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The-sarkai has moved on.

The-sarkai has been in the hospital for a week, and is going to be taken off the ventilator later today. Barring a miracle, that'll be it, Sarkai will be leaving this realm of reality. If you don't have the-sarkai on FB, you can message @purple-hel for news. Otherwise check FB. (Hel is typing this, and makes no promises as to how much checking of Tumblr will happen in the near future.)

If you don't know how ADHD works, I'm going to give you my most dramatic example.

A couple years ago, our toilet tank just fucking shattered. We live in a rented house, the toilet tank was older than I am, it's not unexpected in retrospect. So my wife and I just kind of tucked that shattered porcelain against the edge of the tub, between the tub and the toilet, while we waited for maintenance to get back to us (our rental management company is garbage, it takes a long time to get a response).

I remember distinctly looking at this broken, very sharp porcelain, and thinking "I gotta tell Mags to move that to the curb with the trash, preferably in a cardboard box, before someone gets hurt".

And then, having thought that, I put it out of my mind.

Not a minute later, I slammed the side of my foot into that very sharp porcelain and cut it open so bad I had to go to the ER and get stitches for the first time in my life. Because in my head, I'd already "dealt with it", by deciding to tell Mags to do a thing, and I probably would have if this hadn't happened.... but then I stopped thinking about the very real danger, I was thinking about something else entirely by the time I stood up and sliced my foot open on the known threat.

This is why people with untreated ADHD don't live as long. We're not stupid, we're not oblivious, we just. Forget. For a moment. For a second. And that's all it fucking takes.

2mo3cm-man

Okay, you have GOT to stop with the “I never liked Neil Gaiman! He was always a bad writer!” bullshit. You didn’t buy that many books of a writer you think sucked, okay? That’s not a value judgement against you. But we HAVE TO KILL the idea that good art is a reflection of virtue. Mario Batali’s food was undeniably excellent. His food, and his restaurants, and his writing about food, and his damn TV show are a big party of the reason I cook Italian now. He was unquestionably a monster. Those facts are not contradictory. You’re not a dumbass for liking Neil Gaiman’s stuff and wearing an obnoxious ankh pendant, okay? He had us all fooled.