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jayygrey

Focus.

It’s 3 AM I should sleep

Focus.

They’re sad, I should say something

Focus.

I love them, I should let them know

Focus.

I just want to talk about how I feel

Focus.

Why can’t I speak? Why has my voice left me?

Focus.

I feel like I’m trapped by this focus.

n-bpd

My brain: hey isn’t it so cool that i notice even the tiniest patterns of behaviour

Me: this is not helpful

My brain: but how else will you know whether they will abandon you

Me: well we could talk to th-

My brain: nope

Me: but i trust my friends

My brain: naw

Me: stop it

My brain: well right now it’s just you, me, and this hypervigilance so

Me: fuck

katimorton

The goal of trauma therapy is to stay in the resilient zone while processing the past trauma, so today Alexa and I teach you some techniques to do just that! Since fight, flight or freeze are ways our body responds when our sympathetic nervous system is maxed out, we have to find ways to calm it back down.

We have talked in the past about grounding techniques, and how those can help when we are dissociating or in the “freeze” state, but what do we do if we are in the fight/flight state? Alexa talks about how we are soothed as children and how our brains are actually wired for connection. With that in mind she gives us some ideas of ways to recreate that soothing feeling and how to build a resiliency box, so you have these tools with you when you need them.

When we are babies we connect with our mother through feeding. We make eye contact, we suck and swallow. We can be upset, crying and even throwing a tantrum, but a few moments being fed and we become calm. Alexa uses this image to offer up some soothing techniques. We can suck on candies, make eye contact and hear the voice of someone we love and who is safe, and do some slow deep breathing. She recommends asking that safe and loving person to leave a voicemail or send us a video saying something nice. Then keep that in your resiliency box so you can hear it and see it when you need it most.

I hope you found this video helpful and keep it in a playlist so you can re-watch it as you create your own resiliency box! Huge thank you to Alexa for sharing her knowledge, and thank you to my Patreon Patrons for their support! It’s because of them that this collaboration (and all of my videos really) are possible. xx

traumashitpost

an acquaintance: wow! yr so good at reading people

me: thanks it's the hypervigilance

trauma-rat

I love it when someone compliments me on how observant I am, like thanks, it’s the trauma

brokeassfeminist

brain: Fix It.

me: fix what?

brain: *gestures vaguely to everything*

sunflower-cane

Hypervigilance can cause fatigue guys. PTSD can cause fatigue, anxiety and depression can cause fatigue, Bipolar can cause fatigue, any and all mental illnesses can.

Please understand if youre mentally ill and physically or emotionally fatigued, that is not you being lazy! It is your body and brain being tired of fighting your illness! You are tired because youve been fighting.

This struggle you are going through is real, please do not let yourself or anyone invalidate you further by saying youre lazy.

rottenfaery-deactivated20190708

“Just trust your gut”

Pal I have anxiety, my gut is literally always telling me to abort mission

sophie-runs

bitchycode

neverthere12345

Lioness, for reference.

generalgemini-booknerd

She’s all

digg

this tip tho!!!!!!!!

rikkipoynter

I need to try this for trips I only bring a carry-on to.

rattlecat

I use to do this all the time in the military. Just forgot how to over time o.o

dancing-coyote

I wish I’d known about this when I was homeless.

I could’ve taught it to all the other ladies at the shelter and Darlene could’ve sucked a sour one because she never would have been able to bitch at us for “having too many clothes.”

mxalmighty

reblogging this to have it forever because holy god damn

alicentpark

The ‘Queer Eye’ Guys Makeover Corden’s Guitarist

oursuperadventure

Hey, me and Stef are now engaged! It was seven years ago on Friday that we had our first date and Stef completely surprised me out of the blue by asking me to marry him! Both of our mums loudly exclaimed “Well, it’s about time!” when we called them with the good news, so I think that’s a blessing all round.