I am very sorry if I am being rude by asking this. I do not want to antagonise you, only to understand you and the proshipping community better, so please forgive me if I seem to be critical. It is just something that I struggle to wrap my head around, and you seem to be quite outspoken about the topic so I figured you may be able to explain it well.
With regards to proshipping, firstly, where is the line drawn? Is there a line drawn? I've seen a lot of paraphilias, abuse, and otherwise dangerous or unhealthy dynamics explored, Do different proshippers have different limits as to what is okay (not necessarily the same as what they enjoy, given that someone may support others shipping a certain dynamic without enjoying or feeling comfortable with it themself). And when it comes to proshipping, since I'm pretty sure the term is short for "problematic shipping", is your and other proshippers' views on the problematic nature of the ships based on your own moral beliefs and understandings, or what society deems as immoral without you necessarily seeing anything wrong about it (the topics of the proships, not the act of proshipping itself).
Also, with proshipping, is it a case of believing that the dynamics you enjoy in a ship would be okay, or at least something to not directly challenge, in real life, or would you condemn the dynamics in real life?
Once again I am truly very sorry if these questions are ignorant or disrespectful. Please don't feel pressured to answer if that'd be uncomfortable for you. I only want to understand the proshipping community as to avoid making any harmful assumptions or statements. When I say "you" in these questions, whether you answer in regards to your own views and experiences, the wider proshipping community, or a mix of the two is completely up to you
Thanks for the question, I always appreciate when people are willing to learn rather than default to hatred.
If we're talking about ships, the "line" doesn't really need to be drawn anywhere. The entire point is that fiction is an environment to explore all types of dynamics in a safe and controlled way. Exploring darker dynamics does *not* translate directly to the person's real life beliefs, ideals or desires.
This is the important part with being a proshipper; the point is specifically that it's fiction. And if you're wondering how it's different enjoying it in fiction rather than real life, it's often times about symbolism or coping through angst. For instance, someone shipping characters with an intense age gap isn't doing so because they believe pedophilia is okay, but rather because of things like power dynamics. It's actually quite similar to being into age play. Someone shipping siblings doesn't believe incest is actually okay, but because of things like complex relationships or trauma bonding or dependency.
And, as I said, it can be a form of coping with trauma. Not to romanticize it, but to emotionally process it through fiction where stakes are low. It's kind of hard to explain, but it definitely can help some people.
Another thing, "proship" does not actually stand for "problematic shipping." That's misinformation created by and perpetuated by antis. It literally means "pro-shipping", as in someone who supports shipping as a whole, referring to those of us who believe people should be allowed to ship anything they want. It *can* include darker dynamics, but it doesn't inherently. It's just that those dynamics are often the ones that people notice about people who are proship because they stand out, but you don't have to enjoy them personally to be proship. Someone who ships things like that is known as a darkshipper.
I hope that answers everything. Thanks for the question. Simply trying to learn isn't rude at all.