K.N.Rogers

23 she/her I’m a writer (not a good one but a writer) I have a degree in forensics K_N_Rogers (Wattpad)

[dear-thisbe-love-pyramus]

This is what I was talking about.

This is exactly why the whole "Queer characters can only be played by queer actors" argument, or the queerbaiting celebrities argument is not only unhelpful, it is actively harmful. You are not entitled to other peoples identity. You are forcing people to come out in order to protect their careers, when they may not have wanted to share that with the world. Real people can not queerbait. Real people can not be bad representations of themselves. Do not conflate how you treat fictional characters with how you are allowed to treat real people. We can not keep having the same conversation. Forcing people to come out or else face social consequences is Bad. Always. Everytime.

In this case, Kit is literally a teenager who has been facing overwhelming amounts of online abuse for not being open about his personal identity.

Im seeing it with other queer media too. With nicholas galitzin and taylor zakhar perez in the red white & royal blue movie, people demanding that they should have been recast with "actual queer actors" despite the fact that we do not know if they are or are not queer. We can never know until they tell us that they are, which they have not.

Im also seeing it with young royals. With the new season coming out later today, the speculation on omar and edvins sexuality and relationship is incredibly harmful and toxic. They are real people, please treat them like people instead of fictional characters you can write rambling, speculating paragraphs about.

I'll say it one more time.

You are not entitled to other people's identities.

(Edit: some people are confused about the whole real people cant queerbait thing, so I have an explanation here x)

[donatellooficial]

Best line delivery of the year

[queer-things-and-stuff]

Hi there, if you disagree with the statement BLACK LIVES MATTER in any way shape or form, for any reason; Unfollow me and fuck off forever, I don’t care about our previous interactions, or any kind of relationship we may have, thank you.🖕🏽

[oak23]

I hate how a lot of cultural appropriation discourse has forgotten the reason why it started appearing. It wasn’t meant to punish white people for being ignorant and ban them from partaking in other cultures.

It was a discussion meant to draw attention that people of colour were constantly being overlooked or punished for the exact same things that white people were celebrated for. It was meant to elevate people of colour to an understanding and respect that white people had been afforded for years, often unearned.

So seeing people go “white people don’t partake in anything that isn’t white” misses a lot of nuance in the discussion, because a lot of different cultures ARE willing to share and allow people into their culture on their own terms and in a respectful matter.

There’s a massive difference between a white person going “I just invented the BEST version of this” where everything had been watered down and stripped away versus one going “I try out this thing to appreciate cultures and viewpoints that aren’t my own”.

As a first generation Asian Australian whose own cultural identity is a massive clusterfuck I do think we need to remember that cultural exchange and sharing is incredibly important for an ever changing and global culture.

[ljspencerauthor]

Take it from the biochemist who used to work with vaccines:

1. Some vaccines will keep you from getting sick: measles, mumps, rubella, etc.

2. Some vaccines won't keep you from getting sick, but it will keep you from dying: COVID, flu, etc.

3. Some people can't get vaccines, or vaccines don't work for them. They are a tiny percentage of the population.

4. Side effects from vaccines are normal.

5. mRNA vaccine technology has been around for 20 years. It's not *that* new. ETA: For those of you who insist that the technology hasn't been around for 20+ years, or that the people who created are saying that it's bad, I would say that Nature, a reputable source for scientific information, would disagree with you. Try again.

6. Vaccine cards have been around for a very long time. You'd know that if you traveled to certain countries, or looked it up on Google.

7. I'm getting tired of saying all this stuff to people. At this point, I don't give a flying fuck what you believe, grow the fuck up and just get your fucking vaccine and/or booster shot. But if you insist on being a selfish asshole, stay the fuck away from me.

[padawan-historian]

In their attempts to challenge the institutions that dehumanize + commodify their existence, some BIPOC, AAPI, queer, and cis folks in these digital spaces are utilizing a similar form absolutism that exists in spaces of radical feminist separatism and conservative, religious imperialism.

P S. Never forget that "cancelling" is a tool and, like any tool, it can be worn down, warped, and weaponized by unskilled hands.

[dingdongyouarewrong]

this is so telling, y’all literally just hate women and will proudly post about wanting to abuse them online to the point of mental breakdowns for no reason other than that you find them annoying

[dingdongyouarewrong]

also bonus for ‘i didn’t watch this person’s video but i saw a thumbnail for it so i assume it’s defending jk rowling’ (it’s not) and 'they block people’ 

also i never made a post like that, i reblogged a single post from a person saying they were especially concerned for women experiencing a taliban takeover???? i didn’t say anything about ‘only caring about women and children’ or anything negative about men of colour or about muslim men or afghani men specifically, like at all? of course i don’t think that oh my god! the only reason any person would see a post saying the taliban is dangerous for women and somehow see that as a statement against all afghani men is if you somehow think ‘afghani men’ in general and the fucking TALIBAN are two remotely equivalent groups. of course they aren’t holy shit. the fact that this person made this post about wanting to abuse women online for no reason other than just finding them annoying and then made this later post with absolute nonsense flimsy justifications like ‘they block people a lot’ makes it very clear that this isn’t about ‘being met with criticism’, it’s just very very flimsy excuses for, as they already themselves admitted, wanting to abuse people they don’t like 

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'We don't think this is a healthy therapeutic relationship': Therapist exposes BetterHelp's problems in viral TikTok

The therapist behind @therapyden posted a viral TikTok listing the reasons why BetterHelp shortchanges professional therapists and clients

I’m loathe to link to the Daily Dot, but this article (and the TikTok content) gives a good overview of why BetterHelp is a hot mess in so many ways.

I used the service for a while myself, and during that, saw three different “therapists.” The first therapist seemed to think that therapy meant just having a chat an allowing me to vent, which was largely unhelpful.

She was a Christian, but kept bringing that up, which also irked me because I’d rather not have religion part of my therapy goals. She wasn’t overly pushy, but it did bother me when she said, “As a therapist I have to say that this witchcraft stuff is your choice, but as a Christian I don’t approve.”

I cancelled and requested a new person after that.The second therapist seemed alright at first, but would regularly go on tangents about politics and her own life. I cancelled and requested a new therapist after a disturbing incident where she did the entire session (on cam, as usual) while loudly and angrily doing dishes in her kitchen.

In both of those cases, it felt like these people thought “therapist” means “online friend” or something, and never seemed to have real treatment plans or much to offer.

The third therapist I saw via BetterHelp was just for a single session. Despite consistently telling them, “I would prefer a non-religious therapist,” I was matched with someone who incessantly quoted the Bible. She kept repeatedly asking me if I was a “Bible believer” or had “accepted Jesus.” She also praised me to not standing up for myself, weirdly. She said it was best to let my husband take the lead because submission is a good quality or something like that.

It was ridiculous, and at that point I requested a full refund for that month. Around that time, I learned that BetterHelp doesn’t actually vet their “therapists.” In fact, scrolling their list of offerings, I came across “therapists” with such dubious credentials as graduating from Liberty University with a degree in “marriage” and specializing in “maladaptive sexual behaviors.”

I had to call their offices to get the refund. I’ll be honest; I wasn’t exactly polite during that call, and essentially said, “What you are doing is sick - some people do actually need help, y’know. You’ve wasted my time and money.”

If you want online therapy, I recommend looking for therapists who are semi-local and offer online sessions. Many do these days, and it’s much better than rolling the dice with BetterHelp. That and, y’know, they won’t sell your data.

[thedealimmaking22]

For people who are looking for therapy but for relatively cheap, I recommend the “open path collective.” They are a network who finds therapists who will offer sessions that don’t exceed $60. You pay a $50 membership fee but that you only pay once then you’re a member for life. They also ask questions and make it really easy to filter therapists who will be able to help you. And make it super easy to change therapists. I like the service because they are in contact with different clinics and practices and just suggest therapists or psychiatrists instead of directly employing them.

They have filters that include LGBT for a safe environment and you can ask if a therapist that you meet virtually if you have anxiety and don’t want to go into an office.

[thedealimmaking22]

For anyone actively battling the thoughts of diet culture and self hatred of their childhood, you’re not alone. I struggle with my self-esteem issues everyday. But trying to examine and change long held harmful beliefs is hard and the fact that your are trying means something.

I just think this when it gets really bad, “this body has carried you through the hardest years of your life, love it for surviving with you.”

[cannafaiiry]

[seymour-butz-stuff]

Remember when Republicants screamed bloody murder about someone returning fire during BLM protests?

Turns out police were driving around in unmarked vehicles randomly shooting people and Jaleel returned fire after being shot by them.

Imagine you’re standing on the side of the street or walking down the street and suddenly a minivan drives by with the side poor pulled open and starts firing rounds at you.

No identification on the vehicle. No verbal identification by the police. Just racist cops being racist thugs and hurting/maiming/killing as many citizens as they can - then acting like snowflakes after a citizen responds with appropriate force to their murderous intent.

Details about the police involved here:

https://kstp.com/news/new-bodycam-video-shows-officers-discussed-hunting-down-protesters-with-less-lethal-rounds/6261110/

[afloweroutofstone]

This is, without exaggeration, a drive-by shooting committed by the Minneapolis Police Department

[zazieebeetz]

You are being considered for the amazing opportunity of life. If you are selected, you will have the chance to be born in a fruitful environment where you can grow, develop, and accomplish. How long is this process? If you make it until the end… nine days.

Nine Days (2020) dir. Edson Oda

[thedealimmaking22]

Thing that is making me angry today: the fact that a bunch of people online don’t believe that Helen Keller did all the stuff she did when she was deaf and blind. If you don’t comprehend it, fine, but saying that she was faking it or that it was impossible is disgusting.

And when someone calls them out for being ableist, they are always like “I’m not ableist but…”

If you have to say but after something like that, you are what you’re saying you’re not. If someone says “I’m not racist but…” and then says something racist, they’re still racist.

Just say that you are ableist and move on. And commenting on a blind woman’s tik tok on the matter and saying it’s not possible to do what Helen Keller did, you are the absolute scum of the earth.

[shalomamme]

oil painting by omar ortiz

[lady-dedlock]

“A ghost can be a lot of things. A memory, a daydream, a secret. Grief, anger, guilt. But, in my experience, most times they’re just what we want to see. Most times, a ghost is a wish.” 

― The Haunting of Hill House (2018) dir. Mike Flanagan 

“There are things that tie them to a place, very much like they do us. Some remain tethered to a patch of land. A time and date. The spilling of blood. A terrible crime. But there are others. Others that hold onto an emotion. A drive. Loss. Revenge. Or love. Those, they never go away.” 

― Crimson Peak (2015) dir. Guillermo del Toro

“There are such things as ghosts. People everywhere have always known that. And we believe in them every bit as much as Homer did. Only now, we call them by different names. Memory. The unconscious.”

― Donna Tartt, The Secret History

“What is a ghost, after all, but a repressed memory, the past demanding to be heard in the present?” 

― Alfred Mac Adam, Introduction of Jane Austen’s Northanger Abbey

“If that staid old house near the Green at Richmond should ever come to be haunted when I am dead, it will be haunted, surely, by my ghost. O the many, many nights and days through which the unquiet spirit within me haunted that house when Estella lived there! Let my body be where it would, my spirit was always wandering, wandering, wandering, about that house.” 

― Charles Dickens, Great Expectations 

“May you not rest, as long as I am living! You said I killed you — haunt me, then! The murdered do haunt their murderers. I believe — I know that ghosts have wandered on earth. Be with me always — take any form — drive me mad! only do not leave me in this abyss, where I cannot find you! Oh, God! it is unutterable! I cannot live without my life! I cannot live without my soul!”

― Emily Brontë, Wuthering Heights 

“Come back! Even as a shadow, even as a dream”

― Euripides, Herakles 

“In one aspect, yes, I believe in ghosts, but we create them. We haunt ourselves.”

― Laurie Halse Anderson, Wintergirls 

“In real life it’s the living who haunt you.”

— Franz Wright, from section 1 of “Observations,” Earlier Poems (Alfred A. Knopf, 2007)

“Perhaps I haunted her as she haunted me”

— Daphne du Maurier, Rebecca 

“They were nothing more than living ghosts, haunting each other with what could be. What can’t be.”

― Libba Bray, A Great and Terrible Beauty

“And how odd it is to be haunted by someone who is still alive.”

― I Guess the Old You is a Ghost (#589: June 25, 2014)

“You’ll always be my favourite ghost”

― Big God, Florence + the Machine

“I’m begging you to keep on hunting me” 

― Haunting, Halsey

“I’ll come back to haunt you”

― Haunt, Bastille 

[oncelerfucker69-deactivated2019]

Ted bundy isn't ugly, you're just a lesbian

Congratulations, this is the worst ask I’ve ever gotten

[hollowboobtheory]

reblog if you’re a lesbian, support lesbians, or think ted bundy is ugly

[insomniac-arrest]

no offense, but what was the point of that cool older lady character in Spirited Away

except, you know, to make me question my sexuality at 12 during midnight rewatches as I looked at her weirdly pretty mouth and had Questions

[insomniac-arrest]

!!! 

me, falling in love with every woman I see whose purpose is to eat and be pretty:

[rynies]

I’m late to the post but I wanted to add some fun facts! Lin and the other bath women are called yuna and are slug spirits. According to the art book, however, Lin was originally meant to be a fox, which you can still sorta see in her features. (The English version says weasel but that could be a translation error?) The wiki, on the other hand, says she is portrayed as a human.

Also, when working on the concept art, Mr. Miyazaki would do rough corrections, and would “constantly flatten Lins chest line,” but she was ultimately given a more shapely chest to contrast her tom-boy personality

The point of Lin is to play the “cool older-sister” role, both teasing Chihiro and watching over her.

She’s also there to make us gay.