♡A Home Up North♡

Father/child collaborative country living blog 🧡 Mr. Sailor, 51, (he/him.) Sailor Junior, 21, (any pronouns.)

[thesailorsgarden]

As we have seen our blog circulating in the wrong spheres for the past night, we find it important to state here: Conservative 'Tradwives,' this page is not for you.

Junior is LGBT and in a queer relationship. Mr. Sailor is an LGBT ally. We do not consider ourselves a "traditional family." Kindly fuck off and go back to thumping your bibles. Cheers.

[thesailorsgarden]

It’s been a long and sometimes cold winter. Now we are waiting for the spring to come.

[happyheidi]

[daffodilmornings]

🪡how perfect mornings start🪡

-daffodil🌼

[irishmansdaughter]

[thesailorsgarden]

Timber, walks on the island, and blossoms in an old apple tree 🌼💛

[thesailorsgarden]

My sweetheart kitty spent some time with me while I harvested some flowered lilac for baking 💜

[thesailorsgarden]

[thesailorsgarden]

Photos from today!

A lot had happened. Swedish winter has been unbearably long. It is finally surrendered to a short, hot spring, soon to be followed by northern summer.

The garden has started to come to life, both with perennials and new plants, not to mention animal life. New strawberry bush, planted cress, marigolds, various herbs and spices, in way of edible plants. Behind the house, the untouched field is aflame with dandilions. Mr. Sailor has done what he can to remove dead bush on the wilder grounds as well, prompting lush swells of windflower in their place.

The years happiest addition is surely baby chicks. A single brooding hen has given us 8 new babes! They range in colour from creamy white to rusty black, all sweet as sugar in their seawave walks on inexperienced talons.

[happyheidi]

[thesailorsgarden]

Cat, Beloved

Lips brushed by fur

Feel the warmth behind his ears, secret, tucked away

Like gift, he'd only give to somebody who would love him

Patiently

His head, on my chest, so familiar that i wonder

In another life, was he my baby?

Vibrations against my palm

Barely there

Murmuring, from deep within

"I'm so happy you're here"

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[jacindaelena]

fotografiamorelli

[cottagesongs]

[irishmansdaughter]

[thesailorsgarden]

Our beautiful four-legged family, so sweet and deserving of celebration. I can't imagine what life would have been like if they were not with us.

[halleehalfgallon]

so i'm curious what you think a Trad wife is.. because literally I feel like it's anyone who has a child with their husband. there is nothing anti feminist about that, simply put as a tradwife myself I feel like we should have it in common that when someone doesn't want to claim being a feminist it's because of extreme people who are NOT for true equality. it's been used so much to hurt men now, and in some cases even biological women.

oof, that last bit has terf energy so I’m probably not going to get anywhere here.

first, that definition is really lacking. that’s not what the word means. tradwives are a whole lot more than that.

no, there’s nothing anti-feminist about having children with your husband. of course not. feminism is about choice. getting married, keeping a home, having children, staying at that home with those children, those are all choices. and if you look at my blog, they are clearly choices that I’ve made!

choice is key. show me that the majority of tradwives are for choice and we‘re golden. I have yet to see one who does not actively advocate for the oppression of their own sex and for the oppression of LGBTQIA+ folks.

time and time again my content is being reblogged alongside nauseating statements about the way women ought to behave toward men, commanding women’s obedience to men solely based on biology.

I don’t care if you have 5 kids and your husband works a 9-5 and comes home to dinner on the table. if that’s the dynamic that genuinely works for both of you and that’s a life you are actively choosing and getting fulfillment from, I’m glad for you. side note: housework, child rearing, homemaking is valid work.

if you have 5 kids and your husband works a 9-5 and comes home to dinner on the table and you tell me it’s my duty to do the same out of respect for my husband, and that my husband is weak for not asserting himself as the head of our household, and that all of this is what is wrong with society, and on and on and on… you see where I’m going with this?

the feminism I subscribe to doesn’t hurt men, it holds them accountable. it advocates for them, even! and of course there are shitty feminists out there who cast judgment toward those of us who do choose to get married and have children, but that is also wrong. it’s an over-correction. it’s a shame. it’s something I feel strongly about and you’ll see that I talk about that plenty here too.

but let’s not act like tradwives are just married mothers. that’s a gross oversimplification. if you really don’t know what I’m talking about, tumblr is riddled with the slime I’m referring to. it’s often thinly veiled and romanticized as cottagecore and over glamorization of rural living.

[irishmansdaughter]

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