The Protostar Residence

A bunch of headmates who are bad at communicating || Host (A) he/they/it || mostly dsmp introjects || newly discovered (oct/nov 2021), and doesn't know too much on online system etiquette, so if any of us mess up, we're sorry! || A's Main: @the-dumb-smart-friend || Endo safe 👍

[the-no-name-residence]

Collective name: Protostar/Protostars/Proto/Pro,

Collective pronouns: They/Them unless specified

Syscourse: Don't drag us into syscourse. I don't want any syscourse on our blog, this obviously includes anti/pro endo fights.

Hello! You may call me A, I am the host of this whatever this is! We don't communicate often, I'm working on it, but you'll likely be hearing from mostly me.

We are a newly discovered system, so if anybody else knows stuff like system etiquette/posting/tips for managing/communication, We'd love to hear them :] (obviously don't try to give advice if you're a singlet, though you guys are welcome as long as you're respectful)

I don't exactly know how to do this, but yeah :]

Above by @systemboxes

Some of our personal blogs!

Vee/Jade, she/they/he/it - @jadedandbloody

Jamie, he/they/she/+ - @letterstomydarlingvampire

(more are wips)

More info below (includes DNI, sign off tags, and some minor boundaries, so please do read it!)

Don't ask for info on any of our roles unless we provide it, like in an ask game or open info.

HARD DNI - LGBTQ+ exclusionists, transphobe/homophobe, racist, ableist, anti semitic, xenophobe, anti MOGAI, anti dsmp/mcyt, MAP/NOMAP/fucking pedo, ns//fw/k!//nk, dd/lg, anti sfw agere/petre/etc., yandere blog, pro ed/sh, truscum/radfem/terf, sex//ual x reader blogs, any non platonic dsmp/cc!/c! x reader blogs (qpr is fine), pop//pytwt/blr, truthers, the usual, syscourse, the usual, probably forgot something idk

Gray area (you can interact, but youre more likely to be blocked for personal reasons, you can ask/dm me if you like) - C!Dream apologists (in the sense of genuinely defending/justifying his actions), very cutesy/anime/chibi aesthetic blogs, vent blogs (and subtypes),

We are endo safe 👍

If you're unsure if you can interact, you can always ask!

Have a nice day, and be sure to drink some water if you can! :]

[utahlive]

Quick update/check in! I know I said it earlier but I'm still in the lead up to finals (they're next week) so chances of updates are slim to none until I'm done with school, sorry :(

If you are also going through finals: you got this. we're holding hands and getting though this together 💪💪

[chunkecheeks]

type “i am” in the tags and whatever comes up first is your new mandatory kin

[floatygirlii]

I am best girl🌸

[eastern-lights]

…

[goodfish-bowl]

You come into MY HOUSE

[getvalentined]

That escalated quickly.

[donttelltheelff]

[the-end-is-heree]

my three emotions

[hahaha-darn-it]

wowie these tags are,,

[ultrabright-flashlight]

[the-no-name-residence]

Do any other systems have experience with feeling a physical shift or separation in your brain when a new headmate forms (/gen)? Asking for a friend (/s)

[artsyreower]

Here we have a Tommy in it's natural habitat, they like to use mostly the colorful kind of language to express appreciation for getting startled

[dissociative-talks-archived]

What can you do as someone without DID/OSDD when a switch occurs:

Tip: If a system memeber doesn't talk to you/is masking around you, they're just uncomfortable or don't want to talk at the moment. It doesn’t necessarily mean they have anything against you.

Remember to respect any boundaries they place.

Be patient with them. Switches can be disorienting for anyone involved. It doesn't matter the role within the system or who it is. If they need a moment, give them a moment.

Help them acclimate to their surroundings, if you can. If they need any reminders on where they are, or basic information such as when the last time they drank, eaten, or slept. Do your best to help them figure it out. If someone just pops up, they might not be able to piece information right away. If you can help, do so, but be sure to ask if they’d like the help in the first place.

Make them feel welcomed. Be sure to ask/use the correct pronouns and names once you find out who is fronted. Having them feel welcomed into the conversation could be a nice way to help any alters who fronted unexpectedly.

Set up boundaries of your own. If the system members have placed boundaries with you, then it would be a wise decision to place boundaries if you have any. This avoids conflict in the future, if you just out right communicate it to them when you meet. Communication is key.

Ask them what they are comfortable talking about. If you are to ask them questions about why they're fronted, or anything relating to their disorder, make sure you have their permission to talk about it first. Don't pry too much unless they're fine with it. Even then, don't be disrespectful in the process.

Keep in mind. System members are individuals with thoughts, emotions, and have every right to deny a conversation with you. They are in obligation to help the host with their endeavors, because they are a system together. However, they are not obligated to do anything for you. Just because you are friends with one system member does not mean you are friends with all of them.

[plural-egg-culture-is]

plural egg culture is not telling those "autonomous thoughts" that they aren't independent people, purely because it would be rude to say that to them.

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[mcyt-introject-culture-is]

MCYT introject culture is please god stop trying to do your accent the body is AMERICAN and it HURTS /lh

[funnyguycentral]

hey systems uhhh does anyone else exclusively switch non possessively? Like sometimes I don’t realize that I’m not me until I ask the system if I am- sometimes to the point of having to ask who I am

[evieri]

i’m tired of the misinformation being spread online.

the truth? DID is not performative. it is largely internal. switches usually are not super dramatic, alters do not have to think and act drastically different from each other in order to be separate alters, and not every alter needs to have a 100% consistent pattern of behavior. co-fronting and co-conning is common, lines are blurred, it’s not as black and white as the little people in your phone make it out to be. it is not always obvious when someone has DID & it is not always obvious when a switch has happened. lots of systems are designed to be covert for protective reasons. alters can impersonate the host. alters can have similar voices. lots of systems use i/me pronouns by default. masking is a real thing. DID absolutely is a spectrum and every system is different. a covert expression of symptoms is valid and acceptable and even normal. you don’t need to be aware of every one of your alters, it’s ok to confuse different alters and not always interpret things perfectly, not everyone has a headspace or functional communication with the rest of their system. alters may have varying levels of understanding of their system. it is not all cut and dry. you don’t have to know everything about your system, you don’t need to be super attuned to your inner world. it isn’t always like that.

when you pretend to have DID and create a caricature of it based on the most publicized symptoms, you are harming a very vulnerable group of people with a very highly stigmatized disorder. just stop.

[ladyhistory]

Me entering any museum: man I’m so excited to learn all the things

Also me: GIFT SHOP GIFT SHOP GIFT SHOP

[wandering-elf]

There are two dragons inside of you. One hoards knowledge and the other hoards trinkets. They’re both very excited when you bring them to a museum

[livelaughloathing-deactivated20]

When you have one (1) cishet alter in your good, gay headspace

[lost-diaries-system]

Please don't repost! Okay to reblog!!

[lost-diaries-system]

Please don't repost! Okay to reblog!!

[symphony-system]

You’re not faking your system

Habits don’t change by accident, that’s the whole point of how habits work.

Sure, singlets have different personalities for different situations, but their gender, sexuality, favorite colors, etc, won’t change along with it.

If you made up your alters for attention, how come they’re thinking in first person inside your head where nobody else can hear them?

Denial is a totally natural part of the survival mechanism. Gatekeepers or other systemmates don’t want the host to know about the system until they’re ready. It’s a lot to take in.

You can’t fake a switch headache.

You can’t fake vertigo from height dysphoria/mis-match.

You can’t fake switching your dominant hand/leg/eye.

You can’t fake pesudomemories. Pseudomemories are just as real as “real” memories, under the hood. It’s all the same brain mechanism. They’re just as impactful.

It’s normal for alters to have a lot of things in common. You already share so much.

It’s normal for alters to have a lot of differences between them. It’s normal to have different races, animals, etc. The brain creates what it thinks it needs at the time.

It’s normal for alters to change and evolve, just like “real people”. 

It’s normal for alters to have a shallow or undeveloped personality, especially for fragments who don’t front much or only have very specialized roles.

It’s ok if you can’t tell who’s fronting right now.

If your voices sound super different in your head, but indistinguishable to other people, that’s ok. You share the same vocal cords, and you might have a shell alter acting as a filter.

Mood swings are one thing. If you’ve “always felt this way and can’t understand why you said you felt a different way earlier,” that’s something else.

Roleplaying with your systemmates in a fictional setting is a safe and healthy way to get to know them and to let them express themselves, especially when it isn’t safe for you to drop your external mask of pretending to be one person.

You don’t need to identify with everything on this list, or even with most of this list. Believe in yourself.

Please reblog and add your own!

[atlassys]

when you uncover a subsystem

[starseers]

*shakes treat bag* Who wants to front? Who wants to front?! You!? Y O U.