nethilia's den of fabulousness

now performing: social justice and the blorbos Gen X-llenial. Socially Political Bard. Writer since the late 80s, publishing varies. Black queer pagan poly crafty demifemme. (She/Her and Zie/Zem). Founder of the American Girl Wiki. Pokemon/Story of Seasons/Animal Crossing/other vidya game player. Doll and Toy Collector. Fandom is awesome, do what you want with it forever, characters aren't real people. Queer is not a Slur. I will get as political as i wanna. I will also block liberally and based on shitty vibes or actions on sight, such as TERF, SWERF, and other such bullshit. tl;dr: an old black nerd with a tumblr and an attitude. Sheep go to heaven, TERFs go to hell.

[nethilia]

Broke: nice cover, don't ever crack too widely, read delicately

Woke: the cracks and flakes on the spine are signs of love

[markovchaingang]

hey you. teenage girl writing in her diary. quit talking about the boy you have a crush on and start writing about the current political situation, the valuation of currencies, and the level of technology your people hold. your diary might be the only piece of evidence our society existed after nuclear war fries all of our data backups. future historians don't need to know about damian, they need at least a secondhand accounts of the great water wars and whether or not your leaders truly did worship a deity called "the free hand of the market"

[mothnem]

Keep writing about your crush Teenaged Girl. About your clothes, and how that other girl wore the same dress as you. Paint me a picture of what you were like.

[enchantedlantern]

Historians are going to hear about Damian and they're gonna LIKE IT

[therealbeachfox]

Make those future Historians reverse engineer the socioeconomic hierarchies of the 21st century from dreamy descriptions of Damian's current fashions. It's giving them enrichment.

[vaspider]

Talk about the things you want to talk about. You never know what mysteries your diary might solve in future generations bc you are the only person who talks about something that other people thought was too obvious to talk about, like whatever that third condiment dish that used to be on the table with salt and pepper was for.

[beatrice-otter]

It was mustard. There's actually a decent number of advertisements and household guides and so forth that give details.

[redrikki]

As a professional historian who just spent my morning reading through people's diaries, I'd love to learn about Damian, actually. Tell me all about how much you hate the teachers in X class and what's happening on your social media feed and all that daily life shit. If your writing is going to be the last record of a lost society, let it be real and let it be human.

[orpheuslament]

"why do people act like calling their kink gross is oppression 😂" maybe because historically people have always tried to find an excuse to be violent against sexual minorities or those who experienced sexuality outside of the norm in general, & when attacking your run of the mill trans & gay person is no longer "acceptable" the next best thing is Trans & Gay Person Who Gets Off On Shit I Don't Like. oh & also because youre not just calling someone's kink "gross" youre organising targeted campaigns to harass & stalk people who make you a little icky & calling it a "moral service to the community". but you know, semantics.

[suilesbian]

@rootingformephistopheles i hope you don’t mind if i add your tags to my rb

[rootingformephistopheles]

Specifically if anyone wants to read more about the DSM stuff here's the link to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, who helped spearhead the revisions to the DSM-5

[nozoditz]

#also#important#bigots tend to consider queerness an inherent fetish/kink#calling someone's kink gross is a pipeline

[crippy-tangerine]

By the way. The whole “oh, well some of us have to push through our disability because we don’t have the option to be that disabled!” isn’t even laterally ableist, it is just ableist. Like, punching down, deeply fucking ableist, and I am so sick of it.

Great, congrats, you personally are able to “push through” chronic fatigue and walk around a bit or whatever. Yes it sucks that you have to injure yourself to survive. But that is not unique to you/being LSN, and I’m so fucking sick of less severely disabled people derailing every higher-needs post to try and…. Guilt trip the op for being disabled??

It's gross!!! It's so gross!!! High support needs Disabled people deserve to be able to talk about their realities without receiving some of the most vile ableist talking points from everyone in and outside their community.

[akaanmo]

i think i just witnessed a miracle

[fractiousrvt]

There is always hope

[transmoobs]

“why do trans men get surprised when they transition and their friends start treating them like a gross man” its bc our transition shouldn’t make our friends lose trust in us just because of how we look and identify. its not about the man part its about the gross part. if u treat ur transmasc friends as inherently gross or dangerous the second they start transitioning, it makes it seem like u weren’t really even our friends to begin with if u don’t know us well enough that u equate us as individuals to the stereotypical man youve built in ur head.

[pastafossa]

"If only there was a way other than AI to talk to my favorite characters and OCs!"

[souliebird]

bring back character ask blogs

[professorsparklepants]

Mary Shelley and Ada Lovelace should team up to kill generative AI

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

It's an electronic monster built from the stolen corpses of other digital artifacts. It's Shelley and Lovelace's most recognisable achievements combined.

[peachdoxie]

There's a bunch of adhd advice out there that's like "people with adhd tend to work better under deadlines due to the anxiety so here are ways to artificially induce a stress response in order to get you to get work done" and it's like well what if I don't want to be stressed out all the time in order to function

[electrictopaper]

this gold shouldn't stay in the comments

[carriesthewind]

"That is an extraordinarily strange reading of the statute" <- Judgespeak for, "you're a fucking idiot"

[carriesthewind]

I also should mention that the attorney responded to this by calling his daddy* to appear at their next hearing and lecture at the judge

(this did not work)

*no literally it's a family law firm

[rainyydoves]

i beat myself up for not knowing enough about my special interests a lot but then i remember the average person off the street has no idea what the carboniferous is and i feel better

[rainyydoves]

are you really bad at it or are you in "good at it" spaces

[bigbigtruck]

"are you really bad at it or are you in 'good at it' spaces" has derailed so much self-hate since I read it

this is a load bearing sentence in my psyche and I can't believe it's only 2 months old

[quasi-normalcy]

I kind of wish that the polarities of violence and sex in popular culture were reversed. Like, I wish that writers and filmmakers needed to justify up the wazoo their decisions to show a murder on screen when "they could have just done it tastefully in shadow or something," but no one even batted an eye at a sex scene. I kind of wish that erotic video games were the norm but FPSs were a considered a weird and loser-ish thing to play.

[quasi-normalcy]

I mean, I really wish that you didn't have to justify either, but it bugs me that, of the two, killing is the one that you can use in wholesome family friendly entertainment but fucking is the one that you forever need to shield your children from even knowing about.

[quasi-normalcy]

I don't think that this difference is innocent, either. Like, I think that sexual repression is a good means of control whereas the state always needs an army of young men who are willing to kill people.

[brainrotdotorg]

listen. I understand if you dont want to see sex in a movie. But im begging you to think about how the prevalence of murder and acts of harm being portrayed in media vs. the censorship and hush-hush nature behind sex affects our relationships with it.

think about what this post is saying about the normalization of violence and demonization of eroticism. How sexual repression and the indulgence of violence lets a society be guided in a certain direction.

If you dont want to see a sex scene in a movie, thats fine. But this isnt about personal preferences. This is about how culture is shaped by what we choose to show. For the love of god.

[cumaeansibyl]

I am a horror movie fan who loves gore and violence and murder, you know, a sicko, and I also think it is extremely weird and unsettling that violence is so much more accepted in media than sex. Compare the kind of violent content you can put in a PG-13 movie with the kind of sexual content allowed. It's fucked up!

Obviously I don't want anyone taking away my horror movies and replacing them with softcore porn or anything, that's not the point. Just... maybe we should be less worried about kids seeing a depiction of consensual sex and more worried about stuff like, idk, being taught that incredibly bloody revenge is a normal way to respond to being harmed, or that the right way to handle criminals is to explode them, or some of the things I think might do more lasting harm than the simple fact of violent imagery.

[a-krogan-skald-and-bearsark]

There was an episode of Deep Space Nine. Back in the... late 90s? I think? That featured a lesbian kiss. This being two or three decades ago now, they received many letters of complaint, a number of them claiming it meant the show was no longer Family-Friendly.

One of the writers responded to one of those letter, asking if it would have been more appropriate for the women to shoot each other with a phaser. He was answered in the affirmative, and his response was that if the person felt it was better for his children to see an act of violence than an act of affection, he might want to reconsider his definition of family-friendly.

[cipheramnesia]

Tangentially related, it's funny that horror is the genre where showing horrific violence and grotesque gore is by definition the most appropriate, yet also the genre where people insist most often that said violence is unnecessary, inappropriate, or generally indicative of a lack of artistic merit.

But even so, sex gets a much more extreme response.

[innerchildabortionclinic]

a lot of critiques of Youth Behaviors should take into account we now live in a world where said behaviors can be recorded, posted online, and be seen all over the world, and this was not always the case. not only that, but outrage drives engagement on social media, so you're more likely to come across inflammatory content. it kind of creates an altered perception of reality

[kirbykonka]

I thought Old Man Yaoi was like a specific person or entity. Like you walk down to the river, there’s Old Man Consequences, you walk down to the oak tree there’s Old Man Sensibility, and then you walk into the gay club and you’ll never guess who it is

[soapoey]

Ate a burger. WHILE having boobs. This is just like in anime

[mcsiggy]

genuinely, chatgpt could NEVER recreate the euphoria of FINALLY figuring out a middle section to connect major points in your story.

[goldcrescent]

My new pet peeve is people completely misunderstanding the term Male Gaze and making the term female gaze based entirely on that misunderstanding

[goldcrescent]

the white boy of the month pushing his hair back and reading poetry for the camera is not the equivalent of the dehumanization of women in visual media by way of presenting them primarily as vessels for sexual gratification