Marshay’s Reading Blog #2:
“Kind words are like honey— sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.”
This months reading blog, I have had a lot of doubting on posting this reading blog. For so many reasons: which I would address in a blog coming soon. I really doubt myself a lot when it come to my month readings and doing a blog or review. But for now here is Julys monthing reading blog book #1. Hope you enjoy and if you read the book please leave your thoughts, take aways and etc from your reading! -xoxo-
This month’s blog is different we did 2 readings this month by the author and speaker Stephan Labossiere himself. We going to start with the first book “How To Get A Man To Cherish You (If You’re His Wife/ A No-Nonsense Guide for Every Wife or Bride to Be)”. I know what your thinking she not a wife or a wife-to-be. No, I’m not and honestly I am not looking or wanting to be a wifeat this point in life or really later in life. But I recently decided to open myself up again to try to appreciate and possibly love the correct man correctly. I think this can help me with that journey even with out been a wife and due to me believing in what you want to become you surround yourself with it whether it's people, sounds, or even a good reading. you'll learn something and can prepare yourself for that chapter when it comes. And who knows regardless of what you want at this time might not be for me and exactly what you don't want might be the next steps God has for you and you don't even know it. But let's get some advice on how to get the correct man to cherish us!
And of course, I’m doing my note-taking (which will be below the end of this blog). I just finished reading the introduction and the first couple chapters and I must say reading, this should be common sense but looking into my reality it's not common sense at all!! As women, we think we know all about love and relationships based on past experiences and talks with our girls, but honey NO! We know boys NOT men, and their true thoughts, feelings, etc on love, marriage, or relationships. I see now that past spouse or whatever they would like to be called didn't cherish me cause he wasn't ready to cherish anyone or anything but also I didn't require it by doing the roles and steps I and we should of been doing. I also see with this reading and past readings by Stephan Labossiere I see why he stresses communication regardless of how much we don't want to or don’t like to communicate. It’s important!
Like we already established no I’m not a wife, a wife to be or trying to become a wife but this book is opening me up to discussions I need to have now with the baby steps I’m taking. I believe if I apply this advise now I can avoid the journey I don’t want to go down again. I have stated before I read to learn and gain advise and I’ve used the key of communication and I will say the phrase of “don’t ask what you don’t want to truly hear the answer too” is true. But I will say it’s good to ask as well cause it avoids phases, blocks in bonds or relationships. But it also give the answers to questions of do I want to really do this?!
But back to the blog! Overall out of 10 in my book and reviews I will give this book a not so strong 7. I say not so strong because I learned something (which my take aways are below again) and then I as a thinker and reader the topics could of been discussed a little deeper. I believe it's a good starter for those that need it but if you are looking for true help or understanding on having one cherish you, you will need more than this book. I also say not so strong because like I said in the beginning I'm not focused on marriage im still at baby steps so it may have been just a read for me and learn something but I don't have this problem to actually learn and put into action so just may not be a full lesson for me at this time. Would I suggest this book? Yes and No honestly just depends on the reader, and the reason. Just to read you can hold out on this one just read the notes below: and if anything remember communication and consistency is Key!
Let's head to book #2 by Stephan Labossiere and see what this one can do for me cause we all need a good healing!! Thank you for checking us out for this reading review: Also Dont forget to suggest our reading for the month of October? 🤍📚
Chapter 1: Understanding His Needs:
*** 7 Basic Needs Men are Looking For:
5. Be transparent with him.
7. Stay physically attractive.
These 7 basic needs are the foundation you want in place to truly speak to your husband’s heart & to draw him closer to you.
- Respect: remember if you DONT respect him
• You wont be able to love him the way he needs to be loved.
• You will speak to him in ways that push him away from you.
• He will become less desirable to you.
• You will struggle to be sexually intimate with him.
** MUST be talked about why you lack respect and work TOGETHER to correct it
- Support: Support to your husband is a necessity
- Nurture: When you’re not nurturing your partner, you’re removing one of the fundamentals of why a man is drawn to a woman.
Chapter 2: Speak to Your Husband with Love & Care:
-It’s not only what you say, it’s how you say it!
** Speak to your husband with love & words of affirmation, positive and feminine energy.
Appreciation breeds production: when he feels valued and loved, he automatically wants to do more for you!
(works both ways: just and FYI)
** REMEMBER: He CAN choose: His CHOICE! — right or wrong choices; nothing is required of him…
-Show him love in return & acknowledge his efforts
-Don’t Talk, Just Listen:
Be present when he talks to you and show him you value his presence.
Bonus Chapter: What is Feminine Energy?:
The essence of who you are as a woman!
** If uncomfortable showing your feminine side, it’s probably because of walls been up!!
1. Why aren’t you using your feminine energy more?
2. Why aren’t you tapping into it daily
3. Are you carrying things into your marriage/ relationship from previous marriages?
Walls restrict your ability to love & receive love in relationships.
- Stop Transferring Negative Energy:
Be mindful of your negative energy!
** Your husband you’re supposed to talk sweet & most of all the last person you should be coming at with negative energy.
- Helpful Techniques for Communication:
1. Pray Before You Engage
2. Decrease Negative Influences
3. Feminine Energy, It’s Not a Weakness
Chapter 3: Three Ways to Nurture Him:
1. Feeding His Natural Appetite
- It’s important to mindful of what you pour into your husband’s stomach, as well as what you’re pouring into his heart
** ASK: “Am I keeping him well-fed?”
-Are you pouring clarity into your husband (man)?
-Are you honestly clear with your husband (man) about your needs?
-Are you transparent with him?
**Men (Your Husband): AREN’T as intuitive, detail oriented, as observant: He WANT your words, direct communication, what you need and looking for!
BE HONEST & STRAIGHT FORWARD!!!
Nurturing the relationship creates peace & comfort!!
3. Be Present: he NEEDS you to listen to him
-Being Present = being aware of him, valuing his presence and paying attention to him.
-Listening = taking the time to process his words when speaking to you.
** Communication STARTS with Listening!!
Chapter 4: Prayer & Spirituality:
“Faith without Works is Dead”
** You HAVE to work while youre praying...
- Go to God for Instructions: Gods guidance is key to changing situations
Seek help from with wisdom but they DONT have the final say so: MUST go to God!!
** Your knowledge is limited God know More!!
- Be OBEDIENT to Gods Directions: Ask:
1. What do I need to do next?
2. How do I approach this situation now and going forward?
His answers will line up with His will & After seeking a God guidance, you have to actually implement the answers.
- Make Sure Youre Hearing God:
How to Draw Nearer to God:
2. Pray in Peace: In a peaceful Moment/ peaceful Area/ Focus in on the prayer and listening
3. Don't pray where there is distraction
- When emotions are running high
*** WOMENS intuition is always there!
- Be Patient: Proverbs 18:22
- Let God Lead You Relationship (Marriage):
Everything will work in gods timing and for your good!
** God MUST be first in your relationship & marriage
“The action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person.”
** Submissive is NOT to hurt or harm you!!
-God calls true men to love their wives as Jesus loved the church.
Man/ Husband = leader = final say so
** Roles are important: Women > Nurturing your family. (Showing love, caring & taking care of small details) & also helpmate to your man/ husband. Men > Leading & holding the family down (Responsible making the right decisions for his family & moving things in the right direction.
- It's NEVER to Late to Change: BE HONEST!
Chapter 6: Be Supportive:
“Behind every great man is a great woman.”
“Am I being that great woman to my man/ husband?”
Are you being the woman that holds your man down and support him the way he needs?
- Be his cheerleader: Support, Push and Encourage
*** LACK OF SUPPORT CONTRIBUTES TO MEN CHEATING!!!
The door is open to go feel that void to be filled
- Give and Take: If you can’t give him the support he needs, how will you ever receive support from him in return?
Bonus Chapter: Physical Appearance & Physical Attraction
- Appearance: the found what takes a relationship from platonic to romantic is physical attraction.
The Fire is Gone = Attraction Gone
* Have I really been putting time and effort toward my appearance?
* Is there something wrong with how I look now?
* Is he/ she taking issue with that?
** Sympathy is a powerful emotion that can help us accept a lot of things a lot easier.
** ADDRESSING THE CORE ISSUE AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, ALLOWS THINGS TO FALL BACK IN LINE QUICKLY!!
Chapter 7: Sexual Satisfaction:
*** It's All About MUTUAL Satisfaction: All sex is not created equal
Am I really tapping into his sexual desires or am I being dismissing about sex?
* Sex Evolves: Sex is NOT supposed to stay the same for the course relationship/ marriage
* The Power of Experimenting: Experimentation
DO NOT do things that you know he'll be uncomfortable with!
Don't just try it once and make it something just for birthday and etc or a treat.
Make sure there is balance: happen often but not to where it gets old.
* Embracing Constructive Criticism
* It's Your Turn to Initiate
** Communication is a Part of Great Sex
Happy Sex: initiate sex when in a good mood.
** CONSISTENCY IS KEY!! **
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