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Almost a new year so I wanted to give an update to my welcome post!!

i told my dad the joke “dad jokes are just mom jokes that a man repeated louder” and he thought it was hilarious. he turned to my mother, intending to relay the joke to her, and a bare second after he opened his mouth i watched it dawn on his face that he was about to become the subject of the joke. when i tell you that man was slackjawed as he turned back to me, like he had an entire life altering realization in the span of about 20 seconds.

fatbifemme

Okay everyone recommend your favorite artist that draws fat people please I need themmm

gardenxkisses

@nostalgic-teddyy

nostalgic-teddyy

Hiii I love drawing big women!🤗🤗🤗

soulsartuniverse

imma say @feliville @bearloonz @vagun1ka and @ki11ustr4tions

thatoneuserwho

@less-depresso-more-espresso

creekfiend

its crazy how feeling your feelings and having someone say "it makes sense that you are feeling that way" actually works. smh. I was having some Big Feelings about a thing that is objectively not that big a deal, due to my tragic backstory, (many such cases) and I told ship all about why this thing was bringing up all of those feelings and cried and they held me and now I'm like. Regular. now I'm like. ok I felt those feelings I didn't shove them away for being "unreasonable" OR act on them as though the amount of hurt I felt dictated the degree of Misstep on the part of the other people involved. I just felt them and we both went "it makes sense that this feels that bad" and then I was able to eat some almond butter and now I'm like ok! that hurt a lot, but that doesn't mean it sucked of them a lot. it only sucked of them a very small amount. it just hurt a lot for other reasons. and that's for me to handle. and now I can approach the situation as it is in reality, which is to say, as a situation that is Not That Big A Deal, but without feeling like I'm bottling up my reaction or betraying myself by ignoring how briefly unsafe it made me feel

anyway did y'all know about this. it rules. highly recommended

creekfiend

this is why like. bc all trauma is relational, healing that has to also be relational. bc when we are hurt we have a strong need to have that pain recognized and acknowledged and not dismissed. if we have a safe person to express how we are feeling hurt to, who can see and validate that, then that meets that need.

if we DON'T have that, we still have the need. and most often we seek to meet that need by SHOWING people just how hurt we are with our behavior or words. which often looks like lashing out! which like. doesn't help anyone! it just compounds relational harm.

sooooo many kinds of conflict and bad behavior are just like.... (looks under the mask) its old man Unmet Relational Needs Again!!!!

strangeorbits

#the more your pain is denied the more your behavior escalates in order to get the severity of the pain across.

#← root of almost every 'behavioral issue' in most children tbh.

stargoyle

Big announcement:

Fucking petting hims

voidsetup1

and out of the darkness - you you you you you

thatoneuserwho

@historianroo

glitchven

Just a reminder that Comms are open while i search for a job💔 Check out my blog for examples of my art!!!

Please DM me if your interested so we can discuss prices!

eldritchwriter346

Khan emotionally neglected his daughter for most of her childhood, as well as leaving her for dead (even if it was kind of a “sacrifice one for the sake of many” type deal).

Nori, despite working towards finding a patch for the Solver for many years, never once made an attempt to reconnect with Khan or Uzi, or even so much as let them know that she was still alive, all out of a guilt she felt towards what her daughter inherited from her.

What I’m trying to say is, as much as Khori is cute, and as much as I do think they’ll stay together post-canon, someone is going to come to the realisation of what the other did, sooner or later.

And no matter who realises first, somebody’s gonna be sleeping on the couch for a while…