The Inevitable Sex Talk

The goal of this blog is to educate people on the different aspects of sex, from physical to biological to mental! Questions can and will be answered to the best of our ability. If you do decide to ask something, please be specific so that we can answer as best and as accurately as we can! Please note that we are not experts on these topics, only researchers and helpers.

[nychealth]

Let’s stop HIV in New York City

If you are HIV-negative, PEP and PrEP can help you stay that way.

If you are HIV-positive, PEP and PrEP can help protect your partners.

  Daily PrEP

PrEP is a daily pill that can help keep you HIV-negative as long as you take it every day.

Ask your doctor if PrEP (Pre-exposure Prophylaxis) may be right for you.

Condoms give you additional protection against HIV, other sexually transmitted infections, and unintended pregnancy.

  Emergency PEP

If you are HIV-negative and think you were exposed to HIV, immediately go to a clinic or emergency room and ask for PEP (Post-exposure  Prophylaxis).

PEP can stop HIV if started within 36 hours of exposure.

You continue taking PEP for 28 days.

Many insurance plans including Medicaid cover PEP and PrEP. Assistance may be available if you are uninsured. Visit NYC Health’s website to find out where to get PrEP or PEP in New York City.

[tommytv]

This is such a giant step that barely any people know about it seems, so amazing to see progress in the treatment of HIV

[greenandhazy]

I honestly thought this might be exaggeration but the CDC says that PrEP is 92% effective. Damn. Damn.

[barafurbear]

reblogging because this deserves waaaay more attention D:

[haveagaydayorg]

Black background, white letters.  Word “happy” is done in the colors of the transgender flag (baby blue, baby pink, white).

As long as you are HAPPY your gender shouldn’t matter to others.

[catharsisproductions]

Oh the beauty!

[besexpositive]

[“Consent is enthusiastic, freely given, and unmistakable. It is never: implied; silent; owed; hinted; forced; automatic; unconscious.”]

[plannedparenthood]

Someone asked us:

Is it possible to have HIV or other STDs without ever being sexually active with another person? (I felt like I should ask before I have my first time while I have the chance, because it would not be a good thing to infect someone with something I didn’t know I had)...

[plannedparenthood]

Someone asked us:

Hello Planned Parenthood! I am so happy you guys have a tumblr! This made my day! Quick question! I’ve been told that condoms only prevent pregnancy, not STD’s or STI’s. This is a bit confusing to me because I thought condoms protected against that stuff too! Could...

[designrevolution]

Courtenay McKay created a series of posters for the Gender Based Violence Prevention Project (GBVPP) at the University of Alberta to spread awareness about rape culture.

“The Gender Based Violence Prevention Project is a new project of the Students’ Union that promotes a campus free of gender based violence. Gender Based Violence exists in both visible and invisible ways on our campus and affects the lives of many University students, staff, faculty, and community members. Through education, awareness, and institutional change, we are striving to create a campus free of gender based violence where everyone can feel safe and supported.”

[crusherccme]

found this gem in the 1996 Cornell Women’s Handbook. it’s what to say when a guy tries to get out of using a condom

[plannedparenthood]

Someone asked us:

How badly does the HPV vaccine hurt? I know that I should get it because it’s an important vaccine and I feel so stupid but I’ve been putting it off because I’ve heard that it’s really painful and I hate needles and I’m so scared!

I am so there with you on hating...

[plannedparenthood]

Someone asked us:

If you are toward the end of your period and use emergency contraceptive is it ok to still use tampons ?

Absolutely! Using tampons (or pads or cups) after taking emergency contraception (AKA the morning-after pill) is totally fine.

After you take the...

[theinevitablesextalk]

Hello! I'm glad I've found this blog, because I have a question. I masturbate almost every single day, just using my fingers (usually using my panties as a makeshift condom), and I was wondering if that's safe and/or normal? I'm a 21 y/o female and I've never had sexual intercourse (or sexual anything, for that matter) with another person, and I only masturbate at night when everyone else is asleep. Not sure if that info is helpful, but...

It's perfectly normal for a woman of 21 to masturbate everyday. Since you're just using your fingers. It's alright to be using your panties as a makeshift condom, as some people find the friction exciting and often stimulating, but just be sure that you don't end up irritating your labia or your vaginal opening (since that's never fun).

So long as your habits are not becoming a priority (such as you become late to appointments or you merely stay home for days on end to pleasure yourself), there's no worry to masturbating at that frequency. Pleasuring yourself is a good way to relieve more than just stress. In fact, some people even claim the following:

Helps prevent cervical infections and helps relieve urinary tract infections.

Can help work against insomnia naturally, through hormonal and tension release.

Is associated with improved cardiovascular health and lower risk of type-2 diabetes. 

Strengthens our relationship with ourselves.

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So don't worry if your "Me Time" is as frequent as being almost everyday. Some enjoy frequent personal time, others like to put a few days in between it.

As long as you're being safe and masturbation isn't a first priority for you, and isn't deteriorating your relationships or your ability to perform work, then there's nothing wrong with what you're doing!

-D

[antlered-vixen]

On BDSM safety

So, it seems the 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon has claimed some of its first victims. People have already died because of unsafe BDSM practices copied off this poor excuse of a book. So, to any of the people here who might have an interest in BDSM, let me beg you to at the very, very least, never forget the following:

[anarchivefullofmems]

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[toyporndaily]

[theinevitablesextalk]

Clue: Confident. Scientific. Not pink.

Clue is designed to make tracking your fertility accurate, fast and friendly. Keep track of your monthly cycle by entering data about your period, pain, mood, fluid, sexual activity and personal notes.

Those who menstruate: lend me your ears!

This app is totally awesome. Clue is a simple to use yet complicated software, gender neutral period tracker. All you need to do is input some info on your last cycle and the general amount of days that you have PMS and you're ready to go!

One of the coolest things about it can set alerts for you. There's options for when your period should start, when to take birth control, if your cycle is late, and even one to do a breast self-exam. 

I learned about this app through Laci Green, sex+ youtuber. Yesterday, I decided to check it out. After having a few apps before to help track, I really have liked this the most. The gender neutrality of it is what really got me. Like they say in they point out in their motto, Clue is not pink so it doesn't define menstruation as a female gender specific thing.

I recommend anyone to get this app as soon as possible! Unfortunately, as of right now, there is no Android app that I know of. However, the website does say that it is coming soon so don't fret.

[theinevitablesextalk]

adventprince:

hey fellow ppl who menstruate!

my gynecologist told me today that she doesn’t reccomend Always brand menstrual products, especially to people with sensitive skin, because they’ve been known to irritate the vulva. She said even if you don’t notice an irritation, it can still affect yr vaginal health/make you more prone to yeast infections etc.

please spread this so we can avoid hecking up our vulvas!

[misschomps]

[mxpistols-blog]

WANT!!!

[openlegsproject-blog]

In this video, Laci Green offers a basic overview to sexual consent: how to proberly ask for consent, as well as what consent does and does not sound like.

[sparks-of-creation]

Honestly this video was way more useful than any sex ed class I took in high school. Sexual education is so important and the US doesn’t do a great job with it generally, especially for women. For more videos like these check out the sexplanations and sex+ channels on youtube!