Hello to all the Kosmic Baddies!! And welcome to all the new ones! I ADORE you all. All the positive comments and words of encouragement really make my soul warm and it means the world to me that you enjoy the content as much as I enjoy making it.
You all have given me the energy to write something else! And I appreciate it because I get so bored……………………………………
Thank y’all. Love y’all and I hope y’all enjoy this post. If you aren’t interested in my definitions, you can scroll down to the observations. I promise, I won’t take it personally :)
With Love & Lust,
A-D
INTRODUCTION
Unlike most of my other posts, this is a breakdown for how to read soulmate connections in a chart. Most of these observations are ones that me and my sister made just studying couples in pop culture and in our personal relationships. I thought it would be a fun post to write how I categorize these different kinds of relationships.
This post is probably my most subjective in awhile. These aren’t rules, per-say, but they are patterns I noticed when studying different relationships.
First, I will breakdown MY interpretations of what all these different titles mean, and then I will breakdown how they MAY appear in a chart. It is imperative to have the correct birth details for these observations to reign true. In Vedic Astrology, you don’t have to have a birth time because you can use these same calculations through the Moon chart. (Making the moon sign the ascendent. For instance, I am an Aquarius Sun and an Aries Moon, so my Moon chart starts with Aries. So my first house is in Aries, Second house in Taurus, third house in Gemini etc. My sister on the other hand is a Gemini Sun, Scorpio Moon, so her Moon Chart would be Scorpio in the first house, Sagittarius in the second house, Capricorn in the third house etc. Moon charts are a nifty thing to look at when doing astrological overlays, particularly if you don’t have an accurate birth time).
Again, just a friendly reminder that this is a PERSONAL OPINION piece. Now, for those of you who have been with me for my previous post, you know I’m not talking out my ass. So I can absolutely promise that I am giving you the most educated and thought out explanation that I can give at the moment. I am by no means the final say on ANY of this stuff, I am far from God and don’t want to be the judge or the jury…it is faaaarrr too much work. But please understand that there may be some things in this post you disagree with~ that is LOVELY, share your opinion with me in the comment section, I am more than happy to hear from you and listen to your insight!
But without further ado, let's break this down shall we?
DEFINITIONS
Karma:
Hinduism, Buddhism. action, seen as bringing upon oneself inevitable results, good or bad, either in this life or in a reincarnation: in Hinduism one of the means of reaching Brahman.: Compare bhakti (def. 1), jnana.
Theosophy. the cosmic principle according to which each person is rewarded or punished in one incarnation according to that person's deeds in the previous incarnation.
Soulmates:
Soulmates are just that– a mate for your soul. This is another soul, individual, or essentially another life force that you just “get”. Every relationship comes with its ups and downs and soulmates always seem to find one another no matter what. I find animals to be some of the BEST examples of soulmates out there. Isn’t it crazy how you can form a bond with another life force? I don’t find it to be a coincidence that animals and their hoomans can even look alike!
But enough with the furry friends, let's talk about hooman friends as well! Soulmates can also manifest as people (duh…)– whether super long lasting or a fleeting moment. Some friendships can prove to be some of the most profound soulmates in the course of a lifetime.
And of course…a soulmate can be a lover. We will discuss what can make a soulmate different from a twin flame further in the post. But yes, soulmates can absolutely manifest as boyfriends/girlfriends/theyfriends/husbands/wifes/partners etc. This is probably the most common and sought after kind of soulmate in mainstream culture, but I cannot express enough how soulmates can manifest in so many different ways. You know how Prince would rock out with that beautiful purple guitar? I consider that guitar to be a soulmate? After all, they shared a vibration and what is a man without his tools? As long as science says that everything is made up of tiny atoms, and each person, place, or thing contains its own vibration, we are bound to time and space by our soul’s connection. These types of connections help us move through the void of the darkness and chaos that is the universe, and we will be defined by the contracts of our souls through lifetimes and eons. (Smeeexxiiii, huh)
Twin Flames:
All twin flames are soulmates, but not all soulmates are twinflames. This is IMPERATIVE to understand when you are defining your connections for yourself. It seems to be trendy in mainstream culture to conflate the two, but these relationships have very distinct qualities and very different karmas (lessons). For the sake of starting on solid ground, let’s say that Twin Flames are like soulmates on steroids. Why? Because the contract level of Twin Flames can be an extremely heightened feeling and bring out the best and worst of ourselves so we can confront ourselves through a mirror like image, a reflection, if you will, so we can truly see ourselves through a 3rd eye perspective. Sounds like a lot of mumbo-jumbo, huh? Well, it kind of is. This may be a hot take, but it is an important one, NOT EVERYONE WILL EXPERIENCE A TWIN FLAME RELATIONSHIP IN THEIR LIFETIME. I repeat, NOT EVERYONE WILL EXPERIENCE A TWIN FLAME RELATIONSHIP IN THEIR LIFETIME. Why? Again, because this is HIGH level spiritual work that most souls just aren’t prepared to encounter. To be fair, just because it’s high level spiritual work does not equate to it being “high vibrational”. Most Twin Flame journeys deal with lower vibrations in order to raise them. So don’t confuse the work with the payoff. Twin Flames catapult one’s soul to the next dimension when it comes to spiritual growth and learning. One of the most popular modern examples of a Twin Flame relationship is…drum roll, please…Twilight (Spoiler Alert!). Bella started out as an innocent, run-of-the-mill suburban average teenage boring, blah blah blah, nothing-special kind of girl, with perhaps a proclivity towards darkness, who got entangled with a 300 year old vampire (or however old….), went on to experience the highs and very very very lows of a relationship, flirted with death, lost him, got him again, was deflowered, got pregnant, damn near lost her life trying to give birth and ultimately had to be “killed”/ “turned” by Edward– literally (or figuratively because it’s in a book…) “dying” to be born again and made anew. Essentially growing from an innocent virginal girl, to a very powerful woman & mother. Meanwhile, Jacob, who I would argue is simply a soulmate (see the difference…he was obviously the “safer” choice, but would not have sparked that dramatic of a shift in her soul) just watches from the sidelines. It’s just worth noting how traumatic that entire 4-book series and 5-part movie is from Bella’s perspective, but also from Edward’s. His darkness engulfed her willingly, like Hades to Perspephone. He wasn’t really a willing participant– until he unleashed all his passions and desires onto her. She reflected back to him a purer version of himself that was lost to the past and to his “vampirism”, while she was drawn to him to take her out of the mundane expectations of suburban living. Both parties were made to sacrifice a sacred part of themselves in order to embrace one another, but ultimately to embrace their truest form. For Bella, it was her becoming a mind-bending vampire…a FAR cry from the less than average suburban girl she started as. And for Edward, it was to bring love and happiness back into his life. He had to let go of his “I’m a monster” perspective of himself and see that although he is a lust driven, blood sucking, overly wealthy, perpetual teenager…he is…in fact, worthy of love. Awwww…now isn’t that just…romantic? To the teenage version of me…yes. To the adult version of me who has bills to pay…not so much. However, the story is a powerful one because it clearly illustrates the drama, the passion, the highs, the lows, the love, the lust, the hate, the envy in a spiritual twin flame connection.
(Tangent, but the word envy made me realize another key difference in the twin flame journey versus the soulmate or karmic journey…Envy plays a major part in twin flame relationships. There is something that you feel your twin has, that you feel like you don’t. Going back to our Twilight example, Bella envied Edward for his mystique, and his seemingly other worldly experiences. She envied his relationship to his own darkness. She found him interesting, to say the least. He was a masterful artist, a great pianist, wicked smart, and a selfless individual. Bella, at best, was a mid-level high school student. She didn’t have any talent, any hobbies, any desires. She was very boring and humdrum. She envied him for being so ridiculously complex. She was essentially a blackhole, wanting to be filled by him– sexually, physically, mentally, etc…She wanted nothing more than to dissolve into his world, inheriting his self-hatred and his life issues (like the Volutrie)...she envied his essence. On the other hand, Edward was envious of her purity. He found deep comfort in her lack-lusterness. She was beyond ordinary. So ordinary, in fact, she became extraordinary to him. To see a virginal young woman, full of life, and promise, brought him great desire. A desire he fought for like 3 books/movies. Edward, was by far, the “runner” in this scenario because he absolutely felt that his presence in Bella’s life would destroy her. And for what it’s worth, he was absolutely correct. He demolished her from the inside out– taking her virginity to ultimately making her a mother, an evolutionary act within itself. The triumph of the virgin to the whore pipeline (lol, no pun intended, but pun definitely accepted). Tangent over lol)
BUT what makes them a twin flame specific quality is the fact that you realize, you are actually the same. Edward was equally as dark as he was pure and same for Bella. There was no need to envy one another because they were both capable of all states of being. Edward and Bella are a good and bad example of twin flames, because they are the rare twin flames that stay together. So it’s beautiful they were able to find a middle ground and create a child and merge families–blah blah blah…but, that is pretty uncommon. MOST, not all, but MOST twins do not end up with a happily ever after. They usually are unable to reconcile their souls' differences. These relationships are usually to prepare one another for a high vibrational soulmate.
Karmic Soulmates:
Karmic Soulmates, are souls that have past-life unfinished business OR are meant to inspire a lesson that may or may not be resolved in this life in general. Karma/Karmic is a neutral term, so this type of relationship doesn’t have to be inherently good or inherently bad. It is a relationship that brings forth lessons so the soul can carry out the rest of its karmic mission. These relationships can play out in a romantic way, but they tend to be more on the platonic side. You can be in a Karmic relationship with your mother, brother, sister, teacher, etc. as well as a place! You can have a significant bond with a city, country, place and time. Anything that promotes the soul’s growth through support, challenges and forces you to learn, is a karmic contract/soulmate.
You are certainly meant to learn. But because of Karma being ruled by the planet Saturn, these relationships can go on for a long time, can be extremely difficult and will keep pressisting until the lesson is learned and the karma is fulfilled.
Karmics tend to have a negative connotation, particularly in the youtube tarot world, but it genuinely doesn’t have to be. In fact, I argue that all significant relationships are inherently karmic– be it clearing up Karma from a past-life, or creating new karma for the next.
Always remember, the universe is neutral. Lessons are neutral. Love/Hate is…neutral. We need not judge the nature of any relationship, including our own, if it means to help enlighten, enrich and grow our souls. We are social creatures and we don’t learn lessons about ourselves in a vacuum. Different souls, people, places, and things can trigger our growth in ways that we are incapable of imagining beforehand.
I say all that to say, as one of my favorite quotes from a family friend who passed away years ago said, “some things, you just don’t need to experience”. There will be times in life where you touch the fire and need to feel it to get burned…other times, you will know what that burning feels like and will turn away. This is the perfect system of Karma. Sometimes you will get burned, whether you “asked for it” or not, and other times, you will know that there is no need to even play with the fire to begin with.
So take everything in life with a grain of salt and a shot of whiskey! Life is supposed to be fun…even the not so fun parts! Live, laugh, love, lust & learn! Enjoy the moment.
(This is a great example of a non romantic karmic, he wrote this song for his grandmother who passed & it catapulted him to another dimension career wise)
OBSERVATIONS
Observation 1
Do not underestimate the power of Chinese Astrology
Hear. Me. Out. I haven’t found a more accurate astrology for relationships than Chinese astrology. Crazy, I know. But Chinese Astrology is extremely straightforward. Screw the birth times, you just need a month and year and you’ve got all you need. I always joke that I exclusively date through Chinese Astrology, but I am seriously only half kidding (lol). I kid you not, whenever I study my relationships through this particular astrological lens, I am genuinely AWE STRUCK with how uncannily accurate it is. Try it! Next time you find yourself dating, or even checking the compatibility with your current mate, read a few articles and see how it lines up for you. I’m sure you’ll be pleasantly surprised. I manifest partners through their Chinese zodiac because I am so passionate about it! It hasn’t let me down yet!
***Note: I don’t have this as an official observation because it’s not astrologically based, but look into numerology as well when studying compatibility! It is VERY insightful.
Observation 2
Usually Twin Flames/Soulmates have Gemini placements somewhere in their personal planets or ascendent
So this take may not sit well with everyone, because you may feel limited in the types of soulmates you can encounter if you don’t have any Gemini placements. Fret not, keep reading, you may fit in another category.
I am not saying that this is the LAW, I am saying this simply is something I have noticed when studying what I consider twin flame relationships. In most Twin Flame/Soulmate relationships, the Zodiac sign of the twin is usually present for BOTH individuals/souls. The psychic nature of Gemini makes it very easy to just “get” someone, and feel as if you’ve known them for years. Have you ever heard two Geminis talk to one another? It can be hard to keep up with them!
Soooooo…..I feel the same to be true when it comes to these kinds of intense relationships.
It is also worth noting that Gemini is ruled by Mercury. Mercury/Hermes in Greek Mythology is the only God that can travel between Mt. Olympus (Heaven, so to speak) and The Underworld (Hell, if you will). I think this is important because it demonstrates why Gemini placements in particular can experience a love of such depth. It can go into the pits of hell and to the glories of heaven with ease, making it one of the most valuable placements for a twin flame relationship.
Another note is, in traditional tarot, The Lovers card is depicted by the twins. I feel this is a significant indicator of a deep soulmate connection because of the telepathy and how intertwined lovers/gemini energy can be. The inherent closeness of these soulmates is intrinsic to closeness that is required for any level soulmate/twinflame. Nonverbal communication can play a major role in these types of connections. As chatty as Geminis can be, it’s what they don’t say that ACTUALLY matters. Only another Gemini person would understand that.
Now, Virgo is also ruled by Mercury, but Venus is in detriment in the sign of Virgo. I don’t think Virgo fits this description as well, because Virgo is inherently about solitude, represented by The Hermit in traditional tarot, making it more about virginity/purity than about a 3D twin flame physical connection. To be honest, I just haven’t witnessed it as much when dissecting charts, but I will study it more and perhaps my opinion will change. But as of right now, I don’t believe Virgo placements depict as strong of a connection as Gemini in this case. Feel free to prove me wrong! I’m always open.
Back to Geminis…It seems so weird that Gemini energy would be the ones who attract such intense relationships because they seem so, unloving…but one of my favorite Gemini on Gemini relationships is Courtney Love (Gemini Sun & Moon) and Kurt Cobain (Gemini Moon). Ooof. OOOF. But it was like they had their own language and lived in their own world. Now, that relationship ended up in tragedy…but hey…they had some “fun” moments. They were so similar and too similar at the same time, that it fueled an outwardly bizarre connection, but to them it made perfect sense. This is the power that a double gemini connection can have. Minus to tragedy part.
Observation 3
Twin Flames almost always have the SAME zodiac placements or DIRECT OPPOSITE zodiac placements.
This rule, without fail, is one of the most important and powerful observations that I have come across. If you are checking the zodiac for twin flame compatibility, I will almost say YOU MUST have the same or opposite placements in the big three (rising, sun, moon) and/or Venus and Mars.
This can be ANY SIGN in ANY HOUSE.
For example: You have Sun in Scorpio, Moon in Cancer, Rising in Sagittarius…Your twin could have Sun in Virgo, Moon in Taurus, Rising in Aries. Because the Sun and Moon are in opposite signs, you could experience a twin flame relationship.
Another example: You have Sun in Gemini, Moon in Aquarius, Rising in Pisces…Your twin could have Sun in Libra, Moon in Leo, Rising in Aquarius. Because the Moon and Rising are in the same sign, you could experience a twin flame relationship.
You can mix and match, as long as something mixes and other things matches (lol). I’ve seen so many charts of couples that share placements or have opposite placements and immediately I go “uh! Twin Flame!”.
I think this is due to the illicit push and pull nature/mirroring nature of Twin Flame relationships.
This is where “real” science comes in. All energy has an action and a reaction to create equilibrium. This is why this particular observation is so important. As I’ve stated from the beginning, when it comes to Twin Flame relationships, they are meant to teach, expand, challenge and heal, so it makes sense that you would be met with the opposite force and attract one another OR the same force and repel one another. (Let’s talk physics…think magnets…two positives and two negatives repel, but a negative and a positive attract…woot woot! Call me Bill Nye biiisshhhessss) The entire effect is to make your soul ebb and flow so it can reach a state of neutrality. You want someone to challenge your opinions and your sense of self so you can know what/ who you are. If you’ve never had a mirror, how do you know what you look like? Again, the same is true when someone is so similar to you. You may look at them and go “wow, is this how I come off?”. Just to reemphasis, I don’t want this to come across as an inherently negative thing, it doesn’t have to be. It just usually requires a highly developed spiritual understanding to see that. This particular alignment can give the “can’t live with em, can’t live without em” feeling.
If you have complementary placements, like your Sun is in Capricorn and your partner has their Moon in Taurus, this may be more of an indication of a soulmate connection. The same can be true if you are both air/air or air/fire or water/water or water/earth.
Now, another way you can see it is if you have opposing elements. But, I don’t think it reads as strong as actual zodiac signs.
Just to be clear, all my examples thus far have been using Sun, Moon and Rising, but this trick can extend to Mars and Venus. So let’s say you have Venus in Cancer and your partner has Mars in Capricorn…it counts!
Observation 4
For long-term compatibility, your partner’s Venus will be the same as one of your placements in your big three or your venus– ESPECIALLY WOMAN in Heteronormative connections or Males in same-sex relationships.
Trigger warning for those who are sensitive about pronouns…please use your imagination. I am talking about ANCIENT astrology, so it is rooted in traditional gender norms. You may disagree, that is fine, no judgment, but for the sake of this observation, you can bear with me…or ignore it. The choice is yours!
Now, I am talking about a man’s Venus placement here. In traditional astrology, Venus indicates the man’s wife. So if your “man” has Venus in Pisces, you may have Pisces Sun, Moon, Rising OR Venus/any other water placements. This would make you complementary. In fact, I would say if his Venus placement aligns with your chart, other placements in the chart won’t matter as much.
For example, You are a Gemini Sun, Libra Moon, Aquarius Rising. If your partner is a Pisces Sun, Cancer Moon, Scorpio Rising, BUT their Venus is in Gemini, Aquarius, or Libra…you’re in luck! From the big three, it may seem as if you are completely incompatible, but low and behold, your partner loves what you are putting down, so the “differences” may not be so different after all.
Venus is EXTREMELY important to long-term relationships. So is the 7th house. I won’t go down that rabbit hole for this particular post, but keep that in the back of your mind.
These connections may not be as intense as Twin Flame, but this is certainly a great indication for a wonderful connection. Let me say, like I said in the beginning, not every soul needs to experience a twin flame connection for its evolution. If you are wanting something more grounded, then follow this rule of thumb when checking initial compatibility with a partner.
BONUS: If your person’s Venus falls in your first house, this is a great indication of producing love at first sight! Now…other placements matter, obviously, but this is an extremely powerful indication of strong, immediate, attraction.
Side Note: For Women, you would look at your Jupiter placement for compatibility with your “husband”! I find that you can also use this rule for Mars when it comes to “boyfriends” as well.
Observation 5
Synastry and Overlays Matter!!!!!!!
Definitions:
Synastry- When comparing two natal charts, this calculates the planetary alignment between two individuals.
Examples- Mars conjunct Venus or Sun trine Saturn
Overlay- When comparing two natal charts, this calculates how a person’s planets fall into another person’s house system.
Examples- Person A’s Jupiter is in Person B’s 8th House. Or Person A Venus sits in Person B’s First House.
(if these are new concepts to you, I HIGHLY suggest you do some research. Tumblr has some wonderful posts dedicated to these practices that are highly informative. I would love to do posts concerning synastry and overlays in the future!)
Okay, this may be the MOST important observation, but it is more advanced than Sun/Moon/Rising/Venus compatibility. This requires you to have knowledge of the WHOLE HOUSE system (sorry, western astrology) and deep comprehension of planets, conjunctions, oppositions, trines, squares and aaaaallll that good stuff.
My sister and I LOVE synastry and overlays. It really puts entire relationships into context to see how your chart lines up and what underlying energies you’re dealing with, regardless of the actual placements. How the planets react to one another and how those planets show up in your chart is MUY IMPORTANTE! Chances are, if you’ve read these other rules and they haven’t resonated with you, I guarantee, you’ve had a relationship that is based more on planetary alignment than zodiac compatibility.
(Just to be clear…this is why I started off with Chinese astrology…Chinese astrology is INSANELY accurate and doesn’t require nearly as much study as what I am saying here. DO NOT underestimate the power of Chinese astrology when it comes to compatibility. I love how accurate it is with very little information.)
With this rule, you don’t need birth times, but my goodness do they make an impact when doing overlays. If you don’t have accurate birth times, always remember you can do it off the moon chart, which essentially makes the moon the ascendent sign. Just know, for an accurate overlay, you will need to use the moon sign for BOTH charts. It will not be as accurate if you use your birth chart with an accurate birth time and overlay to their moon sign. It isn’t “wrong” per say, it just isn’t nearly as precise. You want to use the same charts. Moon charts overlay one another and natal charts overlay one another. If you have both birth times, then do both! Go wild! The more the merrier!
Now, I am not going to go in depth about what these two practices mean, because that’s an entire post within itself and I wanted to keep this one “short and sweet”. But I will say, for a rule of thumb, if you have strong trines, oppositions, and conjunctions with a person, that is an indicator of a twin flame, soulmate, and karmic connection. If you have Saturn, Pluto, Venus, Neptune and Mars with low orbs, this can indicate a soul contract/intense connection. If yours or their placements sit in your 1st/7th/8th/12th house, this can be a VERY strong indication of a powerful & spiritual connection. There are plenty of ways this can be mixed and matched. The relationship between two charts is so important, they are a study within themselves. I am only scratching the surface here, so if you are a novice, again, I cannot express enough how exciting it is to do some digging when it comes to this stuff in relationships.
There are plenty of free synastry calculators online, so please use them as a resource– even if you don’t understand the calculations, it is important to see the results. These placements can truly unlock a much deeper understanding of your relationships that you just won’t get when it comes to looking solely at your charts at face value!
Let me know if you’d like me to discuss these topics further moving forward! You know I love to spread the knowledge, and there is just something so sexy about synastry and overlays…it’s honestly one of my favorite parts about Vedic astrology!
Bonus: North Node/Rahu and South Node/Ketu can play a VITAL role when determining what kind of karmic relationship you are in.
POP QUIZ
Just kidding, there is no test, because I’m too lazy to grade anything, BUT here is an example of what I’m talking about when combining the previous observations. I am not doing a super deep dive, but I want you to see how everything overlaps and intersects.
Let’s use Rihanna and ASAP Rocky as an example. Their connection hits on a few different cylinders. Rihanna is an Aquarius Sun and ASAP Rocky has his Venus in Leo. Why does this matter? Although Rihanna is an opposite, so Sun opposition Venus, which is twin flame-y, she is a FAMOUS, CREATIVE, ENTERTAINER and MUSE…this is ALL dealing of the 5th House/Leo energy, so it make sense…for now…as to why he would be attracted to her. She has No Leo placements in her big three, but because it’s the opposite, we go to that push-pull magnet thing I was talking about earlier. As far as how their relationship will play out long-term, I have ZERO idea, but I can say their attraction to one another is very real, but it will probably be volatile at times because of the Sun Venus Opposition. I’m sure her ego will cause difficulties to his love language, BUT he may be able to take it, because his Venus is ruled by the Sun. See how layered and complex it can be? And we are just looking at one placement. They work because he enjoys the attention that she brings (not in a vampire way, just in a “wow, isn’t my lady so cool” kind of way) and he allows her to shine without dimming her light, while she enjoys the fawning that he gives her. He loves that his partner is larger than life and Rihanna is larger than life because…well…she’s Rihanna. She is able to appreciate him, because at this point in time, he doens’t in any way seem like he is trying to compete with her. He is a confident person who can stand beside and behind such a force, BECAUSE he has such a strong Venus placement.***
Relationships aren’t black and white. These are just observations and rules/patterns that I have found to be true. But as you’ll see, as I have presented, some things will contradict, some things won't make sense, what makes sense for one chart doesn’t make sense for another. Etc… This is such a fun topic because it really is like a puzzle. And it really is a case by case basis. The more in depth you can look at a chart, the more knowledge you can walk away with.
FINAL THOUGHTS/MINI RANT
Oof….okay, what a ride! (Can you believe I had the intention of this being a short post. HA!) I hope that you were able to take something away from this post and learn something new! As you can see…there is a very intricate science behind how soulmates/karmics and twin flames work. It is so much deeper than saying “oh wow, that’s my twin flame”...like…maybe? I feel mainstream spirituality/astrology/tarot has taken that phrase and run with it. And saying “if you identify as twin flames then you are” is misleading. It really isn’t something you “identify” with. They either are or are not your twin flame. There isn’t an in between. It is not ambiguous and it can be fact checked. Also, twin flame makes it seem like you can only have one…I don’t think that’s the case. I think you meet as many “twins”/mirrors/soulmates/karmics as you need until your soul learns the lesson. Have you ever felt like you just keep meeting the same person over and over and over again? That’s because we are talking about soul recognition and not necessarily 3D body recognition.
You may be attracting different “people”, but you could be attracting the same “spirit”. So don’t always get so hung up on a particular person. TRUST ME BABES, if there is unfinished business, that same energy will come back around over and over and over and over again until you geeeetttt ittttt.
Another note is, if you’re like me, and you have exalted Venus in Pisces conjunct Ketu…then every relationship feels twin-flame-y. Why? Because I have my relationship planet tightly conjunct my south node, so I am on a spiritual journey on my own when it comes to relationships…my twin flame is most likely…Jesus Christ…sooooooo……yeah. (I kid, I kid, but not really. My placement can indicate being a nun…and trust me, after dealing with the crap I’ve had to put up with when it comes to these men folks, I have absolutely considered giving my body to God…cuz these men just don’t do right…lol…anyways…) Men and relationships have become my life’s work…which is why I am here sharing this information with you today. Each relationship is very nuanced but all have similar themes.
I am very much into tarot and astrology and all the things, but I do feel like there is a fad going around about this twin flame business. And as much as I enjoy a tarot reading popping up on my tiktok talking about my “twin”, I am always acutely aware that it can be a mislabeling and inspire people to put up with all kinds of crap for the sake of the label. If you’re going to be in a shxtty relationship, then be in a shxtty relationship, but don’t misuse the word. Twin Flame does not automatically translate to terrible, explosive, runner-chaser relationships and it does not excuse poor behavior. There is a difference between someone who is making mistakes because they are trying to learn and someone who is taking advantage of someone who won’t stand up for themselves. Sometimes, someone you like, just doesn't like you and your ego in tandem with your fear of rejection/abandonment is preventing you from actually growing and pursuing a relationship that would benefit and promote your soul’s growth. It’s almost like getting stuck on level one of a video game. Until you beat that internal need for validation from one specific person/soul…you’ll never get to play the next part of the game. Now…this isn’t me saying that soulmate/twin flame/karmic relationships don’t have their downsides, but I am saying, at least know the kind of energies you’re dealing with before you go putting pressure on a presumably less evolved/knowledgeable individual expecting them to “challenge your soul” and you haven’t even challenged yourself. This whole twin flame ordeal is like handing a toddler some markers and leaving them alone in a room full of white walls– it is bound to get messy. Soulmates are a BEAUTIFUL thing. And very rarely, I mean VERY rarely can a twin flame move into a more relaxed “soulmate” relationship. It is not impossible, but the amount of effort that is required to transcend, is unbelievable. BOTH PARTIES have to be spiritually mature and aware to do the work. This connection is NOT one sided…BOTH individuals are required to learn, grow and HEAL. Mind you, healing is the main reason for these kinds of relationships. There is no way to heal when your relationships keep pouring salt into an open wound. People can get caught up with and hang on to people for far too long because of a mislabeling. It is equivalent to a misdiagnosis from a medical doctor. Sure, you may have a cold, but if they misdiagnose you with a broken leg…are you receiving the right treatment? NO! And now you won’t heal properly! TO BE CLEAR…I believe in fate– so if you meet someone and you have an extraordinarily intense connection, you probably fit one or more of these rules and THAT IS why I am making this post. I want you to do the research for your own sanity so you can express FREE-WILL in whether you want to walk down that path or not with a certain individual– while also knowing the other person has free-will too. No label, or synastry, or overlay, or Chinese compatibility will change the fact that you may be fated to meet someone, but free-will may take you down different paths.
On another, equally important note…It is also possible to end up and stay with the wrong person. It is! You may look at a chart and follow some of these patterns and realize, you have NO BUSINESS with that individual. But people end up with the wrong people all the time. People have wasted LIFETIMES with someone they had no business with. But their ego decided they were a “soulmate” or a “twin flame” or they aren’t “healed”/spiritually awaken enough to realize they can do better…and low and behold…they were wrong and they wasted precious time. Now they’re miserable, can’t figure out why, and they end walking straight past a real soulmate in a supermarket…unable to even recognize them because they are so bogged down and clouded in their unhealed ego and a bad relationship that has cut them so far off from their own divinity, they can’t recognize love if it smacked them in the face. DON’T LET THAT BE YOU!
THERE ARE LEVELS TO RELATIONSHIPS!!!!!!!!! Not every soulmate will be as intense as the next. Not every boyfriend/girlfriend will be as compatible as the last. Love is a game of musical chairs. There is movement, there is stillness, seats get taken away, and eventually, there is a winner. And babe, it will ALWAYS be you. You will always be the last one standing when it comes to relationships because you have free-will. (Let’s not forget the importance of the 1st House/7th House axis. You vs Relationships. It is as equally you as it is them.) You are bound by nothing. You are bound to no one. You are love. You are light. If you do the work, you may find a wonderful, loving, long-lasting relationship full of romance, but this is not guaranteed. You AND your partner have to choose each other every single day. The best relationships require discipline, work, forgiveness, “God”/some higher power, and love– no matter who you cross paths with in this life…you have to do this for yourself first and foremost. Alas, if you are too caught up in people who won’t meet you in the 3D, let alone the 5D…you will always fall flat of what you are looking for. The chair will always be ripped from under you when the music stops. Always. All of this is irrelevant if it doesn’t come from within. And this is why I want to express it one last time…NOT EVERYONE WILL EXPERIENCE A TWIN FLAME CONNECTION. You don’t understand how much you have to overcome rejection, overcome fear, overcome lust, desire, ego ALL the things, to open yourself up enough to join forces with another soul and try to tackle life together. Your ultimate lover is not your savior– they are your equal. You have to save yourself. You are not your ultimate lover’s savior. THEY have to save themselves. You ain’t super(wo)man and they aren’t either. Your partner has to be willing to do the same work…THAT’S what makes them a twin. It is not because they are treating you like shxt, babes…
Learn the lessons. Do the work. Love every bit of the journey…especially the crappy parts, because THAT’S what will make it all worth it in the end and you’ll enjoy the beautiful parts as much as the Greek Gods enjoy sweet nectar and ambrosia.
Why is this important to differentiate? Why now?
Now, one thing is for sure…and two things for certain, I am psychic and I have seen in my crystal ball that there is heavy energy of union in the atmosphere. I am hoping that whoever stumbles upon this post, is on the path of self-discovery which ultimately leads to liberation because not all union is good union. (I think covid brought in a lot of bad unions for example…but that is another topic for another day). The days are getting darker, and the evil forces are getting stronger (am I being dramatic enough for ya?) so it is important to know exactly what we are all up against. Only few are chosen to be in relationships that are led by light. There is so much overwhelming darkness now and I don’t want anyone that I am influencing to fall into the trap. There is potential for WONDERFUL, POWERFUL, SEXY, LOVING, LONG-LASTING & HIGHLY SPIRITUAL unions right now. But you may be tempted by something that seems beautiful and it is nothing of the sort. So please, do your research. Love with all your heart. Let spirit lead you! Let love find you, there is no need to seek it out! Take calculated risk! Open up your heart chakra! But ultimately, always be mindful of the wolves in sheep's clothing.
HELLO!!!! To all of my sweet, sweet Kosmic Baddies, Oh!! How I’ve missed you!
I cannot believe it’s been over a FRIGGIN year, but GOODNESS….believe me, when I say this past year has been a roller coaster for me, I truly mean it. I can only imagine what’s been going on in your lives as well. Just TOO MUCH!!!1111!!!!!111!!!!!1 But welcome to 2024! A universal 8 year and the year of the Dragon!!! WE IN THIS THANNNNGGG!!!! Hard work, discipline and accountability is the theme, and we can’t lose!!!!!
Believe it or not, I actually STARTED writing this to have to you for Halloween, but ummmm….this is looking like a Valentine’s Day post instead! HA!!!! Blame it on my Saturn in Pisces– my relationship to time is….non existent. But, I think this timing is better anyways. The theme is very fitting so we are going to turn apples into oranges.
***Even funnier update, now it’s past Valentine’s Day….GOODNESS!!! This has been the longest it’s taken me to write anything. Like…INSANE. Almost 6 months I’ve been steadily working on this!
Thank you to those who have continued to support me! Thank you to those who have continued to share and interact with my post through my…let’s say, hiatus! I am planning to put more energy and effort into this blog post. I LOVE writing for y’all, it is really one of my favorite things in the world.
I am going to take a moment to apologize in advance and say, the typos are probably going to be real with this one. Because I’ve been working on it for so long, I’m just ready to get it out, so it won’t be my cleanest work. I will probably be updating and editing, so bare with me!
🕯 INTRODUCTION 🕯
Sooooo….where to start? I wanted to do something fun and interesting this go round because I missed y’all so much, but I also wanted to do something light so I could get back into the rhythm of writing again….aaaaaaaaaand I thought you would enjoy something a little smexiiiii as we move into cuddle buddy season. So, in this post, we are going to talk about Mars and Your Sexxx language.
One day, as I was driving around town, it dawned on me that we always talk about Love Languages (check out my Mercury post if you haven’t already) and we never talk about sex languages. And y’all know me, and if you don’t know, you’ll soon find out, I am a Bharani moon (atmakaraka at that); and the blending between Mars and Venus is my soul’s most valuable asset to share with the world…(Did I mention my moon is the 11th House?) Sex is one of the most taboo topics (in Western puritan culture, at least), yet such a powerful resource in our human tool box and it’s ridiculously important in our relationships. The 7th House is followed by the 8th House for a reason. Intimacy, of course not always sexual, is what leads to self-discovery, the 9th House. So we cannot overlook the important step that is sexual relations. Even the word “orgasm” means “little death” and death baby, is as close as you get to God. (See how those houses flow together so well?) Hence why things such as Tantra are a sexual AND religious experience all in one. Don’t be fooled by western/christian ideals into thinking that sex is unholy or ungodly. If you think Jesus was a virgin, think again. I mean, what’s the point of turning water into wine if you’re just going to roll over and go to sleep? Y’know what I mean?
Don’t worry! If you’re a less experienced reader, and haven’t engaged in aaaaallll thhhaattt… this post is still for you! In fact, this is one of the reasons I love astrology so much, because hopefully this post will give you some context about yourself and what your SOUL craves, not just your body, so when you do start “doing the do” you can be spiritually comfortable with your wants and desires instead of ashamed or even afraid of them.
Not to put all my business on the street…but, hey, I love y’all, so I won’t keep too many secrets from you (mercury in the 8th, HA)…but, I had to do quite a bit of bumping and grinding to discover what my soul needs in an intimate relationship and I wish there was more of “guide” for me on that journey! So HERE…I’m giving it to you!
WHAT IS A SEX LANGUAGE? 😈
To be completely honest, a “sex language” isn’t something as defined as a love language, so please, bear with me as we discover this together. Please feel free to share any experiences or insight with me. Although I may not always respond, I TRULY appreciate you taking the time to share with me. I try to read everything that I can!
I’m defining sex language as how one creates and shares intimacy in their close relationships. This is particularly expressed through physical interactions and outward expressions. Mars is a planet that governs our passions, drives and desires, meaning our sex language is guided by what we deeply want and crave from our partners on a spiritual level. Venus represents more of the external notions that we have for love and relationships, while Mars represents our internal needs from love and relationships. Mars is inherently a more personal and “self-centered” planet, so interestingly enough, your sex language is all about you! I go as far to say, when you find a partner, don’t forget to check your Mars compatibility as well. If you have extremely incompatible Mars signs, you will have to do a lot more work in the relationship to overcome the constant friction. Moreover, if you have more compatible Mars signs, then WOOOO BABY, the sexual tension could be off the charts!
✨ ABOUT MARS ✨
Mars placements won’t make or break a relationship, per say, but it is a very important layer to help maintain a relationship. How many of you have heard of sexless marriages and people being unsatisfied in their relationships in a sexual way? Does that mean the couples always break-up because of the lack of sex or chemistry? No…..But does it help a HECK OF A LOT when you are wildly attracted to your partner? YES! (Of course this isn’t always a good thing…but for the sake of this post, we are only talking about rainbows and sunshine.) Just keep this in mind as you start to use this knowledge in your journey. Mars is a really important planet that is easy to overlook because it’s not in the Big Three! (Yet, it iiissss the natural ruler of the 1st House).
WHY IT ALL MATTERS 🌚
I truly believe there is a shift in the collective and many couples are going to be coming into union over the course of the next year or so. Why? Because Ketu is FINALLY transitioning out of Libra and entering Virgo. If you’ve noticed, we’ve seen quite a bit of celebrity break-ups and covid relationships coming to a screeching halt. Hence why I say, if you’ve been single, or haven’t been in a serious connection in the last few years or even ever, now is the time that your next partner might be going through some significant ending with an ex. Union is on the horizon for a lot of souls who have been doing theeee spiritual work. That’s why I couldn’t think of a better topic to get started to set the mooooooooood. Bow-chicka-wow-wow.
So without further ado, let’s get into the nitty gritty. I’m going to do something different and start with Mars in Pisces/12th House and work backwards to Mars in Aries/1st House! I thought “Hey! Why not switch it up a bit? Pisces shouldn’t be forced to scroll ALL the time!”
***Note: If you’re feeling extra spicy, you can read for whatever sign is in your 1st House and 8th House as well because those are traditionally Mars ruled Houses. And you can read for your 12H, because the 12H is also the house of bedroom pleasures! Always keep in mind that we are complex creatures and astrology is like a puzzle, so it’s okay for some things to resonate and other things to not. Learn as many perspectives as possible so you can define yourself!
With Love & Lust,
Enjoy!
A-D 💋
Mars in Pisces/Mars in the 12th House
“Cut me like a rose, turn me like a beast” Only- Ry X
If your natal Mars is in Pisces or the 12H, you may actually have a hard time knowing what your desires are. Why? Because Mars can feel as if it’s drowning in the deep spiritual waters of Pisces. Your wants can be quite dreamy. You crave a sexual experience that transcends space and time, forcing you to leave your body and touch God himself in ecstasy. (I’m a western Mars in Pisces, so…I get it). When it comes to your sex language, you want your partner to just get “you”. You don’t want to have to explain or talk or direct, you’d rather just receive and give a special type of unconditional love that knows no bounds. Because of this “boundless love”, you may actually, literally, lack boundaries. This doesn’t have to be a bad thing, so we are going to focus on the positive. You are truly accepting of those who are accepting of you. Because Pisces is a mutable sign, you are willing to fit into whatever box your partner wants to put you in…and you receive great pleasure from making a deep seeded fantasy of your partner come true. You could be just as playful and imaginative when it comes to role-playing as a Gemini.
Because Mars is in Pisces or the 12H, you’ll find that a lot of partners will project their wishes and dreams onto you. Hence why you want a love that is really deep, because people can get washed away in the shallow end of your energy without ever fully realizing how deep your waters flow. This can be frustrating. And because Mars isn’t the most comfortable here, you can have some unhealthy ways of expressing your sexual frustration. Particularly if your Mars is in the 12H, you can be attracted to self-gratification through self-pleasure and also self-harm. You may even conflate the two, harm & pleasure, and have a dark side to your sexual fantasies. Your passions and desires can end up being repressed because people may not understand them, or be able to meet your high expectations. Amd babes, I love you, but just know, your expectations out of partnership are OTHERWORLDLY. But no worries!! You are SUPER DUPER freaky and almost a guaranteed partner that will go down in history books, particularly after you get comfortable in your own sensuality.
One of the things to watch out for with this Mars, is you can be passive-aggressive in the bedroom. You can take a more passive role, expecting and energetically demanding that your partner take the lead. You may not realize you even give off this energy, but the internal need that you have to dissolve into your partner, like sugar into water, can be very intense. And the gag is, sugar doesn’t really fully dissolve, so what you’re seeking can be impossible to satisfy on the earthly plane. Because of this, it is IMPERATIVE for you to have spiritual outlets within your sexual connections. It may be that you and your partner practice Tantra, or you simply pray together. With this Mars, you can absolutely use sex as a tool for manifestation. Watch your thoughts during sex, because you truly can create MAGIK!
Mars in Aquarius or Mars in the 11th House
“I believe in aliens, I don’t believe in love” Familiarity by Teezo Touchdown
If your natal Mars is in Aquarius or the 11th House, you are something special. Why? Because out of all the signs, you are the most unique lover. I KNOW!!! How friggin’ cliche, Aquarius=Unique, blah blah blah…boring. YES! It’s said all the time, but it’s the truth. In Vedic Astrology, it is important to note that Aquarius is ruled by Saturn and Rahu. This is hugely impactful as to why you are unlike anyone else. Even as you read this, you won’t be exactly like the next person reading this, because the Saturn Rahu combination can be influenced by so many different factors. Aquarians are the hardest sign to write for in general, simply because you are going to be very individualist when it comes to how you express yourself. Now, all that being said, you still crave, very deeply, a sense of belonging. So please, don’t ever take for granted how special you are. If someone is lucky enough to break through your hard exterior, they really are in for an extraterrestrial experience!
Because Mars is in an air sign here, you may or may not be the most sensual and/or sexual person on the planet. You could be. But you could not be. And that is the gift…or curse…of this Mars placement. I have Mars in Aquarius myself, and I remember reading an article that said “this placement can be infuriating to your partner because you are so nonchalant.” And I can definitely say I’ve lost relationships because the other party assumed I was disinterested because I wasn’t the most expressive when it came to my emotions. It’s important to remember that Mars in Aquarius/11H is actually a neutral placement. It isn’t a death sentence or the worst thing on the planet, but it’s not necessarily the best. So don’t be too hard on yourself if your partners don’t understand you very easily. You will just have to do more work to learn how to communicate and accommodate in your relationships. This may be something that follows you throughout life…and forget your partner….it could be infuriating to you! BUT NO WORRIES! Mars in Aquarius or Mars in the 11th house is usually more concerned with developing and nurturing friendships, which seems to contradict the more lustful side of Mars. Longing for friendship and connection versus longing for sensual pleasure and connection can be seen as two different things.
What Mars in Aquarius/11H wants more than anything is L. O. Y. A. L. T. Y. Because this Mars placement can grant so much freedom, it is imperative for the person with this placement to feel safe and secure in the sexual relationship they are building. This is NOT to be confused with possession. Expecting loyalty from a partner isn’t the same as feeling as if you own your partner. You believe that your partner should have freedom to express and live their life the way they want to, and you expect the same in return. However, you do expect your partner to consider you when they make their decisions in life. It is very much “give a dog a bone, leave a dog alone, let a dog roam and he’ll find his way home” (S/o DMX, may he rest in peace). Meaning, in your sexual language, you want your space and privacy, but you want to feel a belonging no matter how far away you are from your partners.
NOW, for the fun stuff. You are one of the most explorative lovers on the planet. You may have a “the more the merrier” type attitude and be interested in group smexii time or oragies. You may have a dream to experience Amsterdam and the Red Light District. The beauty in having your Mars in an air sign/house is that you can remain detached from the sexual experience and partner– therefore, you may not experience jealousy because you aren’t super possessive. Again, you’re all about freedom baby!!! You may also have some pretty “far-out” kinks. You may be interested in different genders, or same gender, or mix gender or no gender or latex or pantyhoes or dress up or furries or hentai or tentacle porn….and if you’re not into it, chances are you will at least click a questionable link or two. You don’t carry the same shame as others do when it comes to what turns you on sexually. You don’t like anything boring or too routine, so your search history could be a bit…odd….BUT HEY!!! As long as it’s not hurting anyone or anything and pleasure is being derived from all parties involved, then let adults do what adults do is kind of your attitude.
Friendship is the key to your heart…and to your…uh…biological box….lol. When it comes to long-term relationships, I can bet my bottom dollar that you’re far more interested in the friendship aspects than the inherent relationship drama. When your friends ask “why are you still dealing with them”, you will follow up with “well, we are friends before anything else.” And you mean that deeply. The really funny thing is…on the other hand, you are also very likely to get down with complete strangers and never think about it again. You can hook-up and detach with the best of them, or your loyalty to a confidant can keep you in a relationship for a very long time…it. Just. depends.
The one thing that is true about your sex language, is that you speak ALL different kinds. When you look back at your life and your experiences, if you are more of an adventurous Aquarian, lets say you have a lot of air and fire in your chart, you will most likely have all kinds of stories from all different people and places. You will be one of the most interesting partners and friends to talk to about all the mixed bags of experiences that you’ve had..which is awesome. If your Mars in Aquarius/11H is paired with a more “earthy” sign or even water, you will most likely have a rom-com type love thing happening…that tugging “will they/won’t they” energy at the beginning of relationships, only to fall head over heals with the “guy/gal next door”. You may also find your sexual partners online, in a group setting or be hooked up by natural friends. “How’d you meet?” “Oh, I heard from a friend of a friend that that d*ck is a ten out of ten!”
Mars in Capricorn or Mars in the 10th House
“My vicious love, My lethal heart, I wanna screw you up into me” - Bad Bad Bad by Ramsey
If your natal Mars is in Capricorn or in the 10th House, then your sexual language is money, money…and….uh….more money. I kid, I kid…but not really. It would be easy and predictable for me to say you just lust after money, but it goes much deeper than that. Believe it or not, Mars is actually exalt in Capricorn, so, you couldn’t have a better Mars placement. Your natural ruler Saturn and Mars truly are the best of friends. And if you’re familiar with Tarot, then you know The Devil represents Capricorn energy and The Devil is all about seduction and temptation. Unlike some of the more dreamy Mars placements like Pisces/12H or Cancer 4H that use their sexual language as an escape from reality, or the detached air placements like Gemini/3H or Aquarius/11H, who are too aloof to harness Mars’ energy, YOU my Capricorn/10H individuals are acutely aware of how powerful the nature of sex can be…and most importantly, how it can be used to your advantage.
To the average person on the street, you may not seem like the super sexual type. You prefer a sophisticated lover to a “cute” one, so people can assume that your standards are too high. And perhaps, your standards are high, because you understand the value of your presence and your time. In fact, you HATE wasting time, so why would you waste time on lovers who don’t bring anything to the table? Sadly, for most of the public, they won’t ever have the experience to be with a Capricorn/10H Mars because quite frankly, they can’t afford it.
Funnily enough, I’m sure as you’ve been reading this, you’re like “dang…am I that shallow?” And the answer is yes and no. You’re shallow because we live in a shallow world– and you know in order to survive it, you have to use what you got to get what you want. The other side of this is, you’re not shallow at all because you are willing to work and discipline yourself and sacrifice for those that you truly care about. There is such a depth to you in the long run, that it makes sense that you make it really difficult for people to get to you. Because you know and I know, once you’ve committed to someone, you’ve committed for as long as you possibly can. Your sexual language is all about stamina and endurance. This is true in and and out of the bedroom. As an earth sign/house, you are a sensual being. You enjoy each and every bit of romance that you can get. A nice meal, some good perfume, dressed to the nines is all considered foreplay to you. You entice your partners with a certain dignified class and only the brave will approach. In your younger years, you could find this extremely frustrating at times because men will really have to get their sh*t together before they can even THINK to approach you on that level. But the more that you use your Mars to get you where you want to be in life, partners will follow behind you and constantly buzz around as if you are the Queen Bee and they are mere workers for your attention.
Funnily enough, you are quite the heart-breaker with this Mars placement. Because you are so focused on your goals outside of love, and yet, you can crave sensual pleasures, you will be very direct with a partner, but they may not be aware of how serious you take yourself. How can this manifest? Let’s say you meet a partner and everything is groovy, but you are working on a big project for work, you’re working on a degree of some kind, or you’ve said you won’t rest until you make partner at the big company…unlike other Mars placements, you won’t let romance sway you or take you off track. You are probably the best example of “right person, wrong time”. You don’t have as much of an issue as other signs walking away from a situation that is distracting you from your more worldly desires. This can leave people utterly confused, because you seem like a perfect partner, but honestly, you’re just not focused on aaaalll the drama that can come with fully committed relationships. People may actually take this energy and say that you’re a player…or worse…a floozy (one of my favorite words lol, definitely needs to make a comeback). You actually aren’t. You will be one of the most committed partners they could find, but if it’s not the right time…it just ain’t happening. So your partners will have to maintain some level of patience or they will miss out. On the other hand, because Mars is a planet of extremes, you may go through periods in life where you are celebate. It may take you awhile to stop channeling that Martian ambitious energy into your career and put it towards your sexuality. That being said, you will enjoy the more sensual side of sex. You could have great stamina and endurance. Because sex may not come around as often as you’d like, you will learn to savor every drop of your partners and please them in a calculated, thoughtful and masterful way! How smeeexxxiiiiiii!!!!!
Mars in Sagittarius or Mars in the 9th House
“I’ve been everywhere, man, looking for someone. Someone who can please me, love me all night long” Where Have You Been by Rihanna
If your natal Mars is in Sagittarius or the 9th House, your sexual language is that of many languages. You fall in love with the exotic, unknown and unexplored. You like your partners like James Bond likes his cars– foreign. You appreciate partners who expand your understanding of reality. Your partners have to expand your mind…and body…into positions that you never thought were possible. If you don’t attract partners who are of a different race, culture or class from you, then you will be attracted to partners who are otherworldly and spiritual or are just as serious about their religious beliefs as you are. Like Mars in Pisces/12H, your planet is ruled by the planet Jupiter, aka Guru. You NEED to learn from your partner. You NEED to explore with your partner. And you NEED to be able to teach your partners something as well. “I wanna know…can you show me…I wanna know about the strangers like me”...It’s giving…Tarzan and Jane. I have Mars in the 9th House, and it has manifested in a very fun way! So with my bias, I believe that this can be one of the more fun placements if you just go with the flow. Unlike other Mars placements, you don’t necessarily feel the need to control your partners. You’d much rather experience them, learn the lesson and move on to the next new shiny thing. Much like your brother, Gemini, you are equally as invested in getting the knowledge and seeking more knowledge. You of all signs are unlikely to overstay your welcome in a relationship. You can come off quite restless and unsatisfied…UNLESS you are just fascinated and enamored with an individual.
You can find yourself attracted to people who have accents, or speak a different language than you. But you will be even more turned on by someone who shares the same religious beliefs as you. You may actually be willing to convert religions for your partner OR, and this is more likely, you have a partner who is a different religion than you are, and instead of being ashamed by it, or making it an obstacle, you embrace it– ultimately respecting their religion, while maintaining the traditions of your own.
You will naturally desire to travel with your partner. Making some of your favorite memories in life when you made-love in some far off land. If the sentence, “I made love to a Frenchman I met while eating a baguette at the local cafe under the Eiffel tower and I’ll never see him again, but he’s the love of my life” turns you on…congratulations, you’re in the right spot.
This Mars placement is fueled by your deepest desire to see the world and its deepest truth, and then just imagine how much you can learn about the world through the lens of an intimate partner. Your sexual language, like I said earlier, involves language in and of itself. You want to hear the stories of distants lands, fascinated by the foreign nature of your divine counterpart. You will want to be intimate with partners who can speak for hours and hours about their adventures and endeavors. You need to be intrigued at the very least.
I also find that with this placement, there may be an age difference in your relationships. You either will be attracted to someone who is much older and wiser, OR, interesting enough, you could find yourself with someone younger. Why is this? You will appreciate a person who still has zest for life. You will be equally attracted to partners who are bright eyed and bushy tailed! Plus, I know I’ve talked a lot about your partner entertaining and teaching you, but the truth of the matter is, you will want to be as much of a sage to your partner as well. You will enjoy teaching them the ways of life and the pursuit of happiness. They will look to you with eyes of wonder as you paint beautifully vivid pictures of your life experiences that have shaped your view of the world.
Another element to this Mars placement, is you are one to challenge authority. This may manifest in your sex language by liking to explore BDSM culture in some way. Because this Mars is all about freedom, you may be turned on by the thought of your partner controlling you…just so you can say no. You can come off as a “well, make me”...kind of lover when it comes to foreplay. You love a challenge and you like partners who challenge you in some way when it comes to living out your sexual fantasies. Another way this may come out is you AND your partner may have a knack for getting into trouble or enjoying sex with some kind of risk involved. You get off being able to sneak away for a quickie. You’ll have sex in the backseat of a car. Joining the mile club is definitely on your bucket list…all the things! Because you are such a rebel, you tell stories that have “normies” clutching their pearls and leave their mouths open. You want to have memorable sex that is worth writing a book about!!!
I can not drive home enough how spiritual your sexual relationships have the potential to be. You are not a shallow lover. You are a lover full of wonder and full of lust…wanderlust…if you will. Sagittarius/9H is a very serious zodiac/house. You're destined to seek truth– so your sexual partners HAVE to enlighten you in some way. You don’t want to get stuck in the mundane, boring stuff of a relationship, (and please, don’t get too carried away, because we do live on planet earth!) you want to experience shrooms, talk about God and make love in the forest! Smexxiiii!!!!
Mars in Scorpio or Mars in the 8th House
“Every breath you take, every move you make, every smile you fake, every single day, I’ll be watching you” Every Breath You Take by Sting
Okay, okay, it would be all too easy to say your love language is stalking, and more stalking and even more stalking, but…that’s only a small fraction of what this Mars placement has to offer. If your natal Mars is placed in Scorpio or in your 8th House, your sexual language is that of raw passion and intensity. That being said, it is also about restraint and self-restriction, and sometimes self destruction. I tend to find Scorpionic energy and 8H energy to be radically internal. You, actually, may not be the most expressive lover. You are more comfortable waiting, studying and planning to pursue a lover, rather than going in full force. Because Mars is your natural ruler, Mars is more than comfortable here, but unlike your brother sign, Aries, you are more of the “planning” part of war, rather than action. This is the strategy of self-defense more than anything. You don’t want to walk into an intimate situation to be intimate yourself, you want to extract vulnerability from your partner like a detective solving a murder crime. Your sex language is more of a riddle than a question. And you would like a partner who intrigues you and leaves a lot of mystery. In my many many years of dating, and many many encounters with Scorpionic energy (I attract them like flies…it’s crazy) I always find that Scorpios are nowhere near as mysterious or hard to figure out as they perceive. Behind all that black and dark stares and gazed is usually a pretty pretty boring, but shy person. There is such a caution with this sign when it comes to acting on those very deep and sometimes all consuming desires, so you are very careful to not put yourself in harm's way. Another hot take that I have on this placement that may seem a bit contradictory to the Scorpionic stereotype is YES YES YES, you are smexxxxiiii and all of the things, but that doesn’t necessarily make you the most sexual person. You take intimacy and sexy very seriously, more seriously than most, because for you intimacy and vulnerability can be used against you and be seen as a weakness, so you are hard pressed to just be going around willy-nilly swinging from partner to partner. You also view sex/intimacy as more of a “power” thing than a “love” thing. And what do I mean by that? You know that deep intimacy and truly being intertwined with another individual gives you an unreal amount of access to that person on a personal and spiritual level. It is always important to remember where Scorpio/8H lines up in the grand scheme of things. It follows the Libra/7H of partnership. The 8H is actually the house that dictates how a relationship will play out. This. Is. Imperative. To understand this placement. You are far more focused on how the partnership plays out, rather than the partnership itself. Again, unlike your predecessor, Libra, who is ruled by Venus and may be more interested in the looks of a relationship and romantic partner. Your sexual language is more interested in the psychology of your partner. You don’t care nearly as much about the outside as you do the inside. What draws you to your partner is a need to access the ultimate truths through your partners. Hence why, you are followed by Sagittarius/9H of Truth and Liberation. Your sex language involves restraint, power and hidden truths.
As I said before, it may be really difficult for you at times to truly connect with your partners because your energy can demand sooooo much from them. You will require partners to go through such depths in their relationship with you, that they may not be able to handle it. And on the other side of that, you may stay away from relationships because you may mistakenly feel like it brings out some of your “worst” qualities. With this Mars, you may go through a very intense relationship when you’re young, one where you give your all, I mean…you would kill or be killed for those you love, and because that relationship fails, you may never want to experience those types of lows again and stay away. You are one of the most loyal of the Mars placements, so you are very careful to study who exactly you are giving your loyalty to. I recommend with this placement, you may find yourself oddly attracted to Aquarian/11H energy. It sounds weird, water and air, but in this case, Aquarian energy is endlessly fascinating because they are so unorthodox, you will never truly figure them out, so you’re constantly intrigued by them. Aquarians also value loyalty the same way you do. They will allow you the freedom that you need to sit in your own emotions, but value the friendship in such a way, you won’t feel abandoned by them. Even if the people you are attracted to don’t have Aquarius in their chart, I think that quality is something you should consider when looking into intimate partners. It is probably the partner who gives you the most space and it is the hardest to figure out, that will give you the most in life. If you have a partner that is easy to conquer, not only will you be bored, but you can easily slip into those darker energies of control and manipulation to get you way…even when it’s unnecessary.
AAALLLL that said, you are still a hell of a lover! I mean…wow. You intricately know how to please and conquer. You use sex as a language itself when you’re ready and willing. And man, do you have a way with words. You can easily hypnotize a lover to fall under your command, so be careful with this gift. You are more than comfortable in this arena once you move past your fears in the subconscious. You can channel this energy, much like the exalt Mars in Capricorn to succeed with some of your greatest ambitions. You will put your sexual energy into your work and projects in a way like no other! Just don’t take everything so seriously! It’s okay to have a good time. Be intimate and open up some! You’ll enjoy getting your head out of the sand!
Mars in Libra or Mars in the 7th House
“What a rush & what a high, cause when your love don’t fight, smoke gets in your eyes” Smoke In Your Eyes by Skepta, Ossie, Harry Stone
If you came to this section thinking that I was going to talk about how sweet and balanced you are when it comes to your sexual language…THINK. AGAIN. BABE. You are nothing of the sort. Seems contradictory, huh? Because Libra/7H is all about balance, right? Well…not when it comes to this Mars placement.
If you have your natal Mars in Libra or the 7th House, you are quite the spicy lover. To be completely honest, Mars is VERY uncomfortable here. Why? Because Libra is naturally ruled by the planet Venus, which is essentially the opposite frequency of Mars. I like to think of Mars and Venus as the brother and sister planets of the Milky way. Traditionally ruled by Ares and Aphrodite in Greek mythology respectively, they are technically half-siblings. So when you think of this Mars placement, this of how a girlie-girl would feel surrounded by all boys at a football camp. Sure, she may attract a lot of attention and she may have plenty of options…but she will CERTAINLY have to set clear boundaries to command the respect she deserves, as well as deal with the fact that no one around her may have the same interest. See how this can be uncomfortable? It’s not the worst thing to happen, but it can cause you to feel like you have to play the field a little bit differently because of Mars being in the House of Libra.
Okay, so now that we covered why this placement might be different than what you were imagining, let’s get into what this post is actually about!
If you have this natal placement, your sex language is all about breaking up to make-up. Because you’re on this constant quest of seeking balance, YOU will subconsciously or consciously seek chaos in order to regain balance. Your indecisive and somewhat aloof nature in relationships can be a source of frustration when it comes to your sexual expression with your lovers. If you have Mars in your 7H, you genuinely LOVE conflicts and attract conflicts to your relationships. You can be quite passive aggressive, honestly, and stir the pot to get attention. AAALLLL this being said, you still enjoy the finer things and love the idea of love, even though you may not have the most direct way of going about it. Your partners may even find you hard to read, and this can frustrate you, because your wishy-washy-ness is so innate to you, you may have a tendency to think that everyone is as back and forth with decision making as you are.
Ironically, more so than any of the previous placements I have discussed before, I will focus more on what sexual language you like from your partner rather than yourself. Of course, you like good food, good wine, good clothes, good banter, good company…you have Libra, like DUH, but I want to offer a different perspective on this placement.
So when it comes to your partners, you truly like a partner who takes charge, regardless of sex. You crave a level of masculinity and directness in your love language because as I stated earlier, it can be difficult for you to make decisions for yourself. You overemphasize how people will perceive you, and this can cause you to stunt your decision making, so you’ll find yourself craving a partner who can be unabashedly unapologetic in their approach to life. You seek partners who are brave and courageous and you will find yourself testing anyone you fall in love with to see if they have that spark of passion in them. You may find yourself seeking different things from different people, so you may have multiple lovers– and just like how it may take you forever to pick out your outfit in the morning, it may take you forever to figure out what you value in a partner. It is important to note that Libra/7H energy is indeed a masculine energy. I’m sure most would assume it’s feminine because of the “sophisticated” and charismatically social nature usually associated with Libras, but when it comes to sexual relationships, Taurus/2H energy is the feminine side of Venus. Libra energy in this way is more detached than people would think. As stated earlier, because you enjoy dates, chatting, getting to know people, you may be a really good casual dater! This could send mixed messages to potential lovers because you may have never really had any intention of dating them long-term– or, you really just haven’t decided yet. Now are we starting to see how this Mars placement can attract certain conflict? You will desire and crave a partner that can make decisions for you. This may lead to some kinkiness in the bedroom because you’re open to compromise and you can be bossed around in this regard.
Overall your sexual language is complex because of the inherent contradiction of this natal placement. You can make this work in your favor as long as you keep open communication with your partner, even if it’s to tell them that you need some more time before you’re comfortable making any lasting decisions. When you date, you will have to allow your partners to understand your up & down nature. Most people will probably take your pragmatic nature personally, so if you can find a way to channel this into being sexually playful with your lovers, it can be a great way to keep romance fun and interesting. As stated in the beginning, you are most likely to end up in an on-again-off-again kind of relationship because you like for the scales to be tipped, so you can rebalance them. You are far more detached in commitments than most people would assume, so it is essential for you to date like-minded people who understand that your coldness is not a reflection on your feelings. You choose to remain objective in your judgements and seek fairness in your relationships—even if you are the one who was unfair to begin with! Kiss it kiss it better baby!!!!
Mars in Virgo or Mars in the 6th House
“I got commitment issues, but I’m tryna fix that for you…I don’t believe in love, but that doesn’t mean I don’t take you serious” Commitment Issues by Central Cee
With Mars in Virgo or the 6th House, you may be surprised to find how non-committal you are when it comes to relationships. Why? Because you find relationships to be impractical. So when it comes to your sexual language, you are quite all over the place. Lovers can find you hard to catch, almost like trying to keep a fairy in a jar. You prefer to flutter around and keep things light in the sexual department. To you, sex can scream responsibility. After all, sex can be a pretty risky and dirty affair. All the fluid exchange and, ultimately, the required vulnerability, can make you quite uneasy. With this Mars placement, you can go between the two extremes of putting too much emphasis on sex or not enough emphasis at all. This is due to the natural ruler of Virgo/6H being Mercury, which, I find to be, an asexual planet. You are more interested in the intellectual connection than the physical connection.
BUT PLEASE, don’t get me wrong! You know you’re way around the bedroom. Your sexual language is constantly evolving. You do well with long-term partners that you can trust, study and get to know. You prefer a lover that is loyal, so you don’t have to worry about where they’ve been, or better yet, who they’ve been with. You find joy in repetition with one partner. OR, you are really open to “protected” one-night stands. You are either all in or all out. You don’t like to waste time on sexual relationships that you don’t see a return for a long-term investment. That being said, if you are unable to invest in the long-term, you can find yourself in a position of sexual frustration. You may really desire a person, but because of your deep need for perfection first, you may stall connections & find a lot of pleasure in masturbation for the time being. You, like your opposite sign, Pisces, can really get into your fantasies. You may find that erotica and romance novels can be great resources to pass the time while you likely toil between celibacy and being a whore (this is particularly funny to me because Virgos are known for being the Virgins of the zodiac– hence the contradiction in Mars in Virgo. The planet of sex and desire ruled by a “Virgin” is, uh….a difficult juxtaposition to say the least.) – again, it’s all about mental stimulation with you.
When you do meet a partner that you can FINALLY settle down and feel comfortable with, you will be a very giving lover. Because Virgo energy is usually associated with servitude, you better believe that you will make it your duty to service the object of your affection. You care very deeply about the satisfaction of your partner— far more than you care about your own. As stated earlier, you don’t mind finishing up solo as long as your partner is satisfied. You will find every nook and cranny, every deep desire, every love spot that your partner has, because you will analyze their body with astute detail. You will break your partner’s sexual language down and adapt it to be your own, because after all, you are a mutable sign. As well as being an earth sign, you do have a very deep sensual nature to you. Although you can come across as quite guarded with new partners, once you blossom, you really enjoy heavy petting and physical touch. You can spend so much time in your head and alone with your thoughts in other aspects of your life, you may find it very powerful to have a partner that literally grounds you and brings you back to planet Earth by holding you in their arms. Again, after you’ve bent over backwards (pun intended) to please your partner, you, more than any other sign, except maybe Leo, really needs to be acknowledged and celebrated for your hard work. You don’t take kindly to being undervalued or under appreciated when it comes to your romantic relationships in this context.
Believe it or not, this placement can actually be quite kinky! Why? Because of the influence of Mercury again. As stated before, you want to learn your partner’s as well as you possibly can to make sure you are seen as perfect in their eyes– sooooo, that means you’ll have some exploring to do. Mercury is such a curious planet, that it may not be kinky for the sensual pleasures of it all, but it will be interested in testing out sex & kinks for “research purposes”. This can give you a sort of detached feeling when it comes to sex, which may or may not work in your favor– you’re able to disassociate in a way that makes sex almost an out of body experience…it may take you some time to actually feel pleasure from sex. You are so focused on the other and pleasing your partner, you can forget that sex is supposed to be a two way street! I just want to reiterate, that this placement is so mutable, that you may find yourself pretty ambivalent towards sex at different times in your life. You’re kind of like “eh”. But there is hope, when you find a partner that lights your fire– you will find yourself wanting sex like a child wants candy! There is plenty of potential here for a beautifully active and engaging sex life– it just may take more time to develop than others.
Learn your own kinks! Have fun! Explore the more sensual side of life for yourself!
Anyone who is able to win you over (which is NOT an easy feat by any means) will be able to revel in the fact that you are such a wonderful lover! But don’t forget, sex is not a test that you can get an A + in, it’s supposed to be the culmination and celebration of it all!
Mars in Leo or Mars in the 5th House
“She may be the queen of hearts, but I’m the queen of your body parts” - Cockiness, Rihanna
If you have Mars in Leo or Mars in the 5th House, you are Britney Spears, all eyes on me in the center of the ring just like a circus, bay-bee. You LOVE to put on a show. Your sexual language can make love-making a spectacle! You’re over the top, you’re loud, you roar. You LOVE LOVE LOVE the attention. So much so, you may not even need sex to fulfill that internal desire for you. Huh? What do I mean? I mean, you may be satisfied using your creative gifts for sexual gratification. Chances are with this placement, you are highly creative and charismatic. You find sensual pleasure in being able to share your creative gifts with other people. Haven’t you heard of entertainers saying they had so much fun on stage, it was orgasmic? That’s where you come in.
Ironically, I don’t naturally find this placement to be the most sexual. Don’t get me wrong, you are DOWN DIGGITY for a good time, but you really use sex as an ego booster. You may even be quite lazy in the bedroom. You could easily live by the code “my present is my presence” and be a dazzling pillow princess. This isn’t a bad thing, and it definitely doesn’t have to be the case all the time! When you’re turned on, you’re turned on, but when you’re just casually engaging in sex, or are in a long-term commitment, you may feel like sex is something that is owed to you. Not in a weird entitled way, but more like a Queen sitting on a chaise lounge being fed grapes– like, “duh, you should have sex with me, I’m beautiful”, type energy. This, if you haven’t been able to guess already, can lead to a selfish attitude in the love-making department. You must remember that sometimes, your partner wants to be catered to as well. That being said, you won’t shy away from Valentine’s Day. You are the type to go all out! You’ll put on the lingerie. You’ll lay out the rose petals on the bed. You’ll pay extra for that honeymoon suite. OR, you will expect your partner to do all of this without you asking. You treat holidays and sex as if it’s a royal affair.
Due to your standards being so high, I cannot express to you enough that you may really put all your sexual energy into your creative pursuits until you find a lover of high-value and high sex drive. You love and somewhat need to feel desired in order to break down your walls. You don’t play hard to get– you ARE hard to get, so this may leave you with extended periods of non-sexual activities. You are more than willing to give up sexual pleasure for your own personal pursuits– in fact, you are more likely to do that if you have specific career goals.
You may be a tad bit surprised at my interpretation of Mars in Leo, perhaps you were assuming it would be a bit spicier, but I challenge you to look at your ruler, the Sun (yes, the actual burning ball of fire in the sky) . Not literally…well, you can, but make sure you wear sun-glasses. But in all seriousness, the Sun shines alone. The Sun is too hot to let anything near it, and it carries such a gravitational pull, that things simply orbit around it, but can never get too close. With Mars in Leo/5th House, you may find yourself in this position when it comes to your sexual nature. You attract a lot of people towards you, but they are unable to get too close, for fear they will burn up in your presence. Or, you shine so bright, you are forced to do it alone. Being the Sun and the center of the Universe is a hard job, but ultimately an isolating job. Your being, your creative gifts, your star power and the way you shine can cast such a shadow on those who dare come near you. It really can be one of the most challenging placements because you probably won’t understand why people can’t/don’t come near you. Again, you’re just soooo great, people can have an overwhelming and unrealistic ideal of what it will take to make you happy. It’s a double-edged sword. On one hand, it’s flattering, but on the other hand, you can suffer from being put so high up on a pedal stool that you never asked for!
One tip for you, is to keep your hair beautiful and lushes! People will be attracted to your wild side and want to bring that out of you. You can either really love having your hair pulled or be turned off by it because you spend so much time making it look perfect. Either way, your hair may be an essential part of foreplay for you and something that suitors may find undeniably sexy.
As long as you are mindful to share the spotlight from time to time and not always prioritizing your needs & your desires, you can be a remarkably loyal partner. Fierce is the word that comes to mind and you can be very fierce in the bedroom. (When you want to be.) You can outshine any of the competition. Most people truly can’t hold a candle to you when it comes to how committed you are in an intimate relationship. You are proud and you protect those that are around you and that you deem worthy. You have a royal air that surrounds you and it loudly and proudly screams `bow down bitches' when it's time to get down and dirty!
Mars in Cancer or Mars in the 4th House
“Let me kiss you hard in the pouring rain, you like your girls insane” Born to Die- Lana Del Rey
If you have Mars in Cancer or Mars in the 4th house, ironically, your sex language involves a knack of overwhelming emotional destruction. Dramatic, yes, yes, I know, but very true. Mars is VERY uncomfortable in the deep waters of Cancer/4H. Mars in the 4th House, in particular, is a naturally difficult placement because it sits in the House of happiness, as well as aspects the 7th House of partnership and the 11th House of friendship– making that native, uh, a little difficult to deal with. Why? Because your emotions can be so erratic and illogical, it can be difficult for people to understand what you want. Heck, you probably don’t understand what you want most of the time. I promise I’ll get to the good stuff, but keep in mind that this Mars placement is in detriment! (It’s exalted in Capricorn, the opposite sign.) So when it comes to your sexual language, you value such a deeply emotional commitment from your partner, you could constantly try to test them by pushing their emotional boundaries.
There is a mixture of pleasure and pain. You love an emotional outburst– this can be good and sexy, or bad and scary. Emotionally bonding make-up sex, is your cup of tea…ESPECIALLY if you are the one who caused the “break-up” in the first place. You truly enjoy engaging with your partner in a loving way, when you can, but because Mars is so unstable here, it can be hard for you to maintain emotional consistency within long-term relationships. You can find that your passions wax and wane for your partner. Sometimes, you just want to run into their arms and kiss them in the pouring rain, other times, you want them to LEAVE YOU DAFUQ ALONE. This can be quite jarring to your intimate partners, but also to yourself. I recommend embracing this quality and being as honest as possible! Instead of literally creating a sh*t storm in order to be left alone, just communicate to your partner that you need a little space from time to time. But also be willing to give your partner that same courtesy and grace if they ask for the same.
You can feel a need to wrap yourself up in your partner's desires. It may come from a genuine place, but because Mars is an aggressive planet, you may be quite aggressive in how you demonstrate your love to your partner because your deepest desire is to be able to emotionally control them. This can manifest in an extremely emotionally manipulative way through passive aggressiveness and just causing overall uneasiness within your dynamics and partnerships. One of the lovely sides about this particular placement, is when you mature, you can have an extremely high emotional I.Q. Because you are naturally very sensitive to your surroundings, you can literally sense the emotional and physical needs of your partner without them having to say a word. You can be so emotionally intune with your lovers, it can feel like telepathy if they need anything from you. You just know, y’know?
In the bedroom, you can go from one extreme to another. Sometimes you want to be dominant, and sometimes you want to be dominated. It is important for your lovers to be able to ride your waves and learn what is needed from them at any given moment. Again, Mars is all about conquest. So when Mars is in the 4H in particular, you want to be able to be the leader in your home, but you also want someone who can take the reins when necessary. Again, this can be a difficult balance to strike within your sexual relationships because people may not understand the method behind the madness, typically because there really isn’t a method…it’s just kind of madness AND THAT’S OKAY!
Because Mars is so uncomfortable here, it is imperative for you to be able to channel your energy in creative ways or you can fall victim to your own emotional tirades. You want a clear line of communication with anyone you are interested with and they absolutely need to have some emotional intelligence or else they will drown in your water. You don’t want to suffocate your lovers with so much emotional intensity, that you both are unable to remain somewhat grounded in the chaos. You of all people understand just how powerful emotions and sex can be together, so be careful to use it wisely!!! When done right, you can have anyone wrapped around your finger.
Mars in Gemini or Mars in the 3rd House
“Talk is cheap my darling, when you’re feeling right at home. I wanna make you move with confidence. I want to be with you alone” Talk is Cheap by Chet Faker
If you have Mars in Gemini or Mars in the 3rd House, then you are all about an intellectual connection when it comes to your sexual language. You want to catch viiibbbeezzz. You want to be razzle-dazzled with the lingo. You want someone hip, cool, in the know…because, well, you’re hip, cool & in the know, y’know? It’s only fitting that your partner be the same. You, of all placements, may truly crave “your other half”. And I know, I know, we live in a world now, where people are saying “you are a whole person and you’re looking for another whole person yadayadayada…”, but you’re a TWIN. You want to be able to connect with someone as if you share the same brain, the same thoughts, the same…everything. This isn’t to say that you’re not sexual…you just enjoy mental jousting for foreplay. Think of how beautiful the dance between two evenly matched fencing partners is– the ebb and flow of tension – playing both parts of the aggressor and the defender– gliding almost effortlessly with a weapon in hand. It’s like the tango…but with swords. That’s how you envision your love. Beautiful art, yet dangerous. You may not be the most sensual lover at first, but in time you will certainly warm up. Why? Because at the very least, you are a curious partner! You. Want. To. Explore. You may be the type of lover to want to try almost anything once. You want to be surprised. You don’t want your bedroom to be boring. You resent repetitiveness and you welcome new experiences. You may even fall into the “switch my wig, make ‘em feel like he cheating” category. You like to switch up your look, your style…sexual positions (lol). This can even translate into role play! (Especially teacher/student).
I cannot express to you enough how much learning from your partner turns you on. You love asking questions & consider getting to know someone a conquest. The more difficult the puzzle, the more you yearn to solve it and this type of stimulation oozes over into your sexual pleasure. You’re curious to know what your lover’s love. You can have an objective perception of sex, because you aren’t the most naturally emotional person, so you can look at the love making process as getting to know every nook and cranny of a partner’s body– learning what makes them tick & “ick”. You become more emotionally open with a partner, the more confident that you are that you know them. You like learning, but you don’t like unpleasant surprises. This may be counter intuitive, but I find that after you go through your “lemme try any & everything era”, you will genuinely enjoy one partner. It will make you feel secure and like you have that missing piece in life. You don’t come across as the most committal type, but when you do commit, you commit fr fr, you just need a certain level of freedom in life to continue to expand your horizons far past the mundane in life.
Another element you may add to your sexual reservoir is……drugs. “DON’T DO DRUGS, KIDS & STAY IN SCHOOL”...alright, there is my disclaimer. Now back to what I was saying, you may be curious to try mind-expanding drugs & smex. Because you can be so cerebral, drugs like ecstacy can help you actually feel your body. The tingle will start from your subconscious mind, and venture into your conscious body, possibly making love-making a more pleasurable experience. If this doesn’t interest you, don’t worry, no pressure! Just making a note that this placement is more likely to think outside of the box when it comes to making their sex lives thrilling and exciting! Not saying that vanilla sex is boring…just saying in general. You do you!
Overall, this is a curious placement. It’s a fun placement, but it can be an extremely flighty placement in the beginning. Don’t let your fear of getting stuck, stop you from finding a true partner that you can really see the world with. You can find that “other half”, that “twin soul” that really knows how to light a fire in you and warm your cold cold cold gemini heart. In your moments of passion, you will prefer to keep things fun and light. Only when someone truly captures your mind, can they capture your body and soul! SEXYYYYYY!!!!
Mars in Taurus or Mars in the 2nd House
“People stop to ask me, how do you please your man? Take it from the black sheep baby, any way I can. Sometimes it’s with fire and sometimes, with ice…Just don’t get it twisted, his body’s gunna pay the price.”
- Rock My Boy’s Body by Joseph Stephens
If you have Mars in Taurus or Mars in the 2nd House your sexual language is about sensuality, sexuality, & seduction. You believe in making love an all encompassing experience and you will stop at nothing to make sure your partners have an all exclusive pass to your BO-DAY. IF it is earned. Because Taurus is naturally slow moving energy, you may be slow to open up. As I’ve studied astrology for years now…I’ve come to realize that Taurus energy is just as private and cautious and it’s opposite sign, Scorpio. If you have this placement, you feel the need to study your lovers and you wait and wait and wait and wait and wait before you make your move. But if you are able to wrap them in your warm embrace…you won’t want to let go and they won’t want you to either.
Like Leo, when it comes to your sexual language, you believe in putting on a show. But your show is subtle, quaint and slow burning. You will have the candles burning, the scented lotion and fresh out the shower smell, you will have the most luxurious sheets on the most comfortable mattress. You don’t believe in cutting corners when it comes to your comfort and whoever is lucky enough to wind up in your bed, simply gets to enjoy how you live your life. I could bet you have an impeccable taste in music and truly know how to set the tone when it comes to seduction. As stated before, you are able to create a world of pure pleasure for those you love and make them spell-bound to you, because chances are, they haven’t been able to match with a sexual partner who cares so much about the details of ALL 6 senses. (I’m including intuition because, y’know, I’m a tarot and an astrology girlie.) For example, I dated this guy with heavy taurus placements a few years ago. I very much remember and very much miss this awesome TV room that he made for himself. Instead of having a regular degular couch, he had a couch that was also a bed. It wasn’t a couch that converted into a bed….it was just a couch that had a bed in it…and massive 70 inch television mounted on the wall. When I TELL you, I wanted to marry that man because….UGH!!! I was so comfortable! I could melt into the floor when I was with him. And I have YET to be with anyone who has a room set up quite like that. The feeling has stayed with me long after we have been together. THAT is what I mean by the power of Mars in Taurus. It lingers when you’re done!
On the other side, you of all signs, can be extremely jealous and possessive over your sexual partners. You DO NOT LIKE TO SHARE. AT. ALL. The 2nd House is all about owning and possessions and you may take this mindset with you into your romantic relationships. To the right person and in a healthy way, this can be enduring and make your partner feel safe and secure in your presence. In turn, you also want to know that your partner is crazy about you and cares deeply about your well-being. Again, in a healthy dynamic, a little jealousy and possessivness isn’t bad. It can show that someone does have an interest in you and takes pride in the fact that they are able to claim you as their own. This is just something to be mindful of in this placement, because if underdeveloped, it can lead to issues of selfishness & strong resistance to allow your partner’s freedom. Of course this can bleed over into the bedroom as well. You don’t want to get so focused on your own comfort that you end up putting your partner into a routine that they no longer enjoy. Your favorite position may not be their favorite positive. It can feel like eating lobster every single day. Like, yeah, Lobster is great day 1, maybe even day 2, but by day 5….yuck. Depending on other placements in your chart, you may attract partners who are very much like you, in the sense they prefer routine, OR you may attract partners who are so wild and out of the box, it forces you out of your comfort zone. All I can do is say embrace whatever floats your boat.
There is no doubt that you are one of the most sexual, sensual and passionate lovers of the zodiac. Your innate knowledge of pleasure makes you an expert in the bedroom and you can be hard to beat. Although it may take you a while to warm up, either physically or emotionally, you eventually show your partners that it is absolutely worth the wait! Because you tend to be safe and secure in yourself (the 2nd house rules self esteem) you share that safety and extend your protection to those you love the most. Your sexual language is unforgettable. You know how to love someone head to toe! WOOOOO!!!
Mars in Aries or Mars in the 1st House
“Dollhouse, dressed up, perfect messed up, Torture me to sleep, paint the air I breathe. Fishbowl, chokehold, dirty water, I’m cold. Dirty as can be, have your way with me.” Dollhouse (with Lily Rose Depp) by The Weeknd
If you have Mars in Aries or Mars in the 1st House, your sexual language is intense & powerful. You have a way of pulling people into your orbit just by being your unapologetic self! The force is with you! Best believe! And people feel it. You get what you want and you want what you get and you have a way of luring in your prospective sexual partner by projecting your lust onto them– so much so they feel it when they walk by you. Much like your sister, the Mars ruled Scorpio, there is a carnal desire that surrounds you. It’s magnetic. It’s magnificent. And it’s very fleeting.
When it comes to your bedroom pleasures, you can be a pioneer of the “Wham! Bam! Thank you ma’am or…sir” (not as cute of a rhyme) mindset. You may have a habit of treating your lovers like conquest– wanting to overpower them and wrap them up in your passionate fantasies. You deeply enjoy power play in your sex life. Yes, you could easily be the dominant one in your relationships, BUT you could also seek refuge in being submissive to your partner. How? I know it seems contradictory. But chances are, with this placement (unless it’s in a water sign in your first house) you are more than likely the boss and the leader in your everyday life…so when it comes to sex, you may want to just “relax” and let your partner do all the hard work for once. If that’s the case, you may be a bit of a brat in the bedroom because you still like to challenge your partner for shizz & giggles, but you are certainly fun and definitely unforgettable.
Your sex language is raw and real. You don’t like to hold back your passion and you appreciate a partner who can match your enthusiasm in the bedroom. You love the runner chaser dynamic, and again, you can easily play both parts. You are strong and competitive and don’t like to lose the interest of your lovers, even though you can get bored pretty easily. You may prefer quickies over long drawn up love sessions, but that doesn’t mean you don’t like to indulge your sinuses from time to time– you’re just not one of the most lovey dovey of the zodiac and prefer loud, wild, hot, steamy sex opposed to soft caresses and whispers of sweet nothings. You may also be a person who uses sexy time to advance a certain agenda. You could use sex as a tool of manipulation to get what you want. That may seem extreme, but think about a stripper using her sensuality as a means to make money so she can pay her way through law school. THAT’S what I mean. Because you may not be so shy about your sex appeal, if used correctly, it can be your weapon of choice when it comes to getting what you want from someone.
Passion matters to you more than most. You would prefer a risky lover than a predictable one. You also may be a fan of the ole’ break up to make-up trope. Make-up sex is always better. And you don’t mind starting a fight in the streets, simply to uh…you know…end it….in the sheets…..if you catch my drift. You aren’t one for subtleties. You are probably one of the most straightforward and upfront people in the world and you may play shy, but once you allow a person to get to know you, you don’t hold anything back. Because you are a cardinal energy, you always have a childlike flair to you! You keep things interesting and youthful. You’re not afraid to cross boundaries and push the limits of yourself & your partner in the midst of a sexual act. You really may think that sex is something that can be “won”. You want to be the best. You want to be the one that lovers can’t get enough of. You don’t appreciate being compared to others and honestly hear partners talking about their past as if it was some sort of challenge. You definitely have a jealous and possessive streak, but like I always say, when this is a healed energy it can be enduring to the right partner. As long as it’s not obsessive and unhealthy, you can provide comfort to your lovers that you are there for them and only them. You expect loyalty in return, of course, but you don’t mind protecting and defending what you see as your own. Your love is real. Your love is honest. Your love is young and wild and free!
Mercury 🌬. Your Love Language 🖤. How Do You Flirt 🙈🙊?
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✨INTRODUCTION:
ANYWAYS, I wanted to start off with something fun & light! As we officially move into Spooky Season— I couldn’t think of a better time to sharpen the witchy sexiness within us all. We will be looking at the Mercury placement in your natal chart & how it influences your flirtation style, while also exploring the pros/cons of each. It’s IMPORTANT to note, that Mercury is neutral & so other placements matter with how this can manifest in your life. Are you more aggressive & upfront? Or are you a hopeless romantic, imagining your lover rather than speaking to them…hoping they will notice you through telepathic signals?…WE SHALL SEE!!!
Love Languages are very important for a deeper understanding of how you receive & give love. This is NOT a definitive list, by any means, but I wanted to use the Zodiac to highlight different love languages that you MAY resonate with. This post will hopefully be a tool for you on your journey of self-discovery though dating! And this could be a good place to start OR a fresh perspective on stale dating situations.
✨Definitions:
Mercury:
Mercury, known as Budh in Vedic astrology, is the prince of planets and governs your abilities of speech, reasoning, and communication, as well as your digestive system, nervous system, and skin. It’s a neutral planet whose effects on your life depend on the alignment of the other planets in your horoscope [wikihow]
Flirting:
(to) behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions. [Oxford Language]
Love Language:
Our "love language" describes how we [give]/receive love from others.
They are:
Words of Affirmation - Saying supportive things to your partner
Acts of Service - Doing helpful things for your partner
Receiving Gifts - Giving your partner gifts that tell them you were thinking about them
Quality Time - Spending meaningful time with your partner
Physical Touch - Being close to and caressed by your partner
Each of us differs in the ways that we receive love. By learning to give love in the ways that our partner can best receive it, and by asking our partner to give us love in the ways that we can receive it, we can create stronger relationships.
[psychologytoday.com]
✨HOW TO READ:
You can read for your Zodiac Sign & House Placement!
— In this case, one might resonate more than the other! So I encourage you read for both placements!
If you’re feeling a little frisky, you can also read for your Venus placement because we are talking about “love”/relationships/dating
🌹ON WITH THE SHOW:
🌬Mercury in Aries/First House
Tarot Card: Page of Wands
If you have Mercury in Aries/1H, then you are a “get it how you live it” type b*tch! When it comes to flirting, shy is NOT the first word that comes to mind. You like to be upfront with your partners & can’t stand someone who beats around the bush. You ARE the bush. A burning bush…to be exact. (S/o to you if you get the reference.) You are a playful lover & have an optimistic & sometimes naive approach to dating— this can make you a very childlike flirt. Being ruled by Mars, you are extremely reactionary. You are the definition of picking up what someone else is putting down— As you get older, you will grow into initiating more, but you will ALWAYS be down for a fun, banter with someone you are interested in.
You may be the type of lover to start verbal arguments, just to spice things up a little bit. If you find yourself getting bored with a potential mate…well…they might as well kiss you goodbye & keep it pushing because you won’t stick around long for someone not willing to entertain your more youthful whims. If you have Mercury in the 1H in particular, you may flirt by telling a beaux about your accomplishments and lead with your competitive spirit. You may be attracted to people you meet at the gym— something about seeing someone all sweaty & fit can really turn you on.
The Pros/Cons of this placement is you LOVE the thrill of the chase. When someone has sparked your interest romantically, you will desire to be in constant communication with them. As I stated earlier, you are not shy. You don’t mind sending 2/3 text in a row if they don’t respond back quick enough. This can be enduring to the right partner, demonstrating loyalty & engagement, but to others, you may come off as “too much”. Don’t worry about it!!!! If you are “too much” for them, then by default, they are “not enough” for you. Just be mindful that not everyone has the speed that you possess when it comes to going after what you want. You will do well with a fellow Mercury in Fire Placement or Air placement. I suggest you stay away from Earth & Water sign Mercury until you learn patience within your own self— & that can be a lifelong journey. Your mind is very goal oriented, but also very short-sighted at times. Learn to balance it if you want to be in a long-lasting relationship. Everything can’t always move at your time.
Now, as much as you love the chase, you may not love the stability of “winning” as much. After you win the number one spot, you may want to mooooovvveeee on to the next cute thing that crosses your path. This can lead to attracting & entertaining truly unavailable partners. Because this is just a flirty post, it’s important to highlight that you are a MAJOR MAJOR MAAAJJOORRR flirt, but not necessarily because you are seeking a permeant relationship. This can manifest one of two ways (mostly), you can either fall head over heels with someone very quickly & then lose the passion for them just as quickly OR you never take relationships seriously to began with & you just enjoy catching a spark & getting a rise out of someone— (sometimes) a mixture of both. Either way, you are a flirt to your core & you love a little competition when it comes to your dating life with your partners. You love a good break-up to make-up type relationship, particularly in your youth, but you’re flirty power truly shines for letting people know what you want/expect quickly. You are not about wasting anytime!
🖤Love Language: Words of Affirmation
“Words of affirmation are words that communicate your love, appreciation, and respect for another person. They're positive words and phrases used to uplift someone. What's more, these compliments and words of encouragement don't have to be said directly to the person.” - verywellmind.com
🎶Song- Maneater by Nelly Furtado
“You either wanna be with me or be me (Come on, now)
Maneater, make you work hard
Make you spend hard, make you want all her love…
Make you cut cards, make you fall real hard in love”
🌬Mercury in Taurus/Second House
Tarot Card: King of Pentacles
If you have Mercury in Taurus/2H, your flirtation style is quite subtle. You possess an elegance in your speech, that most would envy. You also constantly have beauty, luxury & pleasure on the mind, so you lead with your senses. You may have a beautiful & sultry speaking voice, you may carry scent very well, & you CERTAINLY know how to set the vibe with great music, food & wine. Why? Because you ARE the vibe. Opposed to your Aries predecessor, you believe that slow & steady wins the race. You are a flirt simply because people are always trying to flirt with you! When someone approaches you, they may lead with “where did you get that shirt?” Or, “What perfume are you wearing”, just to get your attention. And the answer probably will be “you can’t afford it”. (Just kidding. Lol, you may know how to ball on a budget, but you tend to have expensive/exquisite taste.) You set the tone for some of the most sensual lovers.
Because you are so tuned in to your senses when it comes to dating, you take your time getting to know your partners before you spoil them with the full effect. You are a flirt who loves more of a slow burn & passion that builds overtime. You don’t mind taking things slowly, as long as you know the time is worth your investment.
The Pro/Con of this Mercury placement, is you believe in brutal honesty. This is a blessing & a curse. On one hand, your love interest never has to worry about where they stand with you or how you’re feeling. You have no problem opening up (after a while) to speak your mind clearly. And open communication is KEY to successful relationships. So this is a big big big ole plus. But…on the OTHER hand…you can be so caught up in your own truth, you may forget to actually listen to &/or consider your partner’s truth as well. BE CAREFUL. Taurus is a fixed energy, but fixed doesn’t always mean right…even if you’re right a lot. In the beginning dating phases, you may be too cutting with your words & turn parters off. This isn’t inherently a bad thing, but just be mindful that there is an art to honesty & it doesn’t always require brutality. You can soften your tone from time to time— sometimes the truth is overrated. (Now, full disclosure: I aaammm a Mercury in the 8H native, soooooo….I do admit that I’m the opposite & a bit biased, but there is balance to everything! I believe in a “need to know basis” type communication style.)
Once you are in a more grounded dating routine, you are a loyal, stable, giving, kind & a disciplined flirt. You will be far more consistent w your lovers when communicating— keeping an open dialogue when you move past some stubbornness. You appreciate a lover who is well-kept for. You’ll dish out the compliments to a well groomed, articulate & financially savvy partner, but your REAL flirt style lies in the way you touch. You will most likely communicate to your partners through cuddling & quality time. You will cook for people you care about, enticing them with all the goods in the world. You are more comfortable displaying affection through a soft touch or a simple kiss on the forehand. You love your partners to feel present in the moment, enjoying being alive & indulging in the sensual pleasures that life has to bring. YOU are a flirtation connoisseur!
🖤Love Language: Physical Touch
“If your love language is physical touch, then that means you prefer physical expressions of love over all other expressions (such as verbal compliments or gifts). Note that physical touch as a love language is not all about sex, although sex can be an important aspect of a romantic relationship.” -verywellmind.com
🎶Song: Satisfaction by Benny Benassi, The Biz
“Push Me
And then just touch me
Till I can get my
Satisfaction…”
🌬Mercury in the Gemini/Third House
Tarot Card: Queen of Swords
If you have Mercury in Gemini/3H you were BLESSED with the gift of gab. You are quick witted, light hearted & know how to entertain a person of interest with your sharp intellect. Because you are the most curious of the Zodiac, your flirt style involves asking A LOT of questions. You may find that as you’re getting to know people, you learn a heck of a lot about them & they know close to NOTHING about you. You could be SO good at being elusive, lovers may not even catch your name! There is a certain mystique that comes from this energy because you are the ultimate shape-shifter. It’s giving very Taylor Swift, “Find out what you want, be that girl for a month” energy with a fun & enthusiastic twist! When you flirt, people are enthralled by your knowledge. You know a little about a lot & can make yourself seem like an expert. You keep up with current events, gossip— basically anything that peaks your interest, & this makes you a one of a kind type person, not limited by close-mindedness & simplicity. In fact, some people could find you really difficult to keep up with. When it comes to small talk you are the best of the best.
The Pros/Cons of this placement is your mind is constantly racing. People who are interested in you/you are interested in may not realize just how deep into logic you fall at the prospect of a new relationship. Although you appear fluid & unfazed by casual dating & could be really good at it, you either desire something deeper bc of other placements in your chart, OR the idea of commitment really scares you. You let your imagination run wild very quickly & have a difficult time grounding serious energy. Again, this is a blessing & a curse. You’re able to navigate the dating world really well because you don’t take it too seriously, HOWEVER when it comes to making a deeper commitment you could take it FAR TOO seriously or not seriously enough. This can be confusing for your lovers because they never quite understand where they stand with you. Sometimes you’re all in & sometimes you’re all out. It would take a special person that would be interested in getting to know you past the shallow surface level that could truly peak your interest. You of all signs are able to hide behind banter, although you have a deeply curious & possibly oversaturated mind when it comes to getting to know someone. Regardless of how you flutter into people’s lives, they are always awe struck in your presence & feel a void when you leave. It really is a super power.
You are an amazing flirt! You get an A++ on the flirt test! Just be mindful that when you want something more serious & to explore truths in deep relationships, you will have to stop shape-shifting & be your authentic self—whoever that is. You have to truly let people in to your brain because people won’t naturally be able to keep up with how quickly you move. You could meet someone, imagine your life together and then “ooooo squirrel” & never think about that person again. Don’t hide behind your gift of being able to steer conversation— make an effort to have deep and meaningful conversations & you’ll be surprised how much people adore your natural, flighty & curious selves. I would stay away from Water Mercury placements more than anything. It’s not impossible, but because they operate from a more empathetic space, you would REALLY have to work on your communication because you may appear to cold & distant even if that isn’t your intention. It’s a catch 22 to have Mercury in a Mercury ruled sign because Mercury isn’t the most sexual of planets. You intellectualize relationships & could definitely find yourself on the Sapiosexual spectrum: meaning “Sapiosexuality is a type of sexuality that involves being more attracted by the contents of a person's mind than by the appearance of their body. In order to feel sexually attracted to another person, a sapiosexual person must first feel intellectually stimulated” according to verywellmind.com. You may not grasp the depth of others emotions because you feel flirting & dating is more of a mind game at times. Just be aware & have fun! Use your gifts wisely!
🖤Love Language: Words of Affirmation
“Words of affirmation are words that communicate your love, appreciation, and respect for another person. They're positive words and phrases used to uplift someone. What's more, these compliments and words of encouragement don't have to be said directly to the person.” - verywellmind.com
🎶Song: Thinkin Bout You by Frank Ocean
“I'm thinking 'bout you (Ooh no, no, no)
I've been thinking 'bout you (You know, know, know)
I've been thinking 'bout you
Do you think about me still? Do ya, do ya?
Or do you not think so far ahead
Cause I been thinking bout forever, ooh”
🌬Mercury in Cancer/Fourth House
Tarot Card: Page of Cups
If you have Mercury in Cancer/4H, your flirtation style is sweet & wholesome. You may be VERY VERY VERY VEEERRRYYYY shy when it comes to expressing your emotions because you can be caught trying to rationalize your emotions logically which is inherently a trap door. You may not even consider yourself much of a flirt like your Gemini predecessors. Of all placements, Mercury in Cancer is one that may be most likely to be a demisexual; meaning “Demisexuality is a sexual orientation in which a person feels sexually attracted to someone only after they've developed a close emotional bond with them,” according to clevelandclinic.org. (You may or may not resonate with that label, it’s okay!!! I am not trying to define who you are & how you love. I’m just offering an outside perspective! Take it or leave it! Love you either way :)) Even if you are a flirtatious person, who is comfortable meeting people & having light hearted conversations, depending on other placements in your chart, you are most moved by relationships that make you feel comfortable enough to truly express how you’re feeling— even if you don’t know how to put those feelings into words just yet! There is a natural loving quality that you have within your speech. You love nurturing those you care about & would make sure that their basic needs are taken care of if you are truly interested in them. You’ll want to know if they ate, how their day went & if they need anything from you when they get home. This is the true power of empathy this Mercury placement can posses. It is truly enduring to the right person of interest!
The Pros/Cons of this placement is you are so deeply in tune with your own emotions, you can make the poor assumption that those around you can read your mind about how you’re feeling. TRUTH BOMB!!!! They absolutely can’t. In fact, I would suggest that you partner with a fellow Mercury in Water sign because there can be SOME telepathy (still not mind readers though), particularly Mercury in Scorpio/8H OR Mercury in Earth placement because they MAY have more patience when it comes to your communication style. You may be the type to burst into tears before you even start talking because you are so overwhelmed with emotions. THIS IS NOT INHERENTLY A BAD THING! This is just something to beware of and I suggest you channel this energy into something creative! For instance, instead of crying about how your lover didn’t notice that you cut your hair…write a song about it! This can be a highly creative placement as long as you’re able to express what you’re feeling in a constructive manner. You’re empathetic nature is a wonderful gift to give to the world, but most importantly to your partners! They will appreciate the care & consideration you give to them during the courting phases of a new relationship!
When you are able to balance your own emotions with understanding your partners communication style as well, you can have one of the deeper level connections— hence why flirting may work for or against you. If you are a flirt flirt FLIRT, you could be hiding behind your deeper emotions, not wanting to let anyone take advantage of your kindness…but on the other hand, if you prefer to stay in your shell, you should put yourself out there enough to meet someone who fulfills your needs for companionship— someone who cares about you the same way you care about them. Try not to be emotionally manipulative when it comes to dating either. You could fall into the trap of flirting by playing the damsel in distress role. Again, not always a bad thing (some placements play too tough & that’s not great either, there is always a balance) but when it comes to developing true & authentic connections, the victim/savior dynamic can only take you but so far & ultimately leave you feeling more abandoned than loved in the end. Lead with you caring side & you will find the partner who understands your need to be emotionally understood!
🖤Love Language: Quality Time
“People who speak the love language of quality time want to be the object of their lover's undivided attention. They want to feel cherished and prioritized, and rather than receiving gifts, words, acts, or touch, they prefer to simply spend meaningful time together.” — blinkist.com
🎶Song: Loveeeee Song by Rihanna ft. Future
“Boy, lately you've been stingy with your time
Got me wondering, I'm wondering if I'm on your mind
Boy, I just wanna be in your possession
You say I'm the one you want, so come express it…
I don't wanna give you the wrong impression
I need love and affection
And I hope I'm not sounding too desperate
I need love and affection”
🌬Mercury in Leo/Fifth House
Tarot Card: King of Wands
If you have Mercury in Leo/5H, your flirtation style is bold & in your face. You KNOW your worth & you get off on letting people know you know it! You know how to make an entrance & people are naturally entranced by your regal & authoritative nature. People of interest may find it hard to approach you because you seem so out of their league. It’s only natural that you get put on a pedal stool. You care a lot about your appearance & how you come off to others. You don’t like to be outshines when it comes to flirting, so you may be drawn to individuals who are well liked or already in relationships. Why? Not because you’re a home-wrecker, but because you may prefer some competition. You carry yourself in such a way, you are hard to miss. When you speak, people listen. You may also be HIGHLY creative, so your need for expression can draw in an audience that is amazed by your talent & beauty. Being ruled by the Sun, you really know how to light up a room.
There is an aura about you that screams “don’t talk to me, unless you can buy me a diamond ring”. You may or not be materialistic, of course this depends on other placements in your chart, but you do come off that way regardless. You only want the best of what the world has to offer— the best food, the best friends & the best lovers! You can be quite selective about who you chose to flirt with because you are naturally an extremely loyal person. You want to make sure that you are aligning yourself with the best, the brightest & the most beautiful. You are the definition of having standards when it comes to dating! And that’s an amazing gift.
The Pros/Cons of this placement is that you can come off as very “me” centered. People can take your need to feel important as you assuming they are less important, which isn’t necessarily the case. You are a very open & caring person & would fight for anyone you love— however, in the dating phases, it may seem as if you only care about yourself. How do you combat this? Just remember to take a step back from time to time & spoil your partner by listening to them & giving them your undivided attention. Combat your urge to interject with your personal antidotes. Don’t worry, you’ll have your time to shine again! I highly suggest you seek out like minded Mercury placements, like other Fire signs or even Air Signs. They will be able to understand that you are not so self-absorbed, but rather just speaking from your personal experiences. You will just have to be careful to not create an atmosphere that feels as if you & your person of interest are fighting for dominance in communication. This can be done with patience & understanding.
You are a razzle-dazzle kind of lover & anyone who is amazing enough to peak your interest is a lucky-ducky indeed! You will go to war for those you care about & your unwavering loyalty is something to envy. Those that are attracted to you will be overjoyed with how much fun & creativity you bring into their lives. You have great taste & only enjoy the best for you and your loved one! A great flirt you are indeed…to the rich— I mean “right”— person, of course!
🖤Love Language: Giving/Receiving Gifts
“If one's love language is gift giving, it simply means that one received early in life the clear communication that giving a gift is an important, acceptable, and/or clear way to show others how you feel about them and that you love and appreciate them” — womenshealthmag.com
🎶Song: Get the Party Started by Pink
“Get this party started on a Saturday night
Everybody's waitin' for me to arrive
Sendin' out the message to all of my friends
We'll be lookin' flashy in my Mercedes Benz
I got lotsa style, check my gold diamond rings
I can go for miles if you know what I mean
I'm comin' up so you better get this party started
(I'm comin' up, I'm comin')
I'm comin' up so you better get this party started”
🌬Mercury in Virgo/Sixth House
Tarot Card: Queen of Pentacles
If you have Mercury in Virgo/6H your flirtation style is particularly unique & interesting. Why? Because you tend to be very shy & to yourself. You’re a deep thinker, constantly problem solving & attempting to get the most perfect outcome to any given situation. You tend to be EXTREMELY detail oriented & focus on the little things in life. Because you have this desire for perfection, you are very cautious with your words & expressions. You, like Cancer Mercury placements, tend to stick to yourself— you may not be the most open person when pursuing a new lover. Instead of talking about your feelings…you would THRIVE in the Era of love letters! You are beautifully articulate & well spoken, so when you are able to physically write your emotions out, you can use words & written language as a tool to express your most loving thoughts. If this placement was a movie— it would be The Notebook. Truly a romantic placement, but quite honestly, misunderstood when it comes to flirting. You, like your Leo predecessor, care A LOT about how you come off. You keep manicured nails & toes, clean hair, because you care about cleanliness & this is a subtle way of letting your person of interest know you are, in fact, interested. When you truly desire someone, you want to appear your best at all times. You get voted most likely to cancel a date because you broke a nail. Again, others may perceive this as shallow or you using it as an excuse to distance yourself, but that is so far from the truth. As Mercury is your ruling planet, you are a master communicator— particularly when it comes to poetry & prose— but Mercury is arguably the most a-sexual planet, so it is a bit of a catch 22. Like your brother sign Gemini, may THINK too much about love, instead of actually experiencing it. The difference is Geminis LOVE to flirt, kind of like an intellectual sparring match, where you love the idea of love & would rather write about it in your journal, rather than approach that person in real life. How cute!
The Pros/Cons of this placement is that you can be hard to read for your person of interest. You really have to make it a point to communicate how you’re feeling about them in poetic/artistic ways. Virgo/6H placement naturally carry a hermetic type energy, craving solitude to think things through. This is not inherently a bad thing, it just means you have to do due diligence of incorporating potential lovers into your life/routines & ultimately into your mind. When this placement is in a low vibration or simply underdeveloped, you may “flirt” by being nitpicky & starting petty arguments with your lovers. This placement can have an undying need to be right & miss the big picture because they are too busy focusing on small details. BE MINDFUL! This is something that makes your mind great & quick & honestly, necessary in the world to have such a wonderful problem solver— HOWEVER, this can be a turn off when in the early dating phases because it can come off in a way that you feel as if you a better than someone else OR that the people you date need fixing, & aren’t already good enough. This may not be your intention, but be sure to let people express themselves in the best way they know how. Critique to help, but don’t get stuck just criticizing to criticize. This can be a very thin balance, but vital for the longevity of any relationship.
You are a dedicated & service oriented type lover. You would much rather demonstrate your love through doing, rather than just out right “flirting”. You show up 15-minutes early for a date you are truly excited about & make sure to wear the finest linens. Although you may appear to go above & beyond for lovers in the beginning phases, if you feel as if you are being taken for granted, you are on to the next quick, fast & in a hurry, like you brother sign, Gemini. You don’t hesitate to keep it pushing. This is the beauty of having a Mercury ruled sign in the Mercury placement— your mind is quick, so sometimes you can go through lover’s quickly. Leaving them in the DUST for some of the pettiest reasons! While you’re young…enjoy!!! But as you grow, you may need to understand that the perfect partner doesn’t exist, so you’ll never find what you’re seeking if you don’t allow a little fluidity into your love life. Learn to have fun & be open! You’d probably do best with a fellow Mercury in Virgo person, simply because Virgo energy understands Virgo energy best…if not, Taurus/Capricorn COULD be a great match also!
🖤Love Language: Acts of Service
“In terms of intimate relationships, Acts of Service is a language that can best be described as doing something for your partner that you know they would like, such as filling up their gas, watering their plants, or cooking them a meal.” — verywellmind.com
🎶Song: Cater 2 U by Destiny’s Child
“Let me cater to you
'Cause baby this is your day
Do anything for my man
Baby you blow me away
I got your slippers
Your dinner
Your dessert and so much more
Anything you want
Let me cater to you
Inspire me from the heart
Can't nothing tear us apart
You all I want in a man
I put my life in your hands”
🌬Mercury in Libra/Seventh House
Tarot Card: Page of Swords
If you have Mercury in Libra/7H, You. Are. The. ULTIMATE. Flirt. Only rivaled by Gemini, although you can be FAR more touchy-feely. Of course this depends on other placements in your chart, but you KNOW how to turn on the charm. You are charisma personified. You are most likely an attractive person on the outside, but regardless of your outer appearance, you have an extremely attractive mind. You are balanced & logical & want nothing but fairness when it comes to your relationships. Unlike your opposite sign, Aries, you lead with the other person. You flatter them. You don’t mind dishing out the compliments & don’t see your romantic interest as competition, but rather a compliment to you. You, like Leos, have HIGH standards when it comes to your lovers. You won’t just settle down with anyone. You go through a LONG process of LITERALLY weighing your options, so you can be hard to pin down. You, of all signs, are able to find beauty & equality in all things…hence why you are SUCH a flirt. If you see something/someone you like, you have no problem telling them you like their shirt with a quick wink, HOWEVER, very rarely are you truly trying to make something last out of a simple playful interaction. This can lead you to having a plethora of admirers, but no one that you see anything seriously with. This is a great placement to have for business dealing & if you’re interested in politics. You know how to read a room, read a person & act accordingly. You are so dang likable it can be sickening! The irony in this placement is you take your relationships VERY seriously. You actually prefer to be in a commitment more than any other signs. You enjoy being dutiful & find purpose when you are integrated into someone else’s fabric of life. BUT. When it comes to casual dating, you are gone with the wind fabulous. You are here for a good time & not a long time. You can separate a serious commitment from a fling like no other. This can be INFURIATING to people who are trying to pursue you because you seem so unbothered even though you gave them a wonderful compliment & treated them so well.
The Pros/Cons of this placement is how long is can take for you to pick a partner to settle down with. In the dating realm, this is almost a perfect placement. You are considerate, passionate when you need to be, lovable & fun! But on the other hand, when it comes to taking a dating situation to the next level, you can get cold feet— again, weighing the pros & cons of being in a relationship because you actually understand the sacrifice that it takes to be in a commitment. And sadly, if you don’t think the person if worth sacrificing for entirely OR you’re just not in a space to sacrifice to being with...that lover can FORGET IT! As much as you enjoy beauty & light-hearted dating, Libra is still very much a masculine sign. Regardless of gender (or lack of gender), you tend to want to be the provider in your relationships. You enjoy the delicate balance of give & take, feminine & masculine energy, in any of your longterm commitments. And if anyone disrupts that, you will not stick around. On the outside looking in, you may seem wishy-washy & non-committal, but that actually isn’t the case. You WILL commit, but only after you have thought about it from all angles & sides. You are rational minded & sometimes this can hurt the people around you because what you said in passing may have meant nothing to you, but everything to them! PLUS, when you are in a full blown commitment, you may still come across as flirty, whether you intend to or not. Your partners will have to require a lot of trust & understanding about how you express yourself. You’re just a “nice” person who wants the world to be a more beautiful place— one flirt at a time. I recommend you stick with other Air Signs or Fire Signs Mercury placements, because other people may misinterpret your nature. But if you’re with a Fire sign, they will desire fast communication & that may overwhelm you from time to time so just be mindful.
All in all, this is a wonderful placement when it comes to communication & flirting in casual relationships because you are so fair minded. You don’t like to stop on people’s toes, but sometimes you can feel like you’re leading people on if they don’t understand that you’re just a naturally flirty person. You can hand out words, kisses & compliments out like candy! Be careful that you’re not rotting someone’s sweet tooth!
🖤Love Language: Physical Touch
“If your love language is physical touch, then that means you prefer physical expressions of love over all other expressions (such as verbal compliments or gifts). Note that physical touch as a love language is not all about sex, although sex can be an important aspect of a romantic relationship.” -verywellmind.com
🎶Song: Nevermind by Dennis Lloyd
“All I, I ever ask, ever ask
Are you gonna, are you gonna be my lover?
Tonight, and take it with, take it with me
Take it with me, hmm…
What if I left and it made no sense
And you tell your friends
And they hold your hands
Baby, nevermind, nevermind
Nevermind, nevermind”
🌬Mercury in Scorpio/Eighth House
Tarot Card: King of Cups
If you have Mercury in Scorpio/8H, your flirtation style isn’t so “flirty” in the traditional sense. With this placement, you tend not to trust people too easily, so you’re not the biggest fan of small talk. This inherent contradiction of a “non-communicative” mercury makes you an interesting & complex lover that people are drawn to get to know. You more so operate from “energies” & “vibes”, & people are either drawn to you like a moth to a flame or repelled by you like a moth to flying insect spray…lol. However, you have an unmistakable allure & you shift energy when you walk into a room. Just as elusive as a Gemini & yet somehow as dreamy as a Pisces— this unique combination makes your lovers fixed on you, projecting their deepest darkest desires on you, wanting to uncover whatever it is you’re hiding. Almost as if you are a lost cave of hidden knowledge & gems, just waiting to be discovered. Truth is…you’re most likely just shy! Now, don’t get me wrong, you are certainly one of the deepest thinkers of the Zodiac. You have fascinating interest in the occult & keep your feelings close to your chest, but this is usually a defense mechanism to an extent because you fear if people know what you’re thinking, then they may be able to control your mind. And as Mars as your ruler, you are all about control— and in this case, mind control. This works 2 ways. When you flirt, it may come off as obsession. Much like your brother sign, Aries, when you “want” something/someone, it’s not just want, it’s desire, it’s craving, it’s intoxicating infatuation. You can be a bold lover, striking when the time is right…but if the time is not right…you will wait & wait & wait & wait & wait— like a Jaguar hunting its unassuming prey.
The Pros & Cons of this placement is that you have a mighty powerful gaze & aura surrounding you. If the color black was a person, it would be you. You’re beautifully dark, but yet the depths & hues of the nuances of your personality are hard to tell unless someone is REALLY looking. You test lovers more than any other sign to make sure they are truly giving you their undivided attention— much like what you have given to them. You expect loyalty & honesty from your lovers ALTHOUGH you may not give them the same in return. Your version of honesty can be quite controversial. You believe in the “Policy of Truth”, if you truly care about someone & want to know them on a deeper level, you will leave out things that don’t put you in the best light. This placement can be very manipulative when it comes to how & what you choose to communicate to a person that you desire. Your lovers will have to earn your trust before you give them truth & this can be a SLOW process. Because of this personality trait, you may or may not be all that “flirty”. In Western Astrology, Scorpios are almost always described as the sexual beings of the zodiac & that is true…HOWEVER, you crave a deeeeeppppp level of intimacy & connection that casual dating/flirting usually doesn’t allow, making you one of the most difficult partners to actually end up in the bedroom with. You can come across as very fickle & hard to pin-down to people you are not equally trying to connect with. With this placement, you will not connect with just anyone, thus making you one of the least “flirty” Mercury placements at first glance. Although you may be able to develop a way with words as time passes, you must at least feel you will be able to gain something out of the exchange. You are far too intense for casual love affairs. Now passionate love affairs— is right up your ally!
Having Mercury in such a deep sign, again makes you a deep thinker, unlike other placements who gloss over people, you want to know EVERYTHING & I mean EVERYTHING about a potential mate. The irony here is, your way of flirting can be a form of stalking. You will dig & dig & dig & dig into the personal life of lovers, or you will ask the deepest questions to attempt to get into their psychology— deep psych evaluations & damn near hypnotism is your way of “flirting”. Many of your lovers may not even realize you are in pursuit of them, while on the other hand, you may not comprehend how deeply someone is wanting to connect with you. Due to the mixture of pure shyness & mystique, you are an astounding lover that oozes of pure, unfiltered, sex appeal WHEN IT IS EARNED. The trickiest part of this placement, is people will want to fill in the blanks about you if they don’t know. You can be subject to nasty rumors or people making CRAZY assumptions about you, but it’s simply because they want to explain the inexplicable. You have a certain energy that people dream of exploring, yet may not be up for how deep they would have to dive in order to truly get to know you. Any lover that only gets to know you in a causal sense will always be left with a lingering feeling of wondering what you were truly hiding in that closet of yours.
🖤Love Language: Quality Time
“People who speak the love language of quality time want to be the object of their lover's undivided attention. They want to feel cherished and prioritized, and rather than receiving gifts, words, acts, or touch, they prefer to simply spend meaningful time together.” — blinkist.com
***For you of all signs, I probably say you’d need the most love languages to be demonstrated in order to feel safe & secure in a relationship. Everyone identifies with multiple, but you NEED to see all the proof in the pudding before you take a leap of faith with someone.
🎶Song: Every Breath You Take by The Police
“Every breath you take
Every move you make
Every bond you break
Every step you take
I'll be watching you…
Oh can't you see
You belong to me?
How my poor heart aches with every step you take.”
***hehe, this is one of my all time favorite songs…& it is FAR from a love song, but as a Mercury in the 8H person myself…I think it’s a funny song choice aaannndddd somewhat accurate! You know how we are! Lol
🎶Bonus song!!! (Don’t tell the others lol)
To The End- My Chemical Romance
“If you marry me,
Would you bury me?
Would you carry me to the end?
🌬Mercury in Sagittarius/Ninth House
Tarot Card: Queen of Wands
If you have Mercury in Sagittarius/9H, your flirtation can take quite a few different forms. As a mutable sign, you’re like Gemini & Pisces (Virgo, yes, but not so much in this case), so you are able to adapt to any environment, possessing a shape-shifter type energy. The major difference between you & the others is, you believe the truth will set you free, so after awhile, your true colors will always shine through to your romantic interested. You could be attracted to people who are different than you in some way. Sagittarius/9H energy is all about expanding your horizons, & connecting with people of different cultures & backgrounds is a way to see the world through a different set of lenses! This is a wonderful trait because you almost always carry an exoticness within your essence. You may not feel super special in your home town, but once you travel to different areas, people will know that you are not from around there. In this case, seeing as we are talking about Mercury, it shows up particularly in the way you think/communicate. Perhaps you have a distinct accent. You are just as curious as Gemini about the outside world, but instead of focusing on the day to day mechanics & “gossip”, you’d rather talk about more philosophical questions & debate about religion, meditation & yoga. You honestly flirt by preaching to those you are interested in. You crave someone who is a free thinker & can talk about anything. You are as much of a student of life as you are a teacher and you will not be caught DEAD flirting with a dumb-dumb. Intelligence is what turns you on, but it doesn’t have to be “book smart”. You are so open to different ideas in the world & you value someone who can teach you the laws of the land & navigate the way of the streets. It’s giving very Princess Jasmine & Aaladin vibes in this case. You will flirt & be attracted to the “street rats” of the world because they can offer you a different experience than what you are used to.
The Pros/Cons of this placement is you can come off as self-righteous and kind of a know-it-all to potential suiters. More than likely, you have received some form of higher education or have traveled around more than your next door neighbor. This is not inherently a bad thing, but this is the magic of knowing when to turn on and off the charm. You could easily want to lead with how worldly & experienced you are, which is an amazing thing, but understand, that is a privilege! So please be mindful not to “rub it in” everyone’s faces that you are an interesting and well-traveled person, and also try not to judge others for not being on the same level as you. Just smile & keep it moving, there is no need to argue. On the other hand, because this can be such a spiritual placement, you may find yourself to be quite “close-minded”, when it comes to YOUR religion, YOUR philosophy of life, & YOUR truth. The passion you posses about your views is something that most will admire, BUT if you’re coming off as someone who assumes they are better or have the moral high ground, again, this can be a turn off to any potential love interest.
Your love for learning & teaching is unique & extraordinary. You carry within you a vessel of knowledge & experiences that some would only dream of! It puts you in a little bit of an awkward situation when it comes to your love life though, because student/teacher relationships aren’t *supposed* to be “sexy”. This is a bit of a mixed bag. In today’s society, it can be assumed that a teacher is abusing their power by pursuing a student. (I am not speaking about elementary school through high school!!! I’m speaking about adult relationships!!!! Think Guru/Yogi student, Preacher/Subject in Congregation etc.) But in your case, you most likely wouldn’t have it any other way. You desire to learn from your partners. If they can’t teach you something, then they can kick rocks! You are humbled by a knowledgeable person, who has also spent their life seeking truth, the same way you have. You may find yourself drawn to certain professors or people in powerful positions where people listen to what they have to say. Or, you may be the person who draws a lot of people towards you because you have such a database of wisdom that people find attractive! This has the potential to be a GREAT love affair with the right person, but I wouldn’t say you are much of a “flirt” in the traditional sense. You’d hand your love interest a book that you found insightful before a bouquet of roses!
🖤Love Language: Quality Time
“People who speak the love language of quality time want to be the object of their lover's undivided attention. They want to feel cherished and prioritized, and rather than receiving gifts, words, acts, or touch, they prefer to simply spend meaningful time together.” — blinkist.com
🎶Song: Part of Your World by Halle Bailey
“…And ready to know what the people know
Ask 'em my questions and get some answers
What's a fire and why does it, what's the word?
Burn?
When's it my turn?
Wouldn't I love, love to explore that shore up above?
Out of the sea
Wish I could be
Part of that world”
(yes, the black one!! S/o to representation, but also s/o to Jodi Benson, the OG Little Mermaid, she served on this song!)
🌬Mercury in Capricorn/Tenth House
Tarot Card: Page of Pentacles
If you have Mercury in Capricorn/10H, your flirting style is business, business, business. This is not to say that you are NOT flirty, because you definitely can be— particularly as you get older— but you flirt with a goal in mind. You’ll flirt for a job promotion, you’ll flirt for priority seating at the fanciest restaurants, you’ll flirt for a discount at Trader Joe’s. You flirt to save money & flirt to earn money. That is what really matters to you. Again, this may come off as shallow, or “gold-digger” type vibes, but there is nothing more than this Mercury sign craves more than mental SECURITY, which goes hand in hand with financial security. You depend on stable relationships, so you can take dating toooooo seriously. If you don’t see the benefit of investing in someone longterm, then…you just won’t. It’s open & shut. With this placement, you are VERY selective with your words. You don’t like to waste time on meaningless conversations because you are a firm believer that time is money. HOWEVER, when you find someone that is worth your time, you give everything to that person & more. It is worth noting here, that Capricorn energy is represented by The Devil card in Tarot. Meaning, that Capricorn energy is the embodiment of temptation & desire. You, more than any other sign, actually know how to entrance your person of interest by talking. You can speak of wonderful plans & goals you have, expensive things that you’ve bought, rare wines that you’ve tasted & lure in an unassuming subject like pray. You even may have a very distinct & sultry voice that is low & earthy. You have a resonance with others because you appear so grounded, cool, calm & collected when you speak. This can instantly be a turn on to the target you have in mind.
The Pros/Cons of this placement is you can take quite a long time to learn how to express yourself, leaving your partners in a very confused state. You, like your Cancer opposite, can spend too much time trying to rationalize your needs in a relationship, rather than actually experiencing the relationship. Because you can be so goal oriented, you don’t leave much time for error or fun in your early years. This can come off as cold & distant to people attempting to pursue you in a romantic way— it’s almost as if you are always just out of reach because you are too busy working on your next big project! This isn’t a bad thing, per say, it just means you have to carve out time for your lovers & be intentional with your dating. Dating & getting to know people just for the heck of it, isn’t a waste of time! It can be nice to go out, laugh & take your mind off of the stress of work or your ambitions. So there is magic in remaining open to potential lovers, you may be surprised at how much you enjoy other people’s company that aren’t talking about work work work. You are WAY more of a do-er than a talker & this can be taken for granted in your relationships. Make sure you end up with someone who understands your need for validation when it comes to the work you do & the bacon that you bring home. You will be the BIGGEST flirt on the planet for someone who acknowledges & appreciate the level of focus & discipline you exude when it comes to your work & romantic relations.
You honestly have the potential to be one of the more flirty signs of the Zodiac, because Saturn, your Mercury ruler, is all about delay and NOT denial. You could have had issues reading or writing as a child that have made you shy, but I bet you’re one of the best readers & writers now! Same with flirting! You may feel awkward in your teens & young 20s, not knowing how to navigate such a crazy dating world, but as you learn the tricks of the trade, you will be able to have one of a kind banter with powerful & influential people. You age like wine, only getting better, tastier & more expensive with time!
🖤Love Language: Acts of Service
“In terms of intimate relationships, Acts of Service is a language that can best be described as doing something for your partner that you know they would like, such as filling up their gas, watering their plants, or cooking them a meal.” — verywellmind.com
🎶Song: Chemtrails Over the Country Club by Lana Del Rey
“I’m on the run with you, my sweet love
There's nothing wrong contemplating God
Under the chemtrails over the country club
Wearing our jewels in the swimming pool
Me and my sister just playing it cool
Under the chemtrails over the country club
What to do next? Maybe we'll love it
White picket chemtrails over the country club
My love, my love…
It's never too late, baby, so don't give up”
🌬Mercury in Aquarius/Eleventh House
Tarot Card: King of Swords
If you have Mercury in Aquarius/11H, your flirtation style is hard to easily put into words. You’re really not much of a flirt UNTIL you are SUPER DUPER comfortable with someone. You flirt by making friends. You’re open-minded, like Sagittarius, but you’re retrained like Capricorn. This puts you in a very delicate balance when it comes to casual dating. You tend to be extremely futuristic & innovative in your thinking— in fact, this placement can signify a genius level comprehension skill, great scientist & technical/skilled artist have this placement— so it may be awkward for you when first meeting new love interest. You may have deep interest in Sci-Fi or technology. You like gadgets & can constantly be tinkering with things, or have a very niche interest like…Vedic astrology for example, so it can be more difficult for you to connect to people on a day to day basis just because your ideas can seem so radical and “out-there”. This is a BEAUTIFUL thing to someone who understands you. They will never be bored with the conversation, although at times, they may have trouble keeping up. I suggest you date fellow Air sign Mercurys because they will be interested in the same things you’re interested in, or at least be curious enough to look into it! Because you march to the beat of your own drum, your flirt style will be equally as unique as you are. You could flirt by explaining to someone quantum mechanics or by telling them how Picasso was an absolute genius when it came to the color blue in his blue series or the difference between the tropical astrology system & the sidereal. The conversations are limitless with you and a person of interest!
The Pros/Cons of this placement is you may feel quite isolated when it comes to communicating your ideas to potential lovers. You may feel as if your ideas are “too weird” and you don’t want to scare them off! OR you just have troubles relating to the “common man” because your brain is just far beyond keeping up with Kardashians. You care about world peace, and helping others, so you may not be super interested in the latest gossip. I mean C’mon…THERE ARE KIDS DYING IN AFRICA, KIM! (That’s a joke…lol) You care more about how the algorithms work on instagram, rather than scrolling through the content, so this can make you feel outcast in the dating scene. Feeling excluded is the hallmark of Aquarius energy. THIS ISN’T A BAD THING!!!!! It just means it may take you a longer time to find your soul tribe & chances are, your soulmate will be a friend first before a lover. Because you have a fixed placement, you cherish the people who come into your life that understand you on a mental & spiritual level. You may not care as much about looks, gender or social class as some of the other placements do when it comes to dating— you can be very flexible when it comes to who you fall in love with, just because it’s so hard for you to find people who vibrate on your same wavelength. YOU have the mind that keeps the culture moving forward. You are the inventors & creators of the generations! You’re the trend setters & trailblazers which can be a lonely lonely road when it comes to causal things like dating. Again, it is imperative for you to find likeminded people who get you or get that they don’t get you but still don’t judge you for it! You’re more of a mental flirt than anything else! You enjoy intelligent conversation & would die of boredom listening to someone who is small minded.
You will be one of the most fascinating & intriguing lover to anyone who actually takes the time to get to know you! In some cases, a Scorpio/8H mercury may be compatible because they will view you as a never ending puzzle they need to solve. Either way, you’ll need to be with someone who wants to dig deeper into you, past your seemingly eccentric nature & get to know the loving kind side of you. You are more likely to fall for a friend or someone in your friendship circle because you know you have things in common. You could also be far more comfortable dating on an online setting, in virtual realities of some sort! Things in common/true compatibility in the most important thing to you when it comes to flirting & dating. You don’t care much for frivolous banter although you may be good at it— there will always be a voice inside of you saying “this person is sooooooo dumb”. All I ask, is that you remain humble when meeting people, different people are in different areas of life & we can’t judge them on the level they are on. The moment you do that & start accepting people for who they are, the “Right” people will be drawn into your energy field & you’ll feel truly accepted by those that love you & that you love!
Side Side Side note: You are also the sign that would most likely thrive in a polyamorous relationship (multiple partners at once), because you are capable of loving multiple friends at one time. You very well may not be interested in open-relationships, because you are a fixed sign & value loyalty & stability…but you may do well in one. You wouldn’t fall victim to jealousy & possessiveness as much as other signs.
🖤Love Language: Words of Affirmation
“Words of affirmation are words that communicate your love, appreciation, and respect for another person. They're positive words and phrases used to uplift someone. What's more, these compliments and words of encouragement don't have to be said directly to the person.” - verywellmind.com
🎶Song: Dirty Feeling by Lolawolf
“I got a dirty feeling that it's going down
I got that dirty feeling
Look at ya, look at ya
Move slow
Slow on the low, slow on the low
Low, low
Low
Boy you should go now
Boy you should go
I can see what's coming, oh no
I know you've been gunning
I got a dirty feeling that it's going down”
🌬Mercury in Pisces/Twelfth House
Tarot Card: Queen of Cups
If you have Mercury in Pisces/12H, your flirtation style works on a cosmic level. You radiate vibes, like sonic waves, that lure in your object of desire. You can be quite shy in real life, but there is an elusive quality about you that causes people to yearn for you & be drawn towards you. You are extremely slippery when it comes to the dating field, because you, like Aquarius, your predecessor, are naturally extraordinarily other worldly! (After all, you are 2 houses after the 10H of the world, so you’ve busted out of the matrix in some way). You seem to be neither here, nor there. You float through life & people may never know or not know where they stand with you because chances are, they may not even know where you are. Your dreamlike nature is a literal dream come true for some, & so flirting with you seems as if they met someone from the movies. You’re real, but are you real? You’re here, but are you here? That type of energy. When you like someone, you will want to dissolve into each other’s world. You’ll want to be with them, meeting on such a spiritual level, that language isn’t the prime way you communicate. You feel your partners rather than listen to them…which can work for and against you, depending on how strong your relationship is with the other person. Because you are one of the most empathetic placements, when it comes to a person of interest, you want to be valuable to them by helping them through their personal spiritual journey. Due to this nature, you may be attracted/drawn to lost souls & lost souls may be attracted/drawn to you as well. You prefer a partner with a past, because you desire to show them a bright & escapist type future. You are called to break chains for your lovers, so your flirty style can be wholesome & very loving.
The Pros/Cons of this placement is exactly what makes it great— you’re otherworldliness. You understand the world through vibrations & energies, not necessarily though words & actions. You see deeply into people & have an extremely psychic ability that only a privileged few are privy to. You probably communicate through music & sound. You would be far more comfortable sharing a song or writing a song about your feelings for someone than being able say it! And to be fair, the songs you write/share may not even have lyrics! You would be more likely to flirt by telling someone “you make me feel like the color orange” or “you remind me of the discord in Beethoven’s Fifth” than being like “hey, I think you’re cute!”. This is wonderfully romantic, but if your partner doesn’t think like you do, well, then you run the risk of feeling rejected & emotionally abandoned by them. This mercury sign, more than other, has to learn how to communicate on a practical level. With your opposite sign being Virgo, master communicators, you get left holding the bag of trying to figure out how to put your experiences into words that people can relate & identify with. Of COURSE, I recommend that you channel your energy into art, you will be understood by some, but you have to put yourself out there & not get lost in the fantasy of it all. Jupiter, your ruling planet, is all about blending the lines & expansion, which is a beautiful thing, but sometimes the real restraints that we have in the world can limit people being able to connect— especially when it comes to fleeting relationships.
Your nature can be so light & inviting, or it can be like a dark black abyss with no end in sight…much like the oceans fish inhabit. People will want to project their deepest desires/fears on to you, because you reflect back to them like clear water. They see a distorted version of themselves in you & this can be very challenging when it comes to dating & flirting. You will need partners who are grounded & level-headed, but also understand your need to be understood in non-traditional communicative ways. You have a gorgeously creative mind that sees the possibilities in the world, rather than the poverties. You are able to find beauty in the most broken of people, places & things, because you perhaps feel broken and forsaken by the world yourself. This is not an easy placement, but it has the most potential for true spiritual enlightenment! Dating may not be your strong suit, but connection to source sure is! You will find people who appreciate & celebrate the gifts that you have to offer, even if it gets lost in translation from time to time! You are an exquisite mermaid from beyond the sea!
🖤Love Language: Giving/Receiving Gifts
“If one's love language is gift giving, it simply means that one received early in life the clear communication that giving a gift is an important, acceptable, and/or clear way to show others how you feel about them and that you love and appreciate them” — womenshealthmag.com
🎶Song: In My Head by Lil Tjay
“I got some funny feelings in my head
And girl, I don't know what to call it (call)
Too iffy and quick, I can't say that it's love
But I know that I want some more of it (more)
These feelings, been stuck in my head
Ain't too big on love, but with you, I'm all for it (no)
See the world, me and you, we can tour it
Fuck all them bitches, they ain't shit, they ignorin'
Daily you be on my mind
My heart hurt beat and bruised, from the owner before it
Your Rising Sign ✨. The Male Gaze 👀. & Female Character Movie/TV Tropes 📺.
Are you the manic pixie dream girl or the femme fatale?!
Astro Observations 🪐
Using Movies & TV shows, I’ll be talking about observations I’ve made about rising signs! This is just my opinion! You are more than welcome to share your thoughts in the comment section!
(If you know your sidereal Rising Sign Naksaktra EVEN BETTER!)
Disclaimer:
BARE WITH ME HERE!!! This post is written in a VERY generalized way. I am not trying to be exclusionary at all! I want this to be a fun post about movies & astrology. Please be creative with your pronouns if needed! This post is for anyone who wants to read it, no matter your gender or preference, but it will be written in traditional cis-gender fashion, BUT!!!!! I have tried to incorporate all female identifying communities within the examples! I hope there is something for everyone :)
Before we begin:
Definitions:
✨What is the Male Gaze?
“In feminist theory, the male gaze is the act of depicting women and the world, in the visual arts and in literature, from a masculine, heterosexual perspective that presents and represents women as sexual objects for the pleasure of the heterosexual male viewer. In the visual and aesthetic presentations of narrative cinema, the male gaze has three perspectives: (i) that of the man behind the camera, (ii) that of the male characters within the film's cinematic representations; and (iii) that of the spectator gazing at the image.” — Wikipedia
✨What is a Character trope?
“A trope is an idea, pattern or motif that appears often enough in a particular art form that consumers of that art form begin to form particular associations with that idea.” - The Novel Factory
Introduction:
Men tend to be VERY simple creatures. Yes, they may present themselves as the broody artist w a checkered past or a sci-fi-nerdy-glasses-wearing-type fellow who LOVES Star Wars & Comic-Con. But believe it not, both these men have something in common…Their simplicity. Most men see life in black & white. They tend to take things at face value & rarely feel the need to dig deeper into something unless they are called to. This is not to over generalize (or perhaps that’s exactly what this is) but to draw attention to the straight forward attitude men usually have towards life. (I blame this on their primal hunter/gathering nature, but that’s another topic for another day). Men tend to prefer life & communication to be clear & concise, whereas woman tend to be far more “colorful” in our approach. We don’t spare any details when talking w our girlfriends about the latest gossip as if it’s our life’s duty, where men can sit in silence, playing video games & be perfectly content. In fact, I learned in sociology, that men can actually have ZERO brain activity happening at times (besides the automatic stuff, like breathing lol). Meaning— men can actually sit & think about nothing. Women, not so much, we are constantly stimulated, thinking & planning ahead. Because of this cosmically cerebral mis-match, the way men & woman tend to view each other can be a point of contention. Woman tend to over complicate men & men tend to over simplify woman. Thus giving us the ongoing battle of real complex female characters VS. the over simplified version of them through the Male Gaze. Do men think woman just sit around playing in make-up & fashion, bursting out into random tears & having pillow fights all day? If you ask Hollywood— probably. In this post, we will be specifically looking at how men over simplify woman using Movie/TV tropes & comparing them to the display of our rising sign, &/or if you know it, your rising Nakshatra.
You should know, that before I got into tarot & astrology, I graduated from the film school at New York University. So I am WELL AWARE of the film/tv writing process & thought this would be a cool way to combine my education of films & my love for astrology to teach & critique how woman tend to be represented in Cinema & Television— and in return, real life. (Art meets Life, amiright?)
There has been a discourse in the film & tv world about how woman are represented through the male gaze. I’m sure you’ve heard of the “manic pixie dream girl” trope over saturating the market right now. (Don’t worry, we will get into this later). Woman feel as if these are shallow representations of the feminine experience. While I agree with this statement, usually we don’t see very fleshed out, complex & interesting woman from male writers. (*cough cough* Euphoria Season 2.) I’m arguing here that until we form deep & intimate connections with men, they tend to see us, woman, as these movie tropes, IRL (in real life). If you don’t understand what I’m saying, hang in there w me.
Because men tend to be simple & take things at face value, they can miss out on the nuances of the woman they are with. How many times have we seen in movies a wife gets a haircut & the husband doesn’t notice? See, no eye for detail, or subtlety. Those small details that make us unique from other woman tends to go over their heads from time to time. And in a day in age where woman are generalized more on a mass scale through social media, it’s easy for men to get carried away thinking woman are all the same or simply, just not that complicated. This isn’t a bad thing, per say, this is just the default until we are able to build a lasting, deep connection between masculine & feminine energy.
In this post, we are going to be breaking down this “conundrum” by RISING SIGNS/1H/Nakshatras. Why? Because the rising sign is how you are seen in the world. The first house rules the body, & what people project on to you as well as what you project onto other people. (The beauty of the 1H/7H axis…more about this later) As a sidereal astrology girly, I think the first house/Rising Sign Nakshatra rules the personality more so than the sun & moon sign. After all, it is called “person”-ality, & the 1H is the house of person, whereas the 7H is the house of partner.
✨Why Does this Matter?
Well first off, it matters how much you want it to matter. This post is for inspiring self expression. By seeing how you effortlessly come across through the male gaze, you may be able to craft your own unique persona or perfect one of these tropes. I am not writing this post because you have to see yourself the way men see you or over simplify yourself while getting to know someone, I’m writing this to give you some indication of HOW men see you so you can put on a SHOW! I’m hoping this gives you the encouragement to take your narrative into your own hands & present your femininity in a way that’s true & authentic to you. I am an absolute FAN of these female tropes. Movies & tv shows have helped me curate the kind of woman I want to come across as. Nothing like seeing a great character on TV that you want to emulate. We all have the ability to play pretend. Look at using the male gaze as a game of dress-up. You can ALWAYS play the part in the ever going Hollywood Film— Your Life.
✨What is the First House?
The first house is the house of first impressions— the cover of the book men are judging.
Because your first house is home to your rising sign, to put it simply, the first house is how you come off to others at first glance. Even though I’m sure you’re a beautiful, complex & intriguing creature, for the sake of this article, we are looking at the first house through a “shallow” perspective. You may feel as if these descriptions don’t fit you at all, in fact, you may feel like this is the total opposite of who you actually are! (Blame the contradiction of 1H/7H axis for this one) However it’s not about how you feel, it’s about how you come across…
Read this article as if you are your crush meeting you for the first time. (Read that again, very meta, I know). The Male Gaze in movies/tv has been argued to be lazy & uninspired writing. I personally think that’s just the male gaze in general. I kid, I kid. Lol. But seriously…they are very simple minded, so we can use this to our advantage to give some of the best performances of our lives!
***If you are reading for your Sidereal Vedic Rising (which is HIGHLY suggest), please look up the degree, so you can read for the specific Nakshatra)
(If you are a man reading this, I don’t mean to drag you. We all know the childhood fact, Men are from Mars & Woman are from Venus. Lol.)
Through the Male Gaze, we will be breaking down how you come off through your rising sign & placements as Classic Movie & TV Character Tropes.
How to Read:
✨IF YOU KNOW YOUR SIDEREAL VEDIC RISING NAKSHATRA: Read that first! That will be the most specific to the trope. (I didn’t double dip, each nakshatra is only used ONCE)
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✨If you DON’T know your Sidereal Rising Nakshatra & your reading as a Western/Tropical Girlie———>
✨You can read for the sign in your first house (your rising sign) &/or planets placed in your FIRST OR SEVENTH HOUSE!
✨7H placements cast a direct aspect on your 1H, so if your rising sign doesn’t resonate, check your 7H placements! They have a major influence as well!
✨If you have multiple planets in your 1H &/or 7H, the planet with the LOWEST degree is the dominant planet. Ex: If you have Saturn at 26 degrees and Venus at 2 degrees, you would read the Venus tropes.
✨Unlike men, I’m giving you some flexibility (Lol) Your placements may overlap. For example, if you’re a Pisces Rising— read the blurbs for Manic Pixie Dream Girl & Girl Next Door. One description will probably fit better than the others, but you got options! If you know your sidereal chart for your rising Nakshatra, you’ll get
***There is NO direct correlation between the signs & Naks picked, this is a matter of opinion, so I put what I felt worked!***
Please please please keep in mind, movies & tv characters are larger than life, so please have fun with this post!!! This is over the top!! If you can imagine that you were an old Hollywood glamour queen or a modern cinema starlit, this would be your starring role!!!
⚠️ I do not want to offend ANYONE by using traditional gender pronouns. I am a cis-gender heterosexual female, so I am writing from the perspective I know best. I am NOT trying to say this is the only perspective that matters. I have included cis-woman, trans women & lesbians as examples in this post. Please feel free to share any insights you have, no matter the gender, non-gender or perspective! I’m truly open & supportive. This is not an exclusionary post.
⚠️ SPOILER ALERT!!!! I am using Movies & Television shows as examples, so be prepared!
⚠️ Of course, special shout-out to my little sister! Without her, none of this would be possible!!
On with the Show! 🌹
💋 Manic Pixie Dream Girl
Nakshatras: Ardra, Punarvasu, Swati, Vishika, Mula
Planets: Neptune, Mercury, Jupiter (1st or 7th House, lowest degree)
Tarot Card: Princess of Cups (Earth & Water)
✨Definition
“[The Manic Pixie Dream Girl] exists solely in the fevered imaginations of sensitive writer-directors to teach broodingly soulful young men to embrace life and its infinite mysteries and adventures… [The MPDG] seems to exist only to provide spiritual or mystical help to the protagonist. The MPDG has no discernible inner life. Instead, her central purpose is to provide the protagonist with important life lessons. “
-Wikipedia (Manic Pixie Dream Girl was coined by Nathan Rabin)
✨The Manic Pixie Dream Girl is arguably THEE female movie trope of the last 40 years in pop culture. As movies moved away from the Bombshell aesthetic of the 1950’s, most notably, Marilyn Monroe; Audrey Hepburn as Holly Golightly in Breakfast at Tiffany’s introduced a new kind of woman. (Even her last name, go-lighly is a play on her attitude towards the world) A woman who throws caution to the wind & isn’t afraid to take risk. In fact, this woman LIVES to take risk! She flutters in & flutters out of the Male gaze, usually chasing some wild dream of being a fashion designer, writer, actress ect, OR is a notch above (or under, depending on how you look at it) an aimless sexy hobo. Regardless of her career ambitions, she’s always as creative as she is elusive— yet somehow, is always able to drop into the male’s life right in the knick of time, whisking the male away on some fever-dream like adventures. Encountering the Manic Pixie Dream Girl almost ALWAYS accompanies a spiritual Awakening for our male protagonist. Upon meeting this woman, usually in some weird, “only happens once in a life-time” way, his world gets thrown into a chaotic flurry. Everything he thought he knew he now knows he never knew anything about it at all. He questions life, he questions reason, he question society, capitalism, the “American Dream”, etc. This is BEST demonstrated by Marla (Helena Bonham Carter) in Fight Club, directed by David Fincher. (If you haven’t seen this movie, you MUST (18+), Brad Pitt is at PEAK sexiness…s/o to the Female Gaze lol) Fight Club is a wicked tale of a man fighting himself, society & his own psyche after meeting a woman who mirrored him so closely, it triggered a masculinity awakening. This is the function of the Manic Pixie Dream Girl. She is so free, so unbound, so fluid, & feminine, she helps to bring to life the masculine side of a man by reflecting his own inner chaos back to him.
As a Ardra, Punarvasu, Swati, Vishika, Mula Rising or Mutable Rising Sign: Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, or Pisces, this could be one of the ways you appear through the male gaze. Because your temperament & view of life can be so changeable, you can come across as a free-spirit, a loss soul, or a wonderer. Perhaps you are, & perhaps you aren’t, but as quickly as you change a hairstyle, you change your goals in life. The male feels as if he needs to tame you, give you structure, security or direction OR he feels like he wants to join you! Break away from the daily grind of life, break societies expectations of him & rendezvous w you, eating cereal, painting & watching cartoons all day. You can represent a child-like wonder and be the embodiment of the “wild-side” of life! As the mutable rising signs of the Zodiac, you tend to be moody & unpredictable. Through the Male Gaze, men may find it hard to connect with you because you always seem “elsewhere”. You always seem a little dazed, perhaps a little confused, but certainly “pixie” like in your approach to life. To the right male, you are fascinating, like a Jackson Pollock painting (the splatter paint dude) in the works— each stroke improvised, never knowing where the paint is going to land, but intrigued more by your process than the final product.
✨Music:
Female Gaze: Like a Bird- Nelly Furtado
Male Gaze: Sex And Candy- Marcy Playground
✨Examples
Holly Golightly- Breakfast at Tiffany’s
Jules- Euphoria
Summer- 500 Days of summer
Robyn Brooks- High Fidelity
Helena- Fight Club
Cat- Victorious
Issa- Insecure
Raven- That’s So Raven
Bubbles- Powerpuff Girls
Emily- Emily in Paris
Sally Bowles- Cabaret
💋Ice Queen
Nakshatras: Jyestha, Dhanishta, Uttara Bhadrapada
Zodiacs: Aquarius, Libra, Cancer, Scorpio
Planets: Saturn, Uranus, Moon, Venus
Tarot Card: Queen of Swords (Water & Air)
✨Defintion:
“…Cool, reserved, and giving nothing away. She may want love as ardently as anyone, but she masks her soft heart behind a wall of ice. It is up to someone else, typically her Love Interest, to soften her cold demeanor and win her love.
The Ice Queen is considered dangerous to love because she will not (or cannot) love back. She's not much for friendship either, preferring to be alone.” tvtropes .org
✨The Ice Queen is cold & unforgiving. She IS the resting bitch face personified, unimpressed & unfazed by those around her. Seemingly aloof, the male in the story is always trying to breakthrough her tough and unbothered exterior. Her coldness posses a real challenge to anyone who is interested in her romantically. She’s just a bitch. And a bad one at that! The Ice Queen is stern in her appearance & her approach to life. Usually divorced, or widowed, but doesn’t have to be, she walks as if she carries the weight on the world of her shoulder. She’s been abandoned by happiness in life, but she’s so regal, no one knows how deep her scars cut. She can resemble the Boss Bitch/Diva trope, because she normally holds a lot of power, but she carries a certain detachedness that is unique to this trope. She is NOTHING nice. The Ice Queen is hard to please & has no issues letting people know she’s unsatisfied. The Male wants to “warm her up”, breakthrough her cold exterior & get to know why she is so damn mean! In some cases he succeeds, in others he realized she’s just a mean & shallow as he originally thought. Elvira Hancock in Scarface is the prototype for this feminine character trope. Not only is her nose typically buried nose deep in snow (if you get it, you get it), she’s. a. straight. cold-hearted. biotch. She’s unbelievably gorgeous & unapproachable, & this is exactly what draws the male protagonist in to her. But even after the male “wins her over”, she was never satisfied. An Ice Queen to her CORE, she was never one to be defrosted. Defamed? Maybe…Defrosted…never.
It’s worth noting that the Ice Queen is usually HIGHLY fashionable. Not the cheap stuff either— the Ice Queen is a Queen none the less. She’s not the T-shirt & jeans girl next door, or the purple hairdo manic pixie…she’s class & sophistication. First rule, you gotta be hot to be so cold.
If you are a Jyestha, Dhanishta, Uttara Bhadrapada Rising or an Aquarius, Libra or Cancer Rising, or have Saturn, Uranus, the Moon, or Venus aspecting your first house, you may find that you come across as the Ice Queen through the male gaze. You carry a certain reserved & detached aura upon first meeting someone. Rarely would you put all your cards on the table. There is also a certain maturity that you carry with you when you walk into a room. Men will assume “oh, this girl, she’s been through some stuff”. You may find that you are somewhat withdrawn in social situations, although people may be very drawn to you. You don’t necessarily care about being liked, but you certainly care about being respected. You come off as if you don’t tolerate any kind of messiness. Men may think you play hard to get or that you just think you’re better than the average. Whatever! You don’t care what they think. You’re too busy reading or being an intellectual (whatever that means lol…this is the male gaze we are talking about). Again, to the right egotistical man who believes he can “warm you up”, you are a welcomed and ongoing challenge. The Ice Queen is the female trope of male dissatisfaction. When a Male encounters the Ice Queen in cinema, she tend to represent a part of the male that will NEVER be pleased, content or accepted. Normally the man after this cold woman’s stone-cold heart is trying to prove his worth to the world around him, & the Ice Queen serves as the perfect trophy. If he can impress her/have her, he can impress anyone & have the World! The Ice Queen is the ultimate prize for the male protagonist w ego/self-esteem issues. Nothing humbles a man quite like a cold-hearted bitch. You may find in your dating life, Male’s feel the need to impress you for no good reason..or maybe you enjoy watching men walk on their heads for a date w you! Either way, as the Ice Queen female trope you carry a certain air about you that commands attention & respect. You carry authority over yourself & those around you. The male gaze says although your intimidating, your worth a try to shut down all the haters, even if you’re hater number 1!
✨Music:
Female Gaze: Needed Me- Rihanna
Male Gaze: Roses- OutKast, Cooler than Me- Mike Posner
“A femme fatale,sometimes called a maneater or vamp, is a stock character of a mysterious, beautiful, and seductive woman whose charms ensnare her lovers, often leading them into compromising, deadly traps. She is an archetype of literature and art. Her ability to enchant, entice and hypnotize her victim with a spell was in the earliest stories seen as verging on supernatural; hence, the femme fatale today is still often described as having a power akin to an enchantress, seductress, witch, having power over men. Femmes fatales are typically villainous, or at least morally ambiguous, and always associated with a sense of mystification, and unease.”
-Wikipedia
✨The Femme Fatale is arguably the most ICONIC of the female movie tropes. A popular trope of Film Noir “movement” in the late 1940s, early 1950s, the Femme Fatale is a sexual seductress with a naughty side. Enchanting as she is dangerous, the male gaze ogles her, even though it may cost him his life— or at least his job & social standing. Medusa is one of the best representations of this trope. If a man locks eyes w her, he’s as good as dead— yet, time & time again, men tried to defeat her, only to meet a tragic end. As time progressed, the story of the woman who turns men to stone (definitely a sexual innuendo if you ask me) found new life in television & film. The Femme Fatale is a beautiful disaster just waiting to happen. She’s wild, like the Manic Pixie Dream Girl, but she has a certain knack for danger and crime. She lures the male in & traps him like a spider in her web. The male is usually a little weary of the woman, but is overcome w her grace & charm, or he’s truly an unsuspecting victim who gets completely taken advantage of an entangled in whatever mess she’s made for herself. One way or the other, the male often ends up in a position of life & death after lusting after this dark & intriguing beauty. The film, Carmen Jones, starring Dorthy Dandridge, is a classic tale of a woman w loose morals who ends up (spoiler alert) dead. Unlike most of the other female tropes, the femme fatale almost always suffers consequences for her actions. She either ends up in jail, or dead, or kills her lover, or he ends up in jail, or her lover ends up dead. Tragic, I know. Again, think of Medusa…she killed everything she laid her eye on, & then ultimately had to be killed. (RIP Medusa, you were a baddie). No one gets out scotch free when dealing w this character. The femme fatale is mysterious, almost like a mythical creature or an enchantress, & the male is instantly drawn into her, whether they exchange words in a bar, or she simply flicks her cigarette & he rushes to relight it. One thing is for sure, she lives by her own rules & is bound by nothing…not the law or death itself. She’s usually a criminal minded free-spirit, manipulating her way through life to survive.
If you are an Ashwini, Bharani, Ashlesha, Purva Bhadrapada Rising Or an Aries, Scorpio, or Cancer Rising, or you have Pluto or Mars aspecting your 1H, you may come off as the femme fatale through the male gaze. Your dark, broody & secretive nature is fascinating to them, and they want to join you on a passionate journey through time & space or save you from whatever sticky situation you may have put yourself in. They want to play detective & you are the perfect case to crack. When the femme fatale enters the male’s life, she instantly posses a threat to his usually naive understanding of the world. She’s not your typical housewife— far from it. She challenges the traditional social construct of beauty & submission. Normally from a troubled/difficult past past, the femme fatale will only submit to law & death, she’s been forced to learn the ugly sides of life & uses them to her advantage. You may find that male’s tend to want to dominate you or control your direction in life in relationships, but you are REPULSED by this notion. This trope teaches men (and woman sadly), that freedom comes w a cost. Hopefully it’s not your life, but if it is, you sure make a sexy corpse!
✨Music:
Female Gaze: Wild side- Normani
Male Gaze: Dirty Diana -Michael Jackson
✨Examples
Filomena (Sophia Lauren)- Marriage Italian Style
Cat Woman- Batman
Carmen- Carmen Jones
Dr. Frank-N-Furter (played by the wonderful Lavern Cox)- The Rocky Horror Picture Show
“The Mean Girl trope had us all believe that the dark side to womanhood is catty, conniving competitiveness.”
The swaddle.com
“Mean girls are often overly concerned with appearance. They may place a high priority on their clothing, their make-up, and even their weight. Likewise, they may zero in on these things in others, pointing out everything from acne and weight gain to clothing choices and hairstyles.”
-theteenmagazine.com
✨Somewhere between The Ice Queen and The Diva, there lies a sweet sour sweet CLASSIC female trope that always leaves the girls GAGGING in disbelief, like “did she just say that?!!” The Queen Bee/Mean Girl trope has her fair share of representation in film & TV, particularly in teen dramas, but she is NOT limited to high school. The Queen Bee is in charge, she knows what she wants, she knows how she likes it & she has ZERO problem letting her loyal subject know. Sometimes, she is portrayed w a deep deep deep DEEP down heart of hold, but most of the time, she’s just a straight biotch from beginning to end. You DON’T want to cross her, or you just might end-up on her ever growing hit-list. If there is one thing Ms. Mean Girl can do..it’s hold a grudge. As stated above, the Queen Bee/Mean girl trope serves the stereotype of the cattiness & competitiveness of femininity. And it is a fact that in the wild, the female animals are usually far more aggressive than their male counterparts. (Think Lion, or a Mama Bear). Boys may have their sports, but lady’s have their looks & they will secure that W come hell or high water all the way to Prom Queen.
If you are a Krittika, Purva Phalguni, Chitra, Purva Ashadha Rising or Libra, Taurus, Aries, Leo or Gemini Rising, OR if you have Venus, Mars or the Sun aspecting your 1H/7H, you may come off as the typical Mean Girl Trope through the Male Gaze. You’re aloof, yet decisive about the things you truly care about— like— “Wednesdays, we wear pink”. You keep people on the tip of their toes with witty banter & effortless conversation. If they don’t know the latest trends, the current celebrity gossip or who dumped whom…well, you’re just not interested in what they have to say, so why bother? You can play the villain easily & have no problem being unliked as long as you are respected. You are a social butterfly, a socialite, if you will. You know how to make the streets talk with admiration & envy. People may be afraid that they can’t meet your standards, but good, they probably can’t. NO UGLY FRIENDS is the motto— people may think you actually hold try-outs for who is allowed to sit with you at the table. Through it all, you know how to take control & lead— this energy oozes from you as people seem to just step aside as you sashay down the halls. Always up on the latest fashion, you always come w your A-game and your enemies will NEVER catch you slipping. There is a beautiful confidence that you exude because you know you are the one and only. People may be extremely intimidated by you, but the real ones will bow at your feet.
The shadow side of this trope is the shadiness. Queen Bees/Mean girls are known for being just that—MEAN. People may assume that you are quite backstabby & mischievous. YOU, of all the movie tropes, don’t mind playing
d-i-r-t-y! People perceive you as never wanting to let go of that crown & you’ll do whatever it takes to keep the social order in tact. Think “Status-Quo” High School Musical w Sharpay, the ULTIMATE representation of this trope, screaming from the top of the cafeteria! (THIS IS NOT WHAT SHE WANTS! THIS IS NOT WHAT SHE PLANNED!!!!!) She didn’t care who she had to cut, scheme, lie, trick, plot & sabotage to make SURE Ms. Gabriella did not get the spotlight w her man, Troy. Think of the lengths you’ll go to to get what you want. You come off as spicy, cunt-y (in the best way), & beautiful. You are a glamour girl & never afraid to throw some shade here & there, making you the ultimate reigning Queen Bee!
✨Music
Female Gaze: Feeling Myself- Nicki Minaj
Male Gaze: Mad at myself- Issues
✨Examples
Maddie- Euphoria
Regina George- Mean Girls
CoCo- Dear White People
Lulu- Pose
Toni- Girlfriends
Emma Roberts in Coven & Scream Queens
Blair- Gossip Girl
Cheryl Blossom- Riverdale
Santana- Glee (Rest in Peace)
Buttercup- Powerpuff Girls
Alison DiLaurentis- Pretty Little Liars
Sharpay- High School Musical
The Heathers
Penelope- My Dog (LOVE HER, but she’s such a Bitch—a bad one though lol)
“The ingénue usually has the fawn-eyed innocence of a child but subtle sexual appeal as well.”
“The damsel in distress is a recurring narrative device (or trope) in which one or more men must rescue a woman who has either been kidnapped or placed in general peril. Kinship, love, or lust (or a combination of those) gives the male protagonist the motivation or compulsion to initiate the narrative. The female character herself may be competent, but still finds herself in this type of situation.”
Wikipedia
✨The Ingenue/Damsel in Distress is one of the most recognizable female movie tropes to date. From the tales of The Greeks, to King-Kong, to Broomhilda from Djengo— there is always some damsel…somewhere…that is…in fact…in…distress. The Ingenue is a naive babe, just learning the ins & outs of life. She’s pretty, she’s unassuming & adorably doe-eyed, full of wonder for the life ahead of her— just waiting for a strong man to show her the way! The ingenue is common, but in the best way. She’s not an ice-cold bitch like the Ice Queen or the Queen Bee, but she sits more in her femininity that the Tomboy or the Diva. She’s divine & subtle and a man is always lurking around the corner, waiting to whisk her away from all the evils in the world. If this sounds like a Disney Princess, it’s because it is. Most Disney Princesses would fit into the Ingenue/Damsel in Distress character trope, but just like most of the Princesses, no matter how young & impressionable, the Ingenue is usually the one who makes a way for herself in the end.
If you are a Mrigashirsa, Rohini, Hasta, Revati Rising or a Cardinal rising (Aries, Cancer, Libra Capricorn) or Pisces, the male gaze may perceive you as the Ingenue/Damsel in Distress trope. Your beauty & grace exceed you, & your youth is ever-present. When the male sees you, they just want to protect you & hold you dear. You spark masculinity in those who are attracted to you because you come across so soft & gentle. But don’t get it twisted, you can be a little spicy! You certainly have a little sass to you, but you try not to wear it on your sleeve. You are a true darling to those who are deserving. You serve ultimate demure womanliness & you seem to glide through any room you’re in. Although your impulsiveness & naiveté may land you in some sticky situations, there’s always a lovely leading man just beyond the pines to lead you out of the darkness and into their arms (Awwwwwwwwwww). You may be the type to need help opening the pickle jar, or clumsily fall into some big strong arms— you don’t mind being on the receiving end of affection & people just swoon over you. Unlike the Door Next Door, there can still be an “unapproachability” factor to you. You’re not the girl from down the street, you’re the new girl in town; a little lost, a little curious, but always cute! You may find that men tend to underestimate you & you’re constantly trying to prove yourself. OR you can find yourself in situations where your voice tends to be over powered as you get lost in a sea of toxic masculinity! Either way, you know how to leave a room in awe. You carry just enough mystique & intrigue that male’s fight to know more about you, but yet they just feel as if you’re a naturally good person. You’re coy, but not too coy. You’re shy, but not too shy. You are the perfect “woman”. You may have a past, but your future is always bright! A hero waits around the corner for the perfect time to catch you when you fall or introduce you to a world you didn’t know existed.
As the Ingenue/Damsel in Distress, your energy is POWERFUL, almost as if you’re sexily yelling “Fire! Fire! Save me! Help me!” when you walk into the room. You know how to keep the male gaze & they will break their necks to see you eloquently walk by. Before the reign of the Manic Pixie Dream Girl, you were the trope on top— the beautiful default representation of hyper-femininty in the 20s/30s/40s. You set the standards for the early starlets, they were nothing if they weren’t the lovely ingenue!
✨Music
Female Gaze: Bring Me to Life- Evanessance, Pretty When I Cry- Lana Del Ray
“The girl next door is usually from a small town or an un-flashy neighborhood. Her personality tends to be down-to-earth, supportive, and approachable. For both her main boy and her culture at large, the girl next door embodies an idealized, wholesome femininity.”
-the-take.com
✨The Girl Next Door/Tomboy Trope is by far the most realistic & relatable female trope of all. She’s not flashy. She’s not mean. She’s kind & sometimes even “one of the guys”. She gives off an innocence that makes her irresistible to the male gaze because she’s just so darn cool. She’s “not like the other girls”. Although she may prefer a comfy t-shirt & jeans, she’s comfortable in her femininity. She doesn’t try to compete with other woman— even though other woman my try & compete with her. Why? Because she’s usually the girl surrounded by all the guys— not because she flaunts her beauty, but rather because she’s not stuck on herself. She challenges the status quo demonstrating that sexy can be fun, sexy can be sweet & sexy can be “normal”. Zendaya is arguably the IT girl of a generation & she usually plays this type of character. She comes across as someone you can sip cool-aid with after she beats you in a round of basketball! For some, that’s sexier than Marilyn Monroe herself! This is the All-American (no matter the race) beauty that only lives a few doors down. This trope is most likely to be in the “friend-zone”, until one day the male realizes…”OH MY GOSH! SHE HAS BOOBS!”
If you are an Anuradha, Uttara Ashadha, Shravana Rising OR a Virgo, Sagittarius, Pisces, Taurus, Libra Rising, you could come off as the Girl Next Door/Tomboy female trope. You’re approachable & not stuck on yourself & that makes you highly desirable through the male gaze. You’re simple & non-demanding like some of your other female counterparts and this makes you a breath of fresh air in a Kardashian fueled instagram dystopia. Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure you know how to clean up nicely! When it’s times for you to put on a skirt & heels, you knock ‘em dead. You’re stunning! But you’d much rather lead with personality than looks. You have an effortlessness about you that can’t be obtained by just anyone. At times you may feel a bit awkward about your sexuality, but again, through the right male’s gaze, this is SUCH a turn on. This is an extremely powerful trope because you are realistic. You may have big dreams, but you feel like you come from humble beginnings. You’re authentic to yourself, not to Chanel & Gucci. Sometimes, you may feel overlooked & one-up’d by the “popular girl”, but there is ALWAYS someone who thinks you are the most beautiful girl in the room because you light up the room like no body else & don’t get me started on the way you flip your hair & how it gets the boys overwhelmed. You don’t know you’re beautiful…and that’s….that’s what makes you so beautiful. How lovely!
If you are the Girl Next Door Trope, you don’t have to worry about putting on a show to impress the boysies around you. Just continue to be you’re cool & down to Earth self. Even though it seems like we live in Shallow Land, where everything is based on superficial looks & flawless instagram selfies, you’re super special because you don’t give in. Don’t conform & don’t rush to be the “it” girl. You don’t need the BBL & the thick lashes. (NOTHING IS WRONG W THIS!!! NOTHING~~~) Your natural beauty is more than enough through the Male Gaze!
✨Music
Female Gaze: All You Wanted- Michelle branch
Male Gaze: Hey There Delilah- The Plain White Tees
“The strong, dark, beautiful woman. She's often a go-getter, chasing stardom, wealth, or just recognition for her talents. If she becomes an Idol, she's not constrained by the pressures of always appearing youthful, innocent, and approachable.
Part of her allure is instead her maturity, either in personality or in sexuality. When she walks in the room she not only turns heads, but she demands respect and won't hesitate to set you straight if she doesn't get it.”
-tvtropes.org
✨The Diva/Boss Bitch Female trope is THEE BADDEST BITCH. She’s worked hard to get where she is & she isn’t going to let some MAN come along and knock her off her thrown. This female trope demands a certain level of respect when she walks into the room— all heads turn because they know she’s the boss, just waiting to give quick & sharp directions. Usually fashionable, because she can AFFORD it (hello!), she knows how to command in any setting while looks good. A trend setter! She may be one of the most intimidating of the female tropes through the Male Gaze, on par with the Ice Queen, because the Diva carries a certain masculine energy. She usually is running things & bossing men around herself. She doesn’t let her sex get in the way of her ambition & talent. This character trope is not afraid to speak her mind because she knows she has just as much right to a seat at the table as anyone. She’s hard to impress & won’t settle for anything less than perfect. Mediocrity will NOT FLY with the Diva. She expects & she will have the best.
If you are a Pushya, Magha, Uttara Phalguni Rising or a Leo, Scorpio, Taurus, Aquarius, Sagittarius, or Capricorn Rising, you may come off as the Diva/Boss Bitch female character trope. You seem to prioritize work, success & your ambition over friendships & relationships. You force the males who gaze upon you to reevaluate their own status & merit in the world. They know you can’t be easily swayed & have to step to you with their best foot forward. Usually depicted as an insatiable boss, men may feel you’re an insatiable lover— demanding & hard to please…whatever, this doesn’t stop you! You know what you want & if they don’t get it for you, you’ll get it your damn self. You come off as self-assured & somewhat egotistical. You’re proud of your work & you expect to be treated like the BOSS that you are. If someone has a problem with that, well then, they can just get in line! Olivia Pope in Scandal is a great example of this trope in action. First, she has a J.O.B. & she’s DAMN good at it. The best, even. Her sex appeal through the male gaze is due to her wits & her competence. Like you, as soon as she walks into the room, people know it’s business time.
If you are the Diva/Boss Bitch Trope, don’t let ANYONE discredit your hustle—not another woman, not a man…NO ONE! You’ve worked hard to get where you are, and it shows because of the way you carry yourself. You can be one of the classiest tropes of all & that’s more impressive than you could ever know. Your beauty lies in the fact that you are sophistication personified. Your intrigue lies in the fact of your rarity! Not every woman is as ambitious or as capable as you are. You make men shiver when they lay eyes on you because you have an aura that screams “STEP YOUR GAME UP OR GET TO STEPPING!” Never try to dim who you are. You’re bossy & you’re the bitch they all LOVE to hate! Let them! You’d probably hate you too if you weren’t you because you are just too fly to handle! Confidence oozes from your pores because you know your stuff. Although it’s lonely at the top, you enjoy the view of downtown from your corner office! It’s hard to compete where others don’t compare Ms. Diva! Own it!
Hi. What placements in synastry/composite chart can indicate that as a couple you like to show off in public, post each other? Thanks.💖
Oh man, great, interesting question! I would definitely say anything involving the Sun— And also Uranus or Saturn— depending on who you feel rules Aquarius!
Sun trine/conjunct Uranus would be the most likely to want to show off the relationship on social media! Sun is ego, Uranus is the internet.
Sun trine/conjunct Sun— both partners love to be seen! And even Sun trine/Conjunct Jupiter would give a similar effect! Jupiter expands anything it’s connected to, so Jupiter could add a level of REALLY wanting to be seen & also a lot of popularity to the couple.
Venus trine/conjunct Uranus or Saturn as well. But I feel like this would be more likely to take place “in real life” social settings— parties, clubs etc..
Mars/Venus could give “fame” to the couple, but possibly not for the best reasons. Lol.
Venus/Sun and Saturn can give longevity to the couple & status because Saturn rules the 10H of reputation!
So there are a few ways to look at it!!
Here is a cool article I found about Beyonce & Jay-Z one of the most seen & popular power couples of our time! This is a western perspective article, but synastry is the same!
Edit: Saturn also rules 11H of Fame & reputation, not just 10H! Lol. Sorry! But that’s important as well for wanting to be seen & internet presence!
Hi. In Your opinion, what aspects are soulmate aspects in synastry and in composite chart, or maybe give the vibe” us against the world”? Thanks.💖
Hey! Great questions. So I actually have a few answers for this:
✨ANY strong aspects that involve Pluto & Saturn. (Strong, meaning low orb) Or Venus Neptune, Venus Mars synastry.
✨I find opposites in the top 3 give twin flame type energy, any combination. Examples: Partner A= Aries Moon Partner B= Libra Sun or Partner A= Taurus Rising Partner B= Scorpio Moon — this is especially true for long-term, highly intense Twin flames.
✨Soulmates usually have compatibles signs- like: water/water water/earth, earth/earth, fire/fire fire/air air/air in their top 3 or Venus signs
✨In Sidereal Vedic Astrology another way to look at compatibility is through planets: For Men— Venus & for Woman— Jupiter (Husband) & Mars (Boyfriend). This can go in correlating houses as well. AND you can look at 5H (dating) & 7H (marriage). —— So let’s say you are a woman w Venus in Sagittarius, you would find attraction to parters w Sagittarius/Aries/Leo in their Big 3/Venus/Mercury OR 9H placements.
So there are a few different ways to skin a cat! But these have all been patterns I’ve seen when studying synastry. It’s not definitive, just my opinion,The most fascination one to me is usually the opposites for twinflames & complimentary placements for soulmates! The Vedic Astrology placements are extremely accurate as well! I have Libra in the 5H, I’m always dating a Libra Sun/Moon or Rising. Lol.
✨I just want to say thank you so much for all the support on my last few post!!! You really don’t know how much I appreciate your kind words, likes & reblogs! Also, welcome to the Kosmostrology FAMILY to the new followers. YAY!!!!! I know we are going to have a lot of fun!!! 😻🌹Thank you to anyone who engages w the content! As I always say, I work really hard, along side my sister, to give you the best content I can…so I DEEPLY appreciate how welcoming you all have been in this very niche but growing community. Thank you ALL from the bottom of my heart.
✨ I’m writing this post to let you know there is a new post in the works! Giving you a small hint— this is the biggest combination of my love for film & astrology yet!!!!!!! (I love Disney, but we are getting into the nitty gritty!) I am SUPER excited to share it with you and get your feedback!!!
✨I don’t know if you can tell or not, but I’m a slow poster. Lol 😂 my deepest apologies. I just finished up the outline/pre-planning of the post, so now it’s time for me to get to writing!!
✨Stay on the lookout within the next week or so!! I think you’ll enjoy this one!
Hello! I love your blog, many new things to learn ✨ 💕 I was wondering what insights you could have on ashlesha Rahu in 11H
I barely see any info on rahu placements in general 🥲
Thank you! And I hope you have a nice day/Night wherever you are ^_^
Ahhh thank you so much!!! I really appreciate you 😭😭🖤🖤
Okay, so Rahu in Ashlesha in the 11H!
Let’s start with Rahu in the 11H! This can be an great placement for gains & fame! Rahu is very comfortable in Cancer’s energy. Check the placement of your moon too for more insight. You could find yourself in a MUCH better position after your Saturn return— 32/33 in Vedic. Your social circle could be very wide & you could have a unique perspective on life. Friendships & community are important to you. You could gain wealth from your friends or marriage!
Now, moving to Rahu in Ashlesha is a little tricky, because rahu & Mercury don’t get along too well. Mercury is the planet that rules Ashlesha, so you’re Mercury placement influences the effect of this rahu. Ashlesha isn’t the more comfortable Nak placement because it can deal with clinginess & insecurity. It’s animal being the snake, you can imagine how constricting this energy can be. You’ll have to be very careful not to project insecurities onto your friends. You’ll have to learn to allow freedom in relationships & the value of space within intimacy. Because this is your Rahu, Rahu puts these energies on steroids.
The cool thing is, you can be a really gifted & unique healer. You may be able to come up w innovative spiritual practices that could benefit a lot of people! If you tune into the nature of breaking any anxious attachments, for yourself or others, you could be a great & well known leader for your meditation & releasing skills!
I hope this helped!!! My sister helped me, of course! I’m still learning about the lunar mansions, but questions like these help me look them up! Thank you 🖤💋
VENUS THRU THE HOUSES. 🌹 ALL ABOUT HOW YOU SHOW UP IN RELATIONSHIPS!! 💍👑
🪐 ASTRO NOTES & OBSERVATIONS🪐
⚠️Long Post Ahead, but I PROMISE it’s worth the read⚠️
INTRODUCTION 💋
{Please read introduction. Highly detailed examples of Venus in each house below}
✨Who is Venus?
Venus is the planet of love, art & luxury! The traditional ruler of feminine Taurus/2H and masculine Libra/7H. Venus is all about others; How you interact w others, how you come across to others, how you act towards others in relationships— business or personal. Venus also talks about income & wealth. How do you earn money? But more specifically, who do you earn money with & how? (See how the 2H & the 7H are interconnected?) Venus’ energy can be subtle, but extremely important when dealing with how one gets by in the world. After all, who are YOU if you never encounter another person? Who are you without the relationships you make and how you maintain them? Who are you when another “you” is to be considered? That’s why knowing & understanding one’s Venus sign will allow one more control in their personal & business relationships because they will always know how they show up! Think of knowing your Venus placement, like knowing “what you bring to the table”. And the answer is ALWAYS a FEAST!
(I want to take a moment to STRESS that I am not saying your worth is based on how other people perceive you. I’m saying the exact opposite. Once you know HOW other people perceive you, you can use that to your advantage. Don’t let onlookers define who you are, YOU define who you are, THEN you go out into the world, negotiating, making the necessary connections & developing & maintaining the relationships YOU deem adequate & conducive to YOUR personal growth. NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND…OKAY?!!! This is really essential to the 1H/7H axis. I could (and should) do a post regarding this dynamic. If you are reading this w strong Libra/7H placements, this is probably an ongoing battle for you— “where do I end & my relationships begin?”. Maybe this can help you define that! As for everyone else, we all have this dynamic in our chart. Although we may not struggle w it as much, we still struggle. Some of us have been called selfish & self-centered, others of us have been called doormats & passive, some of us have been called a blend of both, passive aggressive….ALL of these labels are dealing w how you come across TO other people. None of these labels would exist if you existed alone. What would be the point? Doesn’t matter if you’re selfish…you’re the only self! I hope I’m bringing this point home. We need relationships to help learn & define ourselves, we wouldn’t be able to learn who we are without interacting with other people. Even if you don’t like interacting w other people, that’s still technically, how you engage w others…you see? I hope I’m making sense. I just don’t want people coming at me like I’m preaching we need relationships as if that’s a bad thing. We DO need relationships w other people or else we are nothing. It’s about having HEALTHY relationships. And THAT is why I do the things I do & write the things I write. Hence, this tangent. But think of developing relationships like this, as the old saying goes “if a tree falls in the forest & no one hears it, did it fall?”. If a human is born in a void & no one knows that human exist & that human doesn’t know other humans exist…does that human exist? Does it even know it’s human? You see? We get a lot of information comparing ourselves to our outside world. Only way you would know you’re an introvert is if you saw an extrovert. Okay, I think y’all are smart wonderful people, so I’m going to put the shovel down. I always try to define where I’m coming from so the article makes sense! lol Back to Venus)
Venus is the planet that governs our relationships. It governs our wealth & our relationship TO our wealth. This is why I thought it would be a fun look to see Venus through the lens of Disney Princesses! What’s more luxurious & wealth acquiring than MARRYING (7H) a Prince Charming?
Through the houses, we will see your soul contract when it comes to your relationships w astrology. We will be looking at how you can acquire wealth through your house placement as well, particularly when it comes to using your romantic/marriage commitments.
Disclaimer, I believe marriage is more of a business deal than anything else (7H). Can marriage be about love? YES! Absolutely! Of course…but is it also about business and positional power? Yes. Very much so. I don’t want to pass off a naive message. Click off now if you believe in fairytale romances (& you don’t have delusional Pisces in your chart lol jk jk, I’m a Venus in Pisces myself), because that’s not actually what this post is about. Marriage has been a way for woman to obtain power & divorce has been a way for woman to obtain wealth. In fact, back in the olden days…jk it still happens today, Woman were/are used for marriage as pawns to ascertain political power & diplomacy. Let’s say, if an emperor wants to acquire more land, but doesn’t want war (Mars), he could marry his daughter’s off instead (Venus). That’s more specifically what we are looking at in this post. The negotiation between “love”, “marriage” & “power”.
It is also worth noting that in a Male’s charts in traditional Vedic astrology, Venus is a signifier of the Male’s wife & girlfriends— kind of like “his type”. In a Female’s chart, however, Jupiter & Mars, speak about her husband & boyfriend, respectively. I find Venus to be likened more to a woman’s “love language” in a female chart…but again, that’s a VERY shallow understanding of the role of Venus here, but just attempting to give some context!
✨What does this have to do with you?
This post is going to be a complex look at Disney Princess (& some exceptions) to describe the type of relationships & contracts you have with your “Prince Charming(s)”. Here, you learn where your power lies in your relationships because of how your partner’s VIEW you & the role you are supposed to play in their lives. As stated in all my previous post, feminine energy is “negative” energy. All we are meant to do is RECEIVE & REFLECT the light of our “positive” masculine counterparts. As a woman, we show man the dark-side of the moon, engaging them w their own inner chaos & wild feminine energy. Venus in the houses as Disney Princess is meant to inspire, educate & activate your inner qualities of beauty & engagement. You can tell a lot about what a man expects in relationships through his Venus Sign— once you know it, you will know if you align w his expectations or not! That gives you the power to decide if you want to commit or not & how you want to commit! (Whew…this was a lot….lol)
The Post will be broken up by “For Him:/For Her:” You are meant to read both perspectives!
For Him will describe WHAT the Prince expects from the Princess.
For Her: will describe HOW the Princess shows up & contributes to his life.
Once you align his expectations & what you have to offer…you have the power to NEGOTIATE your role in the business of marriage & relationships! That’s what Venus is all about, baby cakes!
BE CREATIVE: Although this perspective is through the houses, you can read for your Venus’ Zodiac sign & your 7H ruler!
(Ex: If you have Aries in the 7H, you can read Venus in the 1H or if you have Sagittarius in the 7H, you can read Venus in the 9H…this is a flexible post!)
You can & should, if applicable, also read the “For Him” section about YOUR PARTNER’S Venus placement. This will give you some insight on your connection through their gaze!
⚠️ This post is for EVERYONE. No intention to be exclusionary, just easier to write this way for the examples to make sense! I’m all for gender neutrality, but I’m for proper English as well. A post like this would get REALLY messy. I’m sorry in advance! ⚠️
🌹ALL EXAMPLES DOWN BELOW 🌹
ON WITH THE SHOW 💋
✨Venus in the First House
Mulan - Mulan
“To save her father from death in the army, a young maiden secretly goes in his place and becomes one of China's greatest heroines in the process.” - Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the First House is all about honing masculinity & bringing out the masculinity in your partner. As a Venus in the First House native, you are courageous, adventurous & exceptionally hard to tame. Like Mulan, you may refuse to conform to traditional gender roles & you are not afraid to break any rules doing so. You will is strong & you will not be put out in a box. You are brave & force your lover’s/partners to do the same!
The First House is traditionally ruled by Mars & is home to Aries. The First house is also associated with the body, so to have Venus here means that you are a natural beauty (whether you think so or not) & can easily attract others towards you. This could make you quite promiscuous in the eyes of some, but daring & adventurous to others! You do you, boo! With time, you can really be in control of you sexuality— *cough cough*— I mean, negotiation skills. Because people tend to flow in & out of your life so easily, you learn a lot about human nature & what drives people’s desires. You of all combinations, in my opinion, can bring desire (Mars/1H/Aries) & Beauty (Venus) together in an extremely powerful way! (I believe Rihanna has Venus in the 1H as well…hard to do examples w houses bc birth times are funky)
When Mulan’s village was on the brink of war, her aging father was called to action. Although a great warrior in the past, Mulan knew that in his poor health, it would be unlikely for him to make it through battle. After FAILING her etiquette classes to be eligible for marriage (she’s a tomboy through & through), she disguised herself as her father & off she went to train for war. A bit awkward & quite goofy, she was seen as a disappointment to the General of the war. When the leader was about to send her home, she put on a face of determination & trained all night, making sure that she was strong enough to stay and fight. She became the first warrior, male or female, to complete a difficult challenge of strength! This highlights that 1H/Aries energy! She was not going to be defeated by anyone & wasn’t going to be told that she could not do something. If anything, the word “no” is what motivated her to dig her heels in! You could carry this same type of energy!
An additional observation I have w this placement/film is how Mulan was forced to hide her body because it would have given her true identity away. At times with this placement, you may feel the need to hide your body away because you feel it could attract unwanted attention in some way. Always do what you’re comfortable with, but never hide your body out of shame! Be comfortable! I’m a firm believer in, “if you got it, FLAUNT it!” You could fall on either extreme of this spectrum. You could be an exhibitionist at times, or very reserved.
By the end of the film, Mulan is the bravest of them all, after her identity is revealed, she is exiled from the military, but manages to still put her life on the life to finish the war, finally defeating the Huns & bringing peace to her town!
With Venus in the 1H/Aries, you understand more than others, that war brings peace. If you don’t stand up for what you believe in & overpower your bullies, then you will never find a solution or be taken seriously. Not you! You call out injustice, even if it means ruffling some feathers. You stand up for what you believe is right! Like Mulan, you are not afraid to get down & dirty if you have to in oder to bring back peace to your life & those around you. The best part is, you don’t have to do anything but walk in a room for people to notice this about you! It’s just your aura.
Mulan was very active, much like yourself. She could hardly sit still when it came to doing her training & much preferred to be out on the battle field with “the boys”. In a sense, she actually HID behind masculinity in order to be accepted. If you aren’t the “beauty queen” trope, you could easily fall into the tomboy trope. EVEN SO, even if you are more masculine presenting, the right person will always see through your front & see the beauty & divinely feminine energy you truly possess. At the end of the day, what’s more womanly than protecting your aging father from certain death? What’s braver than putting your life on the line for someone that you love and care about? THIS is what Venus in the First House is all about!
For Him: If you are dating/married to someone with Venus 1H/Venus in Aries, they expect their lovers to be free and spontaneous! They love a great chase, but don’t want to chase too long. This lover will require constant stimulation, but if you manage to keep their attention, you have fierce undying love & loyalty! Mars is the soldier of the planets…this lover will go to war for you & may expect the same in return. Like Captain/General Li Shang (voiced by BD Wong, the Law & order dude, I had NO idea, how cool), he first saw Mulan as the weakest & most vulnerable in the pack. Shang was a tough lover to crack. Very one-track, his only focus was to win. This may be something you notice in your lovers/partners. All in all, because of Mulan’s hard work, dedication, discipline & ultimate show of bravery…he ended falling deeply in love with her. (Awwwwwwwwwwww…..) And they lived happily ever after. Shang was forced to change his entire perception of woman in the process, because Mulan truly gave him a run for his money.
For Her: If you have Venus in the First House/Aries, you are meant to bring out the fierceness in your lovers. Your contract is to literally “make a man” out of your partners. You will either attract SUPER masculine men, who love your feistiness & want the challenge, OR you’ll attract more feminine men who could feel intimidated by you & feel the need to be in competition w you because you stand so firmly on your own two feet! With the 1H & Aries being Mars ruled, you could find yourself in competition with you lovers— not the diplomatic kind of relationship we talked about before. You HAVE to be w the man in charge! You need, crave & desire that Big D Energy…because honestly, you caring it yourself. No balls required. And if you date anything less than that, you will trigger the men you attract/attracted to you to WANT to be in charge. You force them to realize they are “weak” in some aspects of their lives. They will either respond w challenging themselves to step up to the plate OR the will get left behind, because 1H/Aries energy waits for NO ONE.
What You Bring to the Table: Pure masculine power, drive & bravery!
How to Negotiate: Your power move will always be “I can walk away & stand on my own at ANY time”. You are more than willing to walk out from any negotiating table if you feel your needs are not being met or your worth is not being valued. You encourage partners to tap into their own masculinity in ways they may have never done before— truly “making a man” out of people. Your best tactic to challenge the status quo & not settle for anything less than ideal. It’s also very powerful that you are not afraid to break the rules if it means standing up for what you believe in. This makes you quite the force to be reckoned with as you develope relationships & business deals! (Use this gift wisely). Like Mulan, you will not be confined to what society says is “womanhood”, you attract the strongest & the best of men, & you look bloody good doing it! Camo or lipstick, you are down for the cause!
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To use your own inner strength to bring out the strength in others.
Drop A Flame 🔥 Emoji because you’re on Fire Baby!
✨Venus in the Second House
Aurora - Sleeping Beauty
“After being snubbed by the royal family, a malevolent fairy places a curse on a princess which only a prince can break, along with the help of three good fairies.” - Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the Second House is all about luxury, beauty, arts & the sensual pleasures of life. Venus is more than comfortable here, being as Venus is the traditional ruler of the 2H & Taurus, making this placement extremely feminine. As a Venus in the 2H native, you have refined taste & beauty, great “taste” in food & culture & truly have the power to be a great homemaker in a beautiful home! However, like Aurora, your beauty can become a source of envy & jealousy, leaving you in a prison of designer bags & golden ceilings.
The Second house is associated w possessions, owning & tradition. If you are a 2H native, tradition could be very important to you. (Think religion, cultural obligations etc…) Education could have also been a huge emphasis as you were growing up & you were most likely expected to keep up certain appearances. You may have been born into some luxury or higher class family. If not, you could aspire to obtain wealth later in life— specifically through marriage. No one can compete w you when it comes to setting the standards of beauty trends & cultural influences. You believe in and appreciate the classics— like the little black dress or the power of red lipstick. You are like Aphrodite in the flesh when people grace your presence. You stand out, but as stated earlier, you are more likely to stay in the home & draw your lovers towards you, opposed to chasing after them yourself.
Your beauty is quite natural! Sure, you could wear make-up & expensive clothing, but you posses a genuine timeless beauty that doesn’t really need much enhancement.
Aurora, born a princess, had a curse placed on her out of jealousy & spite. Her beauty was known throughout the land, & her Prince Charming fought a DRAGON to be with her because she was such a jaw-dropping beauty! You have this gift! I want to draw the parallels that Tauruses are known to love sleeping…a sensual pleasure, of course…& how it ends up working in Aurora’s favor! This type of Venusian energy is so secure in itself, it really doesn’t have to do much to attract interested lovers. This is Venus in its most natural feminine form. In my opinion, this is one of the best placements for Venus, aspects willing— as long as you don’t fall into the trap of over identifying w your beauty or allowing others to let your beauty dehumanize you. (I know, I know, that’s literally all I’m taking about in this post, but beauty fades, it’s character that remains forever.) Pretty privilege is a privilege, so be sure to use it wisely & capitalize while you can!
Lastly, I want to draw emphasis to the kiss of true love that breaks the curse. To kiss someone is one of the sensual pleasures 2H Venus is privy too. Essentially, in order to get Aurora out of this deep sleep, all of her senses had to be invigorated by true love’s kiss. If this isn’t 2H romance, I don’t know what is! You know how to stimulate your lover’s & your lover’s know how to stimulate you. Plus, you’re probably a great kisser. This is a sweet deal for everyone involved if you ask me.
For Him: If you are dating/married to someone with Venus in the 2H/Taurus, they expect their lover’s to be trophy wives. Because the 2H controls owning, you guessed it, this placement can teeter on the verge of this man seeing their partner as more of a possession & object rather than a person. A more positive take is that, this Prince Charming wants everyone to know that in order to get their partner, they had to have fought hard and/or worked hard to obtain such a decadent beauty. They need to feel as if their lover is a prize after all their hard work & efforts. This lover will require you to keep up appearances & play to more traditional gender roles. (If you are not this type of girl, then stay away from this type of man. 2H/Taurus are NOTORIOUSLY stubborn…so don’t think you’ll be able to convince them otherwise, just my warning.) Prince Phillip was enamored w Aurora the MOMENT he laid eyes on her. He was determined to get to her no matter how long & how hard he had to fight to win her hand in marriage— making him a true King. This man, literally fought a Dragon witch lady w a sword, just so he could kiss her. How romantic! I would love for a man to fight a dragon to the death for me…that’s real love right there— Aurora & her beauty being the ultimate prize!
For Her: If you have Venus in the 2H/Taurus, you are meant to bring out the sophistication & intrigue in your lovers. As stated above, you ARE a catch. In a way, you are a status symbol. The partners you attract are meant to work for your beauty & charm. Your hand in marriage or even in dating, doesn’t come free or easily. You are more likely to end up in long-term commitments & understand the importance of the saying “slow & steady wins the race”. You believe love can take time & like Aurora, you don’t mind waiting for your Prince Phillip to come & rescue you from the wickedness of the world, all while taking a nice long nap. Let him do all the hard work. You want to feel protected by your partners due to your extremely feminine energy. You are meant to bring out courage & worthiness in your lovers more than anything else & in return you give them stability & status.
What You Bring to the Table: Beauty, grace, class & status. You turn Princes to Kings!
How to Negotiate: Honestly, you could sleep through the negotiation process…lol. In all seriousness, your presence & how you grew up, or how you carry yourself as an adult, is really enough to put you in the princess category. Your beauty, inner & outer, is enough to make lovers want to jump the broom as soon as they lay eyes on you. Your power is patience. You will sit at the table, no matter how long it takes, until you have the contract/commitment you are looking for. You know that if someone really wants to prove their love to you, that could take time. Your lovers will expect nothing but the best from you & you will expect to sit in the lap of luxury, no questions asked.
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To use your outer & inner beauty to secure long-term stability & status.
Drop a Sleeping 💤 Emoji because you’re sleeping on the hoez.
✨Venus in the Third House
Rapunzel - Tangled
“The magically long-haired Rapunzel has spent her entire life in a tower, but now that a runaway thief has stumbled upon her, she is about to discover the world for the first time, and who she really is” — Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the Third House is all about learning & exploration. As a Venus in the 3H native, you are curious & quite adventurous. You always carry a child-like wonder towards the world & aren’t afraid of getting into trouble or challenging gender norms. This is a masculine energy for Venus, so love happens to be more cerebral than lovey dovey in the 3H. This is not inherently a bad thing, but there is always a certain level of detachment when it comes to your love affairs & business contracts. You could find yourself flying from lover to lover, job to job, having a “I’m here for a good time, not a long time” kind of vibe. Own it! You love learning, reading, taking in information & are usually quite talkative. You may have a gift for writing, speaking or acting!
Rapunzel was locked away in a castle for years & years & years, her only company being her adoptive (or abductive) mother. She learned how to entertain herself, but grew bored of being up in that ivory tower all alone. Once her Prince Charming made an appearance, she was off to the races along side him to explore the world her mother had kept her from! Although you may not have been locked in an ivory tower your whole life, let’s hope not…yikes…you share that same wonder of the world as Rapunzel! You are daring & devious. Knowledgeable, but always yearning for more. You may never really grow out of child-like naivety, because fully maturing is boring! Why grow up, when you could be a kid forever?! (If I wasn’t focused on Disney Princesses, Peter Pan would be the perfect Disney character to demonstrate 3H/Gemini energy. Even Captain Hook was running away from that clock, a metaphor for aging). Like Rapunzel, sometimes this can work against you. You may find yourself attracting people & partners that perpetually treat you like a child— shielding you away from other things in life. When it comes to this particular house placement— I think the 3H/9H or Gemini/Sagittarius axis is hard to ignore. This is the relationship of the student/teacher dynamic. All of your real connections are meant to be an exchange of knowledge & culture. You show up more as the student, but a good teacher is always a greater student, never ceasing to learning. So when it comes to this axis in particular, it has quite a unique exchange of energy & dynamic. At times, Repunzel’s childishness proved to be quite crafty & although unpredictable, quite useful when needed. Her Prince had no choice but to watch & learn as her quick-wittedness proved to be most successful in times of need. In the end, her Prince Charming (well, conman, in this case) fell in love with her love for exploration. This Venus placement is about overall adventure & a somewhat daring relationship! We Stan a good Bonnie & Clyde style relationship w this Venus house placement! Thick as thieves, but who is thieving who is always the question w tricky 3H/Gemini.
For Him: If you are dating/married to someone with Venus in the 3H/Gemini, they crave constant stimulation. Like 1H/Aries, this partner refuses to be bored & have no issue walking away if they become so. They expect their partner’s to explore the world w them & be as social & charismatic as they are. They are HIGHLY attracted to intelligence, usually over physical appearance & don’t take kindly to shallow individuals stuck in the material world. They don’t expect their partner’s to be experts in any given subject, but they love, adore & revere a lover who is always willing to learn & keep up with conversation. Flynn Ryder is charming, likable, witty, & oh yeah...a trickster bandit thief. Perfect example of a male Venus in the 3H/Gemini. Repunzel took him captive & forced him to guide her through the world. In this case, Ryder is acting like a teacher to a fresh soul. He’s been jaded to the world around him while she’s just now seeing the world for the first time! This dynamic is invigorating to him! This is essential to any partner w this placement— they have to feel like their life experiences are valued & never-ending. This placement is also very likely to have an age gap within their long-term connection. Although not the most responsible or stable of partners, it’s a requirement for their relationships to be spontaneous & they have to learn a thing or two along the way. If a lover can’t offer them that, they need not apply.
For Her: If you have Venus in the 3H/Gemini, you are meant to bring out the inquisitive & care-free side of your lovers. You are always either teaching them new things about the world, or introducing them to interesting places, peoples or things! There is a natural charm in you demeanor, & no matter how you look, once people hear you speak or share your ideas, wise people will want to listen. You also challenge your partners to push the boundaries outside of their comfort zone. Following the 2H/Taurus, which is ALL abut the comfort zone, you, like Repunzel, are meant to break away from the familiar & live outside the bounds of expectations, bringing your partners along for the ride! You could find yourself in all kinds of “entanglements” w different genders, classes & backgrounds. You are, like your fellow Air sign, Aquarius, never follow love w you heart, you follow it w your mind & intellect. This can lead to some once in a lifetime adventures. You are one of the more difficult placements to pin down, but to the right & wisest lover, you’ll make an excellent companion though this wild ride we call life— always making the most out of any situation, using nothing more than the power of your voice & mind. Sexy!
What You Bring to the Table: Wit, Intellect, Charisma Child-like Wonder & Adventure!
How to Negotiate: You, of all placements, have to be careful not to be the trickster because you are the ultimate negotiator. Think of a child & how unreasonable they can be at times! That’s you! Hehe, all jokes aside. You understand the value of time & what you will & won’t do. You’re willing to try almost anything once, but if it’s not for you, no one can get you a second time! There is magic in this when you show up to the table. You can leverage your quick mindedness & ability to adapt in any situation— almost as if you were a shapeshifter. If they can keep you, who wouldn’t want you on their team?!
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To inspire & encourage your partners to always be a student of life & seek out adventure, no matter what age!
Drop a runner 🏃🏽♀️ emoji because you are outta here!
✨Venus in the Fourth House
Snow White - Snow White & the Seven Dwarfs
“Exiled into the dangerous forest by her wicked stepmother, a princess is rescued by seven dwarf miners who make her part of their household.” — Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the Fourth House is all about motherly quality & tranquil happiness in the home. As a Venus in the 4H native, you are very nurturing when it comes to your love affairs &/or could have a business in home-care. You prefer to have a more traditional home life & could easily find joy in homemaking— cooking, cleaning, & caring for family members. This usually comes from a space of genuine love & duty (your opposite sign in Capricorn of course!). Quite soft in nature, you woo your lovers w an understated demeanor & give off a “girl next door”…or “M.I.L.F.” vibe if you’re already a mom. One thing that can come as a draw back to this Venus placement, is the need for constant validation, making you a lover that is hard to please. This is because you give so much to your partners, friends & family, you can feel very deeply when that love is not returned & sadly, drained…but I always say…your placement, is your placement. There are 11 other ways people can view love/relationships/business. Always be sure to remember that your way is not the only way to show affection. Regardless, this can be a very comfortable place for Venus because it is back in a feminine sign.
Snow White is a lovely example of a Venus in the Fourth House because she was able to win the hearts of not 1, not 2, not 3, but 8 men! (The seven dwarfs, plus the Prince) & managed to piss off the Queen by simply being her sweet, innocent, caring & beautiful self. Once she was banished to the forest, she was able to keep her stay & earn protection from the dwarfs because she performed “motherly” duties so well! They couldn’t believe it when the Queen came and tried to kill her, YET again! Mind you, the first attempt of the Queen to kill Snow White was only thwarted because the OG Knight that was sent to kill her thought she was too beautiful & sweet to be killed! This is YOU! Your energy may invite people who are bitterly jealous of your loving spirit & find ways to make you unhappy, but it never stops you from sharing love to anyone willing to receive it. Plus, people could come to your rescue when you are persecuted & that’s a lovely gift to have.
This can be seen as more of a “Damsel in Distress” type Venus. Because let’s be real…4H placements/Cancers are ALWAYS in distress. (I kid, I kid, I’m a western Cancer rising & a Vedic Moon Atmakarka. I say this with love, but you know how Cancers are…don’t act shy now). Anyone from a Prince & seven dwarfs (I hope that’s not offensive…Little people?) will want to act courageously for you in order to make sure you are out of harms way— the way a child wants to protect their mother! Let’s never forget how “Yo Mama” jokes are the ULTIMATE sign of disrespect. Venus in the 4H/Cancer demands a certain type of respect! Snow White’s tale of woes & triumphs illustrate the ups, downs & overall kindness & good hearted nature of this placement.
For Him: If you are dating/married to someone w Venus in the 4H/Cancer, they expect an all encompassing & traditional love life. Naturally very possessive (think of a crab), they want to come home to the same routine, a clean home & a home cooked meal. This lover might be quite moody as well, & they expect their lover’s to kiss their boo-boos if they’ve had a bad day & read them a bed-time story. This may be one of the most sensitive places for Venus, particularly in a Male’s chart. They most likely have a REALLY close relationship w their mother’s or a REALLY not close one, so they crave that type of attention in their romantic partnerships as well. A “mama’s boy”, if you will. This Venus tends to negate the rational mind & act on emotions. Florian, Snow White’s Prince Charming, was amazed by her the moment he laid eyes on her. (I’m projecting a little here, but bare w me, this movie came out in the 30s). It’s almost as if he has an empathic connection to her. He saw her & KNEW that was the wife & the mother of his children! He came right in the knick of time to kiss her & break the wicked curse her stepmother put on her. (Mommy issues, right?) I cannot stress enough how much this Venus wants a simple Homelife. This might be the most likely placement to live by the motto: Happy Wife, Happy Life.
For Her: If you have Venus in the 4H/Cancer, you are meant to nurture & somewhat cater to you lovers & your family members. You have the potential to be one of the most doting wives because you truly believe in family values. You seek to comfort your partner when they are in despair, & you expect the same in return. I want to take a moment to point out that this Venus placement can also lead to YOU being a mistress. (Crazy, right?!) But because Cancerian energy can be so soft, and a place for peace, you could attract lover’s that are in an unsavory relationship & seek you & your love out for solitude & soliloquy. BE AWARE! People WILL take advantage of your kind nature if you let them. This could be tied back to your relationship w your own mother, perhaps you hate to dote on her for affections, so now you believe that is the only way to receive love….but that is another post for another day. Anywho, you are one of the ultimate “wifey” placements. You just give off that vibe of marriage material. People want to come home to you, build a family w you & lay their head on your (probably) nice bosom.
What You Bring to the Table: Love, Nurturing & a Genuine Kindness/Thoughtfulness that arguably cannot be rivaled by any other placement.
How to Negotiate: You of all signs, need to SET BOUNDARIES!!!!! Okay, NEGOTIATE! You are a “wife” to your core & you deserve a ring. Do not & I repeat, DO NOT freely give love to someone who has no intention of giving you the same in return. YOU DESERVE A RING!!! Don’t you FORGET IT!!! I highly recommend you date Earth Moon signs (not Virgo, stay away from them…lol, my opinion, my opinion) or Earth Venus placements & houses. In order for you to get the best deals in life, you need to be building from a strong & steady foundation. How can you be a homemaker w no official home? Do not settle! Do not settle! Do not settle! Sacrifice & give to your children unconditionally, not no grown-man. Okay? Not everyone deserves the genuine love you have to offer.
(I’m sorry I’m getting a little preachy here, but I have seen in my line of work, doing personal tarot readings, toooooo many cancer/4H placements settle for being in the dark in relationships w emotionally unavailable or physically unavailable (because they are married) people. Know your worth baby cakes! Not everyone in the Zodiac is as loving & thoughtful as you are. You really will lay everything on the line for your personal relationships…think twice. That’s all I ask. You don’t want to be unhappy because you are loving someone who is not loving you back! My two cents…)
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To love unconditionally those who unconditionally love you & provide a safe, nurturing & beautiful home to those who are deemed worthy! (Make ‘em work for it! You could have 8 men sniffing up behind you!)
Drop a baby 👶🏽 emoji because anyone would love to be cared for by you!
✨Venus in the Fifth House
Merida - Brave
“Determined to make her own path in life, Princess Merida defies a custom that brings chaos to her kingdom. Granted one wish, Merida must rely on her bravery and her archery skills to undo a beastly curse.” Internet Movie Database (imbd)
Venus in the Fifth House is all about drama & red hot passion! As a Venus in the 5H native, you are such a dynamic lover & usually HIGHLY creative. You can act, you can sing, you can write, you can paint, you can do a one-person show! (Personally, I think that Leo is the most creative placement. Since Venus is the planet of the arts, I consider this an exalt placement) You stand out in a room because of your fashion, but mostly because of your overall presence. You have a royal air about you. A certain “you can’t sit with us” attitude to a lover who is not on the same level as you. Children could also play a huge part in your life. You are a fierce protector & certainly carry that lioness energy when it comes to serving & providing for you kids, or children in general. This is a Boss placement for Venus, putting it back in Masculine energy. You will not back down from challenges & love and demand loyalty over anything else.
Merida is a great example of Venus in the 5H for a couple of reason. One, she is ACTUALLY royalty. She is expected to carry on the tradition of the Royal Court— get married, have kids, and die…like a good Princess. However, Merida has other plans, attempting to avoid that “lovely” life, she ends up putting a curse on her mother, turning her into a bear. This brings me to my second reason she’s a great example for this placement, the dynamic w her mother. You, like Merida, might have a mother of high standing. I always think certain Leo placements are more subversive. The reasons why Leo’s need to be seen, is because they usually have felt UNSEEN in childhood. Let’s say you always dreamed of being an under water basket weaver, but your mother always encouraged you to pursue a more traditional path, like marriage because under water basket weaving is unreasonable. Or in Merida’s case, archery. There is always a level of insecurity w Leo energy because deep down, they feel as if they haven’t been able to shine in other aspects of their lives. This is because 5H/Leo is directly behind 4H/Cancer— so the mother/daughter/son dynamic will be played out in the 5H. In Brave, this is the core of the story, & this placement calls for bravery, breaking out of the mold & pursuing a life that YOU want to pursue, regardless of what society or your mother thinks.
One of the interesting things about Leos is it is opposite of Aquarius. Well Aquarius is all about rebellion & challenging the status quo. So is Leo! Let’s take a look a the Lioness I mentioned earlier. In Lion on Lion relationships (haha, don’t know another way to put it) the female lion is far more active than her male counterpart. Male lions sleep about 16 to 20 hours a day…they…are…LAZY! It is up to the female lion to do most of the hunting & maintain the day to day when it comes to providing for the home (5H is followed by 6H of daily routines & activities). This is untraditional in the animal kingdom, usually the males are the primary hunters. I hope you see my point. With this Venus, you are more likely to be the “breadwinner” so to speak, particularly if you are woman. And if you aren’t, but you marry a powerful person, you will make sure to look DAMN-GOOD by his side supporting & encouraging him to act brave and courageously as a lioness would do for a lion & their pride (a lion family…see, “pride” comes from children in this case as well—its all…connected). Venus in the 5H is a placement that calls for going against the norm & sharing your unique talents with the world— not hiding in shadows in order to be a good daughter or a traditionally “good”mother. You can be a good mom walking down the red carpet, okuurrr?
For Him: If you are dating/married to someone with Venus in 5H/Leo they expect THE BEST! They admire sophistication, beauty, class & grace. They want people to marvel at their partner’s in life & don’t always mind taking a back seat to their wives accomplishments. (They can be VERY lazy & still domineering……but let’s not get into that, this is a light hearted post). They themselves probably have a love for high art & fashion, so they appreciate a lover that is also hip to the cultural fashion trends & art trends of the day. But most importantly, they want to view & want others to view their partner’s as a work of art as well. Again, more on the traditional side of the spectrum, they value a strong partner who is still willing to bow to them. They are more of the mindset of the “lion tamer”. They love a brave & tenacious companion, but they value the fact that although their companion could stand on their own two feet— they chose them anyways. Plus this placement in a male’s chart, ONLY want the cream of the crop— so take it as a HUGE compliment if you find 5H/Leo Venus partner’s attracted to you. They have some really high standards…believe me. So if they like you, they are first & foremost, impressed by you! And that is no easy feat. For perspective, because there isn’t a real Prince in this story, A$AP Rocky is a sidereal Venus in Leo….he’s with RIHANNA! See what I mean? (Not calling A$AP lazy or beneath her, she’s a black lady Billionaire, she would have a VERY difficult time finding an equal counterpart that would still allow her to have the freedom she needs. She’s a Sidereal Aquarius sun after all. I really just wanted to illustrate this Venus sign in a male’s chart & the type of “wife/lovers” they are attracted to, not to pass judgment).
For Her: If you have Venus in the 5H/Leo, you bring out the creative & prideful side in your partnerships. Because of your natural flair for beauty, you attract all kinds of lovers who want to compete for your affection. Again, you ARE royalty & should only date royalty in return. Because you are traditional at heart, you could prove to be a very loving & loyal partner to the one who really earns their keep. In comparison to 4H/Cancer Venus, you are more likely to entertain guest & be fairly public about your relationships. Unlike the traditional average 2.5, white picket fence & a golden retriever American dream, you’re more attracted to the power couple version. 5 children, a big ole mansion with a guard for entry & a Great Dane would be more up you ally. (Love it! The bigger the better, here). As a warning, I want to say choose your partner’s wisely. Because this can be such a self-sufficient placement, you can attract lazy lover’s who just want to feed off of the energy & productivity that you radiate naturally. You could end up w deadbeats & I think this is illustrated well by the antagonist in Brave, Mor'du, who was honestly just a hating ass hater. Because you shine so brightly, you may attract people in your life that just want to take from you. Be aware! Yes you can most likely raise your young on your own, but do you waaannnnttt to is the question. (I say this with love & compassion. My mom is a Leo Sun/Leo Moon, she was a WONDERFUL single mom, but if she could do it all over again…she would have rather had an equally yoked or more powerful partner. For context, my dad is a western Leo sun & a Vedic Leo Venus……………..) Don’t let partners pass up their responsibility because you look like you got it handled all by yourself. You are a strong, but traditional wife at the heart of it all. Don’t give up that opportunity for someone who is not as royal as you. Keep your standards high is my recommendation. Date others with A LOT of Fire or Air placements, including but not limited to, Moon, Mercury or Venus signs would be my suggestion.
What You Bring to the Table: True Regalness, Creativity, Courageousness & Authoritah
How to Negotiate: KNOW. YOUR. WORTH!!!!!!!!!! Walk in like the Queen/King you are into any business or love relationship. Make them BOW…okay?! You’re coming w a kingdom & fierceness, whether you recognize it or not. You are a true secret weapon & a powerhouse when it comes to leading others, yet possessing the ultimately Queenly knowledge of knowing when to take a backseat. This is a beautiful & unique quality most other Venus placements do not have. Make sure you are always leaving the table w MORE than you came up with. This placement’s motto could be “I can do bad all by myself, so what can YOU do for ME?”. Periodt.
You Venusian Soul Contract: To bring a sense of pride to your lover’s because you have created such a regal environment for yourself & your offspring, people gawk at the power you both possess. (Plus, you & Aquarius Venus are most likely to have the coolest kids…sorry not sorry, just being real)
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✨Venus in the Sixth House
Belle - Beauty & The Beast
“A prince cursed to spend his days as a hideous monster sets out to regain his humanity by earning a young woman's love.” Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the Sixth house is all about purity & perfection. As a Venus in the 6H native, you are very much about the little things in life! You could enjoy simplicity, like reading a book, or a morning cup of coffee. Typically, you like to maintain a clean & organized space & take great care in maintaining appearances, even if you don’t wear make-up or getting your nails done, you are always sure to present yourself in the best way you can. Like your fellow Mercurial ruled sign, Gemini, you are endlessly curious—always trying to get to the bottom of things. This Venus placement more than others is all about service & charity. Unlike Leo energy, you don’t mind taking the back seat & find more power as the co-pilot. This can be an extremely valuable asset in a relationship, because you are least likely to feel the need to compete with you companions/business partners. You know your role & you play it well. On the other hand, because of your yearning for everything to be fit & in order, you could be hyper critical of yourself & others. You want perfection and you will communicate your ideals to anyone willing to listen.
Belle shows the significance of this type of loving style & how it truly can bring out the best in people. In Vedic tradition, Venus in Virgo is considered detriment, but it is always stated, that usually Venus in Virgo’s end up with the most beautiful & attractive partners. Why? Let’s look at Beauty & the Beast! When Belle is forced to live w the Beast to get her father out of imprisonment, Belle spends her days reading & cleaning; enjoying all the 6H actives of service & day to day routines. Beast who is not nice, to say the least, is very resistant to her femininity. He has cut himself out from society & is more than comfortable living as a wealthy outcast, distant from outside world. Belle sees right through this tough exterior, & like an artist w clay, starts chiseling away, revealing a beautiful sculpture underneath the chaos. This is the power of Venus in the 6H/Virgo. Just like your 12H/Pisces opposite sign, your purity allows you to see past the exterior of a person/relationship & see the true beauty that lies within. You are able to pinpoint problem areas & fix them in an uncanny way. Although people may take this quality as micromanagement, you are truly just wanting the best— it comes from a place of love. The Prince was enthralled w Belle’s innocences. Like a virgin, untouched by the world, left w only her books & a vivid imagination of what could be. Beast found her intriguing as he had become so jaded. Belle was able to bring out the innocence inside of himself that he had long forgotten. These are the type of relationships where you thrive. You have a child-like nature that wants everything to be just so— the lights have to be right, the setting has to be perfect & everything should be in its rightful place. And like Belle, when you are in your element, it almost seems as if the cups & dishes start singing along w you, encouraging you in your fantasy of the perfect little world you’ve created for yourself & your partners.
This placement of Venus can be misunderstood, so be aware how you communicate with your partners. You never want to come across as nit-picky or naggy. Constant criticism can drain anyone, so choose your battles wisely. 6H/Virgo energy is all about purity, health & service. You believe the world will be a better place, if its a cleaner place, free from all of its toxins. You guide through life & relationships w a type of dedication that can hardly be rivaled by any other sign. You commit to seeing that beautiful sculpture through, no matter the size of the clay or how beastly the beast! You will make it into a work of art. (I always feel like the Virgin Mary is a Venus 6H/Virgo!).
One last thing to note about Venus in the 6H, the 6H is before the 7H of peace & diplomacy, meaning, 6H is all about debates & arguments. You could find your love life to be quite quarrelsome. You and your partners like to argue. Sometimes, you may even feel like your partners are acting more like an enemy. Just be smart when you pick your partners. This is not supposed to be doom & gloom, but rather an opportunity to look at your Karma & make conscious choses accordingly. I think about this like working out. No pain, no gain, right? Just make sure you’re not hurting yourself or the ones your love/are in business with. Nothing wrong w respectfully having heated debates! It’s unhealthy to think otherwise. Moral of the story, you can turn enemies into lover, & lovers into enemies. Be wise, play it smart!
For Him: If you are dating/married to someone with Venus in the 6H/Virgo, they expect PERFECTION from their partners. I cannot express this enough. When I say they want the Virgin Mary, I am not exaggerating. This can be a VERY difficult Venus to please from a male’s chart because this is the type of man who believes that woman don’t poop. They expect woman to be clean, dutiful, & quite intelligent, but not too intelligent, if you know what I mean. An immature male w this placement will take a very long time to settle down, or pick extremely vain partners. This is why this placement is in detriment. Prince Adam was not the most fun roommate on the planet. Constantly complaining, very particular, & just overall a not nice guy & grumpy. This can be how an un-evolved Venus 6H/Virgo male can come off— standards too high & insatiable. BENEATH IT ALL!!!! Is a beautiful, kind-hearted, considerate & passionate man, who only wants the best because he truly believes the best is achievable! This isn’t inherently a bad thing, this is just something to be aware of as this male grows, that he’s not putting off negative energy because people are flawed & may never reach his standards. Through it all, Adam loved Belle, because she was able to love openly, freely & most attractively, innocently. This placement may take a while to marry & find a wife, but when he lets go of perfectionism, this lover can be extremely kind, doting & loyal, albeit still nit-picky & argumentative. (It can be cute though if you don’t take it personally…lol)
For Her: If you have Venus in the 6H/Virgo, you bring out the flaws in your partner. Hear me out, you bring troubling things to the surface, so they can be addressed and made anew! You are the “fixer” in relationships. So be careful not to turn your love life or your work life into “projects”. You act as the “health inspector”, you see what’s unhealthy or hazardous, flag it, & correct it. You turn “bad” things into “good” things, unlocking potential that no one else saw. (At the end of the day, Beast was still a millionaire w a huge mansion & money…don’t give your beautiful energy to no broke Beast. That’s just a beast hunny…ain’t no beauty about it. I kid…I kid, we all have to start somewhere, but please, be realistic in your expectations of how much you can help someone. They have to want to help themselves first.) You may draw out a very possessive & protective energy in your partners as well because they want to keep you as pure as possible. You, like gemini, may find yourself in relationships w age difference, OR life difference. Meaning, you could have grown up on a farm, & you meet a man from the city who loves your simple farm girl attitude, but deep down, he knows if he takes you to the city, you could become something else. This is the difficulty of this placement. The “virginity” that lures partners towards you, gets taken away the moment they “conquer” you. Once they have you, you are no longer the “virgin” they want to see you as. Again, not a fun issue to have imo, hence the detriment, but it’s not impossible to overcome. With the right partners, they will value that you will always bring a certain level of virgin pureness, because that’s just who you are, regardless of the environment you find yourself in. With this placement, you will have to be mindful to not let your partners project onto you this idea that you are “perfect”, even if you try so desperately to perpetuate that yourself. The moment you let go of the need for perfection in your relationships, you will be able to enjoy them & enjoy doing the little things in life! Like reading a book on the porch, or sharing a cup of coffee. (I brought it back teehee). Because that’s what the sixth house is all about— routine & duty. Keep it simple! Don’t overcomplicate things!
What You Bring tho the Table: Genuine purity, servitude, simplicity & charity.
How to Negotiate: Know that you are more service oriented than any other placement in the Zodiac. Your love of supporting from behind the scenes is a gift to someone who can see how rare & thoughtful you truly are. You of all signs, needs someone who values the little things in life as much as you do, so they never take for granted your loyalty & kindness. Learn to speak up for yourself! Following 5H/Leo, you can constantly feel overshadowed. DON’T!!! I always say, if you left it to just Actors, there would be no theatre. Stage runners, managers & writer’s (6H/Virgo energy can be PHENOMINAL writers) are what makes the shows happen! Your organization skills & time management skills are superb. Don’t EVER EVER EVER feel like your talents are “boring” or you’re a boring partner. YOU ARE NOT! You are what makes everything run smoothly! Don’t take that for granted within yourself & then no one will be able to take it for granted in your romantic partnerships AS WELL as work & business partnerships. (Have you ever noticed when you call out from work, all hell breaks loose? Yeah…that part. Don’t be afraid to ask for that raise babes…you’ve earned it!)
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To bring out the best in your partners & allow them to bring the best out in you, without becoming too critical or cynical in your relationships or the world around you!
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✨Venus in the Seventh House
Ariel - The Little Mermaid
“A mermaid princess makes a Faustian bargain in an attempt to become human and win a prince's love.” - Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Faustian bargain definition, according to Britannica: a pact whereby a person trades something of supreme moral or spiritual importance, such as personal values or the soul, for some worldly or material benefit, such as knowledge, power, or riches.
Venus in the Seventh House is all about sacrifice & negation. If you have Venus in the 7H/Libra, you are motivated by peace. You, more than any other placement, truly value balance & togetherness in relationships. You can find yourself in situations bending over backwards to please your partners & this is a part of your Karma. One of your biggest lessons in this lifetime, is to learn how to value yourself EVEN MORE than you value the opinions of others. Relationships & partnerships come to you quite easily because you are very charismatic, down to earth & approachable. Although you may be dressed in the latest fashion & have a good eye for trends, if anyone is able to get close to you, they almost instantly are drawn into your cool & diplomatic attitude. You’re not pushy or aggressive like your opposite house/sign, 1H/Aries, but you are still masculine & wanting the best outcome for everyone involved by remaining level headed & open.
Ariel demonstrates the negotiation & sacrifice that is required of any of your significant relationships. This post will be focusing on the Disney version of The Little Mermaid to stay on theme, but the Grimm Fairytale of this story is an even greater example of the Faustian dynamic. (Spoiler alert: it is NOT a happy ending). Ariel is inquisitive & curious about the world around her. She feels as if the sea is boring & there is more to the world than her family is letting her explore. (Wanting to break out of the 6H of daily routines) After spotting a handsome Prince (7H partnerships) on the seashore (after causing her fair bits of trouble), she falls madly in love & makes a deal with the Sea Witch, Ursula, to give up her voice in exchange for legs so she can walk on land and marry her prince. THIS is the heart of Venus in the 7H that I want to emphasis. Ariel was willing (& did) give her entire essence up for a man she only laid eyes on a few times. This shallow approach to love ended up being her downfall as Ursula turned into a beautiful woman as well & was able to capture the Prince’s attention too. Because the 7H of others & partnerships is followed by the 8H of death & rebirth, Venus 7H/Libra placements are inherently extremely karmic in nature. This placement will force you to look past the shallow things in love (looks, companionship, “he will make cute babies” mindset) and challenge you to dig deep within yourself to break out & find your own wisdom & inner truth (8H to 9H progression). The beauty of this placement though, is once you are able to stand on your own two feet (teehee) you are a very balanced and fair partner. Ariel sacrificed her voice in order to be with someone, do you find yourself in similar situations? Are you willing to sacrifice your entire being, your mermaid tail, in order to fit in a world you feel isolated from? These types of feelings of rejection & needing to let parts of yourself go in order to be accepted as a whole can be cardinal feelings of this particular Venus placement. Be very aware of what you are willing to give up in order to keep the peace, or be in a relationship.
This placement for Venus can make you an excellent, fair & stable partner— willing to put yourself aside in order to make sure everyone leaves the deal happy. You are justice in your relationships. Anyone who is able to tie you down is lucky, because it will be hard to find anyone else willing to go to the ends of the earth for their affection like you. You attempt to stay away from arguments & want relationships filled with pleasure & good times. Just be careful to remember conflict is natural, & just because you value peace over passion, doesn’t mean you should give up your voice to fit in. Speak up! As long as you take your relationships seriously & don’t give into shallow thinking or shallow understandings of your partners, you have potential to be in happy & long term relationships because Venus is the natural ruler of the 7H— Venus is more than comfortable here & is constantly seeking out relationships & partnerships. Use your gifts to your advantage! Value who you are outside of the gaze of others! Stand firm! You will make one heck of a partner!
For Him: If you are dating/married to a Venus in the 7H/Libra individual, they expect Peace in their relationships & in their home life. They require balance & understanding, & value calm, cool & collected conversations opposed to passionate outburst. As stated before, this placement can run the risk of being shallow in relationships. Constantly weighing the pros & cons of their significant others, no matter how big or small the differences. This lover can also move very slow when it comes to making commitments. Never take this personally, they just want to be VERY sure the commitment will be worth their time. They are followed by the 8H/Scorpio after all, so after they commit, they are ALL in! Prince Eric, is a great example of how charming & beautiful this placement can be in a male’s chart. He was able to sweep Ariel off her feet & she doesn’t even have any! This lover/partner is cooler than cool, effortlessly drifting from conversation to conversation making people feel as if they are wrapped up in a sensual dream of pleasure & all things beautiful. However, Prince Eric was also easily swayed by Ursula’s tricks, so he also demonstrates how this placement can fall for a pretty face over personality. You, like Ariel, could find yourself in strange love triangles as this inherently indecisive lover takes his time to pick his forever. This placement can make for a very equal, just & understanding partner, but this partner will not tolerate anything that disrupts his innocent & somewhat niave view of the world. If you are trying to lock this one down, stay cool— don’t push!
For Her: If you have Venus in the 7H/Libra you are meant to create a safe space for you partners. You are able to create beautiful homes, full of luxury & good company. You have an eye for detail & are able to bring people together in ways that are truly admirable. You and your significant partnerships will always be negotiating the responsibilities of the relationship until you are able to reach an agreement. You have no problem sacrificing for you lover’s & family, but your sacrifice must be worth it. You bring a certain charm to anyone who is lucky enough to stand beside you because you represent beauty & grace. Your even temper is a turn on to people & attracting people isn’t hard for you as long as you are putting yourself out there. There is a certain air that you have that is very alluring to others, almost like a Venus fly trap. You really are a gift to your partners as long as you are not backing yourself into a corner & neglecting your needs. As long as you maintain an open & honest dialogue with you partners, you can have a smooth relationships when you decide to commit.
What You Bring to the Table: Diplomacy, Charisma, Understanding & a Willingness to Sacrifice.
How to Negotiate: N. E. G. O. T. I. A. T. E. !!!!! Don’t just take the first deal anyone throws your way. You can get what you want as long as you are willing to give something up first. JUST DON’T GIVE UP YOUR ENTIRE SELF! Your wit & charming attitude alone are enough to make people want to bend over backwards for you. Don’t take this gift for granted or sell yourself short! Once everyone is able to declare what they need, then you will make sure that they get what they want! This is one of the best placements to have if you are wanting to get into law or politics. You know how to sell & you know how to bring people together & mediate! That is a service in & of itself. The cool-headedness you bring will allow you to remain objective no matter what. You will be able to make anyone happy, just make sure you are making yourself happy as well.
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To learn the power of sacrifice for the sake of relationships, while also learning how to maintain boundaries without sacrificing too much— essentially learning how to negotiate.
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✨Venus in the Eighth House
Tiana - Princess & the Frog
“A waitress, desperate to fulfill her dreams as a restaurant owner, is set on a journey to turn a frog prince back into a human being, but she has to face the same problem after she kisses him.” - Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the Eighth House is all about the darker sides of love concerning money & power. Interesting, huh? If you have Venus in the 8H/Scorpio, you can be described as a very intense lover, private & mysterious. You have an aura about you that lets people know you are not the one to played with, nor are you the one to be taken advantage of. As off putting as this energy may be for some, this is infatuating & intoxicating to others. This Venus placement can give relationships real power struggles as you & your partner fight for dominance. Following the 7H/Libra of others, peace, partnership & diplomacy, you can think of the 8H/Scorpio as the number 13. It’s “unfavorable” because it follows the “perfect” number, 12/ Not to say you are unlucky in love, but more so, the 8H signifies the ending of “peace” for the sake of learning higher knowledge and earning power. If you can’t tell already, this is a very complex placement, making you a very complex & complicated lover. You will find that a lot of your relationships & partnerships require constant change & transformation. Your most significant relationships will force you to go inward & then lunge you into seeking higher knowledge & truths (9H/Sagittarius). You are a fierce & dynamic partner, stopping at nothing to protect the ones you love, come hell or high water— although courting you can prove to be quite difficult because you value your privacy. You, more than any other placement, fear that letting someone in can give a certain power of you that you may not be willing to let go of. You want to protect yourself at all cost. You may find yourself attracting partners that threaten your sense of security for one reason or another. This can prove to be a really transformative experience for you and your partners throughout your life.
Tiana & “The Princess & the Frog” is a STELLAR example of the fascinating & complex nature of Venus in the 8H/Scorpio. Not only does this deal w black magic & New Orleans voodoo (shoutout to my Creole sisters & Louisiana peeps…bonjou!) all matter of the 8H dealing w occult knowledge, the driving force behind this film is inheritance. Both Prince Charming & Tiana are using love to gain financial power to pursue their deepest desires (8H) and have true freedom (9H). Prince Naveen is unaware that his carefree nature and unwillingness to commit, lands him in a tight position of negotiating (7H) w a Voodoo Priest. He is seeking power, money & a strong standing, but has been cut off from his wealthy parents. After making a deal, he is transformed into a frog, where he has to kiss & marry a princess in order to receive all the riches he feels he deserves. This is the power of the 8H. Because the 8H follows the 7H, the 8H talks about what is gained in the union AFTER marriage/contracts & partnerships are made. This is where inheritance, in-laws & joint bank accounts come into play. Tiana is duped into kissing the Prince after he misleads her into believing he already has a lot of money & can help her pursue her dream of opening up her own restaurant. Both of them seeing the power of this union, agree to scratch each other’s back. A kiss in exchange for some money— Tiana’s a Real Lady Marmalade, amiright? Although this is a Disney Movie, lets for a second talk about the “kiss”. For the sake of this post, let’s look at that “kiss” as a sexual exchange (8H). Sex is major factor in Venus in the 8H/Scorpio. You could use sex for power OR you could have issues w “giving up” sex, because you feel like you’re giving up power. This could be due to trauma surrounding sex as well. Here we see Tiana give over her “power” to the Prince, thinking the Prince will return power to her in the form of money only to be BAMBOOZLED & be transformed into a frog herself. This is a very strong possibility for a Venus in the 8H/Scorpio Native. If you aren’t careful w the lover’s you choose, there could see some repercussions for being dishonest— either from you or from them. Both Tiana & Naveen were dishonest with one another for leverage. Steer clear from this in any of your relationships. Of course this is a Disney film after all, so we all know it ends w them falling in love, reversing the curse, throw in a catchy (or really dark) Disney number or two & hocus pocus, they marry & live happily ever after— yaaay!
This film demonstrates that the partnership is only the beginning of a journey w another person. Signing a contract is only the first step in securing the deal. If the 7H is the contract itself, the 8H is how the contract plays out in action. Venus in 8H/Scorpio knows more than any other sign, that power is everything in partnerships or else you run the risk of getting scorned. This mindset could be from this lifetime or past lifetimes, because this placement, like Libra, is highly karmic in nature. You will experience deep, transformative & even sometimes scary dynamics in your relationships because there is a driving passion behind some of your unions. Seeing as the 8H/Scorpio is ruled by Mars, Venus finds itself quite uncomfortable here because it goes against its peaceful nature. Love isn’t supposed to be about power, it’s supposed to be about equilibrium. But just as the 8H sits opposite of the Venus ruled 2H, which would rather deal w the stability of a relationship, 8H deals w the uncertainty & the unknown of partnerships. You crave security more than anything else from your partners, romantically or financially. You, more than any other Venus placement, will negotiate relationships based purely on power dynamics. You could find yourself w an extremely controlling/intense partner, you could be the very controlling/intense partner yourself, or you could use your partner to gain control in other aspects of your life. The advice w this placement is to release control. Be present w your loves & don’t look at love & business with a “winners & losers” attitude. With enough effort & real communication (I’m sorry, but 8H/Scorpio placements are NOTORIOUSLY poor communicators, you’re very private) you can find yourself in power couple teams & have transformative & overall spiritual experiences with your partners!
For Him: If you are dating/married to a Venus in the 8H/Scorpio individual, he expects complete control & dominance in the relationship. This can be an extremely powerful placement & requires a lot of maturing to be used to its highest degree. On the positive side, this lover/partner can be loyal, protective, passionate & mysterious, in a sexy broody kind of way. On the other hand, this lover/partner can be deceptive, manipulative, vindictive, spiteful & secretive in a not-so-sexy-but-kinda-liar kind of way. You have to decipher which end of the spectrum your partner is on, but know there is a spectrum. To be completely honest, not everyone can handle the intensity of this type of Venus in relationships. This lover can send its lovers into an all encompassing whirlwind & people fear they may lose their sense of identity in the midst of the dark chaos. Others (like me, teehee) are extremely drawn in & fascinated by this kind of energy— seeking out the inner depths lying underneath of such a complex & fascinating person. I say all that to say, choose wisely. Understand that this will not be a lover/partner you can get over on easily. Prince Naveen is a perfect example of this type of Venus placement. He is initially deceptive & lunges Tiana into a new experiences that transforms both of their lives forever. He is seeking money & power & is willing to due just about anything to get it, included messing with the dark arts. After going through such a crazy experience, it only brought the couple closer together & made them more faithful. This can be the beautiful transformative quality of this Venus placement. Overall, this lover will give you what you give them 10-fold. This lover could be very tricky, but so could you. Stay on your toes, & never try to be deceptive or put yourself in a position to be deceived.
For Her: If you have Venus in the 8H/Scorpio, you trigger your partner into growth & make them seek out power. This can be material power, or higher power, like religion or higher wisdom. One thing is for sure, your lovers/partners will never be the same after your encounter. You exude a certain type of reclusiveness & partners will be lured in to attempt to dominate you in order to crack your shell. You’re not a naturally open partner & believe that self preservation is more important than being equal. This is not to say you are a bad or selfish person, although if this placement is under developed, it can certainly appear that way, it’s more so saying that you wouldn’t want to get hurt in any of your relationships by handing over too much power WITHOUT it being earned. Once you feel your partner’s are worthy, you can be extremely generous, open & thoughtful (just make sure this isn’t another way of trying to manipulate the situation…no judgment here…but old habits die hard). You force your partners to take a good hard look at themselves. You ruin any illusion they had about the world & show them the underbelly of what the dark side has to offer. Although sometimes you can go a little Anakin Skywalker/Darth Vader, it’s all projected out of fear of losing the ones you love. This Venus placement needs to learn to embrace fear rather than try to control it. Tiana was fearful she would be out bid for her restaurant, & from that fear she ran & kissed the first frog who hopped her way lying saying he could give her money & financial security. THIS is a lesson this Venus brings. Don’t act out of fear. Act from a place of love & you will find love in return. Act out of a place of fear & your worst nightmare will come all but true. I cannot stress enough the POWER of this Venus placement. Your lovers will never forget their life altering experiences w you. E.V.E.R!
What You Bring to the Table: Transformation, Power, Security, Loyalty & Wisdom
How to Negotiate: Operate from a place of fairness & not from a place of self-preservation. When you attempt to try & plan for the worse, you can make shady deals & put yourself in some shady situations. Again, this doesn’t mean you are a shady person, this just means you are more willing to do shady things if you think it will be beneficial to your long-term survival. Don’t always think the worst of people & then you won’t see the worse in people. Your sharp eye & observations are keen tools for you to see through deception. Always follow your gut & you will stay out of harms way. Be weary not to step on people’s toes to get to the top first. You can lead w fairness if you master the 8H and enter the 9H. Once you shed your fears, you will see just how lucky you are. Be mindful to not self sabotage the great deals you do make. You may have a “I’ll get over on you before you get over on me” type mindset entering into relationships— Work through this or else you will always find yourself in relationship deaths & rebirth cycles until you get the lesson to just let go.
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To learn how to surrender fears & release expectations of control while gaining power & security in an open in honest way.
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✨Venus in the Ninth House
Pocahontas - Pocahontas
“An English soldier and the daughter of an Algonquin chief share a romance when English colonists invade seventeenth century Virginia.” - Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the Ninth house is all about learning, wisdom & blending/preserving cultures. If you have Venus in the 9H/Sagittarius, you most likely LOVE traveling, learning & take interest in cultures outside of your own. AND/OR you are very religious & quite tribal in nature on how you view the world. (Probably a mixture of both). You could easily be attracted to people of different races, country of origin, religious backgrounds, or even social classes. If this is the case, you will attempt to submerge yourself in their culture & be fascinated by what makes you different, instead of vilifying them for being different from you like most people tend to do. OR you value your way of life so much, you wouldn’t want to disrupt it with outside forces. Unevolved, you could be very fearful of people outside of your realm of awareness. Either way, faith plays a very strong role in your life. You either throw caution to the wind & test your luck, or you are very specific w the kind of partners you will have who share your same core values. You also possess a certain type of luck & favor when it comes to your romantic relationship & your business partnerships! Because you come to the table as understanding & willing to learn, you can easily make people see the world from your eyes. OR your are so strong in your beliefs, you feel the need to convert people to your way of life. If you do find yourself in a relationship with someone whose an “other”, you will most likely NOT give up who you are just because you are. Your sense of self/faith in yourself is mighty mighty strong. You may convert religion for a relationship, but it’s because you WANT to convert. You won’t be forced to do anything you don’t want to do. Venus here is back in a masculine energy, so although you may go along to get along w certain aspects of a partnership, your fiery nature will always come out if people force you to conform or if people around you don’t conform. You don’t take NO BS from NO ONE with this placement.
Pocahontas, in her self-titled film, is a beautiful example of this type of energy. (DISCLAIMER, I am going off of the DISNEY movie. I know this is sooo historically inaccurate, it’s not even funny, but this it is a kids movie after all! It’s difficult to explain mass genocide to children…but on a happier note, s/o to my Native American/Indigenous sisters & brothers!!! Black Foot, Opelousa & Attakapas represent!!! They may have kept us down, but they won’t keep us out forever!!!) Like Pocahontas, you may find that your father has a powerful position & somehow may play a part in your love life. Wanting the best for his daughter & being the Chief of the tribe (Venus in 9H/Sag, can indicate a very powerful father figure who is strong in their beliefs/religion), he promises Pocahontas’ hand in marriage to the best warrior in the tribe. This demonstrates the part of 9H/Sagittarius energy that wants to preserve its culture & is dogmatic in its beliefs. Pocahontas’ father has ZERO interest in the pale people that washed up on the shore. He feels (rightfully so…lol) they will bring nothing but trouble. He is close minded, self-righteous & tribal in this instance. On the other hand, Pocahontas is unsatisfied w this arrangement, wanting to remain free & open to experiences the world around her! This is TRADEMARK Venus 9H/Sag energy. I’ve found this placement very likely to marry young, but also get divorced young too. Particularly for woman, 9H/ Sagittarius energy is INCREDIBLY hard to settle down. I mean………………INCREDIBLY HARD! So if you have this placement, you may be married a few times w all different kinds of people. It’s usually recommended to get married after the age of 26. Either way, Your motto is probably “I AIN’T GOT NO TYPE, INTERESTING/LUCKY BOYS IS THE ONLY THING THAT I LIKE”.
Another thing to note about Pocahontas is her intuition is extremely strong & she is a very faithful lover of Earth & nature. Unlike the other people in her tribe, she is seen a dreamer & a wonderer. This is because Sagittarius is ruled by Jupiter. Jupiter is also known as Guru in Vedic tradition, being a teacher & an explorer. Through “the colors of the wind”, Pocahontas feels joy in teaching her “Prince Charming” about the connectedness of life & encourages him to let go of his material pursuits & pursue a life of peace & inner knowing. (It’s worth noting that Jupiter also rules 12H/Pisces in Vedic astrology, so there are certainly parallels between these two placements for Venus.) This demonstrates an important aspect of 9H/Sag Venus. With the entire tribe against her & John Smith’s friends against him, they managed to overcome all obstacles & blend together two seemingly opposing cultures, one ruled by peace & love, another ruled by colonialism & material gain— & bring out the best in one another, ultimately bringing together 2 cultures. (For my Tarot people, this is why in the Temperance card, the Angel is holding 2 cups, mixing them together) You may notice this could be a pattern that follows you throughout all your intimate love affairs or long-term jobs. Pocahontas acts as a vibrant teacher & John Smith, a willing student in order to bring their love together & bring peace to the changing world around them! (Bleh, I know it hurts because this is NOT at all what happened in real life, like…at all, but we can pretend, right? RIGHT?!!!??!! Thanks Disney.)
This film demonstrates the clear sightedness, patience & willingness to understand that 9H/Sagittarius Venus can bring to love & business partnerships. You are able to blend your love of exploration & faith to bring people/places & things together that others wouldn’t dare think belong. Because the 9H follows the 8H, which is one of the darkest houses in the Zodiac, you appreciate the lighter things in life! Although extremely serious in nature (I don’t think 9H/ Sag energy get enough credit for being very serious about life, you aren’t the party loving extravert all the time) you know how to have a good time & prove to be a very generous & giving lover! As long as you remain open & don’t get too dogmatic or self-righteous when it comes to your beliefs, you could have a very “colorful” (hehe you catch the pun?) love life. Seriously, very colorful. The duality of the Venus sign cannot be ignored, much like its opposite, 3H/Gemini. At its worst, this placement can present as a xenophobic, radical, religious bigot (harsh, but true) & at its best, this placement can present as a wonderful, open, explorative, spiritual baddie! Always check what side of the fence you are on!
For Him: If you are dating/married to a partner w Venus in the 9H/Sagittarius, they expect their lover’s to be spontaneous & open OR religious & “subservient”. This partner is attracted to exoticness & they want someone that is outside of their immediate dating pool. They could be mixed heritage themselves or at the very least, well traveled! You definitely need to be well read, because this lover is likely to be highly educated. On the flip side, if they aren’t as educated, they are very likely to be extremely religious & faithful in nature. This partner will expect you to follow their beliefs and faith. This placement will either want you to share the exact same beliefs/values/culture as them OR they want you to be radically different, it just depends on the person. Sagittarius is a mutable sign after all, so there isn’t one way for this to appear. (I know I’m speaking in black & white terms, but I’m not trying to say uneducated means religious as a bad thing, or vice versa, just trying to paint a picture of how beliefs & education can play a role in this Venus placement. 9H deals with religion & higher learning!) John Smith, is a prime example of this placement. He came to the new world, willing to explore unknown territory, w high expectations of wealth! He’s obviously a lucky chap, because we all know that journey from the Old World to the “New World” is treacherous. After meeting Pocahontas, he was intrigued by her exotic beauty. He had never laid eyes on anyone like her before. He took a deep curiosity in her & wanted to learn (3H/Gemini, your opposite sign) everything he could from her, in spite of his “tribe” disagreeing with their union. This demonstrates the curiosity, explorative nature & rebelliousness of this Venus placement. Keep your partner learning & you will keep their attention! Unless you get the other end of the spectrum of Venus in 9H/Sag, then be in Church/Temple/Mosque bright & early & never miss an opportunity to praise God. If you get an evolved 9H/Sag lover or business partner, you are in for a lovely treat w many blessings!
For Her: If you have Venus in the 9H/Sagittarius, you are meant to show your lover’s/partners another way of living, and/or support them fully on the spiritual journey they are already on. Spirituality & religion/culture will almost certainly always be a factor in your major relationships. If you are like Pocahontas, who is more of a “go with the flow” type girl, maybe even a little hippie-dippie, you are meant to teach your partner the way of letting go & not falling captive to control issues. All in all, you are teaching them about faith & pure luck. You could easily be a good luck charm to any of your lovers/partners. I can’t stress enough the release 9H placements can bring, following the extremely binding 8H & then proceeding the even more restrictive 10H. 9H energy is genuinely like a breath of fresh air, so BE THAT! If you are more of a “faithful” lover/partner, and I am using faithful in terms of religion, not necessarily about monogamy, (in fact, you may not be the most monogamous partner ever, you could want to explore too much), you are most likely to be a “Preacher’s wife”. You are meant to exude the best parts of your religion & stand strong beside your partner who could easily be a leader of some sort. The issue can come to play if you let fear guide your religion opposed to open faith. This placement is particularly unpredictable, because 9H/Sagittarius energy can manifest in so many different ways! You could be free flowing or very restricted by religion. Regardless, the one thing I do know is, you will be yourself through & though— uncompromising at times & surprisingly open minded at others, as long as you know where you stand, no one will be able to bring you down. Hey, you may even be the one to prevent a future mass genocide, like Disney said!
What You Bring to the Table: Faithfulness, Open-mindedness OR Strong Beliefs while be Strong-Willed & Unafraid of the Unknown (or not, you get the point).
How to Negotiate: Bring your life experience to the table. You will compliment your partner in whatever form they need. You are willing to learn & be open to new experiences. You are VERY knowledgeable about your beliefs and often times, highly educated! Don’t downplay your intelligence, but be cautions not to come off arrogant, close-minded or peachy. You have a lot of charism & people value & appreciate your opinions. Again, you have to know what kind of 9H/Sagittarius you are! If you are more of the religious side, find a religious partner who shares the same beliefs & values as you. If you are more of a free-spirit, find a partner that interest you & allows you to be your free & wonderful self! If you are a mixture of both, religious & free spirited, accept that & find a partner who’s views the world in a similar way. You will most likely have a very interesting love journey, taking many twist & turns as you straddle between 2 such restrictive houses. Bottom line, you negotiate freedom when you talk about relationships or business partners. Be realistic w what you are willing/not willing to sacrifice.
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To support & encourage your lovers as they navigate how their spirituality plays a part in their life!
Drop a Leaf 🍁 Emoji because you believe in all the colors of the wind!
✨Venus in the Tenth House
Cinderella- Cinderella
“When Cinderella's cruel stepmother prevents her from attending the Royal Ball, she gets some unexpected help from the lovable mice Gus and Jaq and from her Fairy Godmother.” Internet Movie Database (IMBd).
Venus in the Tenth House is all about restriction, discipline, class & sophistication. Venus in the 10H/Capricorn is all about a rise to power & union after struggle & hardships. If you have this placement, it is very likely that you are highly ambitious & have big dreams. This is a powerful Venus, because the 10H is the highest place in people’s chart. Plus Saturn, the natural ruler of the 10H/Capricorn, is very friendly towards Venus & enjoys spoiling it. You exude beauty & class, & public appearances mean a great deal to you. You are careful about keeping up a certain reputation & you work hard to maintain it. The world’s perception of you plays a huge part in your relationships & partnerships. You have the capability to be very well known for what you do as a profession. With Venus in the 10H, you may be interested in pursing a career in the arts/entertainment; film, television, modeling, fashion, etc or politics. (Funny how actors are politicians & politicians are actors) You are most likely to need an audience in order for you to consider yourself successful in your worldly pursuits. (Marrying the boss)
Cinderella is the PERFECT story of Venus in 10H/Capricorn, because it demonstrates the power of a Saturn Return BAY-BEE!!! Ms. Cinderella was going THROUGH IT, literally for no reason. Her mother died, then her dad got married because he wanted help raising her, so he married a woman who turned out to be a BXTCH. THEN he had the nerve to die, so Cinderella was forced to take care of her evil-ass step-mama & her ugly-ass step sisters. Talk about 10H/Saturn giving hardships! Through all of this chaos, Cinderella remained dutiful & helpful. People don’t always realize this, but 10H/Capricorn energy is feminine. So Venus in the 10H, puts Venus back in a feminine sign. Cinderella emanates how this feminine energy can remain kind & loyal, even when unnecessary restrictions & hardships are placed on them. The beauty comes after aaaallllll the BS. She was rewarded abundantly for her discipline, (but we will get into this later).
As I stated earlier, you can look at Cinderella’s fairy God Mother (Whitney Houston is Queen! I know we are doing Disney, but I have to pay honor to my girl. May she rest in peace) as her Saturn return. After years & years & years of being under the thumb of her step-mother & sisters, a miracle appeared to her because she stayed kind, open & never held resentment/contempt for her “family”.
I want to take a moment to really dig into how Cinderella has been dissed/disrespected & why she doesn’t deserve it. Idk if you can tell, but Cinderella is my favorite Disney Princess. Is this because I have Venus in the 10H? Maybe. Maybe I am a bit biased, but let me tell you why. When feminists/The Cheetah Girls talk about Cinderella sitting in a dusty cellar waiting for somebody to come & set her free, they are missing the entire point of the story. Not ONCE did Cinderella dream of being a Princess or say that a man was her only ticket out of the shenanigans. She is the epitome of feminine strength & beauty. She cooked, she cleaned, she sewed, she sang, she was obedient & never really complained about what she couldn’t control. People stay disrespecting Cinderella as being weak, but when you really think about what she went through, she was SO strong— a lot stronger than most. There is nothing weak about authentic gentleness. She never wanted to disrupt the status quo, she played with the hand she was dealt. She sucked it up & kept her wits until the Universe blessed her with an opportunity that ended up changing her life. If you have this placement, really look & see how this could be parallel to your life & experiences. Have you been shamed because you respect authority & boundaries, even if that means embracing hardships & self-sacrificing? Do you understand the true femininity you posses, simply by doing what you are told, but knowing that in the long-run, you will be rewarded greatly? Truly think about this, because this could be a theme that is played out in your life over & over again, until the age of 33 (according to Vedic astrology, 27 for western). The overall trick of this placement is to RECOGNIZE A MIRACLE WHEN IT COMES!!!! Read that again. Saturn does not deny, it delays. Cinderella was NEVER meant to stay scrubbing them dusty hoes clothes for the rest of her days. She didn’t know it, but the entire time, she was being prepared to be a loving & compassionate QWEEN! This is a significant part of this Venus placement. There is no right or wrong way to be a woman. Being dutiful & disciplined can be just as strong & powerful as being a “bad bxtch” who don’t take no shiz from no man. Don’t let people diss Cinderella, she really was a beautiful, kind & strong woman who deserved her happily ever after! (Sorry, I just had to go on a little rant. I get the sentiment of not wanting to be beholden to a man, but someone people feel whole when they are able to serve the ones they love. There is NO shame in that! Different strokes for different folks!)
Back to the film, So after Cinderella is again shxt on by her step-mother, her blessing comes! Note here, “time is of the essence”. That is important to Venus in the 10H/Capricorns! Time is not always on your side. Saturn is the traditional ruler of time, so things can happen later in life than normal. Or when these amazing things happen, you only have a short time to act! Of course we all know the rest of the story, the Prince sees her, falls in love w her because she’s the most beautiful girl at the ball. But she has to run back home, he searches for her & then he finds her. He marries her, takes her away from them crusty bad build fugly family members & they live happily ever after.
It is imperative for this sign to continue to dream & to remain patient & diligent when it comes to love. You may really struggle w finding a partner while you are younger, because you tend to be mature for you age, no matter your age, you take relationships seriously & chances are, you have other responsibilities! Don’t think that delay means denial. Just like Cinderella, she worked worked worked worked worked, & than magically, she met the love of her life! Of course it’s hard to believe in fairytales, as Saturnians are naturally cynical, but believe! A dream is a wish your heart makes! So don’t let the tough things in life stop you for loving every bit of your journey. Cinderella impressed the Prince with one glance. You will do the same when the time is right!
One final thought, 10H/Capricorn placements are usually attracted to men with status & power. This Venus is all about leveling up as well. Our baddie Cindy, married the Prince— this can be seen as the modern equivalent of marrying the big boss! DO NOT SETTLE!!! DO NOT SETTLE!!! DO NOT SETTLE!!! I ain’t saying this placement is a gold-digger, but I am saying this placement will not mess w any broke _____. No scrubs! If the shoe don’t fit, you must acquit!
For Him: If you are dating/married to a person w a Venus in the 10H/Capricorn, this person expects loyalty, sacrifice, dutifulness & structure. This may sound boring, but I will say, this placement gets better as it ages— fine like wine. Think about it. What do most people truly want in their later years? Peace & security! This Venus can offer that, but it takes time, some serious investments & sacrifice. Young male Venus in the 10H/Capricorns are extremely hard to pin down, because they want all their ducks in a row before committing to a relationship. This is someone that is more than okay taking it slow in relationships & building. They will not rush & you cannot rush then. Like Prince Charming in Cinderella, he wasn’t going to get married until he was good & gosh-darn ready. His parents had to throw him an entire ball to find a wife, only for him to fall in love w the one girl he was most unlikely to have! THEN he refused to be w anyone else, forcing the entire kingdom to comply to his demands. Who knows how many tax dollars he spent just looking for her! He knew what he wanted & Prince Charming wasn’t going to have anything less. Just like Prince Charming, this partner will eventually turn into a King. This relationship may require more patience than you are willing to give, but if you allow the relationship to bloom, it will be well worth the wait. (Don’t wait forever though. NEVER wait forever, but assuming its a healthy relationship, it will be worth the time & energy). Another way this placement can present itself is like the “cowboy” trope. This partner can be the strong, silent type, living off the land, building their wealth from the bottom up. They can also be a cop or a military man, someone working for the government. Again, it’s all about the 401K & retirement plan. They appreciate more than most stability & structure. This can be very beneficial in the long run. At their worst, they can be very rigid & unmoving. At their best, they can be practical problem solvers, planning for a raining day, but knowing how to enjoy the fruits of their labour!
For Her: If you have Venus in the 10H/Capricorn, you are meant to bring out strength, steadiness & balance in your partnerships. You will most likely take the role of the more practical one, or be attracted to older, mature “high-value” (bleh!) kind of men. A lot of people talk about wanting & deserving the best, but you are the placement to actually wait & work for the best. Most people lose patience & will sacrifice long-term stability for short-term pleasure…not you. It’s not in your DNA. You most likely have extremely high expectations in love & can have a very difficult time, particularly in your younger years, developing relationships. You may come off as cold & unbothered, but you are more so just waiting to be impressed. Once someone is able to capture your attention, you can prove to be one of the most loyal & hardworking partners on the planet! You take your relationships & commitments very seriously. It could be because it took you so long to find love in the first place, you want to try your best to maintain the relationships you do have. Imagine Cinderella! She would hard pressed to leave the Prince & go back to that nightmare she was living before! In any case, because you can be so loyal in your relationships, you have to make sure you are being loyal to the right lover/partners. You don’t want to waste your energy, giving & giving to something that is not giving you something in return— even if it just status & financial security. You may have some relationships that are dull & boring from the outside world, but that most likely brings you a lot of comfort. The downside to this is that you can run into one of those long love-less, sexless, contractual type of relationships for the sake of security. If that’s not what you want, don’t settle. Don’t feel obligated to stay in partnerships that don’t serve your emotional needs as well. As stated before, you are a lover/partner that brings out the practical side of relationships. You of all people know that love isn’t all about rainbows and butterflies, it’s compromise that moves things along. (S/o to you if you get the reference) & love don’t pay not bills. You are hard-working in life & in your relationships, so just be sure to take time to be fun & spontaneous. Life doesn’t have to be so serious all the time. Plus people may confuse your focus on work as you not liking them because you can be one track. Please be mindful of other people’s emotions & understand Acts of Service is not everyone’s love language & try to accommodate. If you can balance your severe nature with a more loving one from time to time, like your opposite house 4H/Cancer, you have a lot of potential to have a lifetime romance! You are in it for the long-haul.
What You Bring to the Table: Discipline, Commitment, Status, Class & Elegance.
How to Negotiate: You should always be a tough negotiator when it comes to your relationships. You, more than any other placement, needs decide what a relationship will be upfront, so you know what to expect. Do not wait until year 3 to be like “Do you want kids? Can I be a stay at home mom? Do you believe in marriage?” NO!!! Ask people on date two/three. When it comes to jobs & business contracts, don’t put energy into a job where you don’t understand the job description. You will do what you’re told to the best of your abilities, as long as you are told clearly & honestly. Always remember that you are a valuable asset to anyone; be it in love or working situation, because YOU WILL WORK where most people just try to skim & get by doing the bare minimum. You believe in blood, sweat & tears to get the job done. THIS sets you a part from many & never allow others to take this trait for granted…starting w yourself. (You and Venus 6H/Virgo are probably the most hardworking in work & relationships tbh). So PLEASE make sure that you are paid your dues. This is particularly true in your later part of life, after your Saturn return. You may have encountered/are encountering a lot of BS in your 20s & early 30s…hang in there love. You are just paying off some sort of karmic debt. But if you follow Saturn’s instructions, work hard & remained focused, you will be rewarded past your wildest dreams. You understand what REAL love is about once you fully evolve. This unevolved Venus can be materialistic & shallow, but if you learn the lessons Saturn is giving, you get the realest love of them all!
(Side note: Jupiter & Venus are the two planets most associated with gift giving & generosity. However, it has been argued that Saturn is the best give giver of all the planets. Why? Because Saturn’s gifts are long lasting! They may not be the biggest or the prettiest, but Saturn’s gifts will bring long-term abundance rather than temporary joy. If you have heavy 10H/Capricorn/Saturn placements in your chart, you have a really good shot to have come into the life w hardships, but die overcoming so many obstacles in the lap of luxury or a prosperous farm! Define what abundance means to you, work hard at it everyday, endure & have patience & you WILL reach your mountain top!)
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To learn to cherish relationships & be cherished, while maintaining stability, balance & discipline. Because after all, that’s what love is all about!
Drop a crown 👑 emoji because you were a bad b before any cash came!
✨Venus in the Eleventh House
Frozen- Elsa (I know she’s a queen, but hey)
“When the newly crowned Queen Elsa accidentally uses her power to turn things into ice to curse her home in infinite winter, her sister Anna teams up with a mountain man, his playful reindeer, and a snowman to change the weather condition.” - Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the Eleventh house is all about bonding, friendship & freedom. If you have Venus in the 11H/Aquarius, know that you ALWAY stand out in the crowd. Growing up, you may have felt outcast, or marched to the beat of your own drum. You are certainly one of a kind. The two extremes of this Venus can manifest with either having a lot friends & being extremely popular, or not having many friends at all until later in life. This is due to Saturn’s Co-rulership with Rahu/North Node for this sign in Vedic tradition— Saturn being the planet of restriction & delay. Because your perception of friendships is one that is very deep, understanding & open, while most people are superficial, you may find it hard to take light relationships seriously. At times, you may come off as cold & distant to those you care about the most, but you need solitude from time to time, even though many things will most likely need your attention. The reason there is so much emphasis on friendships here is because you are most likely to turn friends into lovers. You need to be comfortable w people enough to be your authentic self in order to consider any other kind of relationship. The beauty of this is, you allow others to be there most authentic self too.
You can be an outspoken partner. Unique & irreplaceable. Because you value friendship, you treat your lovers like friends. This could be a good thing & this can be a bad thing depending on who your partner is. You could be slow to open up to people & be friends with someone for yeeeeaaarrrss before you even consider them a romantic partner. This can be infuriating to people trying to pursue you, because your default mode is the friend zone. However, unlike other placements, w Venus in the 11H/Aquarius, this is nothing personal. You like to feel safe in your relationships & safe guard your need for freedom. You don’t like to feel bogged down in any way shape or form. Chances are, you’re not the most lovey dovey person in the world, but you are an awesome listener & don’t judge others for how they chose to live their lives or express themselves. In fact, you can be so non-judgmental & open, you may be interested in polyamorous or different kinds of relationship than the status quo. You like to be free as a bird and expect your lovers to be the same. You wouldn’t do well w someone who needs constant attention…you value your independence & cherish it in others while in partnerships— romantic or business.
Elsa in Frozen is a prime example of how this Venus can show up in the Disney world. Elsa was gifted with magnificent powers of being able to make ice & snow! At first, she was thrilled, but once she almost killed Anna (oops!), she turned away from her powers, trying to hide the very thing that makes her powerful & unique. You could mirror this in your own life at times. You most likely have some really interesting qualities about you that are special & even rare! But sometimes your “powers” can make you feel isolated & in turn fearful to be who you are. As Elsa’s powers grew stronger, her will to suppress them grew stronger as well, only causing an emotional outburst (Rahu/North Node), that accidentally causes an eternal winter. Feeling like she’s doomed herself & everyone around her, she goes into a self-imposed exile, leaving her sister to go on a journey to get her to calm down, end the storm & ultimately accept who she is, inside & out!
It is worth noting the close bond Elsa and her sister have, because the 11H also rules older siblings. Anna had a lot of love for Elsa & didn’t understand why she chose to push her away. Anna did everything she could in order to make her sister see the beauty in herself & in her gifts, until Elsa was comfortable enough with herself to come back into society. Are there ways that you have mirrored this in the past? Can you think of something that makes you “too cool for school” & you’d rather hide away instead of put yourself in a position to be rejected?
Through Frozen, you can see that it is BEST to accept & love yourself for everything that you are! 11H/Aquarius is energy is always misclassified as being detached and aloof, but that couldn’t be the further from the truth. As we can see, Elsa has emotions, extremely powerful emotions at that, she was just afraid of them, so she thought it would be best to keep them to herself— until she stuffed them down so long, her emotions became unrecognizable, chaotic & uncontrollable. You more than any other sign are capable of the most dramatic & destructive outburst. Whereas 4H/Cancer placements are emotional all the time…it comes as no surprise when they have their breakdowns. YOU, however, tend to keep a level head, so when you snap. YOU. SNAP. So you have to be mindful of this placement to not become the Ice Queen, freezing everyone out in fear of hurting someone or yourself. Getting hurt is a part of life. It’s all about how you handle it when “bad” things come along. Do you Let it Go & isolate yourself, or do you define what makes you unique and make snow cones for everyone instead? The decision is yours. This Venus placement can make or break your feelings/place in society.
This film is a great depiction of the highs & lows that can come w Venus in the 11H/Aquarius. At times, you are magical & ethereal which makes you interesting & unpredictable. But other times you can be volatile, causing you to want to isolate yourself or be isolated from others. Once you learn how to control your gifts & understand that you are just a wild card (lol) AND find friends/lovers who support you, you will be unstoppable & be able to do magnificent things. As you age, you will learn to love the public more & the public will love you. You will be able to offer such interesting insight to the greater conscious, spreading a message of love, acceptance & independence! Like Elsa, who didn’t have a singular Prince trying to win her hand in marriage, your duty for love is to the masses. After all, you have a Kingdom to run! It can be lonely at the top, but the top has the best view!
For Him: If you are dating/married to a person w Venus in the 11H/Aquarius your lover expects FREE-DOM, so baby, you’re gunna have to let it ring! As stated above, this placement values friendships over everything else. This requires a certain level of patience that other partners may not need. The beauty of this combination is he will be a loyal & understanding partner once you take the time to understand his individual corks. Else technically didn’t have a Prince Charming, & when this movie came out, it was a really big deal! This was the first Disney Princess movie that wasn’t centered around love (another point for being unique & breaking expectations). Venus in the 11H/Aquarius is one of the least “love” centered partnerships. Meaning, this Venus doesn’t so much deal w one on one relationships, but rather relationships w the masses & love relationships that aren’t romantic— like sister to sister relationships or fraternity/sorority for just a few examples. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying they won’t be your knight in shining armor, but this may not be their biggest priority in life. They may date & explore, but how their friends show up is more important than fleeting romances. This is something to keep in mind as you date a Venus in 11H/Aquarius, they may prefer being alone, & again, it is NOTHING personal to you. You may feel as if they are constantly focused on other things & not prioritizing you. Always remember, 11H is opposite of 5H, the tradition house of Leo. Leo is “me me me”, so Aquarius is “we we we”. A Venus in the 11H lover will feel like world hunger is more important than spending Valentine’s Day with you.
This can manifest as a very complex man, with mood swings & an unpredictable temperament— hence why it is important to give this lover freedom. Chances are, because they’ve spent time in isolation, they know themselves better than anyone else…so when they need some space, give them space. Although this lover can be romantic, don’t expect rose pedals every night when you come to bed. They care more about intellect & conversations & helping the world than holding hands. This is a masculine sign for Venus. You would be better off volunteering at the local soup kitchen for a date rather than going to a luxurious roof top bar. This lover is far from superficial and carries a disdain for anyone who he presumes is shallow. Venus in the 11H/Aquarius could be one of your best friends in life. Even though they may be a little off beat, they will support & encourage you to be your best self & to never shy away from your gift & talents, loving who you are!
For Her: If you have Venus in the 11H/Aquarius, you bring out the rebelliousness in your partners. 11H energy is the rebel, & so there will almost always be something different about your partnerships that causes your lovers to rebel against society in someway. It could be different cultures, religion, socioeconomic status etc…But trust, you are such a dream come true for people, they won’t mind jumping over hoops to be w you. Because the 11H is the house of wish fulfillment & gains, you bring a certain level of luck to your relationship. You may notice that your partners start doing better in life after hooking up w you, so yeah, you’re one special someone. You may find that some of your long-term relationships take a lot of twist & turns— running hot & cold. Go w the flow as much as you can, because Saturn is involved in this placement, your long-standing relationships will be tied to some sort of karma. You came to learn lessons about love & friendships, so forgiveness & understandings will be major factors in any of your serious relationships. Since this is a fixed sign, you have to mindful not to get too stuck in your ways. This placement can also indicate long-distance relationships as well or relationships that happen over the internet. 11H is the house of technology, so you could very well meet your mate online, or have relationships that are completely virtual at times. The more comfortable you become w the idea of having unique relationships that may not be understood by the outside world, the easier it will be to accept any relationships you are in. It is not going to be like anything else or everyone else’s relationships so quit while you’re ahead and don’t compare it to others. Now, a little warning that comes w this placement as well, is the fact that your friendships could play a significant part in any of your relationships. Be weary of his dynamic because sometimes friends (and siblings) can be overly protective of you & bring negative energy to your partnerships. Friends may feel like they are in competition between you and your loved ones— just learn how to balance the two! And on the flip side, don’t make your lover your best & only friend. Continue to strive & get to know people, you will be doing yourself & your relationships a disservice by isolating yourself further from society. People may not think Aquarius energy & love go together, but it truly depends on how you look at it. Most people come w high expectations in relationships & once they feel like they aren’t being met in some way, the relationship goes haywire, Aquarius energy doesn’t react that way. In fact, this energy is understanding & allows people to make their own choices instead of nagging w demands. With the right partner, this placement can possess the romance of a lifetime! As stated about in the “For Him” section, you may also be more likely to put your societal obligations ahead of your one on one relationships. At times, this can cause problems, so balance balance balance your need to help everyone around you, will the needs of your partner for some intimacy. You can’t be 100 places at once. Prioritize alone time with your partner if you have a lifestyle that causes you to be involved with larger groups— quality time is an important part of maintaining a relationship & you may need a reminder more than most.
What You Bring to the Table: Independence, Friendships, Loyalty & Originality
How to Negotiate: You should always remember that you are one of kind! You are rare & NO ONE can replace you! There are no two 11H/Aquarius placements that are alike, that’s why this placement can be so difficult to categorize. Because you are an Original, never EVER be treated like a copy-cat. Have confidence that there will won’t be another like you & don’t hang on to any relationship or partnerships that try to put you in a box—it’s not gunna happen!!! Don’t be afraid to walk away, because the love that you bring is unlike anything or anyone else…they will most likely come crawling back. You can always use your laid-back nature as an advantage as well. People will love to chase you because you seem so unbothered— however try not to make people chase forever. Like you, people do get bored. With this placement, more than any other placement, you may need to fake it until you make it. Meaning, because you can be so detached, you may have to pretend to care about things that you don’t care about just to let your partner know that you are still interested. You can go ghost for days, weeks & months and not realize it, so it is imperative for you to actively demonstrate your love to those you care about. Don’t get so caught up in your own world that you forget about the people who love and care about you. Stay somewhat grounded. Again, be confident that you will be one of the coolest lovers that any of your partners has ever been with & you will never walk away from the table empty handed.
You Venusian Soul Contract: To balance your uniqueness, retrained emotions & need for freedom within relationships in order to feel accepted by those you care about most , while maintaining one on one relationships even w bigger responsibilities to the public.
(Think of this placement like being a celebrity… & this placement can be an indication for fame as well. How are celebrities able to balance their public image & their personal lives? How often to Zendaya and Tom Holland actually get to sit down and cuddle up? Not often enough, I’m sure. Even if you aren’t star status, you may feel this dynamic play out in your significant relationships).
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✨Venus in the Twelfth House
Princess Jasmine- Aladdin
“A kindhearted street urchin and a power-hungry Grand Vizier vie for a magic lamp that has the power to make their deepest wishes come true.” - Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the Twelfth House is all about the spiritual side of love & what can’t be seen by the naked eye. If you have Venus in the 12H/Pisces, you are the hopeless romantic of the zodiac. You see straight through to people’s souls, bringing to the surface their most inner selves. Although this placement is exalt, it doesn’t mean that your love life is at all easy. In fact, you may really struggle in love because your expectations can be RIDICULOUSLY HIGH. Meaning, because you see the trueness in people, if they don’t see trueness in themselves, well then, what are you looking at? You have a habit of projecting the best qualities onto people & can ignore some of the things that would be troublesome to others. THIS ISN’T ALL YOUR FAULT THOUGH, people also make sure to put on the best versions of themselves around you because they want to impress you so badly. I’m sure you’re beautiful in your own special way. Your eyes can be one of your strongest features because they are the window to the soul— & since you have a pure soul, it’s reflected in the way you look at people. 12H/Pisces energy is traditionally ruled by the planet Jupiter in Vedic astrology, so you there could be strong influences in your relationships which are beyond your control. There could be distance, cultural difference, &/or religious factors that play a significant role in your most long term relationships. This placement is also most likely to give up worldly pleasure/gains & “love” to pursue more religious endeavors. This is the placement most likely to become a nun or priest. Like I said, your expectations can be so high to see good in people & in your lovers, Jesus Christ may be the only figure who meets your idealistic standards. (Just an example! Not trying to exclude other religions).
You may also have a theme of loss of love. Because the 12H is the house of loss & escape, you may lose significant lovers, but it will always trigger spiritual growth for you. Relationships are so deeply spiritual for you, you’ll experience relationships other people can only dream of. There is a higher vibration you require in love, that most people will not have the experience needed to satisfy your desires for the all encompassing love your soul needs. You may be inclined to give up all your monetary possessions, or on the contrary, you may want all the rubies, diamonds & pearls the world can offer. Either way, you will never be satisfied w just the material things in life & you will always yearn for something deeper & other worldly, even if the world is at your fingertips. This placement can also bring a certain level of illusion & escapism, so you will have to be careful not to get wrapped up in addictions to drugs & excessive pleasure. Jupiter loves to have a good time & explore other realms through astro projections— this tendency to want to have outer body experiences can lead to some nasty habits that are hard to break. It is okay to explore! But be mindful that you will always need to come back to Earth at some point.
Princess Jasmine illustrates the effect of Venus in the 12H/Pisces beautifully. Although the story is centered around Aladdin, the local street rat, his entire journey is triggered by a fateful encounter w the Princess. The moment he lays eyes on her, he instantly falls in love & wants to impress her, not knowing that she isn’t what she appears to be. This is Venus in the 12H/Pisces at its finest. Illusion & projection is the foundation of the relationship. Princess Jasmine is in a disguise & Aladdin is just being bad running the streets, stealing bread, but obviously has a heart of gold. Aladdin then goes to find a magical lamp (Jupiter) to grant him 3 wishes; Enter Genie, who transforms poor old Aladdin to a wealthy (appearing) Prince. He then goes on to pretend he’s a Prince in order to impress Princess Jasmine & hopefully one day marry her. Cue, the magic carpet ride! And for what it’s worth, your love life might have a few magic carpet rides, if you catch my drift. You are most likely to experience many soulmate connections. (I believe you can have multiple Soulmates/Twin Flames/Karmics, there is no limit. It depends on how many your soul needs so you can fulfill your Karma & learn whatever lesson). This highlights the explorative nature of this placement as Aladdin begins to show her the wonder of the world that she was unable to see in the safety of her castle. You may find that in relationships in your life, you are attracted to people that are not in your same class system. But this dynamic is what is most alluring to you in the first place. Jasmine was used to living in the lap of luxury, while Aladdin had to learn street smarts in order to survive. His savviness was beyond sexy (I know it’s a kids movie, but Aladdin is fine as hell) to Jasmine who longed to escape the trappings of her material world to live amongst the common people.
Of course, it’s a Disney movie, so the illusion & magic all comes crashing down & the true identity of Aladdin is revealed, but his sweet soul still remains. Jasmine is faced w a decision and of course…because it’s a Disney movie, she picks Aladdin & they live happily ever after. In real life, this shows the inherent self-sacrificing nature of this placement. IRL, Jasmine would have to give up her crown if she were to marry so beneath her, & sometimes you may feel like you are meeting people in life who are somehow “beneath” you. THIS IS NOT TO SAY THAT YOU ARE BETTER, but you may attract people who are in the throws of chaos in their life & through a fated encounter w you, they are plunged into the depths of a spiritual awakening. You signify someone is on the brink of a magnificent breakthrough if you enter into their lives.
You bring a certain level of magic to your long-term relationships that challenges the nature of reality itself. This can be extremely powerful & extremely destructive. You of all signs have to be very careful that you are not seeing your lovers through rose tinted glasses— don’t get caught up in the glitz & glamour, while others of you will need to be more realistic in choosing your love partners. Yes the boy may have a beautiful heart, but if he is a lost soul, it is not your duty to help him find it.
This film depicts how rewarding this placement can be. Defying all the odds, exploring 2 totally foreign worlds & having a magically spiritual connection that knows no bounds is just the tip of the iceberg for Venus in the 12H/Pisces. On the other hand, it shows that lies/false perceptions can be the foundation of the relationship if not handled correctly. Make sure you are seeing people, places & things for what they are! Don’t fall for the okey-doke. There is no need to always be a sucker for a sob-story. You are meant to guide & teach partners through their Karma, not always go through the trenches w them. It is also worth noting that you can be a great artist & creative, depicting the highest ideals of love & love loss. Channel this energy into something positive rather than running away from feelings you can’t explain w words— feel them & turn them into art. On a final note, like 11H Venus, this Venus can deal a lot w isolation. You could go long periods of time being single. (Good time to work on artistic projects, use this time wisely) This is due to the fact that you are opposite of Virgo, the hermit in tarot, & isolation is required for you to learn some of the harder lessons about love & life. You could go from single single single, to entangled entangled entangled very quickly after YEARS of half-hearted relationships. Because of your outer & inner beauty, however, you will always attract people towards you, but since you don’t necessarily believe in superficial relationships, you will be less likely to settle w anyone less than a soulmate. (Again, you got some high standards, babes lol) This is a beautiful, but challenging placement, yet capable of producing the strongest of romances.
For Him: If you are dating/married to someone w Venus in the 12H/Pisces, this lover expects a soulful connection. They want to be wrapped up in your essence until you become one w one another & ultimately one w the universe. As stated above, this lover has high expectations for their loves & may get caught in the loop of overly projected onto you, putting you a pedal stool & blinding themselves to the harsh reality that no matter how great you are, you are still human. Aladdin was mesmerized by Jasmine & did everything in his power to become what he THOUGHT Jasmine wanted, rather than getting know her first hand. Like lovers in your life, they may put on airs & appear to be something they are not, attempting to escape their true identity since you seem so magical. They could easily misrepresent themselves when it comes to dealing w money & finances, or just wanting to come across as a better person than what they actually are. Chances are this is subconscious, but it can also be manipulative so watch out. Withholding truth is a way to gain & maintain power. As long as you don’t know what they are hiding, they have control. Be smart. Pisces energy tends to deal w rejection— rejection from society & rejection of themselves. Aladdin is a great example, because being a poor boy for the wrong side of the tracks, he feels as if he’s been discarded by society as a whole & the only way to be seen and be taken seriously is to (fake-ly) amass an extreme amount of wealth. Venus in Pisces males can be downtrodden from a young age & could have certainly struggled w addictions/poverty, trying to escape their reality or just feel out of body…like a fish out of water, they will have a fascinating story. Due to this Venus being back in a feminine house, this male will value femininity but also want a level of chaos. Aladdin had a grand ole time keeping up the charade until he didn’t. This will be a lesson that this Venus placement can play out over and over again until they learn to love who they are, leave material & worldly pursuits behind & instead dedicate themselves to loving others and their own personal spiritual journey.
For Her: If you’re have Venus in the 12H/Pisces you bring out the dreamy side of your lovers. You seem to defy all earthly logic & float through life w a kind of mysticism that leaves others in awe. You may find it difficult to break out of people’s high expectations— as you feel people are looking through you rather than at you. Meanwhile, you, on the other hand, are able to see the deepest parts of others quicker than most. You are as intriguing as you are mysterious, seemingly like you stepped through some unknown portal. This can be a blessing & a curse, it’s all about how you interact w your spiritual self. The more spiritual you become, the easier it will be to attract the soulmate you are looking for. You want a relationship that goes deeper than the typical mundane day to day union & instead, meets you on a soul level. You are not always impressed by “things”, money & stuff, you’d rather have an emotionally present lover who takes you by the hand & leads you to the under world. This placement forces your partners to have to look at life through a different set of lenses as you introduce them to the darkest parts of their souls. 12H & 8H placements are very similar in the depths they create, w the 12H actually being “darker”. (You may want to read 8H Venus as well, because y’all are similar, but yours happens on an even more profound level, arguably. While 8H Venus introduces their partners to “God” (8H to 9H), you introduce your partners to themselves (12H to 1H)…see how that works?) Since you see so deeply into people, eventually there is no where for your lovers to run & hide, forcing them to shed their protective layers & reconcile their outer world w their inner selves. You will have such transformative relationships & transformed lovers. You act as a catalyst to their awakening & usually, send them on their way. This is can be a difficult placement to pin down as well. Because Pisces is mutable & fluid, you effortlessly guide through relationships & partnerships, particularly after you go through a VERY hard breakup. You go through the thick of it in love, to be light to your future loves. Just be careful not to get wrapped up in something that proves difficult to come out of. Like Jupiter represents, always look at the bigger picture. (Side note: you are probably excellent in bed, 12H deals w bed pleasure woot woot!)
What You Bring to the Table: Spirituality, Nothingness, Soulfulness & Illumination
How to Negotiate: You have a more passive approach when it comes to getting what you want. Your abilities to manifest are unparalleled, & you are filled w magic. Your relationship w Spirit has the potential to be so strong, that things tend to fall in place for you. Almost as if you keep a genie in your pocket! The trick w this placement is to master how you deal w loss. Things come & things go— you have to learn to go w the flow. You are not meant to hold on to any materialist things because you feel like you “need” them. That’s the catch. Once you feel like you need something or someone, you will almost always lose them. This is not to scare you, but to prepare you. This is the highest point of Venus, but its inherently contradictory. Love is not about owning items or owning people, it’s about letting the natural progression of life run things & following Spirit’s lead. You are the poster-child for what real love looks like, & real love is all about letting go & letting God, so to speak. Your happily ever after w certain partners, may not be in this life, but in the next. You are capable of the type of love that transcends space & time. Because we live in such a materialist world, it’s imperative to know that materials don’t define you. YOU define you. You may have all the gold & silver in the world, but it will mean nothing if you have no spiritual connection to the other world & also the willingness to let it go. This Venus placement is also meant to be very charitable. When you give things away (to the right causes) you will be rewarded greatly. The more giving/generous you are, the more you receive. But of course you know that! You’ve been working lifetime after lifetime after lifetime to understand this lesson!
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To see love & the world for what they really are, gain a connection w spirit & love as hard as you can as long as you can without falling into the trap of escapism
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With Love & Lust,
A-D 🖤💋
Author’s Notes: PHEW!!!!! Okay. This was by far the longest post I’ve made thus far & I pray you enjoyed it. Of course, shout out to my baby sister who talks these post out with me & helps organize my thoughts— without her, none of this would be possible. This one took over 25+ hours, but it was well worth it. I hope that you find this insightful. The meaning behind this post, and all my post for that matter, is so YOU can appreciate the type of *woman* that you are. We all come in different styles & flavors. There is no need to compete or judge another person for how they choose to express themselves. In order for you to be more confident in yourself, you should know what cards you’re playing with. I can’t tell you how much learning my love styles through astrology & tarot helped me become a better person even outside of love! That’s why I want to give back to the community that has given so much to me. I hope that after reading my post you feel more informed about yourself & feel a level of grace & ease as you make your way through life. Your soul contract is YOUR soul contract. Fulfill it to the best of your abilities. Love who you are. Love what you do. And then you’ll find it’s easier to love others & for others to love you!
{please read. Long post down below. Detailed examples of Venus in each house}
💋 Who is Venus?
Venus is the planet of love, art & luxury! The traditional ruler of feminine Taurus/2H and masculine Libra/7H. Venus is all about others; How you interact w others, how you come across to others, how you act towards others in relationships— business or personal. Venus also talks about income & wealth. How do you earn money? But more specifically, who do you earn money with & how? (See how the 2H & the 7H are interconnected?) Venus’ energy can be subtle, but extremely important when dealing with how one gets by in the world. After all, who are YOU if you never encounter another person? Who are you without the relationships you make and how you maintain them? Who are you when another “you” is to be considered? That’s why knowing & understanding one’s Venus sign will allow one more control in their personal & business relationships because they will always know how they show up! Think of knowing your Venus placement, like knowing “what you bring to the table”. And the answer is ALWAYS a FEAST!
(I want to take a moment to STRESS that I am not saying your worth is based on how other people perceive you. I’m saying the exact opposite. Once you know HOW other people perceive you, you can use that to your advantage. Don’t let onlookers define who you are, YOU define who you are, THEN you go out into the world, negotiating, making the necessary connections & developing & maintaining the relationships YOU deem adequate & conducive to YOUR personal growth. NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND…OKAY?!!! This is really essential to the 1H/7H axis. I could (and should) do a post regarding this dynamic. If you are reading this w strong Libra/7H placements, this is probably an ongoing battle for you— “where do I end & my relationships begin?”. Maybe this can help you define that! As for everyone else, we all have this dynamic in our chart. Although we may not struggle w it as much, we still struggle. Some of us have been called selfish & self-centered, others of us have been called doormats & passive, some of us have been called a blend of both, passive aggressive….ALL of these labels are dealing w how you come across TO other people. None of these labels would exist if you existed alone. What would be the point? Doesn’t matter if you’re selfish…you’re the only self! I hope I’m bringing this point home. We need relationships to help learn & define ourselves, we wouldn’t be able to learn who we are without interacting with other people. Even if you don’t like interacting w other people, that’s still technically, how you engage w others…you see? I hope I’m making sense. I just don’t want people coming at me like I’m preaching we need relationships as if that’s a bad thing. We DO need relationships w other people or else we are nothing. It’s about having HEALTHY relationships. And THAT is why I do the things I do & write the things I write. Hence, this tangent. But think of developing relationships like this, as the old saying goes “if a tree falls in the forest & no one hears it, did it fall?”. If a human is born in a void & no one knows that human exist & that human doesn’t know other humans exist…does that human exist? Does it even know it’s human? You see? We get a lot of information comparing ourselves to our outside world. Only way you would know you’re an introvert is if you saw an extrovert. Okay, I think y’all are smart wonderful people, so I’m going to put the shovel down. I always try to define where I’m coming from so the article makes sense! lol Back to Venus)
Venus is the planet that governs our relationships. It governs our wealth & our relationship TO our wealth. This is why I thought it would be a fun look to see Venus through the lens of Disney Princesses! What’s more luxurious & wealth acquiring than MARRYING (7H) a Prince Charming?
Through the houses, we will see your soul contract when it comes to your relationships w astrology. We will be looking at how you can acquire wealth through your house placement as well, particularly when it comes to using your romantic/marriage commitments.
Disclaimer, I believe marriage is more of a business deal than anything else (7H). Can marriage be about love? YES! Absolutely! Of course…but is it also about business and positional power? Yes. Very much so. I don’t want to pass off a naive message. Click off now if you believe in fairytale romances (& you don’t have delusional Pisces in your chart lol jk jk, I’m a Venus in Pisces myself), because that’s not actually what this post is about. Marriage has been a way for woman to obtain power & divorce has been a way for woman to obtain wealth. In fact, back in the olden days…jk it still happens today, Woman were/are used for marriage as pawns to ascertain political power & diplomacy. Let’s say, if an emperor wants to acquire more land, but doesn’t want war (Mars), he could marry his daughter’s off instead (Venus). That’s more specifically what we are looking at in this post. The negotiation between “love”, “marriage” & “power”.
It is also worth noting that in a Male’s charts in traditional Vedic astrology, Venus is a signifier of the Male’s wife & girlfriends— kind of like “his type”. In a Female’s chart, however, Jupiter & Mars, speak about her husband & boyfriend, respectively. I find Venus to be likened more to a woman’s “love language” in a female chart…but again, that’s a VERY shallow understanding of the role of Venus here, but just attempting to give some context!
💋 What does this have to do with you?
This post is going to be a complex look at Disney Princesses to describe the type of relationships & contracts you have with your “Prince Charming(s)”. Here, you learn where your power lies in your relationships because of how your partner’s VIEW you & the role you are supposed to play in their lives. As stated in all my previous post, feminine energy is “negative” energy. All we are meant to do is RECEIVE & REFLECT the light of our “positive” masculine counterparts. As a woman, we show man the dark-side of the moon, engaging them w their own inner chaos & wild feminine energy. Venus in the houses as Disney Princess is meant to inspire, educate & activate your inner qualities of beauty & engagement. You can tell a lot about what a man expects in relationships through his Venus Sign— once you know it, you will know if you align w his expectations or not! That gives you the power to decide if you want to commit or not & how you want to commit! (Whew…this was a lot….lol)
The Post will be broken up by “For Him:/For Her:” You are meant to read both perspectives!
For Him will describe WHAT the Prince expects from the Princess.
For Her: will describe HOW the Princess shows up & contributes to his life.
Once you align his expectations & what you have to offer…you have the power to NEGOTIATE your role in the business of marriage & relationships! That’s what Venus is all about, baby cakes!
BE CREATIVE: Although this perspective is through the houses, you can read for your Venus’ Zodiac sign & your 7H ruler!
(Ex: If you have Aries in the 7H, you can read Venus in the 1H or if you have Sagittarius in the 7H, you can read Venus in the 9H…this is a flexible post!)
You can & should, if applicable, also read the “For Him” section about YOUR PARTNER’S Venus placement. This will give you some insight on your connection through their gaze!
⚠️ I do not want to offend ANYONE by using traditional gender pronouns. I am a cis-gender heterosexual female, so I am writing from the perspective I know best. I am NOT trying to say this is the only perspective that matters. I have included cis-woman, trans women & even drag queens as examples in this post. Please feel free to share any insights you have, no matter the gender, non-gender or perspective! I’m truly open & supportive. This is not an exclusionary post.
Special thanks to my baby sister, of course! She helps me more than y’all can ever know!!
Don’t plagiarize or copy my work. I work too long & too hard lol.
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💋 Venus in the First House
Mulan - Mulan
“To save her father from death in the army, a young maiden secretly goes in his place and becomes one of China's greatest heroines in the process.” - Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the First House is all about honing masculinity & bringing out the masculinity in your partner. As a Venus in the First House native, you are courageous, adventurous & exceptionally hard to tame. Like Mulan, you may refuse to conform to traditional gender roles & you are not afraid to break any rules doing so. You will is strong & you will not be put out in a box. You are brave & force your lover’s/partners to do the same!
The First House is traditionally ruled by Mars & is home to Aries. The First house is also associated with the body, so to have Venus here means that you are a natural beauty (whether you think so or not) & can easily attract others towards you. This could make you quite promiscuous in the eyes of some, but daring & adventurous to others! You do you, boo! With time, you can really be in control of you sexuality— *cough cough*— I mean, negotiation skills. Because people tend to flow in & out of your life so easily, you learn a lot about human nature & what drives people’s desires. You of all combinations, in my opinion, can bring desire (Mars/1H/Aries) & Beauty (Venus) together in an extremely powerful way! (I believe Rihanna has Venus in the 1H as well…hard to do examples w houses bc birth times are funky)
When Mulan’s village was on the brink of war, her aging father was called to action. Although a great warrior in the past, Mulan knew that in his poor health, it would be unlikely for him to make it through battle. After FAILING her etiquette classes to be eligible for marriage (she’s a tomboy through & through), she disguised herself as her father & off she went to train for war. A bit awkward & quite goofy, she was seen as a disappointment to the General of the war. When the leader was about to send her home, she put on a face of determination & trained all night, making sure that she was strong enough to stay and fight. She became the first warrior, male or female, to complete a difficult challenge of strength! This highlights that 1H/Aries energy! She was not going to be defeated by anyone & wasn’t going to be told that she could not do something. If anything, the word “no” is what motivated her to dig her heels in! You could carry this same type of energy!
An additional observation I have w this placement/film is how Mulan was forced to hide her body because it would have given her true identity away. At times with this placement, you may feel the need to hide your body away because you feel it could attract unwanted attention in some way. Always do what you’re comfortable with, but never hide your body out of shame! Be comfortable! I’m a firm believer in, “if you got it, FLAUNT it!” You could fall on either extreme of this spectrum. You could be an exhibitionist at times, or very reserved.
By the end of the film, Mulan is the bravest of them all, after her identity is revealed, she is exiled from the military, but manages to still put her life on the life to finish the war, finally defeating the Huns & bringing peace to her town!
With Venus in the 1H/Aries, you understand more than others, that war brings peace. If you don’t stand up for what you believe in & overpower your bullies, then you will never find a solution or be taken seriously. Not you! You call out injustice, even if it means ruffling some feathers. You stand up for what you believe is right! Like Mulan, you are not afraid to get down & dirty if you have to in oder to bring back peace to your life & those around you. The best part is, you don’t have to do anything but walk in a room for people to notice this about you! It’s just your aura.
Mulan was very active, much like yourself. She could hardly sit still when it came to doing her training & much preferred to be out on the battle field with “the boys”. In a sense, she actually HID behind masculinity in order to be accepted. If you aren’t the “beauty queen” trope, you could easily fall into the tomboy trope. EVEN SO, even if you are more masculine presenting, the right person will always see through your front & see the beauty & divinely feminine energy you truly possess. At the end of the day, what’s more womanly than protecting your aging father from certain death? What’s braver than putting your life on the line for someone that you love and care about? THIS is what Venus in the First House is all about!
For Him: If you are dating/married to someone with Venus 1H/Venus in Aries, they expect their lovers to be free and spontaneous! They love a great chase, but don’t want to chase too long. This lover will require constant stimulation, but if you manage to keep their attention, you have fierce undying love & loyalty! Mars is the soldier of the planets…this lover will go to war for you & may expect the same in return. Like Captain/General Li Shang (voiced by BD Wong, the Law & order dude, I had NO idea, how cool), he first saw Mulan as the weakest & most vulnerable in the pack. Shang was a tough lover to crack. Very one-track, his only focus was to win. This may be something you notice in your lovers/partners. All in all, because of Mulan’s hard work, dedication, discipline & ultimate show of bravery…he ended falling deeply in love with her. (Awwwwwwwwwwww…..) And they lived happily ever after. Shang was forced to change his entire perception of woman in the process, because Mulan truly gave him a run for his money.
For Her: If you have Venus in the First House/Aries, you are meant to bring out the fierceness in your lovers. Your contract is to literally “make a man” out of your partners. You will either attract SUPER masculine men, who love your feistiness & want the challenge, OR you’ll attract more feminine men who could feel intimidated by you & feel the need to be in competition w you because you stand so firmly on your own two feet! With the 1H & Aries being Mars ruled, you could find yourself in competition with you lovers— not the diplomatic kind of relationship we talked about before. You HAVE to be w the man in charge! You need, crave & desire that Big D Energy…because honestly, you caring it yourself. No balls required. And if you date anything less than that, you will trigger the men you attract/attracted to you to WANT to be in charge. You force them to realize they are “weak” in some aspects of their lives. They will either respond w challenging themselves to step up to the plate OR the will get left behind, because 1H/Aries energy waits for NO ONE.
What You Bring to the Table: Pure masculine power, drive & bravery!
How to Negotiate: Your power move will always be “I can walk away & stand on my own at ANY time”. You are more than willing to walk out from any negotiating table if you feel your needs are not being met or your worth is not being valued. You encourage partners to tap into their own masculinity in ways they may have never done before— truly “making a man” out of people. Your best tactic to challenge the status quo & not settle for anything less than ideal. It’s also very powerful that you are not afraid to break the rules if it means standing up for what you believe in. This makes you quite the force to be reckoned with as you develope relationships & business deals! (Use this gift wisely). Like Mulan, you will not be confined to what society says is “womanhood”, you attract the strongest & the best of men, & you look bloody good doing it! Camo or lipstick, you are down for the cause!
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To use your own inner strength to bring out the strength in others.
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💋 Venus in the Second House
Aurora - Sleeping Beauty
“After being snubbed by the royal family, a malevolent fairy places a curse on a princess which only a prince can break, along with the help of three good fairies.” - Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the Second House is all about luxury, beauty, arts & the sensual pleasures of life. Venus is more than comfortable here, being as Venus is the traditional ruler of the 2H & Taurus, making this placement extremely feminine. As a Venus in the 2H native, you have refined taste & beauty, great “taste” in food & culture & truly have the power to be a great homemaker in a beautiful home! However, like Aurora, your beauty can become a source of envy & jealousy, leaving you in a prison of designer bags & golden ceilings.
The Second house is associated w possessions, owning & tradition. If you are a 2H native, tradition could be very important to you. (Think religion, cultural obligations etc…) Education could have also been a huge emphasis as you were growing up & you were most likely expected to keep up certain appearances. You may have been born into some luxury or higher class family. If not, you could aspire to obtain wealth later in life— specifically through marriage. No one can compete w you when it comes to setting the standards of beauty trends & cultural influences. You believe in and appreciate the classics— like the little black dress or the power of red lipstick. You are like Aphrodite in the flesh when people grace your presence. You stand out, but as stated earlier, you are more likely to stay in the home & draw your lovers towards you, opposed to chasing after them yourself.
Your beauty is quite natural! Sure, you could wear make-up & expensive clothing, but you posses a genuine timeless beauty that doesn’t really need much enhancement.
Aurora, born a princess, had a curse placed on her out of jealousy & spite. Her beauty was known throughout the land, & her Prince Charming fought a DRAGON to be with her because she was such a jaw-dropping beauty! You have this gift! I want to draw the parallels that Tauruses are known to love sleeping…a sensual pleasure, of course…& how it ends up working in Aurora’s favor! This type of Venusian energy is so secure in itself, it really doesn’t have to do much to attract interested lovers. This is Venus in its most natural feminine form. In my opinion, this is one of the best placements for Venus, aspects willing— as long as you don’t fall into the trap of over identifying w your beauty or allowing others to let your beauty dehumanize you. (I know, I know, that’s literally all I’m taking about in this post, but beauty fades, it’s character that remains forever.) Pretty privilege is a privilege, so be sure to use it wisely & capitalize while you can!
Lastly, I want to draw emphasis to the kiss of true love that breaks the curse. To kiss someone is one of the sensual pleasures 2H Venus is privy too. Essentially, in order to get Aurora out of this deep sleep, all of her senses had to be invigorated by true love’s kiss. If this isn’t 2H romance, I don’t know what is! You know how to stimulate your lover’s & your lover’s know how to stimulate you. Plus, you’re probably a great kisser. This is a sweet deal for everyone involved if you ask me.
For Him: If you are dating/married to someone with Venus in the 2H/Taurus, they expect their lover’s to be trophy wives. Because the 2H controls owning, you guessed it, this placement can teeter on the verge of this man seeing their partner as more of a possession & object rather than a person. A more positive take is that, this Prince Charming wants everyone to know that in order to get their partner, they had to have fought hard and/or worked hard to obtain such a decadent beauty. They need to feel as if their lover is a prize after all their hard work & efforts. This lover will require you to keep up appearances & play to more traditional gender roles. (If you are not this type of girl, then stay away from this type of man. 2H/Taurus are NOTORIOUSLY stubborn…so don’t think you’ll be able to convince them otherwise, just my warning.) Prince Phillip was enamored w Aurora the MOMENT he laid eyes on her. He was determined to get to her no matter how long & how hard he had to fight to win her hand in marriage— making him a true King. This man, literally fought a Dragon witch lady w a sword, just so he could kiss her. How romantic! I would love for a man to fight a dragon to the death for me…that’s real love right there— Aurora & her beauty being the ultimate prize!
For Her: If you have Venus in the 2H/Taurus, you are meant to bring out the sophistication & intrigue in your lovers. As stated above, you ARE a catch. In a way, you are a status symbol. The partners you attract are meant to work for your beauty & charm. Your hand in marriage or even in dating, doesn’t come free or easily. You are more likely to end up in long-term commitments & understand the importance of the saying “slow & steady wins the race”. You believe love can take time & like Aurora, you don’t mind waiting for your Prince Phillip to come & rescue you from the wickedness of the world, all while taking a nice long nap. Let him do all the hard work. You want to feel protected by your partners due to your extremely feminine energy. You are meant to bring out courage & worthiness in your lovers more than anything else & in return you give them stability & status.
What You Bring to the Table: Beauty, grace, class & status. You turn Princes to Kings!
How to Negotiate: Honestly, you could sleep through the negotiation process…lol. In all seriousness, your presence & how you grew up, or how you carry yourself as an adult, is really enough to put you in the princess category. Your beauty, inner & outer, is enough to make lovers want to jump the broom as soon as they lay eyes on you. Your power is patience. You will sit at the table, no matter how long it takes, until you have the contract/commitment you are looking for. You know that if someone really wants to prove their love to you, that could take time. Your lovers will expect nothing but the best from you & you will expect to sit in the lap of luxury, no questions asked.
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To use your outer & inner beauty to secure long-term stability & status.
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💋 Venus in the Third House
Rapunzel - Tangled
“The magically long-haired Rapunzel has spent her entire life in a tower, but now that a runaway thief has stumbled upon her, she is about to discover the world for the first time, and who she really is” — Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the Third House is all about learning & exploration. As a Venus in the 3H native, you are curious & quite adventurous. You always carry a child-like wonder towards the world & aren’t afraid of getting into trouble or challenging gender norms. This is a masculine energy for Venus, so love happens to be more cerebral than lovey dovey in the 3H. This is not inherently a bad thing, but there is always a certain level of detachment when it comes to your love affairs & business contracts. You could find yourself flying from lover to lover, job to job, having a “I’m here for a good time, not a long time” kind of vibe. Own it! You love learning, reading, taking in information & are usually quite talkative. You may have a gift for writing, speaking or acting!
Rapunzel was locked away in a castle for years & years & years, her only company being her adoptive (or abductive) mother. She learned how to entertain herself, but grew bored of being up in that ivory tower all alone. Once her Prince Charming made an appearance, she was off to the races along side him to explore the world her mother had kept her from! Although you may not have been locked in an ivory tower your whole life, let’s hope not…yikes…you share that same wonder of the world as Rapunzel! You are daring & devious. Knowledgeable, but always yearning for more. You may never really grow out of child-like naivety, because fully maturing is boring! Why grow up, when you could be a kid forever?! (If I wasn’t focused on Disney Princesses, Peter Pan would be the perfect Disney character to demonstrate 3H/Gemini energy. Even Captain Hook was running away from that clock, a metaphor for aging). Like Rapunzel, sometimes this can work against you. You may find yourself attracting people & partners that perpetually treat you like a child— shielding you away from other things in life. When it comes to this particular house placement— I think the 3H/9H or Gemini/Sagittarius axis is hard to ignore. This is the relationship of the student/teacher dynamic. All of your real connections are meant to be an exchange of knowledge & culture. You show up more as the student, but a good teacher is always a greater student, never ceasing to learning. So when it comes to this axis in particular, it has quite a unique exchange of energy & dynamic. At times, Repunzel’s childishness proved to be quite crafty & although unpredictable, quite useful when needed. Her Prince had no choice but to watch & learn as her quick-wittedness proved to be most successful in times of need. In the end, her Prince Charming (well, conman, in this case) fell in love with her love for exploration. This Venus placement is about overall adventure & a somewhat daring relationship! We Stan a good Bonnie & Clyde style relationship w this Venus house placement! Thick as thieves, but who is thieving who is always the question w tricky 3H/Gemini.
For Him: If you are dating/married to someone with Venus in the 3H/Gemini, they crave constant stimulation. Like 1H/Aries, this partner refuses to be bored & have no issue walking away if they become so. They expect their partner’s to explore the world w them & be as social & charismatic as they are. They are HIGHLY attracted to intelligence, usually over physical appearance & don’t take kindly to shallow individuals stuck in the material world. They don’t expect their partner’s to be experts in any given subject, but they love, adore & revere a lover who is always willing to learn & keep up with conversation. Flynn Ryder is charming, likable, witty, & oh yeah...a trickster bandit thief. Perfect example of a male Venus in the 3H/Gemini. Repunzel took him captive & forced him to guide her through the world. In this case, Ryder is acting like a teacher to a fresh soul. He’s been jaded to the world around him while she’s just now seeing the world for the first time! This dynamic is invigorating to him! This is essential to any partner w this placement— they have to feel like their life experiences are valued & never-ending. This placement is also very likely to have an age gap within their long-term connection. Although not the most responsible or stable of partners, it’s a requirement for their relationships to be spontaneous & they have to learn a thing or two along the way. If a lover can’t offer them that, they need not apply.
For Her: If you have Venus in the 3H/Gemini, you are meant to bring out the inquisitive & care-free side of your lovers. You are always either teaching them new things about the world, or introducing them to interesting places, peoples or things! There is a natural charm in you demeanor, & no matter how you look, once people hear you speak or share your ideas, wise people will want to listen. You also challenge your partners to push the boundaries outside of their comfort zone. Following the 2H/Taurus, which is ALL abut the comfort zone, you, like Repunzel, are meant to break away from the familiar & live outside the bounds of expectations, bringing your partners along for the ride! You could find yourself in all kinds of “entanglements” w different genders, classes & backgrounds. You are, like your fellow Air sign, Aquarius, never follow love w you heart, you follow it w your mind & intellect. This can lead to some once in a lifetime adventures. You are one of the more difficult placements to pin down, but to the right & wisest lover, you’ll make an excellent companion though this wild ride we call life— always making the most out of any situation, using nothing more than the power of your voice & mind. Sexy!
What You Bring to the Table: Wit, Intellect, Charisma Child-like Wonder & Adventure!
How to Negotiate: You, of all placements, have to be careful not to be the trickster because you are the ultimate negotiator. Think of a child & how unreasonable they can be at times! That’s you! Hehe, all jokes aside. You understand the value of time & what you will & won’t do. You’re willing to try almost anything once, but if it’s not for you, no one can get you a second time! There is magic in this when you show up to the table. You can leverage your quick mindedness & ability to adapt in any situation— almost as if you were a shapeshifter. If they can keep you, who wouldn’t want you on their team?!
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To inspire & encourage your partners to always be a student of life & seek out adventure, no matter what age!
Drop a runner 🏃🏽♀️ emoji because you are outta here!
💋 Venus in the Fourth House
Snow White - Snow White & the Seven Dwarfs
“Exiled into the dangerous forest by her wicked stepmother, a princess is rescued by seven dwarf miners who make her part of their household.” — Internet Movie Database (imbd)
Venus in the Fourth House is all about motherly quality & tranquil happiness in the home. As a Venus in the 4H native, you are very nurturing when it comes to your love affairs &/or could have a business in home-care. You prefer to have a more traditional home life & could easily find joy in homemaking— cooking, cleaning, & caring for family members. This usually comes from a space of genuine love & duty (your opposite sign in Capricorn of course!). Quite soft in nature, you woo your lovers w an understated demeanor & give off a “girl next door”…or “M.I.L.F.” vibe if you’re already a mom. One thing that can come as a draw back to this Venus placement, is the need for constant validation, making you a lover that is hard to please. This is because you give so much to your partners, friends & family, you can feel very deeply when that love is not returned & sadly, drained…but I always say…your placement, is your placement. There are 11 other ways people can view love/relationships/business. Always be sure to remember that your way is not the only way to show affection. Regardless, this can be a very comfortable place for Venus because it is back in a feminine sign.
Snow White is a lovely example of a Venus in the Fourth House because she was able to win the hearts of not 1, not 2, not 3, but 8 men! (The seven dwarfs, plus the Prince) & managed to piss off the Queen by simply being her sweet, innocent, caring & beautiful self. Once she was banished to the forest, she was able to keep her stay & earn protection from the dwarfs because she performed “motherly” duties so well! They couldn’t believe it when the Queen came and tried to kill her, YET again! Mind you, the first attempt of the Queen to kill Snow White was only thwarted because the OG Knight that was sent to kill her thought she was too beautiful & sweet to be killed! This is YOU! Your energy may invite people who are bitterly jealous of your loving spirit & find ways to make you unhappy, but it never stops you from sharing love to anyone willing to receive it. Plus, people could come to your rescue when you are persecuted & that’s a lovely gift to have.
This can be seen as more of a “Damsel in Distress” type Venus. Because let’s be real…4H placements/Cancers are ALWAYS in distress. (I kid, I kid, I’m a western Cancer rising & a Vedic Moon Atmakarka. I say this with love, but you know how Cancers are…don’t act shy now). Anyone from a Prince & seven dwarfs (I hope that’s not offensive…Little people?) will want to act courageously for you in order to make sure you are out of harms way— the way a child wants to protect their mother! Let’s never forget how “Yo Mama” jokes are the ULTIMATE sign of disrespect. Venus in the 4H/Cancer demands a certain type of respect! Snow White’s tale of woes & triumphs illustrate the ups, downs & overall kindness & good hearted nature of this placement.
For Him: If you are dating/married to someone w Venus in the 4H/Cancer, they expect an all encompassing & traditional love life. Naturally very possessive (think of a crab), they want to come home to the same routine, a clean home & a home cooked meal. This lover might be quite moody as well, & they expect their lover’s to kiss their boo-boos if they’ve had a bad day & read them a bed-time story. This may be one of the most sensitive places for Venus, particularly in a Male’s chart. They most likely have a REALLY close relationship w their mother’s or a REALLY not close one, so they crave that type of attention in their romantic partnerships as well. A “mama’s boy”, if you will. This Venus tends to negate the rational mind & act on emotions. Florian, Snow White’s Prince Charming, was amazed by her the moment he laid eyes on her. (I’m projecting a little here, but bare w me, this movie came out in the 30s). It’s almost as if he has an empathic connection to her. He saw her & KNEW that was the wife & the mother of his children! He came right in the knick of time to kiss her & break the wicked curse her stepmother put on her. (Mommy issues, right?) I cannot stress enough how much this Venus wants a simple Homelife. This might be the most likely placement to live by the motto: Happy Wife, Happy Life.
For Her: If you have Venus in the 4H/Cancer, you are meant to nurture & somewhat cater to you lovers & your family members. You have the potential to be one of the most doting wives because you truly believe in family values. You seek to comfort your partner when they are in despair, & you expect the same in return. I want to take a moment to point out that this Venus placement can also lead to YOU being a mistress. (Crazy, right?!) But because Cancerian energy can be so soft, and a place for peace, you could attract lover’s that are in an unsavory relationship & seek you & your love out for solitude & soliloquy. BE AWARE! People WILL take advantage of your kind nature if you let them. This could be tied back to your relationship w your own mother, perhaps you hate to dote on her for affections, so now you believe that is the only way to receive love….but that is another post for another day. Anywho, you are one of the ultimate “wifey” placements. You just give off that vibe of marriage material. People want to come home to you, build a family w you & lay their head on your (probably) nice bosom.
What You Bring to the Table: Love, Nurturing & a Genuine Kindness/Thoughtfulness that arguably cannot be rivaled by any other placement.
How to Negotiate: You of all signs, need to SET BOUNDARIES!!!!! Okay, NEGOTIATE! You are a “wife” to your core & you deserve a ring. Do not & I repeat, DO NOT freely give love to someone who has no intention of giving you the same in return. YOU DESERVE A RING!!! Don’t you FORGET IT!!! I highly recommend you date Earth Moon signs (not Virgo, stay away from them…lol, my opinion, my opinion) or Earth Venus placements & houses. In order for you to get the best deals in life, you need to be building from a strong & steady foundation. How can you be a homemaker w no official home? Do not settle! Do not settle! Do not settle! Sacrifice & give to your children unconditionally, not no grown-man. Okay? Not everyone deserves the genuine love you have to offer.
(I’m sorry I’m getting a little preachy here, but I have seen in my line of work, doing personal tarot readings, toooooo many cancer/4H placements settle for being in the dark in relationships w emotionally unavailable or physically unavailable (because they are married) people. Know your worth baby cakes! Not everyone in the Zodiac is as loving & thoughtful as you are. You really will lay everything on the line for your personal relationships…think twice. That’s all I ask. You don’t want to be unhappy because you are loving someone who is not loving you back! My two cents…)
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To love unconditionally those who unconditionally love you & provide a safe, nurturing & beautiful home to those who are deemed worthy! (Make ‘em work for it! You could have 8 men sniffing up behind you!)
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💋 Venus in the Fifth House
Merida - Brave
“Determined to make her own path in life, Princess Merida defies a custom that brings chaos to her kingdom. Granted one wish, Merida must rely on her bravery and her archery skills to undo a beastly curse.” Internet Movie Database (imbd)
Venus in the Fifth House is all about drama & red hot passion! As a Venus in the 5H native, you are such a dynamic lover & usually HIGHLY creative. You can act, you can sing, you can write, you can paint, you can do a one-person show! (Personally, I think that Leo is the most creative placement. Since Venus is the planet of the arts, I consider this an exalt placement) You stand out in a room because of your fashion, but mostly because of your overall presence. You have a royal air about you. A certain “you can’t sit with us” attitude to a lover who is not on the same level as you. Children could also play a huge part in your life. You are a fierce protector & certainly carry that lioness energy when it comes to serving & providing for you kids, or children in general. This is a Boss placement for Venus, putting it back in Masculine energy. You will not back down from challenges & love and demand loyalty over anything else.
Merida is a great example of Venus in the 5H for a couple of reason. One, she is ACTUALLY royalty. She is expected to carry on the tradition of the Royal Court— get married, have kids, and die…like a good Princess. However, Merida has other plans, attempting to avoid that “lovely” life, she ends up putting a curse on her mother, turning her into a bear. This brings me to my second reason she’s a great example for this placement, the dynamic w her mother. You, like Merida, might have a mother of high standing. I always think certain Leo placements are more subversive. The reasons why Leo’s need to be seen, is because they usually have felt UNSEEN in childhood. Let’s say you always dreamed of being an under water basket weaver, but your mother always encouraged you to pursue a more traditional path, like marriage because under water basket weaving is unreasonable. Or in Merida’s case, archery. There is always a level of insecurity w Leo energy because deep down, they feel as if they haven’t been able to shine in other aspects of their lives. This is because 5H/Leo is directly behind 4H/Cancer— so the mother/daughter/son dynamic will be played out in the 5H. In Brave, this is the core of the story, & this placement calls for bravery, breaking out of the mold & pursuing a life that YOU want to pursue, regardless of what society or your mother thinks.
One of the interesting things about Leos is it is opposite of Aquarius. Well Aquarius is all about rebellion & challenging the status quo. So is Leo! Let’s take a look a the Lioness I mentioned earlier. In Lion on Lion relationships (haha, don’t know another way to put it) the female lion is far more active than her male counterpart. Male lions sleep about 16 to 20 hours a day…they…are…LAZY! It is up to the female lion to do most of the hunting & maintain the day to day when it comes to providing for the home (5H is followed by 6H of daily routines & activities). This is untraditional in the animal kingdom, usually the males are the primary hunters. I hope you see my point. With this Venus, you are more likely to be the “breadwinner” so to speak, particularly if you are woman. And if you aren’t, but you marry a powerful person, you will make sure to look DAMN-GOOD by his side supporting & encouraging him to act brave and courageously as a lioness would do for a lion & their pride (a lion family…see, “pride” comes from children in this case as well—its all…connected). Venus in the 5H is a placement that calls for going against the norm & sharing your unique talents with the world— not hiding in shadows in order to be a good daughter or a traditionally “good”mother. You can be a good mom walking down the red carpet, okuurrr?
For Him: If you are dating/married to someone with Venus in 5H/Leo they expect THE BEST! They admire sophistication, beauty, class & grace. They want people to marvel at their partner’s in life & don’t always mind taking a back seat to their wives accomplishments. (They can be VERY lazy & still domineering……but let’s not get into that, this is a light hearted post). They themselves probably have a love for high art & fashion, so they appreciate a lover that is also hip to the cultural fashion trends & art trends of the day. But most importantly, they want to view & want others to view their partner’s as a work of art as well. Again, more on the traditional side of the spectrum, they value a strong partner who is still willing to bow to them. They are more of the mindset of the “lion tamer”. They love a brave & tenacious companion, but they value the fact that although their companion could stand on their own two feet— they chose them anyways. Plus this placement in a male’s chart, ONLY want the cream of the crop— so take it as a HUGE compliment if you find 5H/Leo Venus partner’s attracted to you. They have some really high standards…believe me. So if they like you, they are first & foremost, impressed by you! And that is no easy feat. For perspective, because there isn’t a real Prince in this story, A$AP Rocky is a sidereal Venus in Leo….he’s with RIHANNA! See what I mean? (Not calling A$AP lazy or beneath her, she’s a black lady Billionaire, she would have a VERY difficult time finding an equal counterpart that would still allow her to have the freedom she needs. She’s a Sidereal Aquarius sun after all. I really just wanted to illustrate this Venus sign in a male’s chart & the type of “wife/lovers” they are attracted to, not to pass judgment).
For Her: If you have Venus in the 5H/Leo, you bring out the creative & prideful side in your partnerships. Because of your natural flair for beauty, you attract all kinds of lovers who want to compete for your affection. Again, you ARE royalty & should only date royalty in return. Because you are traditional at heart, you could prove to be a very loving & loyal partner to the one who really earns their keep. In comparison to 4H/Cancer Venus, you are more likely to entertain guest & be fairly public about your relationships. Unlike the traditional average 2.5, white picket fence & a golden retriever American dream, you’re more attracted to the power couple version. 5 children, a big ole mansion with a guard for entry & a Great Dane would be more up you ally. (Love it! The bigger the better, here). As a warning, I want to say choose your partner’s wisely. Because this can be such a self-sufficient placement, you can attract lazy lover’s who just want to feed off of the energy & productivity that you radiate naturally. You could end up w deadbeats & I think this is illustrated well by the antagonist in Brave, Mor'du, who was honestly just a hating ass hater. Because you shine so brightly, you may attract people in your life that just want to take from you. Be aware! Yes you can most likely raise your young on your own, but do you waaannnnttt to is the question. (I say this with love & compassion. My mom is a Leo Sun/Leo Moon, she was a WONDERFUL single mom, but if she could do it all over again…she would have rather had an equally yoked or more powerful partner. Don’t let partners pass up their responsibility because you look like you got it handled all by yourself. You are a strong, but traditional wife at the heart of it all. Don’t give up that opportunity for someone who is not as royal as you. Keep your standards high is my recommendation. Date others with A LOT of Fire or Air placements, including but not limited to, Moon, Mercury or Venus signs would be my suggestion.
What You Bring to the Table: True Regalness, Creativity, Courageousness & Authoritah
How to Negotiate: KNOW. YOUR. WORTH!!!!!!!!!! Walk in like the Queen/King you are into any business or love relationship. Make them BOW…okay?! You’re coming w a kingdom & fierceness, whether you recognize it or not. You are a true secret weapon & a powerhouse when it comes to leading others, yet possessing the ultimately Queenly knowledge of knowing when to take a backseat. This is a beautiful & unique quality most other Venus placements do not have. Make sure you are always leaving the table w MORE than you came up with. This placement’s motto could be “I can do bad all by myself, so what can YOU do for ME?”. Periodt.
You Venusian Soul Contract: To bring a sense of pride to your lover’s because you have created such a regal environment for yourself & your offspring, people gawk at the power you both possess. (Plus, you & Aquarius Venus are most likely to have the coolest kids…sorry not sorry, just being real)
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💋 Venus in the Sixth House
Belle - Beauty & The Beast
“A prince cursed to spend his days as a hideous monster sets out to regain his humanity by earning a young woman's love.” Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the Sixth house is all about purity & perfection. As a Venus in the 6H native, you are very much about the little things in life! You could enjoy simplicity, like reading a book, or a morning cup of coffee. Typically, you like to maintain a clean & organized space & take great care in maintaining appearances, even if you don’t wear make-up or getting your nails done, you are always sure to present yourself in the best way you can. Like your fellow Mercurial ruled sign, Gemini, you are endlessly curious—always trying to get to the bottom of things. This Venus placement more than others is all about service & charity. Unlike Leo energy, you don’t mind taking the back seat & find more power as the co-pilot. This can be an extremely valuable asset in a relationship, because you are least likely to feel the need to compete with you companions/business partners. You know your role & you play it well. On the other hand, because of your yearning for everything to be fit & in order, you could be hyper critical of yourself & others. You want perfection and you will communicate your ideals to anyone willing to listen.
Belle shows the significance of this type of loving style & how it truly can bring out the best in people. In Vedic tradition, Venus in Virgo is considered detriment, but it is always stated, that usually Venus in Virgo’s end up with the most beautiful & attractive partners. Why? Let’s look at Beauty & the Beast! When Belle is forced to live w the Beast to get her father out of imprisonment, Belle spends her days reading & cleaning; enjoying all the 6H actives of service & day to day routines. Beast who is not nice, to say the least, is very resistant to her femininity. He has cut himself out from society & is more than comfortable living as a wealthy outcast, distant from outside world. Belle sees right through this tough exterior, & like an artist w clay, starts chiseling away, revealing a beautiful sculpture underneath the chaos. This is the power of Venus in the 6H/Virgo. Just like your 12H/Pisces opposite sign, your purity allows you to see past the exterior of a person/relationship & see the true beauty that lies within. You are able to pinpoint problem areas & fix them in an uncanny way. Although people may take this quality as micromanagement, you are truly just wanting the best— it comes from a place of love. The Prince was enthralled w Belle’s innocences. Like a virgin, untouched by the world, left w only her books & a vivid imagination of what could be. Beast found her intriguing as he had become so jaded. Belle was able to bring out the innocence inside of himself that he had long forgotten. These are the type of relationships where you thrive. You have a child-like nature that wants everything to be just so— the lights have to be right, the setting has to be perfect & everything should be in its rightful place. And like Belle, when you are in your element, it almost seems as if the cups & dishes start singing along w you, encouraging you in your fantasy of the perfect little world you’ve created for yourself & your partners.
This placement of Venus can be misunderstood, so be aware how you communicate with your partners. You never want to come across as nit-picky or naggy. Constant criticism can drain anyone, so choose your battles wisely. 6H/Virgo energy is all about purity, health & service. You believe the world will be a better place, if its a cleaner place, free from all of its toxins. You guide through life & relationships w a type of dedication that can hardly be rivaled by any other sign. You commit to seeing that beautiful sculpture through, no matter the size of the clay or how beastly the beast! You will make it into a work of art. (I always feel like the Virgin Mary is a Venus 6H/Virgo!).
One last thing to note about Venus in the 6H, the 6H is before the 7H of peace & diplomacy, meaning, 6H is all about debates & arguments. You could find your love life to be quite quarrelsome. You and your partners like to argue. Sometimes, you may even feel like your partners are acting more like an enemy. Just be smart when you pick your partners. This is not supposed to be doom & gloom, but rather an opportunity to look at your Karma & make conscious choses accordingly. I think about this like working out. No pain, no gain, right? Just make sure you’re not hurting yourself or the ones your love/are in business with. Nothing wrong w respectfully having heated debates! It’s unhealthy to think otherwise. Moral of the story, you can turn enemies into lover, & lovers into enemies. Be wise, play it smart!
For Him: If you are dating/married to someone with Venus in the 6H/Virgo, they expect PERFECTION from their partners. I cannot express this enough. When I say they want the Virgin Mary, I am not exaggerating. This can be a VERY difficult Venus to please from a male’s chart because this is the type of man who believes that woman don’t poop. They expect woman to be clean, dutiful, & quite intelligent, but not too intelligent, if you know what I mean. An immature male w this placement will take a very long time to settle down, or pick extremely vain partners. This is why this placement is in detriment. Prince Adam was not the most fun roommate on the planet. Constantly complaining, very particular, & just overall a not nice guy & grumpy. This can be how an un-evolved Venus 6H/Virgo male can come off— standards too high & insatiable. BENEATH IT ALL!!!! Is a beautiful, kind-hearted, considerate & passionate man, who only wants the best because he truly believes the best is achievable! This isn’t inherently a bad thing, this is just something to be aware of as this male grows, that he’s not putting off negative energy because people are flawed & may never reach his standards. Through it all, Adam loved Belle, because she was able to love openly, freely & most attractively, innocently. This placement may take a while to marry & find a wife, but when he lets go of perfectionism, this lover can be extremely kind, doting & loyal, albeit still nit-picky & argumentative. (It can be cute though if you don’t take it personally…lol)
For Her: If you have Venus in the 6H/Virgo, you bring out the flaws in your partner. Hear me out, you bring troubling things to the surface, so they can be addressed and made anew! You are the “fixer” in relationships. So be careful not to turn your love life or your work life into “projects”. You act as the “health inspector”, you see what’s unhealthy or hazardous, flag it, & correct it. You turn “bad” things into “good” things, unlocking potential that no one else saw. (At the end of the day, Beast was still a millionaire w a huge mansion & money…don’t give your beautiful energy to no broke Beast. That’s just a beast hunny…ain’t no beauty about it. I kid…I kid, we all have to start somewhere, but please, be realistic in your expectations of how much you can help someone. They have to want to help themselves first.) You may draw out a very possessive & protective energy in your partners as well because they want to keep you as pure as possible. You, like gemini, may find yourself in relationships w age difference, OR life difference. Meaning, you could have grown up on a farm, & you meet a man from the city who loves your simple farm girl attitude, but deep down, he knows if he takes you to the city, you could become something else. This is the difficulty of this placement. The “virginity” that lures partners towards you, gets taken away the moment they “conquer” you. Once they have you, you are no longer the “virgin” they want to see you as. Again, not a fun issue to have imo, hence the detriment, but it’s not impossible to overcome. With the right partners, they will value that you will always bring a certain level of virgin pureness, because that’s just who you are, regardless of the environment you find yourself in. With this placement, you will have to be mindful to not let your partners project onto you this idea that you are “perfect”, even if you try so desperately to perpetuate that yourself. The moment you let go of the need for perfection in your relationships, you will be able to enjoy them & enjoy doing the little things in life! Like reading a book on the porch, or sharing a cup of coffee. (I brought it back teehee). Because that’s what the sixth house is all about— routine & duty. Keep it simple! Don’t overcomplicate things!
What You Bring tho the Table: Genuine purity, servitude, simplicity & charity.
How to Negotiate: Know that you are more service oriented than any other placement in the Zodiac. Your love of supporting from behind the scenes is a gift to someone who can see how rare & thoughtful you truly are. You of all signs, needs someone who values the little things in life as much as you do, so they never take for granted your loyalty & kindness. Learn to speak up for yourself! Following 5H/Leo, you can constantly feel overshadowed. DON’T!!! I always say, if you left it to just Actors, there would be no theatre. Stage runners, managers & writer’s (6H/Virgo energy can be PHENOMINAL writers) are what makes the shows happen! Your organization skills & time management skills are superb. Don’t EVER EVER EVER feel like your talents are “boring” or you’re a boring partner. YOU ARE NOT! You are what makes everything run smoothly! Don’t take that for granted within yourself & then no one will be able to take it for granted in your romantic partnerships AS WELL as work & business partnerships. (Have you ever noticed when you call out from work, all hell breaks loose? Yeah…that part. Don’t be afraid to ask for that raise babes…you’ve earned it!)
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To bring out the best in your partners & allow them to bring the best out in you, without becoming too critical or cynical in your relationships or the world around you!
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💋 Venus in the Seventh House
Ariel - The Little Mermaid
“A mermaid princess makes a Faustian bargain in an attempt to become human and win a prince's love.” - Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Faustian bargain definition, according to Britannica: a pact whereby a person trades something of supreme moral or spiritual importance, such as personal values or the soul, for some worldly or material benefit, such as knowledge, power, or riches.
Venus in the Seventh House is all about sacrifice & negation. If you have Venus in the 7H/Libra, you are motivated by peace. You, more than any other placement, truly value balance & togetherness in relationships. You can find yourself in situations bending over backwards to please your partners & this is a part of your Karma. One of your biggest lessons in this lifetime, is to learn how to value yourself EVEN MORE than you value the opinions of others. Relationships & partnerships come to you quite easily because you are very charismatic, down to earth & approachable. Although you may be dressed in the latest fashion & have a good eye for trends, if anyone is able to get close to you, they almost instantly are drawn into your cool & diplomatic attitude. You’re not pushy or aggressive like your opposite house/sign, 1H/Aries, but you are still masculine & wanting the best outcome for everyone involved by remaining level headed & open.
Ariel demonstrates the negotiation & sacrifice that is required of any of your significant relationships. This post will be focusing on the Disney version of The Little Mermaid to stay on theme, but the Grimm Fairytale of this story is an even greater example of the Faustian dynamic. (Spoiler alert: it is NOT a happy ending). Ariel is inquisitive & curious about the world around her. She feels as if the sea is boring & there is more to the world than her family is letting her explore. (Wanting to break out of the 6H of daily routines) After spotting a handsome Prince (7H partnerships) on the seashore (after causing her fair bits of trouble), she falls madly in love & makes a deal with the Sea Witch, Ursula, to give up her voice in exchange for legs so she can walk on land and marry her prince. THIS is the heart of Venus in the 7H that I want to emphasis. Ariel was willing (& did) give her entire essence up for a man she only laid eyes on a few times. This shallow approach to love ended up being her downfall as Ursula turned into a beautiful woman as well & was able to capture the Prince’s attention too. Because the 7H of others & partnerships is followed by the 8H of death & rebirth, Venus 7H/Libra placements are inherently extremely karmic in nature. This placement will force you to look past the shallow things in love (looks, companionship, “he will make cute babies” mindset) and challenge you to dig deep within yourself to break out & find your own wisdom & inner truth (8H to 9H progression). The beauty of this placement though, is once you are able to stand on your own two feet (teehee) you are a very balanced and fair partner. Ariel sacrificed her voice in order to be with someone, do you find yourself in similar situations? Are you willing to sacrifice your entire being, your mermaid tail, in order to fit in a world you feel isolated from? These types of feelings of rejection & needing to let parts of yourself go in order to be accepted as a whole can be cardinal feelings of this particular Venus placement. Be very aware of what you are willing to give up in order to keep the peace, or be in a relationship.
This placement for Venus can make you an excellent, fair & stable partner— willing to put yourself aside in order to make sure everyone leaves the deal happy. You are justice in your relationships. Anyone who is able to tie you down is lucky, because it will be hard to find anyone else willing to go to the ends of the earth for their affection like you. You attempt to stay away from arguments & want relationships filled with pleasure & good times. Just be careful to remember conflict is natural, & just because you value peace over passion, doesn’t mean you should give up your voice to fit in. Speak up! As long as you take your relationships seriously & don’t give into shallow thinking or shallow understandings of your partners, you have potential to be in happy & long term relationships because Venus is the natural ruler of the 7H— Venus is more than comfortable here & is constantly seeking out relationships & partnerships. Use your gifts to your advantage! Value who you are outside of the gaze of others! Stand firm! You will make one heck of a partner!
For Him: If you are dating/married to a Venus in the 7H/Libra individual, they expect Peace in their relationships & in their home life. They require balance & understanding, & value calm, cool & collected conversations opposed to passionate outburst. As stated before, this placement can run the risk of being shallow in relationships. Constantly weighing the pros & cons of their significant others, no matter how big or small the differences. This lover can also move very slow when it comes to making commitments. Never take this personally, they just want to be VERY sure the commitment will be worth their time. They are followed by the 8H/Scorpio after all, so after they commit, they are ALL in! Prince Eric, is a great example of how charming & beautiful this placement can be in a male’s chart. He was able to sweep Ariel off her feet & she doesn’t even have any! This lover/partner is cooler than cool, effortlessly drifting from conversation to conversation making people feel as if they are wrapped up in a sensual dream of pleasure & all things beautiful. However, Prince Eric was also easily swayed by Ursula’s tricks, so he also demonstrates how this placement can fall for a pretty face over personality. You, like Ariel, could find yourself in strange love triangles as this inherently indecisive lover takes his time to pick his forever. This placement can make for a very equal, just & understanding partner, but this partner will not tolerate anything that disrupts his innocent & somewhat niave view of the world. If you are trying to lock this one down, stay cool— don’t push!
For Her: If you have Venus in the 7H/Libra you are meant to create a safe space for you partners. You are able to create beautiful homes, full of luxury & good company. You have an eye for detail & are able to bring people together in ways that are truly admirable. You and your significant partnerships will always be negotiating the responsibilities of the relationship until you are able to reach an agreement. You have no problem sacrificing for you lover’s & family, but your sacrifice must be worth it. You bring a certain charm to anyone who is lucky enough to stand beside you because you represent beauty & grace. Your even temper is a turn on to people & attracting people isn’t hard for you as long as you are putting yourself out there. There is a certain air that you have that is very alluring to others, almost like a Venus fly trap. You really are a gift to your partners as long as you are not backing yourself into a corner & neglecting your needs. As long as you maintain an open & honest dialogue with you partners, you can have a smooth relationships when you decide to commit.
What You Bring to the Table: Diplomacy, Charisma, Understanding & a Willingness to Sacrifice.
How to Negotiate: N. E. G. O. T. I. A. T. E. !!!!! Don’t just take the first deal anyone throws your way. You can get what you want as long as you are willing to give something up first. JUST DON’T GIVE UP YOUR ENTIRE SELF! Your wit & charming attitude alone are enough to make people want to bend over backwards for you. Don’t take this gift for granted or sell yourself short! Once everyone is able to declare what they need, then you will make sure that they get what they want! This is one of the best placements to have if you are wanting to get into law or politics. You know how to sell & you know how to bring people together & mediate! That is a service in & of itself. The cool-headedness you bring will allow you to remain objective no matter what. You will be able to make anyone happy, just make sure you are making yourself happy as well.
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To learn the power of sacrifice for the sake of relationships, while also learning how to maintain boundaries without sacrificing too much— essentially learning how to negotiate.
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💋 Venus in the Eighth House
Tiana - Princess & the Frog
“A waitress, desperate to fulfill her dreams as a restaurant owner, is set on a journey to turn a frog prince back into a human being, but she has to face the same problem after she kisses him.” - Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the Eighth House is all about the darker sides of love concerning money & power. Interesting, huh? If you have Venus in the 8H/Scorpio, you can be described as a very intense lover, private & mysterious. You have an aura about you that lets people know you are not the one to played with, nor are you the one to be taken advantage of. As off putting as this energy may be for some, this is infatuating & intoxicating to others. This Venus placement can give relationships real power struggles as you & your partner fight for dominance. Following the 7H/Libra of others, peace, partnership & diplomacy, you can think of the 8H/Scorpio as the number 13. It’s “unfavorable” because it follows the “perfect” number, 12/ Not to say you are unlucky in love, but more so, the 8H signifies the ending of “peace” for the sake of learning higher knowledge and earning power. If you can’t tell already, this is a very complex placement, making you a very complex & complicated lover. You will find that a lot of your relationships & partnerships require constant change & transformation. Your most significant relationships will force you to go inward & then lunge you into seeking higher knowledge & truths (9H/Sagittarius). You are a fierce & dynamic partner, stopping at nothing to protect the ones you love, come hell or high water— although courting you can prove to be quite difficult because you value your privacy. You, more than any other placement, fear that letting someone in can give a certain power of you that you may not be willing to let go of. You want to protect yourself at all cost. You may find yourself attracting partners that threaten your sense of security for one reason or another. This can prove to be a really transformative experience for you and your partners throughout your life.
Tiana & “The Princess & the Frog” is a STELLAR example of the fascinating & complex nature of Venus in the 8H/Scorpio. Not only does this deal w black magic & New Orleans voodoo (shoutout to my Creole sisters & Louisiana peeps…bonjou!) all matter of the 8H dealing w occult knowledge, the driving force behind this film is inheritance. Both Prince Charming & Tiana are using love to gain financial power to pursue their deepest desires (8H) and have true freedom (9H). Prince Naveen is unaware that his carefree nature and unwillingness to commit, lands him in a tight position of negotiating (7H) w a Voodoo Priest. He is seeking power, money & a strong standing, but has been cut off from his wealthy parents. After making a deal, he is transformed into a frog, where he has to kiss & marry a princess in order to receive all the riches he feels he deserves. This is the power of the 8H. Because the 8H follows the 7H, the 8H talks about what is gained in the union AFTER marriage/contracts & partnerships are made. This is where inheritance, in-laws & joint bank accounts come into play. Tiana is duped into kissing the Prince after he misleads her into believing he already has a lot of money & can help her pursue her dream of opening up her own restaurant. Both of them seeing the power of this union, agree to scratch each other’s back. A kiss in exchange for some money— Tiana’s a Real Lady Marmalade, amiright? Although this is a Disney Movie, lets for a second talk about the “kiss”. For the sake of this post, let’s look at that “kiss” as a sexual exchange (8H). Sex is major factor in Venus in the 8H/Scorpio. You could use sex for power OR you could have issues w “giving up” sex, because you feel like you’re giving up power. This could be due to trauma surrounding sex as well. Here we see Tiana give over her “power” to the Prince, thinking the Prince will return power to her in the form of money only to be BAMBOOZLED & be transformed into a frog herself. This is a very strong possibility for a Venus in the 8H/Scorpio Native. If you aren’t careful w the lover’s you choose, there could see some repercussions for being dishonest— either from you or from them. Both Tiana & Naveen were dishonest with one another for leverage. Steer clear from this in any of your relationships. Of course this is a Disney film after all, so we all know it ends w them falling in love, reversing the curse, throw in a catchy (or really dark) Disney number or two & hocus pocus, they marry & live happily ever after— yaaay!
This film demonstrates that the partnership is only the beginning of a journey w another person. Signing a contract is only the first step in securing the deal. If the 7H is the contract itself, the 8H is how the contract plays out in action. Venus in 8H/Scorpio knows more than any other sign, that power is everything in partnerships or else you run the risk of getting scorned. This mindset could be from this lifetime or past lifetimes, because this placement, like Libra, is highly karmic in nature. You will experience deep, transformative & even sometimes scary dynamics in your relationships because there is a driving passion behind some of your unions. Seeing as the 8H/Scorpio is ruled by Mars, Venus finds itself quite uncomfortable here because it goes against its peaceful nature. Love isn’t supposed to be about power, it’s supposed to be about equilibrium. But just as the 8H sits opposite of the Venus ruled 2H, which would rather deal w the stability of a relationship, 8H deals w the uncertainty & the unknown of partnerships. You crave security more than anything else from your partners, romantically or financially. You, more than any other Venus placement, will negotiate relationships based purely on power dynamics. You could find yourself w an extremely controlling/intense partner, you could be the very controlling/intense partner yourself, or you could use your partner to gain control in other aspects of your life. The advice w this placement is to release control. Be present w your loves & don’t look at love & business with a “winners & losers” attitude. With enough effort & real communication (I’m sorry, but 8H/Scorpio placements are NOTORIOUSLY poor communicators, you’re very private) you can find yourself in power couple teams & have transformative & overall spiritual experiences with your partners!
For Him: If you are dating/married to a Venus in the 8H/Scorpio individual, he expects complete control & dominance in the relationship. This can be an extremely powerful placement & requires a lot of maturing to be used to its highest degree. On the positive side, this lover/partner can be loyal, protective, passionate & mysterious, in a sexy broody kind of way. On the other hand, this lover/partner can be deceptive, manipulative, vindictive, spiteful & secretive in a not-so-sexy-but-kinda-liar kind of way. You have to decipher which end of the spectrum your partner is on, but know there is a spectrum. To be completely honest, not everyone can handle the intensity of this type of Venus in relationships. This lover can send its lovers into an all encompassing whirlwind & people fear they may lose their sense of identity in the midst of the dark chaos. Others (like me, teehee) are extremely drawn in & fascinated by this kind of energy— seeking out the inner depths lying underneath of such a complex & fascinating person. I say all that to say, choose wisely. Understand that this will not be a lover/partner you can get over on easily. Prince Naveen is a perfect example of this type of Venus placement. He is initially deceptive & lunges Tiana into a new experiences that transforms both of their lives forever. He is seeking money & power & is willing to due just about anything to get it, included messing with the dark arts. After going through such a crazy experience, it only brought the couple closer together & made them more faithful. This can be the beautiful transformative quality of this Venus placement. Overall, this lover will give you what you give them 10-fold. This lover could be very tricky, but so could you. Stay on your toes, & never try to be deceptive or put yourself in a position to be deceived.
For Her: If you have Venus in the 8H/Scorpio, you trigger your partner into growth & make them seek out power. This can be material power, or higher power, like religion or higher wisdom. One thing is for sure, your lovers/partners will never be the same after your encounter. You exude a certain type of reclusiveness & partners will be lured in to attempt to dominate you in order to crack your shell. You’re not a naturally open partner & believe that self preservation is more important than being equal. This is not to say you are a bad or selfish person, although if this placement is under developed, it can certainly appear that way, it’s more so saying that you wouldn’t want to get hurt in any of your relationships by handing over too much power WITHOUT it being earned. Once you feel your partner’s are worthy, you can be extremely generous, open & thoughtful (just make sure this isn’t another way of trying to manipulate the situation…no judgment here…but old habits die hard). You force your partners to take a good hard look at themselves. You ruin any illusion they had about the world & show them the underbelly of what the dark side has to offer. Although sometimes you can go a little Anakin Skywalker/Darth Vader, it’s all projected out of fear of losing the ones you love. This Venus placement needs to learn to embrace fear rather than try to control it. Tiana was fearful she would be out bid for her restaurant, & from that fear she ran & kissed the first frog who hopped her way lying saying he could give her money & financial security. THIS is a lesson this Venus brings. Don’t act out of fear. Act from a place of love & you will find love in return. Act out of a place of fear & your worst nightmare will come all but true. I cannot stress enough the POWER of this Venus placement. Your lovers will never forget their life altering experiences w you. E.V.E.R!
What You Bring to the Table: Transformation, Power, Security, Loyalty & Wisdom
How to Negotiate: Operate from a place of fairness & not from a place of self-preservation. When you attempt to try & plan for the worse, you can make shady deals & put yourself in some shady situations. Again, this doesn’t mean you are a shady person, this just means you are more willing to do shady things if you think it will be beneficial to your long-term survival. Don’t always think the worst of people & then you won’t see the worse in people. Your sharp eye & observations are keen tools for you to see through deception. Always follow your gut & you will stay out of harms way. Be weary not to step on people’s toes to get to the top first. You can lead w fairness if you master the 8H and enter the 9H. Once you shed your fears, you will see just how lucky you are. Be mindful to not self sabotage the great deals you do make. You may have a “I’ll get over on you before you get over on me” type mindset entering into relationships— Work through this or else you will always find yourself in relationship deaths & rebirth cycles until you get the lesson to just let go.
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To learn how to surrender fears & release expectations of control while gaining power & security in an open in honest way.
Drop a witch/wizard 🧙🏽♀️ emoji because you can cast spells!
💋 Venus in the Ninth House
Pocahontas - Pocahontas
“An English soldier and the daughter of an Algonquin chief share a romance when English colonists invade seventeenth century Virginia.” - Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the Ninth house is all about learning, wisdom & blending/preserving cultures. If you have Venus in the 9H/Sagittarius, you most likely LOVE traveling, learning & take interest in cultures outside of your own. AND/OR you are very religious & quite tribal in nature on how you view the world. (Probably a mixture of both). You could easily be attracted to people of different races, country of origin, religious backgrounds, or even social classes. If this is the case, you will attempt to submerge yourself in their culture & be fascinated by what makes you different, instead of vilifying them for being different from you like most people tend to do. OR you value your way of life so much, you wouldn’t want to disrupt it with outside forces. Unevolved, you could be very fearful of people outside of your realm of awareness. Either way, faith plays a very strong role in your life. You either throw caution to the wind & test your luck, or you are very specific w the kind of partners you will have who share your same core values. You also possess a certain type of luck & favor when it comes to your romantic relationship & your business partnerships! Because you come to the table as understanding & willing to learn, you can easily make people see the world from your eyes. OR your are so strong in your beliefs, you feel the need to convert people to your way of life. If you do find yourself in a relationship with someone whose an “other”, you will most likely NOT give up who you are just because you are. Your sense of self/faith in yourself is mighty mighty strong. You may convert religion for a relationship, but it’s because you WANT to convert. You won’t be forced to do anything you don’t want to do. Venus here is back in a masculine energy, so although you may go along to get along w certain aspects of a partnership, your fiery nature will always come out if people force you to conform or if people around you don’t conform. You don’t take NO BS from NO ONE with this placement.
Pocahontas, in her self-titled film, is a beautiful example of this type of energy. (DISCLAIMER, I am going off of the DISNEY movie. I know this is sooo historically inaccurate, it’s not even funny, but this it is a kids movie after all! It’s difficult to explain mass genocide to children…but on a happier note, s/o to my Native American/Indigenous sisters & brothers!!! Black Foot, Opelousa & Attakapas represent!!! They may have kept us down, but they won’t keep us out forever!!!) Like Pocahontas, you may find that your father has a powerful position & somehow may play a part in your love life. Wanting the best for his daughter & being the Chief of the tribe (Venus in 9H/Sag, can indicate a very powerful father figure who is strong in their beliefs/religion), he promises Pocahontas’ hand in marriage to the best warrior in the tribe. This demonstrates the part of 9H/Sagittarius energy that wants to preserve its culture & is dogmatic in its beliefs. Pocahontas’ father has ZERO interest in the pale people that washed up on the shore. He feels (rightfully so…lol) they will bring nothing but trouble. He is close minded, self-righteous & tribal in this instance. On the other hand, Pocahontas is unsatisfied w this arrangement, wanting to remain free & open to experiences the world around her! This is TRADEMARK Venus 9H/Sag energy. I’ve found this placement very likely to marry young, but also get divorced young too. Particularly for woman, 9H/ Sagittarius energy is INCREDIBLY hard to settle down. I mean………………INCREDIBLY HARD! So if you have this placement, you may be married a few times w all different kinds of people. It’s usually recommended to get married after the age of 26. Either way, Your motto is probably “I AIN’T GOT NO TYPE, INTERESTING/LUCKY BOYS IS THE ONLY THING THAT I LIKE”.
Another thing to note about Pocahontas is her intuition is extremely strong & she is a very faithful lover of Earth & nature. Unlike the other people in her tribe, she is seen a dreamer & a wonderer. This is because Sagittarius is ruled by Jupiter. Jupiter is also known as Guru in Vedic tradition, being a teacher & an explorer. Through “the colors of the wind”, Pocahontas feels joy in teaching her “Prince Charming” about the connectedness of life & encourages him to let go of his material pursuits & pursue a life of peace & inner knowing. (It’s worth noting that Jupiter also rules 12H/Pisces in Vedic astrology, so there are certainly parallels between these two placements for Venus.) This demonstrates an important aspect of 9H/Sag Venus. With the entire tribe against her & John Smith’s friends against him, they managed to overcome all obstacles & blend together two seemingly opposing cultures, one ruled by peace & love, another ruled by colonialism & material gain— & bring out the best in one another, ultimately bringing together 2 cultures. (For my Tarot people, this is why in the Temperance card, the Angel is holding 2 cups, mixing them together) You may notice this could be a pattern that follows you throughout all your intimate love affairs or long-term jobs. Pocahontas acts as a vibrant teacher & John Smith, a willing student in order to bring their love together & bring peace to the changing world around them! (Bleh, I know it hurts because this is NOT at all what happened in real life, like…at all, but we can pretend, right? RIGHT?!!!??!! Thanks Disney.)
This film demonstrates the clear sightedness, patience & willingness to understand that 9H/Sagittarius Venus can bring to love & business partnerships. You are able to blend your love of exploration & faith to bring people/places & things together that others wouldn’t dare think belong. Because the 9H follows the 8H, which is one of the darkest houses in the Zodiac, you appreciate the lighter things in life! Although extremely serious in nature (I don’t think 9H/ Sag energy get enough credit for being very serious about life, you aren’t the party loving extravert all the time) you know how to have a good time & prove to be a very generous & giving lover! As long as you remain open & don’t get too dogmatic or self-righteous when it comes to your beliefs, you could have a very “colorful” (hehe you catch the pun?) love life. Seriously, very colorful. The duality of the Venus sign cannot be ignored, much like its opposite, 3H/Gemini. At its worst, this placement can present as a xenophobic, radical, religious bigot (harsh, but true) & at its best, this placement can present as a wonderful, open, explorative, spiritual baddie! Always check what side of the fence you are on!
For Him: If you are dating/married to a partner w Venus in the 9H/Sagittarius, they expect their lover’s to be spontaneous & open OR religious & “subservient”. This partner is attracted to exoticness & they want someone that is outside of their immediate dating pool. They could be mixed heritage themselves or at the very least, well traveled! You definitely need to be well read, because this lover is likely to be highly educated. On the flip side, if they aren’t as educated, they are very likely to be extremely religious & faithful in nature. This partner will expect you to follow their beliefs and faith. This placement will either want you to share the exact same beliefs/values/culture as them OR they want you to be radically different, it just depends on the person. Sagittarius is a mutable sign after all, so there isn’t one way for this to appear. (I know I’m speaking in black & white terms, but I’m not trying to say uneducated means religious as a bad thing, or vice versa, just trying to paint a picture of how beliefs & education can play a role in this Venus placement. 9H deals with religion & higher learning!) John Smith, is a prime example of this placement. He came to the new world, willing to explore unknown territory, w high expectations of wealth! He’s obviously a lucky chap, because we all know that journey from the Old World to the “New World” is treacherous. After meeting Pocahontas, he was intrigued by her exotic beauty. He had never laid eyes on anyone like her before. He took a deep curiosity in her & wanted to learn (3H/Gemini, your opposite sign) everything he could from her, in spite of his “tribe” disagreeing with their union. This demonstrates the curiosity, explorative nature & rebelliousness of this Venus placement. Keep your partner learning & you will keep their attention! Unless you get the other end of the spectrum of Venus in 9H/Sag, then be in Church/Temple/Mosque bright & early & never miss an opportunity to praise God. If you get an evolved 9H/Sag lover or business partner, you are in for a lovely treat w many blessings!
For Her: If you have Venus in the 9H/Sagittarius, you are meant to show your lover’s/partners another way of living, and/or support them fully on the spiritual journey they are already on. Spirituality & religion/culture will almost certainly always be a factor in your major relationships. If you are like Pocahontas, who is more of a “go with the flow” type girl, maybe even a little hippie-dippie, you are meant to teach your partner the way of letting go & not falling captive to control issues. All in all, you are teaching them about faith & pure luck. You could easily be a good luck charm to any of your lovers/partners. I can’t stress enough the release 9H placements can bring, following the extremely binding 8H & then proceeding the even more restrictive 10H. 9H energy is genuinely like a breath of fresh air, so BE THAT! If you are more of a “faithful” lover/partner, and I am using faithful in terms of religion, not necessarily about monogamy, (in fact, you may not be the most monogamous partner ever, you could want to explore too much), you are most likely to be a “Preacher’s wife”. You are meant to exude the best parts of your religion & stand strong beside your partner who could easily be a leader of some sort. The issue can come to play if you let fear guide your religion opposed to open faith. This placement is particularly unpredictable, because 9H/Sagittarius energy can manifest in so many different ways! You could be free flowing or very restricted by religion. Regardless, the one thing I do know is, you will be yourself through & though— uncompromising at times & surprisingly open minded at others, as long as you know where you stand, no one will be able to bring you down. Hey, you may even be the one to prevent a future mass genocide, like Disney said!
What You Bring to the Table: Faithfulness, Open-mindedness OR Strong Beliefs while be Strong-Willed & Unafraid of the Unknown (or not, you get the point).
How to Negotiate: Bring your life experience to the table. You will compliment your partner in whatever form they need. You are willing to learn & be open to new experiences. You are VERY knowledgeable about your beliefs and often times, highly educated! Don’t downplay your intelligence, but be cautions not to come off arrogant, close-minded or peachy. You have a lot of charism & people value & appreciate your opinions. Again, you have to know what kind of 9H/Sagittarius you are! If you are more of the religious side, find a religious partner who shares the same beliefs & values as you. If you are more of a free-spirit, find a partner that interest you & allows you to be your free & wonderful self! If you are a mixture of both, religious & free spirited, accept that & find a partner who’s views the world in a similar way. You will most likely have a very interesting love journey, taking many twist & turns as you straddle between 2 such restrictive houses. Bottom line, you negotiate freedom when you talk about relationships or business partners. Be realistic w what you are willing/not willing to sacrifice.
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To support & encourage your lovers as they navigate how their spirituality plays a part in their life!
Drop a Leaf 🍁 Emoji because you believe in all the colors of the wind!
💋 Venus in the Tenth House
Cinderella- Cinderella
“When Cinderella's cruel stepmother prevents her from attending the Royal Ball, she gets some unexpected help from the lovable mice Gus and Jaq and from her Fairy Godmother.” Internet Movie Database (IMBd).
Venus in the Tenth House is all about restriction, discipline, class & sophistication. Venus in the 10H/Capricorn is all about a rise to power & union after struggle & hardships. If you have this placement, it is very likely that you are highly ambitious & have big dreams. This is a powerful Venus, because the 10H is the highest place in people’s chart. Plus Saturn, the natural ruler of the 10H/Capricorn, is very friendly towards Venus & enjoys spoiling it. You exude beauty & class, & public appearances mean a great deal to you. You are careful about keeping up a certain reputation & you work hard to maintain it. The world’s perception of you plays a huge part in your relationships & partnerships. You have the capability to be very well known for what you do as a profession. With Venus in the 10H, you may be interested in pursing a career in the arts/entertainment; film, television, modeling, fashion, etc or politics. (Funny how actors are politicians & politicians are actors) You are most likely to need an audience in order for you to consider yourself successful in your worldly pursuits. (Marrying the boss)
Cinderella is the PERFECT story of Venus in 10H/Capricorn, because it demonstrates the power of a Saturn Return BAY-BEE!!! Ms. Cinderella was going THROUGH IT, literally for no reason. Her mother died, then her dad got married because he wanted help raising her, so he married a woman who turned out to be a BXTCH. THEN he had the nerve to die, so Cinderella was forced to take care of her evil-ass step-mama & her ugly-ass step sisters. Talk about 10H/Saturn giving hardships! Through all of this chaos, Cinderella remained dutiful & helpful. People don’t always realize this, but 10H/Capricorn energy is feminine. So Venus in the 10H, puts Venus back in a feminine sign. Cinderella emanates how this feminine energy can remain kind & loyal, even when unnecessary restrictions & hardships are placed on them. The beauty comes after aaaallllll the BS. She was rewarded abundantly for her discipline, (but we will get into this later).
As I stated earlier, you can look at Cinderella’s fairy God Mother (Whitney Houston is Queen! I know we are doing Disney, but I have to pay honor to my girl. May she rest in peace) as her Saturn return. After years & years & years of being under the thumb of her step-mother & sisters, a miracle appeared to her because she stayed kind, open & never held resentment/contempt for her “family”.
I want to take a moment to really dig into how Cinderella has been dissed/disrespected & why she doesn’t deserve it. Idk if you can tell, but Cinderella is my favorite Disney Princess. Is this because I have Venus in the 10H? Maybe. Maybe I am a bit biased, but let me tell you why. When feminists/The Cheetah Girls talk about Cinderella sitting in a dusty cellar waiting for somebody to come & set her free, they are missing the entire point of the story. Not ONCE did Cinderella dream of being a Princess or say that a man was her only ticket out of the shenanigans. She is the epitome of feminine strength & beauty. She cooked, she cleaned, she sewed, she sang, she was obedient & never really complained about what she couldn’t control. People stay disrespecting Cinderella as being weak, but when you really think about what she went through, she was SO strong— a lot stronger than most. There is nothing weak about authentic gentleness. She never wanted to disrupt the status quo, she played with the hand she was dealt. She sucked it up & kept her wits until the Universe blessed her with an opportunity that ended up changing her life. If you have this placement, really look & see how this could be parallel to your life & experiences. Have you been shamed because you respect authority & boundaries, even if that means embracing hardships & self-sacrificing? Do you understand the true femininity you posses, simply by doing what you are told, but knowing that in the long-run, you will be rewarded greatly? Truly think about this, because this could be a theme that is played out in your life over & over again, until the age of 33 (according to Vedic astrology, 27 for western). The overall trick of this placement is to RECOGNIZE A MIRACLE WHEN IT COMES!!!! Read that again. Saturn does not deny, it delays. Cinderella was NEVER meant to stay scrubbing them dusty hoes clothes for the rest of her days. She didn’t know it, but the entire time, she was being prepared to be a loving & compassionate QWEEN! This is a significant part of this Venus placement. There is no right or wrong way to be a woman. Being dutiful & disciplined can be just as strong & powerful as being a “bad bxtch” who don’t take no shiz from no man. Don’t let people diss Cinderella, she really was a beautiful, kind & strong woman who deserved her happily ever after! (Sorry, I just had to go on a little rant. I get the sentiment of not wanting to be beholden to a man, but someone people feel whole when they are able to serve the ones they love. There is NO shame in that! Different strokes for different folks!)
Back to the film, So after Cinderella is again shxt on by her step-mother, her blessing comes! Note here, “time is of the essence”. That is important to Venus in the 10H/Capricorns! Time is not always on your side. Saturn is the traditional ruler of time, so things can happen later in life than normal. Or when these amazing things happen, you only have a short time to act! Of course we all know the rest of the story, the Prince sees her, falls in love w her because she’s the most beautiful girl at the ball. But she has to run back home, he searches for her & then he finds her. He marries her, takes her away from them crusty bad build fugly family members & they live happily ever after.
It is imperative for this sign to continue to dream & to remain patient & diligent when it comes to love. You may really struggle w finding a partner while you are younger, because you tend to be mature for you age, no matter your age, you take relationships seriously & chances are, you have other responsibilities! Don’t think that delay means denial. Just like Cinderella, she worked worked worked worked worked, & than magically, she met the love of her life! Of course it’s hard to believe in fairytales, as Saturnians are naturally cynical, but believe! A dream is a wish your heart makes! So don’t let the tough things in life stop you for loving every bit of your journey. Cinderella impressed the Prince with one glance. You will do the same when the time is right!
One final thought, 10H/Capricorn placements are usually attracted to men with status & power. This Venus is all about leveling up as well. Our baddie Cindy, married the Prince— this can be seen as the modern equivalent of marrying the big boss! DO NOT SETTLE!!! DO NOT SETTLE!!! DO NOT SETTLE!!! I ain’t saying this placement is a gold-digger, but I am saying this placement will not mess w any broke _____. No scrubs! If the shoe don’t fit, you must acquit!
For Him: If you are dating/married to a person w a Venus in the 10H/Capricorn, this person expects loyalty, sacrifice, dutifulness & structure. This may sound boring, but I will say, this placement gets better as it ages— fine like wine. Think about it. What do most people truly want in their later years? Peace & security! This Venus can offer that, but it takes time, some serious investments & sacrifice. Young male Venus in the 10H/Capricorns are extremely hard to pin down, because they want all their ducks in a row before committing to a relationship. This is someone that is more than okay taking it slow in relationships & building. They will not rush & you cannot rush then. Like Prince Charming in Cinderella, he wasn’t going to get married until he was good & gosh-darn ready. His parents had to throw him an entire ball to find a wife, only for him to fall in love w the one girl he was most unlikely to have! THEN he refused to be w anyone else, forcing the entire kingdom to comply to his demands. Who knows how many tax dollars he spent just looking for her! He knew what he wanted & Prince Charming wasn’t going to have anything less. Just like Prince Charming, this partner will eventually turn into a King. This relationship may require more patience than you are willing to give, but if you allow the relationship to bloom, it will be well worth the wait. (Don’t wait forever though. NEVER wait forever, but assuming its a healthy relationship, it will be worth the time & energy). Another way this placement can present itself is like the “cowboy” trope. This partner can be the strong, silent type, living off the land, building their wealth from the bottom up. They can also be a cop or a military man, someone working for the government. Again, it’s all about the 401K & retirement plan. They appreciate more than most stability & structure. This can be very beneficial in the long run. At their worst, they can be very rigid & unmoving. At their best, they can be practical problem solvers, planning for a raining day, but knowing how to enjoy the fruits of their labour!
For Her: If you have Venus in the 10H/Capricorn, you are meant to bring out strength, steadiness & balance in your partnerships. You will most likely take the role of the more practical one, or be attracted to older, mature “high-value” (bleh!) kind of men. A lot of people talk about wanting & deserving the best, but you are the placement to actually wait & work for the best. Most people lose patience & will sacrifice long-term stability for short-term pleasure…not you. It’s not in your DNA. You most likely have extremely high expectations in love & can have a very difficult time, particularly in your younger years, developing relationships. You may come off as cold & unbothered, but you are more so just waiting to be impressed. Once someone is able to capture your attention, you can prove to be one of the most loyal & hardworking partners on the planet! You take your relationships & commitments very seriously. It could be because it took you so long to find love in the first place, you want to try your best to maintain the relationships you do have. Imagine Cinderella! She would hard pressed to leave the Prince & go back to that nightmare she was living before! In any case, because you can be so loyal in your relationships, you have to make sure you are being loyal to the right lover/partners. You don’t want to waste your energy, giving & giving to something that is not giving you something in return— even if it just status & financial security. You may have some relationships that are dull & boring from the outside world, but that most likely brings you a lot of comfort. The downside to this is that you can run into one of those long love-less, sexless, contractual type of relationships for the sake of security. If that’s not what you want, don’t settle. Don’t feel obligated to stay in partnerships that don’t serve your emotional needs as well. As stated before, you are a lover/partner that brings out the practical side of relationships. You of all people know that love isn’t all about rainbows and butterflies, it’s compromise that moves things along. (S/o to you if you get the reference) & love don’t pay not bills. You are hard-working in life & in your relationships, so just be sure to take time to be fun & spontaneous. Life doesn’t have to be so serious all the time. Plus people may confuse your focus on work as you not liking them because you can be one track. Please be mindful of other people’s emotions & understand Acts of Service is not everyone’s love language & try to accommodate. If you can balance your severe nature with a more loving one from time to time, like your opposite house 4H/Cancer, you have a lot of potential to have a lifetime romance! You are in it for the long-haul.
What You Bring to the Table: Discipline, Commitment, Status, Class & Elegance.
How to Negotiate: You should always be a tough negotiator when it comes to your relationships. You, more than any other placement, needs decide what a relationship will be upfront, so you know what to expect. Do not wait until year 3 to be like “Do you want kids? Can I be a stay at home mom? Do you believe in marriage?” NO!!! Ask people on date two/three. When it comes to jobs & business contracts, don’t put energy into a job where you don’t understand the job description. You will do what you’re told to the best of your abilities, as long as you are told clearly & honestly. Always remember that you are a valuable asset to anyone; be it in love or working situation, because YOU WILL WORK where most people just try to skim & get by doing the bare minimum. You believe in blood, sweat & tears to get the job done. THIS sets you a part from many & never allow others to take this trait for granted…starting w yourself. (You and Venus 6H/Virgo are probably the most hardworking in work & relationships tbh). So PLEASE make sure that you are paid your dues. This is particularly true in your later part of life, after your Saturn return. You may have encountered/are encountering a lot of BS in your 20s & early 30s…hang in there love. You are just paying off some sort of karmic debt. But if you follow Saturn’s instructions, work hard & remained focused, you will be rewarded past your wildest dreams. You understand what REAL love is about once you fully evolve. This unevolved Venus can be materialistic & shallow, but if you learn the lessons Saturn is giving, you get the realest love of them all!
(Side note: Jupiter & Venus are the two planets most associated with gift giving & generosity. However, it has been argued that Saturn is the best give giver of all the planets. Why? Because Saturn’s gifts are long lasting! They may not be the biggest or the prettiest, but Saturn’s gifts will bring long-term abundance rather than temporary joy. If you have heavy 10H/Capricorn/Saturn placements in your chart, you have a really good shot to have come into the life w hardships, but die overcoming so many obstacles in the lap of luxury or a prosperous farm! Define what abundance means to you, work hard at it everyday, endure & have patience & you WILL reach your mountain top!)
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To learn to cherish relationships & be cherished, while maintaining stability, balance & discipline. Because after all, that’s what love is all about!
Drop a crown 👑 emoji because you were a bad b before any cash came!
💋 Venus in the Eleventh House
Frozen- Elsa (I know she’s a queen, but hey)
“When the newly crowned Queen Elsa accidentally uses her power to turn things into ice to curse her home in infinite winter, her sister Anna teams up with a mountain man, his playful reindeer, and a snowman to change the weather condition.” - Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the Eleventh house is all about bonding, friendship & freedom. If you have Venus in the 11H/Aquarius, know that you ALWAY stand out in the crowd. Growing up, you may have felt outcast, or marched to the beat of your own drum. You are certainly one of a kind. The two extremes of this Venus can manifest with either having a lot friends & being extremely popular, or not having many friends at all until later in life. This is due to Saturn’s Co-rulership with Rahu/North Node for this sign in Vedic tradition— Saturn being the planet of restriction & delay. Because your perception of friendships is one that is very deep, understanding & open, while most people are superficial, you may find it hard to take light relationships seriously. At times, you may come off as cold & distant to those you care about the most, but you need solitude from time to time, even though many things will most likely need your attention. The reason there is so much emphasis on friendships here is because you are most likely to turn friends into lovers. You need to be comfortable w people enough to be your authentic self in order to consider any other kind of relationship. The beauty of this is, you allow others to be there most authentic self too.
You can be an outspoken partner. Unique & irreplaceable. Because you value friendship, you treat your lovers like friends. This could be a good thing & this can be a bad thing depending on who your partner is. You could be slow to open up to people & be friends with someone for yeeeeaaarrrss before you even consider them a romantic partner. This can be infuriating to people trying to pursue you, because your default mode is the friend zone. However, unlike other placements, w Venus in the 11H/Aquarius, this is nothing personal. You like to feel safe in your relationships & safe guard your need for freedom. You don’t like to feel bogged down in any way shape or form. Chances are, you’re not the most lovey dovey person in the world, but you are an awesome listener & don’t judge others for how they chose to live their lives or express themselves. In fact, you can be so non-judgmental & open, you may be interested in polyamorous or different kinds of relationship than the status quo. You like to be free as a bird and expect your lovers to be the same. You wouldn’t do well w someone who needs constant attention…you value your independence & cherish it in others while in partnerships— romantic or business.
Elsa in Frozen is a prime example of how this Venus can show up in the Disney world. Elsa was gifted with magnificent powers of being able to make ice & snow! At first, she was thrilled, but once she almost killed Anna (oops!), she turned away from her powers, trying to hide the very thing that makes her powerful & unique. You could mirror this in your own life at times. You most likely have some really interesting qualities about you that are special & even rare! But sometimes your “powers” can make you feel isolated & in turn fearful to be who you are. As Elsa’s powers grew stronger, her will to suppress them grew stronger as well, only causing an emotional outburst (Rahu/North Node), that accidentally causes an eternal winter. Feeling like she’s doomed herself & everyone around her, she goes into a self-imposed exile, leaving her sister to go on a journey to get her to calm down, end the storm & ultimately accept who she is, inside & out!
It is worth noting the close bond Elsa and her sister have, because the 11H also rules older siblings. Anna had a lot of love for Elsa & didn’t understand why she chose to push her away. Anna did everything she could in order to make her sister see the beauty in herself & in her gifts, until Elsa was comfortable enough with herself to come back into society. Are there ways that you have mirrored this in the past? Can you think of something that makes you “too cool for school” & you’d rather hide away instead of put yourself in a position to be rejected?
Through Frozen, you can see that it is BEST to accept & love yourself for everything that you are! 11H/Aquarius is energy is always misclassified as being detached and aloof, but that couldn’t be the further from the truth. As we can see, Elsa has emotions, extremely powerful emotions at that, she was just afraid of them, so she thought it would be best to keep them to herself— until she stuffed them down so long, her emotions became unrecognizable, chaotic & uncontrollable. You more than any other sign are capable of the most dramatic & destructive outburst. Whereas 4H/Cancer placements are emotional all the time…it comes as no surprise when they have their breakdowns. YOU, however, tend to keep a level head, so when you snap. YOU. SNAP. So you have to be mindful of this placement to not become the Ice Queen, freezing everyone out in fear of hurting someone or yourself. Getting hurt is a part of life. It’s all about how you handle it when “bad” things come along. Do you Let it Go & isolate yourself, or do you define what makes you unique and make snow cones for everyone instead? The decision is yours. This Venus placement can make or break your feelings/place in society.
This film is a great depiction of the highs & lows that can come w Venus in the 11H/Aquarius. At times, you are magical & ethereal which makes you interesting & unpredictable. But other times you can be volatile, causing you to want to isolate yourself or be isolated from others. Once you learn how to control your gifts & understand that you are just a wild card (lol) AND find friends/lovers who support you, you will be unstoppable & be able to do magnificent things. As you age, you will learn to love the public more & the public will love you. You will be able to offer such interesting insight to the greater conscious, spreading a message of love, acceptance & independence! Like Elsa, who didn’t have a singular Prince trying to win her hand in marriage, your duty for love is to the masses. After all, you have a Kingdom to run! It can be lonely at the top, but the top has the best view!
For Him: If you are dating/married to a person w Venus in the 11H/Aquarius your lover expects FREE-DOM, so baby, you’re gunna have to let it ring! As stated above, this placement values friendships over everything else. This requires a certain level of patience that other partners may not need. The beauty of this combination is he will be a loyal & understanding partner once you take the time to understand his individual corks. Else technically didn’t have a Prince Charming, & when this movie came out, it was a really big deal! This was the first Disney Princess movie that wasn’t centered around love (another point for being unique & breaking expectations). Venus in the 11H/Aquarius is one of the least “love” centered partnerships. Meaning, this Venus doesn’t so much deal w one on one relationships, but rather relationships w the masses & love relationships that aren’t romantic— like sister to sister relationships or fraternity/sorority for just a few examples. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying they won’t be your knight in shining armor, but this may not be their biggest priority in life. They may date & explore, but how their friends show up is more important than fleeting romances. This is something to keep in mind as you date a Venus in 11H/Aquarius, they may prefer being alone, & again, it is NOTHING personal to you. You may feel as if they are constantly focused on other things & not prioritizing you. Always remember, 11H is opposite of 5H, the tradition house of Leo. Leo is “me me me”, so Aquarius is “we we we”. A Venus in the 11H lover will feel like world hunger is more important than spending Valentine’s Day with you.
This can manifest as a very complex man, with mood swings & an unpredictable temperament— hence why it is important to give this lover freedom. Chances are, because they’ve spent time in isolation, they know themselves better than anyone else…so when they need some space, give them space. Although this lover can be romantic, don’t expect rose pedals every night when you come to bed. They care more about intellect & conversations & helping the world than holding hands. This is a masculine sign for Venus. You would be better off volunteering at the local soup kitchen for a date rather than going to a luxurious roof top bar. This lover is far from superficial and carries a disdain for anyone who he presumes is shallow. Venus in the 11H/Aquarius could be one of your best friends in life. Even though they may be a little off beat, they will support & encourage you to be your best self & to never shy away from your gift & talents, loving who you are!
For Her: If you have Venus in the 11H/Aquarius, you bring out the rebelliousness in your partners. 11H energy is the rebel, & so there will almost always be something different about your partnerships that causes your lovers to rebel against society in someway. It could be different cultures, religion, socioeconomic status etc…But trust, you are such a dream come true for people, they won’t mind jumping over hoops to be w you. Because the 11H is the house of wish fulfillment & gains, you bring a certain level of luck to your relationship. You may notice that your partners start doing better in life after hooking up w you, so yeah, you’re one special someone. You may find that some of your long-term relationships take a lot of twist & turns— running hot & cold. Go w the flow as much as you can, because Saturn is involved in this placement, your long-standing relationships will be tied to some sort of karma. You came to learn lessons about love & friendships, so forgiveness & understandings will be major factors in any of your serious relationships. Since this is a fixed sign, you have to mindful not to get too stuck in your ways. This placement can also indicate long-distance relationships as well or relationships that happen over the internet. 11H is the house of technology, so you could very well meet your mate online, or have relationships that are completely virtual at times. The more comfortable you become w the idea of having unique relationships that may not be understood by the outside world, the easier it will be to accept any relationships you are in. It is not going to be like anything else or everyone else’s relationships so quit while you’re ahead and don’t compare it to others. Now, a little warning that comes w this placement as well, is the fact that your friendships could play a significant part in any of your relationships. Be weary of his dynamic because sometimes friends (and siblings) can be overly protective of you & bring negative energy to your partnerships. Friends may feel like they are in competition between you and your loved ones— just learn how to balance the two! And on the flip side, don’t make your lover your best & only friend. Continue to strive & get to know people, you will be doing yourself & your relationships a disservice by isolating yourself further from society. People may not think Aquarius energy & love go together, but it truly depends on how you look at it. Most people come w high expectations in relationships & once they feel like they aren’t being met in some way, the relationship goes haywire, Aquarius energy doesn’t react that way. In fact, this energy is understanding & allows people to make their own choices instead of nagging w demands. With the right partner, this placement can possess the romance of a lifetime! As stated about in the “For Him” section, you may also be more likely to put your societal obligations ahead of your one on one relationships. At times, this can cause problems, so balance balance balance your need to help everyone around you, will the needs of your partner for some intimacy. You can’t be 100 places at once. Prioritize alone time with your partner if you have a lifestyle that causes you to be involved with larger groups— quality time is an important part of maintaining a relationship & you may need a reminder more than most.
What You Bring to the Table: Independence, Friendships, Loyalty & Originality
How to Negotiate: You should always remember that you are one of kind! You are rare & NO ONE can replace you! There are no two 11H/Aquarius placements that are alike, that’s why this placement can be so difficult to categorize. Because you are an Original, never EVER be treated like a copy-cat. Have confidence that there will won’t be another like you & don’t hang on to any relationship or partnerships that try to put you in a box—it’s not gunna happen!!! Don’t be afraid to walk away, because the love that you bring is unlike anything or anyone else…they will most likely come crawling back. You can always use your laid-back nature as an advantage as well. People will love to chase you because you seem so unbothered— however try not to make people chase forever. Like you, people do get bored. With this placement, more than any other placement, you may need to fake it until you make it. Meaning, because you can be so detached, you may have to pretend to care about things that you don’t care about just to let your partner know that you are still interested. You can go ghost for days, weeks & months and not realize it, so it is imperative for you to actively demonstrate your love to those you care about. Don’t get so caught up in your own world that you forget about the people who love and care about you. Stay somewhat grounded. Again, be confident that you will be one of the coolest lovers that any of your partners has ever been with & you will never walk away from the table empty handed.
You Venusian Soul Contract: To balance your uniqueness, retrained emotions & need for freedom within relationships in order to feel accepted by those you care about most , while maintaining one on one relationships even w bigger responsibilities to the public.
(Think of this placement like being a celebrity… & this placement can be an indication for fame as well. How are celebrities able to balance their public image & their personal lives? How often to Zendaya and Tom Holland actually get to sit down and cuddle up? Not often enough, I’m sure. Even if you aren’t star status, you may feel this dynamic play out in your significant relationships).
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💋 Venus in the Twelfth House
Princess Jasmine- Aladdin
“A kindhearted street urchin and a power-hungry Grand Vizier vie for a magic lamp that has the power to make their deepest wishes come true.” - Internet Movie Database (IMBd)
Venus in the Twelfth House is all about the spiritual side of love & what can’t be seen by the naked eye. If you have Venus in the 12H/Pisces, you are the hopeless romantic of the zodiac. You see straight through to people’s souls, bringing to the surface their most inner selves. Although this placement is exalt, it doesn’t mean that your love life is at all easy. In fact, you may really struggle in love because your expectations can be RIDICULOUSLY HIGH. Meaning, because you see the trueness in people, if they don’t see trueness in themselves, well then, what are you looking at? You have a habit of projecting the best qualities onto people & can ignore some of the things that would be troublesome to others. THIS ISN’T ALL YOUR FAULT THOUGH, people also make sure to put on the best versions of themselves around you because they want to impress you so badly. I’m sure you’re beautiful in your own special way. Your eyes can be one of your strongest features because they are the window to the soul— & since you have a pure soul, it’s reflected in the way you look at people. 12H/Pisces energy is traditionally ruled by the planet Jupiter in Vedic astrology, so you there could be strong influences in your relationships which are beyond your control. There could be distance, cultural difference, &/or religious factors that play a significant role in your most long term relationships. This placement is also most likely to give up worldly pleasure/gains & “love” to pursue more religious endeavors. This is the placement most likely to become a nun or priest. Like I said, your expectations can be so high to see good in people & in your lovers, Jesus Christ may be the only figure who meets your idealistic standards. (Just an example! Not trying to exclude other religions).
You may also have a theme of loss of love. Because the 12H is the house of loss & escape, you may lose significant lovers, but it will always trigger spiritual growth for you. Relationships are so deeply spiritual for you, you’ll experience relationships other people can only dream of. There is a higher vibration you require in love, that most people will not have the experience needed to satisfy your desires for the all encompassing love your soul needs. You may be inclined to give up all your monetary possessions, or on the contrary, you may want all the rubies, diamonds & pearls the world can offer. Either way, you will never be satisfied w just the material things in life & you will always yearn for something deeper & other worldly, even if the world is at your fingertips. This placement can also bring a certain level of illusion & escapism, so you will have to be careful not to get wrapped up in addictions to drugs & excessive pleasure. Jupiter loves to have a good time & explore other realms through astro projections— this tendency to want to have outer body experiences can lead to some nasty habits that are hard to break. It is okay to explore! But be mindful that you will always need to come back to Earth at some point.
Princess Jasmine illustrates the effect of Venus in the 12H/Pisces beautifully. Although the story is centered around Aladdin, the local street rat, his entire journey is triggered by a fateful encounter w the Princess. The moment he lays eyes on her, he instantly falls in love & wants to impress her, not knowing that she isn’t what she appears to be. This is Venus in the 12H/Pisces at its finest. Illusion & projection is the foundation of the relationship. Princess Jasmine is in a disguise & Aladdin is just being bad running the streets, stealing bread, but obviously has a heart of gold. Aladdin then goes to find a magical lamp (Jupiter) to grant him 3 wishes; Enter Genie, who transforms poor old Aladdin to a wealthy (appearing) Prince. He then goes on to pretend he’s a Prince in order to impress Princess Jasmine & hopefully one day marry her. Cue, the magic carpet ride! And for what it’s worth, your love life might have a few magic carpet rides, if you catch my drift. You are most likely to experience many soulmate connections. (I believe you can have multiple Soulmates/Twin Flames/Karmics, there is no limit. It depends on how many your soul needs so you can fulfill your Karma & learn whatever lesson). This highlights the explorative nature of this placement as Aladdin begins to show her the wonder of the world that she was unable to see in the safety of her castle. You may find that in relationships in your life, you are attracted to people that are not in your same class system. But this dynamic is what is most alluring to you in the first place. Jasmine was used to living in the lap of luxury, while Aladdin had to learn street smarts in order to survive. His savviness was beyond sexy (I know it’s a kids movie, but Aladdin is fine as hell) to Jasmine who longed to escape the trappings of her material world to live amongst the common people.
Of course, it’s a Disney movie, so the illusion & magic all comes crashing down & the true identity of Aladdin is revealed, but his sweet soul still remains. Jasmine is faced w a decision and of course…because it’s a Disney movie, she picks Aladdin & they live happily ever after. In real life, this shows the inherent self-sacrificing nature of this placement. IRL, Jasmine would have to give up her crown if she were to marry so beneath her, & sometimes you may feel like you are meeting people in life who are somehow “beneath” you. THIS IS NOT TO SAY THAT YOU ARE BETTER, but you may attract people who are in the throws of chaos in their life & through a fated encounter w you, they are plunged into the depths of a spiritual awakening. You signify someone is on the brink of a magnificent breakthrough if you enter into their lives.
You bring a certain level of magic to your long-term relationships that challenges the nature of reality itself. This can be extremely powerful & extremely destructive. You of all signs have to be very careful that you are not seeing your lovers through rose tinted glasses— don’t get caught up in the glitz & glamour, while others of you will need to be more realistic in choosing your love partners. Yes the boy may have a beautiful heart, but if he is a lost soul, it is not your duty to help him find it.
This film depicts how rewarding this placement can be. Defying all the odds, exploring 2 totally foreign worlds & having a magically spiritual connection that knows no bounds is just the tip of the iceberg for Venus in the 12H/Pisces. On the other hand, it shows that lies/false perceptions can be the foundation of the relationship if not handled correctly. Make sure you are seeing people, places & things for what they are! Don’t fall for the okey-doke. There is no need to always be a sucker for a sob-story. You are meant to guide & teach partners through their Karma, not always go through the trenches w them. It is also worth noting that you can be a great artist & creative, depicting the highest ideals of love & love loss. Channel this energy into something positive rather than running away from feelings you can’t explain w words— feel them & turn them into art. On a final note, like 11H Venus, this Venus can deal a lot w isolation. You could go long periods of time being single. (Good time to work on artistic projects, use this time wisely) This is due to the fact that you are opposite of Virgo, the hermit in tarot, & isolation is required for you to learn some of the harder lessons about love & life. You could go from single single single, to entangled entangled entangled very quickly after YEARS of half-hearted relationships. Because of your outer & inner beauty, however, you will always attract people towards you, but since you don’t necessarily believe in superficial relationships, you will be less likely to settle w anyone less than a soulmate. (Again, you got some high standards, babes lol) This is a beautiful, but challenging placement, yet capable of producing the strongest of romances.
For Him: If you are dating/married to someone w Venus in the 12H/Pisces, this lover expects a soulful connection. They want to be wrapped up in your essence until you become one w one another & ultimately one w the universe. As stated above, this lover has high expectations for their loves & may get caught in the loop of overly projected onto you, putting you a pedal stool & blinding themselves to the harsh reality that no matter how great you are, you are still human. Aladdin was mesmerized by Jasmine & did everything in his power to become what he THOUGHT Jasmine wanted, rather than getting know her first hand. Like lovers in your life, they may put on airs & appear to be something they are not, attempting to escape their true identity since you seem so magical. They could easily misrepresent themselves when it comes to dealing w money & finances, or just wanting to come across as a better person than what they actually are. Chances are this is subconscious, but it can also be manipulative so watch out. Withholding truth is a way to gain & maintain power. As long as you don’t know what they are hiding, they have control. Be smart. Pisces energy tends to deal w rejection— rejection from society & rejection of themselves. Aladdin is a great example, because being a poor boy for the wrong side of the tracks, he feels as if he’s been discarded by society as a whole & the only way to be seen and be taken seriously is to (fake-ly) amass an extreme amount of wealth. Venus in Pisces males can be downtrodden from a young age & could have certainly struggled w addictions/poverty, trying to escape their reality or just feel out of body…like a fish out of water, they will have a fascinating story. Due to this Venus being back in a feminine house, this male will value femininity but also want a level of chaos. Aladdin had a grand ole time keeping up the charade until he didn’t. This will be a lesson that this Venus placement can play out over and over again until they learn to love who they are, leave material & worldly pursuits behind & instead dedicate themselves to loving others and their own personal spiritual journey.
For Her: If you’re have Venus in the 12H/Pisces you bring out the dreamy side of your lovers. You seem to defy all earthly logic & float through life w a kind of mysticism that leaves others in awe. You may find it difficult to break out of people’s high expectations— as you feel people are looking through you rather than at you. Meanwhile, you, on the other hand, are able to see the deepest parts of others quicker than most. You are as intriguing as you are mysterious, seemingly like you stepped through some unknown portal. This can be a blessing & a curse, it’s all about how you interact w your spiritual self. The more spiritual you become, the easier it will be to attract the soulmate you are looking for. You want a relationship that goes deeper than the typical mundane day to day union & instead, meets you on a soul level. You are not always impressed by “things”, money & stuff, you’d rather have an emotionally present lover who takes you by the hand & leads you to the under world. This placement forces your partners to have to look at life through a different set of lenses as you introduce them to the darkest parts of their souls. 12H & 8H placements are very similar in the depths they create, w the 12H actually being “darker”. (You may want to read 8H Venus as well, because y’all are similar, but yours happens on an even more profound level, arguably. While 8H Venus introduces their partners to “God” (8H to 9H), you introduce your partners to themselves (12H to 1H)…see how that works?) Since you see so deeply into people, eventually there is no where for your lovers to run & hide, forcing them to shed their protective layers & reconcile their outer world w their inner selves. You will have such transformative relationships & transformed lovers. You act as a catalyst to their awakening & usually, send them on their way. This is can be a difficult placement to pin down as well. Because Pisces is mutable & fluid, you effortlessly guide through relationships & partnerships, particularly after you go through a VERY hard breakup. You go through the thick of it in love, to be light to your future loves. Just be careful not to get wrapped up in something that proves difficult to come out of. Like Jupiter represents, always look at the bigger picture. (Side note: you are probably excellent in bed, 12H deals w bed pleasure woot woot!)
What You Bring to the Table: Spirituality, Nothingness, Soulfulness & Illumination
How to Negotiate: You have a more passive approach when it comes to getting what you want. Your abilities to manifest are unparalleled, & you are filled w magic. Your relationship w Spirit has the potential to be so strong, that things tend to fall in place for you. Almost as if you keep a genie in your pocket! The trick w this placement is to master how you deal w loss. Things come & things go— you have to learn to go w the flow. You are not meant to hold on to any materialist things because you feel like you “need” them. That’s the catch. Once you feel like you need something or someone, you will almost always lose them. This is not to scare you, but to prepare you. This is the highest point of Venus, but its inherently contradictory. Love is not about owning items or owning people, it’s about letting the natural progression of life run things & following Spirit’s lead. You are the poster-child for what real love looks like, & real love is all about letting go & letting God, so to speak. Your happily ever after w certain partners, may not be in this life, but in the next. You are capable of the type of love that transcends space & time. Because we live in such a materialist world, it’s imperative to know that materials don’t define you. YOU define you. You may have all the gold & silver in the world, but it will mean nothing if you have no spiritual connection to the other world & also the willingness to let it go. This Venus placement is also meant to be very charitable. When you give things away (to the right causes) you will be rewarded greatly. The more giving/generous you are, the more you receive. But of course you know that! You’ve been working lifetime after lifetime after lifetime to understand this lesson!
Your Venusian Soul Contract: To see love & the world for what they really are, gain a connection w spirit & love as hard as you can as long as you can without falling into the trap of escapism
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…AND THATS ALL FOLKS!!!
With Love & Lust,
A-D 🖤💋
Author’s Notes: PHEW!!!!! Okay. This was by far the longest post I’ve made thus far & I pray you enjoyed it. Of course, shout out to my baby sister who talks these post out with me & helps organize my thoughts— without her, none of this would be possible. This one took over 25+ hours, but it was well worth it. I hope that you find this insightful. The meaning behind this post, and all my post for that matter, is so YOU can appreciate the type of *woman* that you are. We all come in different styles & flavors. There is no need to compete or judge another person for how they choose to express themselves. In order for you to be more confident in yourself, you should know what cards you’re playing with. I can’t tell you how much learning my love styles through astrology & tarot helped me become a better person even outside of love! That’s why I want to give back to the community that has given so much to me. I hope that after reading my post you feel more informed about yourself & feel a level of grace & ease as you make your way through life. Your soul contract is YOUR soul contract. Fulfill it to the best of your abilities. Love who you are. Love what you do. And then you’ll find it’s easier to love others & for others to love you!
✨Mars is one of the most important placements in your chart.
Mars talks about how you navigate through the world, specifically how you overcome obstacles, changes, conflict & transformations.
The only thing constant in this world is change.
As the planet of War & traditional ruler of the 1H/Aries - the body & 8H/Scorpio - death & transformation, Mars holds A LOT of power. Do not underestimate it. Both of these houses/placements are houses that trigger your progression through your chart. Meaning, your first house LITERALLY describes your life’s path & your eighth house deals w some of the deepest & most treacherous parts of our human journey (such as intimacy, psyche & death itself).
If you have a strong Mars, you are ambitious & will take on any challenges. The downside is you may come across as combative, self-centered & self-serving.
If you have a weak mars, you can be passive aggressive or shy away from any conflict/competition. You may take a more passive role in life. The upside is you are probably very compassionate, empathetic & diplomatic in handling issues.
The key is to understand your Mars, so you understand how you deal w change & conflict. When you understand how you move through life, you can plan to travel accordingly. Think of it like this— if you are traveling down a river— use a boat. If you are going overseas— use a plane. If you are going to McDonalds down the street— use a car. Essentially find you mode of transportation that you can navigate most easily for your destination, that way you can have the best trip possible for your journey. That’s really life, right?
Never try to be something that you’re not & align yourself w people who show you a different way of dealing w the problems/chaos the world presents. Different perspectives matter a lot. We are all in this prison together. We work better as a team for our escape plan.
✨Fire Mars tends to be more aggressive, going after what they want directly w confident & self-assuredness.
✨Water Mars tends to be more emotional & would do better to channel their feelings into some sort of art or nurturing venture.
✨Air Mars tends to strategize before acting & likes to be methodical when solving problems.
✨Earth Mars tends to know that patience & long term planning is key to success.
Learn to deal w your anger, your passion, your lust & you will unlock beautiful wonders in you life. Use every tool available to express yourself. Know that changes & challenges make you stronger. Use your Mars placement as a guide to see how Spirit wants you to deal w what life throws your way!
Your Mars is essentially your weapon of choice!
With Love & Lust,
A-D ❤️💋
P.S. — I have been working REALLY hard on my next long post for y’all. I’m ALMOST done, thank goodness!! But I’m so excited to share!!! I hope it’s worth the wait (& the 20+ hours I’ve put into it already…lol)
Less of a debate thing, more something I noticed in your last post - which, by the way, wonderful takes and mad respect to you!! But back on topic-
You said the signs were 26° back, while most sources I read usually say 23-24° back. I'm not trying to nitpick, im literally just getting into vedic myself, I was just wondering if you use a different ayanamsha from Lahiri?
Hope this is okay to ask 😅 n I hope you're having a good day ❤️
Hello! No problem! I’ll edit it so it’s not so specific, but I’ve read 26 degrees. I just did some reading so I could answer you as best I could & I saw about 25 degrees behind also. So between 24 to 26 degrees seems to be the consensus. But I use the standard system!
Sorry for any confusion! But absolutely YAY on your Vedic journey!!! Stick to it!!!! It is more complicated upfront, but once you get it, calculating charts will be like doing math in your head! It becomes second nature!
Thanks for asking & taking an interest in my post!!! I appreciate you so much 🖤💋!
These are my personal unpopular opinions…feel free to RESPECTFULLY debate me! I’m open to your thoughts & respect your opinions.
🔥 1/ ARIES (specifically the Ashwini nakshatra) IS THE LAST SIGN OF THE ZODIAC — NOT PISCES (or Revati)
✨ The true start of the zodiac starts with the 2nd Aries nakshatra, Bharani, which is LITERALLY symbolized by the womb & represents death & rebirth.
✨ Ashwini is Ketu ruled, making it the LOSS of everything. The 12H also deal w loss & escapism.
✨ It’s always bothered me that the standard astrology trope is “Pisces are the oldest sign of the zodiac”. How can it be that Pisces is the oldest, if Aries is the first Sign? Read that again. It’s a paradox. Wouldn’t the first born be the oldest? (I’m probably biased because I’m the first born lol, so there is my disclaimer)
✨ Come to find out, I ended up reading somewhere (of course I can’t remember where), that Aswini was once argued to be the last nakshatra. Making Aries the first & Last sign of the Zodiac. THAT MAKES SENSE TO ME!
✨ It’s genuinely a case of “what came first, the chicken or the egg?” I’m going to go w the chicken on this one…or wait, would Pisces be the egg? Or would Aries be the chicken? Wait, maybe Aries is the egg…lol, just kidding. You get the point!
🔥 2/ SAGITTARIUS/9H PLACEMENTS HAVE BIGGER EGOS THAN LEO/5H PLACEMENTS!!
✨Sagittarius energy is like Leo energy on steroids. Jupiter is bigger than the Sun for all extensive purposes.
✨When a Sag/9H BELIEVES something, their ego & their beliefs become one of the same! Leo’s are highly creative & usually very sensitive. A Sag……..can be creative, but, Sensitive? Not so much. Sensitive isn’t the word I would use to describe a Sag.
✨You may hurt their feelings, but they probably hurt yours first w something they said OR will make it a point to hurt you back w some brutal opinionated honesty. You’ll see a Sag cry waaaayyyy after the fact.
✨Leo’s tend to be quite fragile, in my opinion. Very sweet & protective of those they love. A Sag, protective, yes, but more so protective of THEIR belief’s, rather than individual relationships.
They will defend their beliefs TO THE DEATH, the way a Leo would defend their pride (play on words…pride meaning family as well). Leo’s pride comes from outside forces, where Sag’s pride comes from within.
✨“Human beings in a Mob. Whats a mob to a King? (Leo/Sun)? Whats a King to a God (Sagittarius/Jupiter)? What’s a God to a non-believer, who don’t believe in anything?” — No Church in the Wild- Jay-Z, Kanye West & Frank Ocean (who is a Sidereal Sagittarius Moon, I might add…astrology never fails!!!)
- This quote beautifully illustrates what I’m talking about. However, it also demonstrates the downside & fragility of Sagittarius’ ego. If no one believe’s in their Godly powers or the wisdom in their words, or the true meaning of their teachings (Guru)…well then, do they even exist?
✨The Sun knows it’s A King. Jupiter believes it’s THE God. We all are familiar w our Greek/Roman mythology right? Zeus? The lighting bolt guy…yeah…aka Jupiter. He just kind of decided he was the most supreme & the best fighter after defeating his father. Above Poisiden/Neptune, God of the Sea, Hades/Pluto, God of the Underworld etc…
Let us break that down. Zeus (Jupiter) believes he is the most powerful of the Gods because he defeated his Father…what represents the father in astrology? Ding! Ding! Ding! You guess it…the Sun (Leo). Soooooo….all this to say, if one’s belief’s differs from that of their Father’s…well then who is more powerful? A man’s father’s ego can limit a man, but if a son’s ego is bigger, it will ultimately defeat that of his father.
✨ This is why I believe that Sagittarius & 9H placements are FAR more egotistical that their Leo counterparts. (But hey, I mean Zeus does control thunder and lighting, so that is pretty rad bro, ngl.)
✨3/ IN ORDER FOR ASTROLOGY TO BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY BY ASTRONOMERS, TROPICAL ASTROLOGY HAS TO ADMIT IT’S CALCULATIONS ARE OFF & ONLY GETTING “OFF-ER” BY THE MILLENNIUM!
✨Hear me out…I saved the hottest take for last. The way popular Western astrology calculates the zodiac IS scientifically inaccurate. Really, it is. There is no debate. That’s why when astronerms are like “astrologers don’t know what they’re talking about” this is what they mean & for what it’s worth, they are right.
✨Sidereal astrology is calculated based on the fixed stars. Meaning, if I grabbed a telescope right now, I would see the true alignments of where the planets are in relation to the constellations in its truest configuration.
✨Tropical astrology is based off the Earth’s equinoxes which CHANGES ever so slowly as time passes. THIS IS LAZY MATH!!! THIS IS UNRELIABLE!!! Why would you base a system of science off of something that isn’t fixed (set in stone)? It’s only going to get more & more off as time goes on.
✨Right now, it’s only behind roughly 24 to 26 degrees, that’s why most placements go backwards when you calculate your Vedic chart.
✨If people spent more time actually studying their sidereal placements, they would see that Vedic astrology is more accurate, no questions asked. I post to be flexible, because at the end of the day, 26 degrees isn’t THAT off, but in time…tropical calculation will be proven to be too inaccurate to use.
✨In order for spirituality & science to be reunited again, western spirituality needs to get real & stop basing its calculations of the Sun…aka ego. It coincides w the Julian Calendar, made by Julius Caesar who had the biggest dang ego in the world & you see how that worked out for him. I feel like, in the loooong run, practitioners of tropical western astrology will meet a similar fate. Sorry, not sorry.
✨I love and respect western astrology. It was the first astrology that I learned, but it is just not as accurate & precise. It is still accurate though, don’t get me wrong, but I think it’s real strength lies in the psychological perspective it brings, rather than the FACTS sidereal charts bring to the surface. Sidereal is more absolute.
✨Edgar Cayce (1877 - 1945) one of the most prolific clairvoyants of the past century believed that:
“the Sidereal Zodiac was more accurate than the Tropical Zodiac used in the West.”…”Though oft they are correct, more often ye find them at variance. For most astrologers are nearly 30 degrees off in the reckoning in the present.” (Antot Masuka, Edgar Cayce on Astrology, The Cosmos & The Self)
See? It’s a thing! It’s been a thing for centuries!
✨I would love for astrology & astronomy to live together again as they once did upon their inception, but western astrologers will (eventually) need to remove the blinders of the ego & look at the facts! In order to be embraced by science, we must embrace science as well.
✨Last note, it’s worth pointing out that in India, most Vedic astrologers are retired engineers & scientist. This demonstrates that a scientific mind can & will appreciate astrology, but it has to be mathematically accurate!!!!!
🔥CONCLUSION:
✨Regardless of where you stand on any of my opinions, remember, looking up at the night sky is like watching a firework celebration of the beauty that is life in this magnificent universe! (I’m paraphrasing Alan Watts, who for the record, is a Moon in Leo, Sun in Sagittarius in the 12H. Imagine the ego on THAT guy!! lol What an ironic & unexpected way to end this post. Lol 😂 The universe is amazing, I tell ya!…but seriously, check out Alan Watts. He’s a PHENOMENAL western self-proclaimed “philosophical entertainer”. He took Indian, Chinese & Buddhist teachings & made them more digestible for western audiences…”After Skool” on YouTube has some great videos illustrating some of his lectures. If you like philosophy, he’s a great teacher! I mean, obviously, you see that man’s chart! It speaks for itself)
Thank you for joining me on my hot takes. As a Sun Mars Aquarius in the 9H, I feel it is my duty to challenge the status quo. My life’s mission, if you will, to be a cultural agitator. If more of these come to me, I’ll post them. But yeah! Fight me, respectfully, of course :)
Stay Sexy,
A-D 🖤💋
P.S. Long post in the works!!! So excited to share!! Thank you so much for all the positive feedback. You have no idea how much it means to me. I’ve always felt like I have the most random knowledge in my head and no one to share it w…other than my sister who is also wickedly talented, but it feels nice to take our conversations to people who care. Thank you 😊
