[thats-ableism-btw]

Hello there, this is a blog where I, Silas, will let you know whether something you experienced is ableism or not, similarly to @this-is-ableism. Might not get to your submissions quickly, so bare with me.

[thisis-suicidism]

Also we had someone mention us in a post with like 3 notes to ask if the op was being suicidist and we'd prefer if people didn't do that. we have a somewhat large audience and don't want to direct a bunch of people to some random post by calling it out. You can send asks about things you see though so long as you do not name names.

[thisisparamisia]

Exactly the issue I'm having, but with callouts for paramisia. People especially keep sending me every single time a person misuses the term pedophile, zoophile, and necrophile and 90% of the time it's a post with like five likes and nobody has even corrected them in the comments or reblogs yet.

Like y'all, I'm not about to put a random ass blog on blast because they're uneducated.

[thegendersplus-sys]

Adding onto this to show blogs that you *can* tag for this purpose instead! Will update this as we find more blogs that handle such types of posts.

Paramisia -> @this-is-paramisic

Ableism → @thats-ableism-btw

Any kind of bigotry → @calling-out-the-irony

[thats-ableism-btw]

waves!!! you can 100% tag us in fact we encourage you to do so!!!! (very happy to see our blog getting enough attention to be put in one of these lists :3)

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MY SCHOOL PUT UP A SIGN FOR AUTISM AWARENESS MONTH AND NOT ONLY DOES IT HAVE AN "AUTISM ISN'T A DISABILITY ITS A DIFFERENT ABILITY!!" SIGN RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE IT IS ENTIRELY COVERED IN PUZZLE PIECES AND THEY REFUSE TO FIX ANY OF IT

i physically recoiled from that holy /srs

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I'm autistic/ADHD, my youngest step brother is on the waiting list to be checked for ADHD+dyslexia and me and my step dad (who I just call Dad most of the time at this point to be honest) think my youngest step sister is autistic (but her mum refuses to get her assessed).

Anyway, Dad's not in a good financial state right now so I, a grown adult with my own income, cover some bits for them. Like chewellery, fidget toys, my step sister's ear defenders, my step brother's reading overlays, AAC on their second hand iPads, etc. And finally managed to convince Dad to not pay me back (because it's for my siblings so I don’t mind paying that at all).

But their grandparents say I "spoil them" and that's the only reason they "behave" for me. But like, I'm not spoiling them in the slightest. I'm simply doing my best because I'm terrified of the idea of them going through what I did.

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[thats-ableism-btw]

Hey, im back again with an ask if something is ableism.

I use a character/movie as a huge coping mechanism to emotionally regulate correctly, keep myself happy, hell the media is singlehandedly why i didnt commit (im better now, dont worry)

But sometimes when my mother is upset, she threatens to get rid of my stuff of it, or destroy it. Which when she takes it, i am unable to function correctly. Heck i lost two figures and was in complete hysteria until they were located

Is it ablism to take them from me?

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Yep, it's ableism to take ANY emotionally regulating items.

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My little brother will say he's stupid / an idiot ( or even the r-word ) and then act "stereotypically mentally disabled" ( in the sense of the r-word, specifically ) and it's just... It's so disgusting and disrespectful and ableist... I hate it so so much... I mean he's 14, so hopefully he'll grow out of it / learn better in the future, but it's still extremely unacceptable.

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regardless of age that is not ok, this is ableism

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Teachers telling me, a student with dysgraphia (undiagnosed at the time) that I needed to try harder to get my letters to look right when I continuously showed signs of dysgraphia and told them I was trying as hard as I could and cried over worksheets and visibly deflated when other students would point out my mistakes.

I wasn't stupid and lazy. I have a learning disability.

Oh lawd

I got dyscalculia and I feel u dude, teachers were always just telling me to "try harder" it always sucks when they think you're not trying your best.

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my mom insisting that my "disturbing" (for lack of a better term. im perfectly fine with them until people start picking on them guh) thoughts are Actually intrusive thoughts even when i tried to correct her because they are just My thoughts

Your thoughts ™

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school demanding a consistent level of dedication and energy and having intense consequences if you cant measure up

Ableism at it's finest 🫩

This kinda stuff is the reason my mom had me homeschooled

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How comfortable people are suggesting amputation to strangers and acquaintances. Like, I've got issues with my right leg and people I don't know or barely know are too comfortable telling me to chop it off.

Like I've legit had nightmares about my leg getting amputated because of how many people say that.

Thats ableism btw. Legit how do you see a random person with a disability and think "oh I should tell them to amputate something that doesn't need amputation! What a wonderful idea! " like I get if it's as a joke like when your parent or something says that when you get a cut but to a complete STRANGER? baffling.

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we walk our chickens and take em to public places with us because it really helps with anxiety and overstimulation (can't be alone in public otherwise! need to be supervised by a friend!) and most places don't allow them :/ so we can't go outside unless a friend is willing to hang out with us

This kinda depends; if its somewhere like the park or just outside and people are trying to kick you out for bringing your chicken(s) then its not really ableism (since they dont know about your anxiety) but rather just people being pricks, makes sense if its buildings not allowing them though, because most establishments dont allow pets. if your chicken(s) are emotional support animals thats a different story, because theyre not allowed to deny service animals entry (service animals being broad so applying to both esa and regular service animals)

[thats-ableism-btw]

id like to know if this is ableism..

I have really and i mean REALLY severe picky eating. My diet is heavily restricted and i can only eat specific foods cooked in specific ways, i will rarely try new ones unless its a food that will most likely be safe following this criteria

1; its main ingredients are ALL safe foods or atleast 3/4s of it

2; its a subtype of another safe foods (like a different pasta dish or another way to cook a potato)

3; theres no extreme weird textures

but some people literally dont take it seriously. Ive been tricked into eating what looks or is told to me is a safe food but has unsafe foods i dispise inside.

I vomit at drinking MILK OR WATER BTW. No your not going to convince me “unions are actually really good” by sneaking it in my plain steak and cheese, now i dont trust you.

Is this ableism? I dont have a diagnosed food disorder though i have diagnosed adhd suspected autism which ive heard can impact food. Or am i overreacting?

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Betraying your trust by putting unsafe foods in your safe foods is ableism, I can relate sorta, my mom stopped buying my only safe food :(

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I have chronic pain and fatigue. Not sure of the exact cause yet, but it's so bad that I have to spend the majority of the day sitting or laying down, and I can barely walk for more than a minute or two without pain on a good day. Canes and other walking aids weren't helping enough, either. Previously, I just "toughed it out" because I didn't really have any other options, and endured my slowly worsening symptoms from consistently pushing myself too far.

I recently got a wheelchair, and I've been super excited about it!! It makes things so much easier, and now that leaving the house doesn't utterly exhaust me or cause flareups I've been super pumped to go places with my friends!

Except... today they staged an ""intervention"" (via DMs) about my wheelchair. They said that using it was "enabling me to get worse" and that they didn't feel comfortable "seeing me do that to myself", and that they would no longer come with me on trips if I was using the wheelchair.

I really don't know how to feel about that. What the fuck?

(They know about my symptoms, by the way. I'm quite open about it. Whether they believe me that it's actually this bad, I don't know, but I guess not.)

Sounds like my dad. Super ableist and they aren't allowed to police you on if you can or can't use mobility aides.

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parents called me slurs and insinuated that I'm gross and disgusting for being hypersexual...

Ableism and saneism

As a fellow hypersexual, you're not gross for thoughts you can't control, and slurs are never good no mater the group.

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For context: we're an audhd plural whose support needs can change day-to-day. However being extremely overwhelmed and going into a meltdown or shutdown is always a high support needs situation!

Parents called an older sibling over to force us to do this dishes (it was already a high supports day) and just the smell of the sink was overwhelming enough. My senses were heightened already. The dishes they wanted us to wash were some big metal travel cups. THE SOUND OF METAL HITTING AGAINST METAL PHYSICALLY HURTS OUR EARS. Especially the sound of massive cups in a sink.

You know what happened? Sibling literally forced us to stand up and trapped us in front of the sink. Note that I was having a verbal shutdown from being overwhelmed and on the verge of a meltdown. And when I say trapped, I mean standing behind me, arms on the counter, and refusing to move until we cleaned the cups.

Reasonably enough, this caused a meltdown! I WAS TOLD I WAS BEING OVER DRAMATIC AND ACTING LIKE A TODDLER. Also told to "use my words" because making sounds because we're distressed so totally means we're able to clearly communicate verbally (/sarcasm). Literally ended up a sobbing overstimulated mess because my parents refused to "put up with our bratty behavior."

What's crazier is that they "know and understand I'm audhd, but that's not an excuse"

Ableism at it's finest. Your family is full of douches and I hope you're able to either get away or they stop being pieces of shit.

[thats-ableism-btw]

not exactly ableism in my eyes but ive started walking with a cane and am getting a lot of attention from strangers, positive as it may be (asking if im ok, making sure I can get places easily, motivational words) - I don't like the attention, any advice?

Walk confidently, or with other people you know like friends or family, that tends to help me (as a cane user myself)

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Parents calling me a "lazy spoiled brat" for struggling to exist on a daily basis. Insisting that I should just "grow up / suck it up and deal with it" as if I'm not already trying to deal with it...

Blatant ableism and saneism.