I genuinely appreciate how obsession doesn't try to frame bear as morally grey but just fully leans into how deplorable he is. a lesser movie would have tried to give him redeeming moments along the way but no, at every single crossroads bear makes the wrong choice. when the customer service rep asks him if he wants to cancel his wish, he says no, and asks to alter it. when nikki, the real one, begs him to kill her, he asks her "if it would be so bad to love him", and right at the end, backs out of killing himself and tries to throw the pills up. he is the villain, not another victim, not a confused, cowardly boy, the villain.
We watched different movies.
Bear is a coward at every turn, yes, but he was kind at heart. He admired Nikki for her generosity. Sarah’s success lit him up for her sake. He was lonely and depressed and struggled with the soft, tender vulnerability at the beginning because every time he showed it he was told it wasn’t manly by Ian AND Nikki.
He wanted love, but he never actually took advantage of Nikki when he thought she was herself.
Throwing the pills up was desperation for life. That’s not cowardly, and I was relieved. I felt sick when I thought we were about to watch him die using the pills that killed his cat, finally giving in to that quiet beast that is suicidality.
The most cowardly move, in my opinion, is not killing Nikki and leaving her to deal with the fallout. But we don’t know what his plan was either. Maybe he was going to kill her like she asked.
> he never actually took advantage of Nikki
???
So her screaming and freaking out after she first kissed him and looked extremely confused isn't a red flag? The number of times she "snapped out of it" and the real Nikki made it clear that she didn't want this?
That time she was asleep and asked him to kill her, and he just makes it all about him ("Is loving me so bad?")
Nah. He 100% raped her, sexually assaulted her, everything. He knew she wasn't herself and he still continued to abuse her.
He was gonna kill himself because he couldn't bear (heh) to live a life without a woman that he only got through force, who didn't even want to be with him.
He didn't kill Nikki or try to help her at all because he was too attached to easy pussy that he never should've got in the first place because he's too much of a coward to get a girlfriend normally.
Also there’s a scene where we see Bear and Nikki have sex but it’s obvious from Nikki’s face that she’s disassociating (this was right before the scene where Bear wakes up and finds her in the corner watching him while he sleeps).
And I don’t know if this next example counts since it’s from the script but here’s another example of him totally not taking advantage of her
I’m guessing this scene became both the scene where Nikki briefly gains control back during the kiss and screams “WHAT THE FUCK?!” and the scene I just mentioned where they “have sex” before he wakes up and sees her watching him sleep. The only difference is that in the script he’s not even fazed by the real Nikki’s confusion and horror…
And yeah, him initially wanting to alter the wish instead of cancelling it and him straight up refusing to put her out of her misery proves that he didn’t give a fuck about her wellbeing, he just wanted her as a sex doll without the “craziness”.
That dumbass is either exceedingly gullible or downright malicious. Call it.
