blundering through motherhood

 Hey, I'm Anastacia! Mommy to my best friend, Little Lou. This is a side blog, my main blog is anastacianicolette.

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Mister Rogers Farewell (x)

[perilinpeace]

I legit just teared up a little. I needed this today.

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Mr. Rogers had an intentional manner of speaking to children, which his writers called “Freddish”. There were nine steps for translating into Freddish: 

“State the idea you wish to express as clearly as possible, and in terms preschoolers can understand.” Example: It is dangerous to play in the street. ​​​​​​

“Rephrase in a positive manner,” as in It is good to play where it is safe.

“Rephrase the idea, bearing in mind that preschoolers cannot yet make subtle distinctions and need to be redirected to authorities they trust.” As in, “Ask your parents where it is safe to play.”

“Rephrase your idea to eliminate all elements that could be considered prescriptive, directive, or instructive.” In the example, that’d mean getting rid of “ask”: Your parents will tell you where it is safe to play.

“Rephrase any element that suggests certainty.” That’d be “will”: Your parents can tell you where it is safe to play.

“Rephrase your idea to eliminate any element that may not apply to all children.” Not all children know their parents, so: Your favorite grown-ups can tell you where it is safe to play.

“Add a simple motivational idea that gives preschoolers a reason to follow your advice.” Perhaps: Your favorite grown-ups can tell you where it is safe to play. It is good to listen to them.

“Rephrase your new statement, repeating the first step.” “Good” represents a value judgment, so: Your favorite grown-ups can tell you where it is safe to play. It is important to try to listen to them.

“Rephrase your idea a final time, relating it to some phase of development a preschooler can understand.” Maybe: Your favorite grown-ups can tell you where it is safe to play. It is important to try to listen to them, and listening is an important part of growing.

Mr. Rogers Had a Simple Set of Rules for Talking to Children - The Atlantic

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Rogers brought this level of care and attention not just to granular details and phrasings, but the bigger messages his show would send. Hedda Sharapan, one of the staff members at Fred Rogers’s production company, Family Communications, Inc., recalls Rogers once halted taping of a show when a cast member told the puppet Henrietta Pussycat not to cry; he interrupted shooting to make it clear that his show would never suggest to children that they not cry.

In working on the show, Rogers interacted extensively with academic researchers. Daniel R. Anderson, a psychologist formerly at the University of Massachusetts who worked as an advisor for the show, remembered a speaking trip to Germany at which some members of an academic audience raised questions about Rogers’s direct approach on television. They were concerned that it could lead to false expectations from children of personal support from a televised figure. Anderson was impressed with the depth of Rogers’s reaction, and with the fact that he went back to production carefully screening scripts for any hint of language that could confuse children in that way.

In fact, Freddish and Rogers’s philosophy of child development is actually derived from some of the leading 20th-century scholars of the subject. In the 1950s, Rogers, already well known for a previous children’s TV program, was pursuing a graduate degree at The Pittsburgh Theological Seminary when a teacher there recommended he also study under the child-development expert Margaret McFarland at the University of Pittsburgh. There he was exposed to the theories of legendary faculty, including McFarland, Benjamin Spock, Erik Erikson, and T. Berry Brazelton. Rogers learned the highest standards in this emerging academic field, and he applied them to his program for almost half a century.

This is one of the reasons Rogers was so particular about the writing on his show. “I spent hours talking with Fred and taking notes,” says Greenwald, “then hours talking with Margaret McFarland before I went off and wrote the scripts. Then Fred made them better.” As simple as Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood looked and sounded, every detail in it was the product of a tremendously careful, academically-informed process.

[archaeologysucks]

When I was a very small child, my mom used to bury coins in my sandbox, leave huge boot prints in the sand, and tell me pirates had come in the night and buried treasure. I would be out there happily for hours, with my little sieve, and my mom got a quiet morning to herself for the price of a handful of pennies.

I was always kind of skeptical about Santa, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy, because visiting every kid in the world did not seem reasonable. But the pirates only visited me, so they were probably real.

So that’s the story of how I ended up being an archaeologist. How about you?

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Oh my god its me and my daddy

[mommy-to-athena]

[anastacianicolette]

I love my son so much. The growth spurts he’s going through and all of the new things he’s doing are so simple and yet they’re amazing.

[anastacianicolette]

He loooooves to be in the kitchen. Helping cook, wash dishes, and sweep are his favorite things haha thank goodness!!!!!!!!!!!

Today we were making Mac and cheese and while I had my back turned he poured all of the cheese onto the counter trying to pour it into the pot with the boiling noodles 😑 oh well.

He loves to run around the backyard and jump on the trampoline. Leap frog is his favorite Thing to watch on netflix, and hugging is his favorite thing to do when not doing any of the above.

Ughhhhhhhh ily

[anastacianicolette]

I love my son so much. The growth spurts he’s going through and all of the new things he’s doing are so simple and yet they’re amazing.

[jehovahhthickness]

I want my kids to grow up thinking that I am their safe place.

I pray that their world never comes crashing down on them but if it does, I hope that their first thought will be “It’s okay because at least I have my mom to help me get through this”.

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[anastacianicolette]

that smile 💕

[anastacianicolette]

my boy 💕

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[boxedvixen]

ITS SO CUTE I HAVE TO REBLOG IT AGAINN

[yaritzalikeszombies]

I WANNA BE THIS KIND OF PARENT

[solosclark]

#i was surprised this didnt end in some sort of murder #i’ve been on tumblr too long

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“Ye”

[inqilabi]

The only acceptable reason to have kids is that you want to nurture and care for another being.

That’s it. That’s all of the good reasons.

Not because you want someone to take care of you in your old age, not because you want them to take on a certain career, to give you grandkids, to further your religion. None of that. To bring a child into this world with expectations makes it unethical to have one imo, it lays the foundation for emotional blackmail; as in, ‘I brought you into this world and raised you, had you for this reason so give me that happiness’. No one owes you anything for the things you do out of your own will for your own sake, not even your children

[whatmoredoyouwantamericaa]

Wooooooow I never looked at it like this!

[absent-angel-deactivated2024112]

THIS. 1000% this.

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When my mom was a kid she was once hit and continously bullied by one of her teachers (she was in third grade) and once my grandma caught that teacher in the street and she started swinging at her, no intro nothing lmao

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My grandmother and her sisters were in a recently integrated school back in the day. My great grandmama went up to their school after they came home crying cause students were calling them n*gger and what not. She looked their principal in the face with a double barrel shotgun in one hand and a cigarette in the other and told him if her babies come home crying again she was gonna burn the school down with them inside. They never had any trouble after that. Great grandmama was a real one.

[skinoutqueen]

When I was in first grade the teacher I had was racist and I’d go home crying everyday because of this woman, so one day my mom showed up at the school and almost choked her and ended up getting a restraining order, for the rest of the year the teacher didn’t say shit to me because she knew my mama didn’t give one fuck about a restraining order lmao, to this day she’s still not allowed on the school’s property and I’m a whole ass adult

[theemom]

I took him to Miss Nelly’s 💕

[dawnonanewhorizon-deactivated20]

Some people are bad parents. If you’ve ever wondered if you are a bad parent then you should know, you’re not. A bad parent wouldn’t wonder if they’re bad. They would not wonder what they could do better and they certainly would never feel guilty about it.

(via gre3n-mama)