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“Your new life is going to cost you your old one. It’s going to cost you your comfort zone and your sense of direction. It’s going to cost you being liked, and understood. But it doesn’t matter. Because the people who are meant for you are going to meet you on the other side. And you’re going to build a new comfort zone around the things that actually move you forward. And instead of liked, you’re going to be loved. Instead of understood, you’re going to be seen. All you’re going to lose is what was built for a person you no longer are. Let it go.”

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Brianna Wiest

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yesdarlingido

But therein lies the paradox: Speaking out and being “real” are not necessarily virtues. Sometimes voicing our thoughts and feelings shuts down the lines of communication, diminishes or shames another person, or makes it less likely that two people can hear each other or even stay in the same room. Nor is talking always a solution. We know from personal experience that our best intentions to process a difficult issue can move a situation from bad to worse. We can also talk a particular subject to death, or focus on the negative in a way that draws us deeper into it, when we’d be better off distracting ourselves and going bowling.

Harriet Lerner (via yesdarlingido)

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One of the ways God encourages us to change is by constantly starting things over. He created you to sleep, so every night you lie down and go into an odd kind of coma for about 8 hours and then you wake up and start another day. Think of it like a do-over. And it’s not only you. The whole earth is starting over every morning. And it’s not only days that start over, it’s the seasons, too. Soon it will be spring, again, for the millionth time. But it will be all new to us. And then summer and then winter, always changing, always starting over, always inviting us to do the same.

Donald Miller: New Day, New Mercies (via yesdarlingido)

yesdarlingido

“We depend on cognitive assent and affective assurances to substantiate the reality of our relationship with God. If we can’t know or feel God, we customarily doubt our relationship with God. But such ‘knowing’ and ‘feeling’ restrict God to the narrow limits of our minds and sense and reduce our relationship with God to the maintenance of such feedback. The dark night of the senses begins to move us beyond such dependency to an unconditioned relationship with God.”

M. Robert Mulholland, Invitation to a Journey

yesdarlingido

Painful feelings are, by their very nature, temporary. They will weaken over time as long as we don’t prolong or amplify them through resistance or avoidance. The only way to eventually free ourselves from debilitating pain, therefore, is to be with it as it is. The only way out is through.

Kristin Neff, Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind

(via yesdarlingido)

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Ah yes, because the princesses have been such terrible role models. They have taught such horrific lessons such as…

Stop pitting female characters against each other.

A dress is not a weakness.

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This kind of crap annoys me so much because I know what they’re really trying to say! Being feminine does not make you weak! It does not make you a bad role model! Stop glorifying the ‘tomboy’ princess/ female character at the expense of the traditionally feminine princess! Both can be good role models!

Strength is demonstrated in many different ways. Courage is strength. Kindness, compassion and generosity in the face of cruelty is strength. Determination to pursue your dreams is strength. The understanding that sometimes you must sacrifice your own comfort for the greater good is strength!

Strength does not come only from picking up a weapon or wanting to be part of a traditionally masculine world. It is possible to fully embrace being a woman in your society, the roles that come with that, and still be strong!

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And re: Judy… she made a friend and strong ally by *complimenting* another woman’s hair and dress. Tell me again how Judy is “too good” to care about stupid fashion like those stupid, prissy princesses. (And what happened to their Mulan worship anyway?)

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Honestly screw this “demonizing traditionally feminine clothing and behavior” shit 16 ways to Sunday. Stop telling impressionable little girls that if they like princesses and dresses and playing house that they’re somehow broken or wrong. You are going to end up with some really effed up young women if you keep this up.

thegirlwhocrieswolf

Ten years 🖤

yesdarlingido

My only regret is that no one told me at the beginning of my journey what I’m telling you now: there will be an end to your pain. And once you’ve released all those pent-up emotions, you will experience a lightness and buoyancy you haven’t felt since you were a very young child. The past will no longer feel like a lode of radioactive ore contaminating the present, and you will be able to respond appropriately to present-day events. You will feel angry when someone infringes on your territory, but you won’t overreact. You will feel sad when something bad happens to you, but you won’t sink into despair. You will feel joy when you have a good day, and your happiness won’t be clouded with guilt. You, too, will have succeeded in making history, history.

Patricia Love (via yesdarlingido)

I took the love I had for you and spread it around like the pollinated seeds of a flower until I could see the roots of goodness arise in others the way I encouraged it in you. My hands, once turned away, found the outstretched palms of those needing another, and the affections that were once marked only as yours multiplied to serve many. Love is transformative. Not just for the person in it, but for the people it touches.

#quote #love #personal #brown girl positivity

no person in this broken world is worth losing your precious life over. yes, life will end for all of us eventually - but so will these horrid feelings you’re feeling right now. it’s all temporary, i promise. you’ve got good days ahead. the best ones. ones that are better because you’ll come out on the other side and your sense of self will be deeper than you ever knew. your identity is not rooted in him or her. you are worth so much more.

#depression #encouragement #motivation