wing ! @the-wing-collective - Tumblr Blog

people need to talk about socially acceptable abuse more. it's literally why we're a system. the spanking that people refuse to believe is physical abuse when there are multiple studies showing it affects kids just as much as any other type of physical abuse. the way a parent might talk down to their kid their entire life and make them feel like they cant make any choices themself or be independent that they only notice when someone else points out how their parent(s) talk too and about them. the parentification of the oldest kid(s) when they have a single parent. the unnoticeable praise towards the "easy" child that all the other children pick up on. the neglect the "easy" child has to go through. a kid being punished for going to their parent(s) when they mess up and need help. not being taught how to clean or cook or do laundry or even how to wash certain parts. it all destroys a kid and it was all socially acceptable in my family and in the communities i grew up in.

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fuck-systems-cringe

Syscringe constantly complains about “trauma olympics” but I feel like they also feed into it.

The ICD states that “Dissociative Identity Disorder is commonly associated with serious or chronic traumatic life events, including physical, sexual, or emotional abuse.”

I constantly see people on syscringe saying that DID comes from “the worst types of abuse possible”. They rarely even mention the “chronic traumatic life events” side of it.

It doesn’t have to be trauma that involves being locked and chained in the basement with no light for hours on end, it can be as simple as lots of emotional attacks day after day after day. Just as long as the child has the coping mechanism of dissociation already, if what they experience is severe or chronic then they can form DID.

If your parents constantly yell at you for not doing chores, and it’s to the point that you were dissociating from it, then it is valid trauma. Trauma is the response to an event, and doesn’t always correlate to how “bad” the event was. But also who the fuck is making a <9 year old child wash dishes and do chores regularly…? Edit: I had myself confused on the definition of chores - chores can be started as young ass 2-3 and can be as simple as cleaning up after playing, so yeah unless a kid is being forced to do it and being yelled at whenever they are told to do chores, there isn’t much reason starting chores that early should be traumatic.

Not to mention that a child has less coping mechanisms than an adult does, so stuff that might be seen as “not that bad” to an adult can actually be very traumatic to a child.

office-cabinet

is this a switch and has literally anyone else experienced this

make-up-a-headmate

headmate who goes YAYY :D YIPPEE ^-^ all the time because they are overflowing with joyous whimsy

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staticstamps

may I request tavros nitram (homestuck) stamps? ^_^

tavros nitram homestuck

Divider: @sisterlucifergraphics [post]

the-stranded-planet-deactivated

you cannot be a system without having trauma

you cannot become a system by choice

you cannot be a system “spiritually”

you cannot be “poly minded” or “sysplex”

people need to learn that systemhood is a complex dissociative disorder you gain in childhood

its not some identity label you can just identify with

its a disorder not a sexuality or gender and should not be treated like one

pubbzii

little 1x / 2x agere mood board . :3

middle art by tialary (although i did color it which i hope is okay :c)

pinehaven-sys

Friendly reminder that if you’ve split recently and don’t know why, don’t try to search for the reason unless you have a professional to help you. There’s probably a reason behind you not knowing and you could make things worse if you’re not careful.