Yes, being in a relationship will show you all the issues that you have. But once it comes out that you have issues, they aren’t for your partner to fix, they are for you to fix. Realize you have anger issues? Work it out, don’t take it out in your partner. Realize you have trust issues? Work it out, don’t burden your partner with that. Realize you have insecurities? Work on your self esteem, don’t expect your partner to validate your existence.
Your commitment to your partner is also a commitment to work on yourself. They work on them, you work on you, and you both come together committed to giving your best. And of course, things happen. Sometimes your best also includes mess. But the important thing is to not make it a habit that the person you’re with is someone you use to heal you. That’s not right.
