. We are told constantly that we are perverted, that we are disgusting, that we pray on children when in fact most of us want to live in peace.

Stop erasing us. 

[thatkindoffeminist]

The trans murder rate is lower than average murder rate. Most people who are trans and killed are not murdered just for being trans. Many are involved in prostitution which has a high murder rate itself.

I would love to see some sources on the leading causes of death being murdered or suicide because that’s complete bullshit and you know it.

[lokeangaybitch]

With pleasure :) These are some of the articles sent to my parents by my therapist. all of them are from credible sources.

  https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5551594/

https://www.aappublications.org/news/2019/10/14/suicide101419

https://www.cnn.com/2019/11/18/us/transgender-killings-hrc-report-trnd/index.html

https://www.centerforhealthjournalism.org/2019/10/30/transgender-youth-are-dying-suicide-rates-far-higher-their-peers

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jamiewareham/2019/11/18/murdered-hanged-and-lynched-331-trans-people-killed-this-year/#1c5249972d48 -this was last year’s statistics

https://www.hrc.org/resources/understanding-the-transgender-community

https://link.springer.com/content/pdf/10.1007/978-3-030-14625-2_51.pdf

Like I said, oppression isnt a competition. We shouldn’t be worrying about who has it worse. Instead, why don’t we start working together for a change? Why are you so worried about someone’s pronouns when frankly, them being themselves doesnt affect you?

[thatkindoffeminist]

Article 1

It literally says that trans people are LESS likely to be killed than their ’cis’ counterparts except for black trans women who are more at risk simply for being black. Nice try though!

Article 2

It says that trans teens have a higher rater of suicidal intentions/thoughts and attempted suicides. It doesn’t say that it’s the leading cause of death among trans people. No one is denying that trans and dysphoric people are more likely to have mental health issues.

Article 3 is just about how 22 trans people have been killed this year. I mean 2-3 women are killed by their partners every day but I guess that’s whatever because 20-odd trans people are killed every year. I could work out the statistics for you to show that it’s really low? There are others which have done the same but they’ve all been labelled as ’biased sources’.

Article 4 is yet another article on how trans teens are more likely to have suicidal intentions or attempt or commit suicide. Which, again, no one is denying.

So around the world, 331 trans people were killed. Do you think that proves something other than their murder rate is really low?

I do not have the time nor energy to read those last two articles.

Overall, your sources haven’t proved a single thing which you’ve tried to claim. Your first article literally says that the trans murder rate is lower than the average which means that it cannot be one of the leading causes of death among trans people. You literally debunked your own point!

The rest of your articles show that trans people are more likely to consider or commit suicide but doesn’t say anything about suicide being one of the leading cause of death among trans people which was your original claim. No one is denying that trans people are more likely to have mental health issues and consider suicide, just that your claim that it was the leading cause of death was bullshit.

As for your final comment, I’m not that worried about people’s pronouns. That’s such a petty issues relative to things like:

Female-specific spaces (bathrooms, changing rooms, shelters, prisons) being destroyed due to self-ID

The increasing number of gender-neutral spaces coming at the detriment to women’s rights/spaces

The massive amounts of homophobia and misogyny which isn’t being called out but actually supported

The silencing of women on their female-specific experiences

’Gender-inclusive language’ which is just misogynistic

Need I go on?

[femclasscirce]

@it-is-the-female-federal did not have the time to look at the last two articles, so I did.

Article ½ is a list of challenges faced by trans people, but only one point - “Anti-transgender violence” - focused on murder rates. It said:

“At least 13 transgender women were murdered in 2014, and 2015 is in track to see even higher numbers. These women were stabbed, shot, strangled, burned; killed violently by intimate partners or strangers.”

In 2014, 1,321 women were killed by intimate partners alone. Theres a little bit of a difference between 13 and 1300+, wouldn’t you say?

Article 2/2 doesnt even talk about murder rates, just about trans people’ s experiences in college. The things defined as “life-threatening” or “life-saving” were usually referring to trans people wanting to be in a facility that didnt match their sex, and experiencing any inconvenience as “threatening their safety”. Such as this TiM in a female bathroom:

“I can’t say that my trips to these bathrooms have been normal. I have endured angry stares, frightened looks, and, “Um, I think you’re in the wrong bathroom,” comments more often than I have not. Once, I was told to leave. Finding the single-stalk bathrooms on the other side of the building was life-saving.“

I’m real sure his life was on the line, and that his experience needs to be privileged over those of the various women he scared. (This is on pp. 2353-2355 of the article, and the rest of the testimony is as damning as this. If you want an example of narcissism, give it a read.)

Seriously, what was your point? Also, this article answered your question (“why are you worried about someone’s pronouns when frankly them being themselves doesn’t affect you?”) not only by showing how a TiM in female bathrooms makes women feel unsafe, but also how trans people relied on gender roles & stereotypes. Example, page 2346:

“In certain situations, transgender individuals described adapting to a gender expression that fit a scenario’s traditional masculine or feminine gender role. For example, one individual discussed deepening the tone of their voice to sound more masculine when dealing with more masculine-associated activities (i.e., discussing automobile repairs on the phone or flirting with women).”

I encourage you to read the article in full, it has a few other very progressive little gems like this one. There again it was written by two white dudes, one of whom is straight (oh, sorry “a white nonbinary genderqueer who also identifies as trans and is partnered with a cisgender queer femme”), so I’m not surprised by what they’ve written in that article.

You say it doesnt affect us, but it absolutely does affect us if the biological definition for “woman” is replaced with one that is contingent on traditional gender stereotypes. Or on vague feelings in some guy’s head that nobody can define or quantify. In both cases, it means women are nothing more than what men say they are, which renders our concerns and safety easily dismissable issues.

TRAs keep saying “people arent up for debate”, and yet that is exactly what you do to us women. How do you not realize it? You debate our definitions, our words, our existence, our realities, our experiences day in and day out. You tell us that discussing ourselves, from our daily healthcare down to our milennia-long oppression is bigoted and transphobic.

So, sorry, but we cant work together as long as you keep debating who we are.

[it-is-the-female-federal]

Thanks @feministclassicist for reviewing❤❤

[bodenor]

losing my mind at how the original post compares a man being questioned about wearing an article of women’s clothing (something they often do for fetishistic reasons btw!) to women being criticized for existing in our natural state by refusing to shave

[gcdk]

Dustin Parker, McAlester, OK (transman murdered while working as taxi driver)

Alex Ruiz, PR

(homeless, accused of using a mirror under a McDonalds bathroom stall (police called, left pic) then no charges were pressed when the complainant found out he was homeless. Later shot dead in a park by youths.

Yampi Arocho, PR - (transman shot by woman, no other details)

Monika Diamond, Charlotte (called police/ambulance, called for friend, friend tried to get in ambulance and was turned away, friend returned with firearm and shot him dead inside ambulance)

Lexi, New York (stole a wig from another transwoman who stabbed Lexi to death)

Johanna Metzger (living in recovery centre, stabbed to death, no other details)

Penelope Ramirez, PR (found hanged in prison cell, no details as to why he was there, no other details)

Layla Sanchez, Serena Ramos, PR (two transwomen posted a Snapchat of them with two men who later killed them and burned the bodies. “one of the men confessed to his participation in the “vile” crime and admitted it was done for “reasons of revenge” by “repudiating the sexual orientation of the victims.” These two murders are clearly hate crimes.)

Nina Pop, Sikeston (stabbed to death by a man with previous felonies and charges for unlawful gun possession. No other details)

Helle Jae O'Regan (killed at work by man who attacked him and his coworkers claiming God sent him there)

Tony McDade, Tallahassee (transman, allegedly stabbed a man, Malik Jackson, to death and pointed gun at police. Killed by police.)

Rem'mie Fells, Philadelphia (living in recovery centre, found dismembered. Police searching for Akhenaton Jones, after finding cutting tools etc. There is a twitter account for an Akhenaton Jones from Philadelphia who commented that an article about Caster Semenya was biased - not sure how common the name is

Riah Milton, Liberty Township (met two/three men and a 14 year old girl after talking online. Lured into a robbery. Charges for the killers are: aggravated robbery, complicity to murder and unlawful sexual conduct with a minor, murder, felonious assault and aggravated robbery, complicity to murder, complicity to aggravated robbery and tampering with evidence)

Jayne Thompson, Mesa County (shot by police after lunging with ten inch knife. Apparently video, audio and witnesses back this up)

Selena Reyes-Hernandez, Chicago (murdered by 18 year old man he went home with, when the 18 year old realised Selena was trans. This is definitely a hate crime.)

Brayla Stone, Sherwood (bizarre case. Someone claimed online to have been paid $5000 to kill Stone. The arrested man - not sure if online boaster or not- is on probation for an earlier murder he committed at age 14. Appears to be a hate crime.)

Merci Mack, Dallas (killer, who was apparently known for always wearing a ski mask, shot Mack dead because he threatened to upload their sexual encounter on Snapchat)

Shaki Peters, Amite (found dead by the roadside, no suspect, no motive, few details. Person of interest being investigated as of July 2020)

Bree Black, Pompano Beach (shot dead on a busy street, nobody has come forward to police, no motive, no suspect)

Summer Taylor, Seattle (they/them woman killed by driver who drove up an off ramp to plough into BLM protesters)

Draya McCarty, Baron Rouge (not a homicide, found dead, no other details)

Tatiana Hall, Philadelphia (again not a homicide, found dead on street due to accidental drug intoxication, assume this is coroner speak for overdose?)

Marilyn Cazares, Brawley

(Found stabbed to death in this abandoned house used by drug addicts, no suspect or motive)

Tiffany Harris, New York (stabbed by schizophrenic man off his meds who has now been involuntarily admitted to a psychiatric hospital)

Queasha Hardy, Baton Rouge (found shot dead in street. No suspect or motive.)

Brian Powers, Akron (transman, used phone at 3am, found dead from gunshot wound at 8am, time of death unknown, no suspect no motive)

Aja Rhone Spears (stabbed at a vigil for a murder victim after a fight broke out. Another person was also stabbed.)

I would say Sanchez, Ramos, Reyes-Hernandez and Stone are hate crimes. Mack could be a hate crime but sounds like IPV.

The rest either aren’t or just have no details to suggest they are.

I only searched out of interest, I hope someone else finds it interesting. All these deaths are sad, but most seem like regular crime to me.

[cats-moss-gays]

Meanwhile:

MURDER: In 2005, 1,181 women were murdered by an intimate partner.1 That’s an average of three women every day. Of all the women murdered in the U.S., about one-third were killed by an intimate partner.2

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE (Intimate Partner Violence or Battering): Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.3 According to the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, women experience about 4.8 million intimate partner-related physical assaults and rapes every year.4 Less than 20 percent of battered women sought medical treatment following an injury.5

SEXUAL VIOLENCE: According to the National Crime Victimization Survey, which includes crimes that were not reported to the police, 232,960 women in the U.S. were raped or sexually assaulted in 2006. That’s more than 600 women every day.6 Other estimates, such as those generated by the FBI, are much lower because they rely on data from law enforcement agencies. A significant number of crimes are never even reported for reasons that include the victim’s feeling that nothing can/will be done and the personal nature of the incident.7

THE TARGETS: Young women, low-income women and some minorities are disproportionately victims of domestic violence and rape. Women ages 20-24 are at greatest risk of nonfatal domestic violence8, and women age 24 and under suffer from the highest rates of rape.9 The Justice Department estimates that one in five women will experience rape or attempted rape during their college years, and that less than five percent of these rapes will be reported.10 Income is also a factor: the poorer the household, the higher the rate of domestic violence — with women in the lowest income category experiencing more than six times the rate of nonfatal intimate partner violence as compared to women in the highest income category.11 When we consider race, we see that African-American women face higher rates of domestic violence than white women, and American-Indian women are victimized at a rate more than double that of women of other races.12

source: now.org

Around the world, as in Latin America, the rate of femicide is stubbornly high. Dowry deaths are responsible for the murders of thousands of women every year, especially in South Asia. Between 2012 and 2015 there were an estimated 24,771 dowry deaths in India. In Jordan, there are 15–20 reported “honor” killings every year. In Mexico, 2,318 women have been murdered over nine years, according to the watchdog group National Citizen Femicide Observatory (OCNF).

The Global Burden of Armed Violence 2014 database shows that between 2007 and 2012, on average, 60,000 women were killed violently around the world. Globally, El Salvador and Honduras stand out with rates of more than 10 female homicides per 100,000 women. The level of violence affecting women in El Salvador and Honduras exceeds the combined rate of male and female homicides in some of the 40 countries with the highest murder rates in the world, such as Ecuador, Nicaragua and Tanzania.

According to the Economic Commission for Latin America and the Caribbean (ECLAC), on average 12 women are murdered a day across the region. However due to data limitations, the ECLAC numbers do not include Brazil, a country with one of the worst records of gender-based violence.

source: theglobalamericans.org

Femicide committed by a current or former husband or boyfriend is known as intimate femicide or intimate partner homicide. Preliminary findings of an ongoing study by WHO and the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine show that more than 35% of all murders of women globally are reported to be 2 committed by an intimate partner (7). In comparison, the same study estimates that only about 5% of all murders of men are committed by an intimate partner. Among all homicides of men and women, approximately 15% are reported to be committed by an intimate partner (7). These numbers are conservative, given the high amount of missing data, which is particularly concerning in nonindustrialized countries.

In addition to the ratio of women and men killed by their partner, evidence also shows that women killing their male intimate partners often act in self-defence following ongoing violence and intimidation (8). This corresponds with findings using national statistics from Canada that women are more likely to murder their partner while they are in the relationship, while men are more likely to kill an estranged partner (9) and that women are more likely to kill their partner as a result of arguments or quarrels, while men are more likely to have a motivation of jealousy for killing (10).

One group of women who might be at increased risk of intimate partner femicide are pregnant women, as an examination of police and medical examiner records in 11 US cities showed (11).

source: WHO

Dawn Wilcox adds more names to her list every day. Sometimes as many as 50.

From her home in a quiet cul de sac in Plano, Texas, Wilcox runs Women Count USA – a project honoring victims of what she believes to be America’s unseen crisis: femicide.

Wilcox has spent much of the past two years scouring online news stories and social media for reports on women and girls killed by men in the US. She compiles their names in a publicly available spreadsheet and shares details about their lives and deaths with nearly 6,000 people on the Women Count USA Facebook page.

It is no small task. By Wilcox’s count, in 2018 it happened to at least 1,600 women and girls from Alaska to New York, of all races, ages and income status. They were killed in their beds and in their cars, at work and in yoga class, by their fathers, husbands, ex-boyfriends, cousins, sons, neighbors and strangers.

Wilcox’s work is filling a gap in data on femicide, typically defined as the killing of women and girls because of their gender, said Jodie Roure, an expert on violence against women in the Americas. The federal government tracks domestic violence killings, referred to as intimate partner homicides, but doesn’t specifically compile data on femicide, Roure said, in part because the US hasn’t adopted a standardized definition for the term as in some Latin American countries.

Without a centralized system to gather data on incidents of violence against women and girls, those crimes are underreported, Roure, who is a professor at John Jay College, said. “The data that does exist we know is alarming,” she added. “Violence against women is normalized. And because it’s normalized we don’t see it as a crisis.”

The Violence Policy Center, which produces an annual report on female homicide victims based on FBI data, echoes Wilcox’s concerns about violence against women in the US. There aren’t adequate resources assigned to reducing it, the VPC legislative director, Kristen Rand, said. Congress let the landmark 1994 Violence Against Women Act expire during the most recent government shutdown.

But individual stories can help spur action, Rand said, and that is where Women Count USA comes in. “People look at statistics and they too often don’t see what’s behind the statistics – this humanizes the problem,” Rand said. “Every single one of those people is a human being with a family.”

source: theguardian.com

But sure, the real issue is the trans people being misgendered. That’s the thing that makes them more oppressed that women and poc and LGB people. Totally.

[femaille]

Imagine if we could make such a succinct list of women who have been murdered. But no, too many of us are murdered each day to do that.

[its-turning-all-the-frogs-gay]

the fact that they can list and explain their “oppression” in a post that takes about 10 minutes to compile, while women’s oppression can’t even be described in all its forms in actual literature.

[kvetcher-deactivated20210920]

Hi, I do not politically align as a radfem but I have read gender critical ideas here and there for a while. Most of my dashboard and irl social circle are trans activists, nonbinary lesbians, etc. In light of the situation with Elliot page, I have been seeing more blogs like yours and reading them, and finding things that speak to my experiences, such as the “conversion therapy” aspect of gender non-conforming gay people feeling pressured to socially and even medically transition. My head is kind of spinning but I want to understand more about these beliefs, and you seem to have a thoughtful and put-together blog. Do you have any recommendations for longer readings (like essays and books) or other media (like Youtube channels or other blogs) that I could look into for more information? Thank you, have a good day

thanks for asking! i hope you have a good day too 

here is a google doc with summaries and sources for a bunch of radical feminist arguments. if you’re looking to understand exactly what radical feminists believe then this is a really good start.

here is a google drive with lots of pdfs of radical feminist and radfem-adjacent books and essays. i would specifically recommend Delusions of Gender by Cordelia Fine. 

here is a masterpost of free pdfs of various radical feminist books, essays, etc.

the ref tag on my blog is full of similar posts with pdfs, sources, etc.

i don’t watch much youtube but i strongly recommend the late Magdalen Berns

i really love the adult human female podcast which can also be streamed on spotify and apple podcasts

feminist current is a news site that frequently posts about radical feminist and gender critical views

i don’t have a pdf of it but Female Erasure by Ruth Barrett has been recommended to me and is something i’ve been planning to read

here is an article about gay and lesbian people in iran being pressured to change their gender that i think resonates with what we’re seeing in the west as well

i’m glad that you felt comfortable reaching out! it’s really difficult to even ask questions these days. if you want to know anything else i will do my best to answer! 

[yasferatu-deactivated20220102]

Trans people: omg no one’s saying you can’t have preferences, you’re allowed to have preferences

Also trans people:

[booksofwhynot]

No one’s saying you can’t, but here’s yet ANOTHER incel with a lesbian fetish getting testerically outraged over it in a popular “LGBTQ+” publication.

[lesbian-lizards]

If anyone’s wondering it’s because she said she “prefers” female bodies. Which we all know can’t exist now because it hurts fetishistic men’s feelings. Case in point.

[unwomyn]

Bi women, we are no longer allowed to be attracted to other women! 🤪🤡🎉

[illalwaysbehere]

Tbh, you probably never were allowed to be attracted to other women.

[some-random-radfem]

I’m straight, and I’m just going to say this again like I’ve long since been saying: no one has ever gone this hard against me for being exclusively attracted to biological men. I wouldn’t even consider dating a trans man; they have the wrong parts, and I have zero attraction to them. This is equally as “exclusionary” as lesbianism is, yet the response towards straight people like me is essentially crickets. Every time I turn around, however, another one of my lesbian sisters is being doxxed and banned, fired from their jobs, and receiving rape and death threats for being exclusively attracted to other biological women.

If people truly want me to believe that supporting LGB people and supporting trans people are not mutually exclusive, perhaps they should be questioning why my monosexual, sex-based attraction receives such a dramatically different response than theirs. Because it kinda comes off like trans activists are just homophobic and looking for an excuse to hate on LGB people.

[vladtheunfollower]

Andrea Dworkin complete works

PDF format

MOBI (kindle) format

[joaniecash-deactivated20230309]

Important reading.

[trans-activists-are-mras]

Trans activists offline.

[thevaginamonoblogs]

Receipts - I hope it’s a peak for someone - we’re here for you when it is

[women-only]

this made me peak trans for the hundredth time

[glassphemy]

no other group except MRAs and neo nazi ever behaved like that. Not lesbian group, no gay group, no bi group, no racial minority goup ever behaved like that. Why should you support them?

[zed-isnt-here]

This is fucking scary. And it’s all men doing it. Males all males.