nethilia's den of fabulousness

now performing: social justice and the blorbos Gen X-llenial. Socially Political Bard. Writer since the late 80s, publishing varies. Black queer pagan poly crafty demifemme. (She/Her and Zie/Zem). Founder of the American Girl Wiki. Pokemon/Story of Seasons/Animal Crossing/other vidya game player. Doll and Toy Collector. Fandom is awesome, do what you want with it forever, characters aren't real people. Queer is not a Slur. I will get as political as i wanna. I will also block liberally and based on shitty vibes or actions on sight, such as TERF, SWERF, and other such bullshit. tl;dr: an old black nerd with a tumblr and an attitude. Sheep go to heaven, TERFs go to hell.

[nethilia]

Broke: nice cover, don't ever crack too widely, read delicately

Woke: the cracks and flakes on the spine are signs of love

[phantomtomes]

I just think we all deserve massive home libraries and a couple swords, as a treat

[moniquill]

[taavicleric]

My personal experience with being asked this question and then given that line, is that the neurotypical person expected you to feel shame. I have some slightly less anecdotal evidence to back up this anecdotal experience. I took substitute teacher training once, and we were told that the best thing to do with middle schoolers "acting up," was to shame them, to figure out how to draw attention to them and this negative attention in front of their peers would shame them into good behaviour, or at least silence. I raised my hand, having already distinguished myself as the "weirdo" of the group, and said, "Is this the reason I spent a lot of time in the principal's office for truthfully, loudly, and clearly answering questions like, 'would you care to share your thoughts with the class?'" And was told yes, that was a perfect example, but I was the rare case where it backfires.

Since then, I have responded to that type of question with, "Do you want an explanation, or was your intent simply to indicate that I need to feel inferior, right now?" and it does tend to turn the tables a little bit.

[helloijustreadyourpost]

Problem with that response is that if it is a person who has any power over you, that is going to escalate the conflict. And they are going to use that power against you.

[moniquill]

Yes.

But the alternative is not escalating the conflict. And they are going to use that power against you.

[helloijustreadyourpost]

I mean, the outcome that they're probably expecting is for you to act embarrassed for a few seconds, stop whatever you had been doing, and then they can move on with their lesson while you are quiet. Annoying for the victim, but self-contained.

If you openly call them out like this, they'll lose their perceived authority unless they throw the book at you (or at least they likely believe that those are the stakes).

[moniquill]

Yes. I know.

You seem to think that restating 'just put up with shitty behavior; making a fuss will make it worse for you' makes it a compelling argument.

It does not. That allows them to go on with shitty behavior unchallenged.

[aetherograph]

"Just submit to anyone being mean to you; your dignity, the truth, and morality don't matter--just give in to ANY amount of peer pressure."

How about no because I deserve basic human dignity, the truth is important, and I'm not putting up with immoral, rude, and sadistic people who get their jollies off humiliating other people.

People like y'all have a spine made of water and are like 75% of why everything is in the state it's in.

Get some fucking moral fiber that doesn't consist of "roll over and let anyone to anything to you all the time; you'll be rewarded for this after you die".

[my-gender-is]

My gender is Homosexula

[theprideful-deactivated20251201]

[windsing5]

And they’re all Vlad

[no-one-offical]

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[guerrillatech]

[audible-smiles]

People die on the job every summer. Remember that water and shade breaks are crucial when working in the heat, and calling emergency services for signs of serious heat illness (fatigue, nausea/vomiting, headaches, dizziness, clammy skin, confusion, agitation, slurred speech, high body temperature, rapid heart rate, etc.) is entirely appropriate. If you’re afraid to call 911 for reasons such as being undocumented, you’ll need to get very familiar with how to prevent, recognize, and treat heat illness. If you are symptomatic and not allowed a break, water, or medical treatment, walk out. No matter how broke you are, your job is not worth your life.

[ominous-signs]

Official please put yourself first sign

[bruzum]

[lastvalyrian]

This is literally what people are talking about when they say AI will be used to mainstream widely held bigotry. LLMs are trained on frequency and probability -> straight relationships are more well represented in the dataset -> straight pronouns and terms become the "correct" normal.

This is a form of backdoor bigotry from both normative facts (there are more straight than gay relationships) and well represented bigoted beliefs (men are superior to women).

Combine this with the mass of people inclined to believe (and being encouraged to believe) that if AI says and does something it must be correct

[otherside-picnic]

If criminals don't get to have human rights, then the people in charge of deciding what a criminal is get to decide who is and is not human. Do you understand? Is this not blindingly obvious? Do you care?

Or do you assume you will always be "one of the good ones"?

[moniquill]

[the-supernatural-atheist]

if theres one thing that really pissed me off from my 3 years of architecture i took in high school it's learning about how we used to have all these little techniques to maximize or minimize heat or warmth and now we just merrily abandoned all those to have the same copypaste style buildings everywhere that are often INCREDIBLY unoptimized to the local weather and climate so we can just throw more money at our heating and cooling bills

[memory-of-stargazing]

“It just means you have to work double as hard as most people!”

Well maybe I don’t WANT to work double as hard as abled people!! Maybe I deserve a BREAK!! Maybe I’ve been working MORE THAN double as hard for MY WHOLE LIFE and it’s led me to immense burnout & caused me to develop several MORE disabilities!! Maybe I should be ACCOMMODATED so I don’t have to KILL MY BODY AND BRAIN over trying to do what abled people can do!! Maybe I DON’T have to work double as hard!! Maybe if there’s the option to let me NOT work double as hard, I should have it, because I’m already working double as hard JUST TO SURVIVE!!

Why do you think disabled people deserve less rest than mentally & physically abled people?

[cassieoh]

Medieval garden vase, ready for the kiln!

I found a botanical manuscript and was possessed

Im going to be listing a few pieces from this series for sale on kofi soon, so give me a follow there if you want to be notified!

[cassieoh]

Good news! It came out amazing!!

Video turnaround and more angles here!

[ckret2]

getting scambot messages from random accounts that clearly used to be normal active blogs is sad enough. you know that there used to be a real person on that blog until they were tricked into handing their password to the digital fae.

but it's an entirely new level of tragic when somebody you've actually spoken to gets turned into a bot account. it's like peeking at a zombie apocalypse through the window and realizing one of the shambling corpses was your friend.

and then the zombie catches sight of you, lurches up to your window, and shouts through the glass that they accidentally reported your account to tumblr and you'll be deactivated unless you click this link.

RIP to the blog that used to DM me to tell me they liked my new chapters. Their last known words spoken before being turned, 17 hours ago: "Ggs!" They were praising someone's deadlift.

[ckret2]

the message they tried to get me with is probably the same message that got them, so for anybody who hasn't already been warned about the signs of a zombie account:

if you get something like this ↑ they're gonna follow up by instructing you to contact tumblr support on discord and give you contact info; or they're gonna link a website that looks sort of like tumblr support and say you have to email them; or any variety of "you must now contact tumblr, here is how you contact tumblr."

whatever they send you, it Does Not lead to tumblr. it leads to the master zombie that bit them and inducted them into the ranks of the undead, and will bite you the second they have your email and password. i might be confusing zombies and vampires. anyway,

it's easier to fall for these messages because the blog doesn't LOOK like a bot blog, because it ISN'T a bot blog. it's a normal person's blog that got accessed by a bot, meaning the blog's content CLEARLY looks like a real active user when you click on it. and yes—it might even be a blog you already know. sometimes bots like this go down a blog's DMs or reblogs and message people they've previously interacted with.

they got one of my treasured followers, and they can get you too. don't fall for their tricks. know the signs.

[markovchaingang]

hey you. teenage girl writing in her diary. quit talking about the boy you have a crush on and start writing about the current political situation, the valuation of currencies, and the level of technology your people hold. your diary might be the only piece of evidence our society existed after nuclear war fries all of our data backups. future historians don't need to know about damian, they need at least a secondhand accounts of the great water wars and whether or not your leaders truly did worship a deity called "the free hand of the market"

[mothnem]

Keep writing about your crush Teenaged Girl. About your clothes, and how that other girl wore the same dress as you. Paint me a picture of what you were like.

[enchantedlantern]

Historians are going to hear about Damian and they're gonna LIKE IT

[therealbeachfox]

Make those future Historians reverse engineer the socioeconomic hierarchies of the 21st century from dreamy descriptions of Damian's current fashions. It's giving them enrichment.

[vaspider]

Talk about the things you want to talk about. You never know what mysteries your diary might solve in future generations bc you are the only person who talks about something that other people thought was too obvious to talk about, like whatever that third condiment dish that used to be on the table with salt and pepper was for.

[beatrice-otter]

It was mustard. There's actually a decent number of advertisements and household guides and so forth that give details.

[redrikki]

As a professional historian who just spent my morning reading through people's diaries, I'd love to learn about Damian, actually. Tell me all about how much you hate the teachers in X class and what's happening on your social media feed and all that daily life shit. If your writing is going to be the last record of a lost society, let it be real and let it be human.

[orpheuslament]

"why do people act like calling their kink gross is oppression 😂" maybe because historically people have always tried to find an excuse to be violent against sexual minorities or those who experienced sexuality outside of the norm in general, & when attacking your run of the mill trans & gay person is no longer "acceptable" the next best thing is Trans & Gay Person Who Gets Off On Shit I Don't Like. oh & also because youre not just calling someone's kink "gross" youre organising targeted campaigns to harass & stalk people who make you a little icky & calling it a "moral service to the community". but you know, semantics.

[suilesbian]

@rootingformephistopheles i hope you don’t mind if i add your tags to my rb

[rootingformephistopheles]

Specifically if anyone wants to read more about the DSM stuff here's the link to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, who helped spearhead the revisions to the DSM-5

[nozoditz]

#also#important#bigots tend to consider queerness an inherent fetish/kink#calling someone's kink gross is a pipeline

[crippy-tangerine]

By the way. The whole “oh, well some of us have to push through our disability because we don’t have the option to be that disabled!” isn’t even laterally ableist, it is just ableist. Like, punching down, deeply fucking ableist, and I am so sick of it.

Great, congrats, you personally are able to “push through” chronic fatigue and walk around a bit or whatever. Yes it sucks that you have to injure yourself to survive. But that is not unique to you/being LSN, and I’m so fucking sick of less severely disabled people derailing every higher-needs post to try and…. Guilt trip the op for being disabled??

It's gross!!! It's so gross!!! High support needs Disabled people deserve to be able to talk about their realities without receiving some of the most vile ableist talking points from everyone in and outside their community.

[akaanmo]

i think i just witnessed a miracle

[fractiousrvt]

There is always hope

[transmoobs]

“why do trans men get surprised when they transition and their friends start treating them like a gross man” its bc our transition shouldn’t make our friends lose trust in us just because of how we look and identify. its not about the man part its about the gross part. if u treat ur transmasc friends as inherently gross or dangerous the second they start transitioning, it makes it seem like u weren’t really even our friends to begin with if u don’t know us well enough that u equate us as individuals to the stereotypical man youve built in ur head.