I Exist And That’s Your Problem

26🎉/bi/ongoing gender crisis

[theshadowrealmitself]

Oh real quick, even tho I don’t think anyone would do this, but just in case:

While I’m okay with my posts being used as writing prompts, please please please don’t feed any of my posts or works into any kind of ai thing

Edit: This ^ is all still true, you can use my posts for HUMAN works, but an amendment to it would be if you could let me know if you use any of my posts

Just cause I’m nosey

I won’t judge, I just wanna see if anyone’s actually using my posts and if so, for what, y’know?

[theshadowrealmitself]

I’m not gonna articulate this well but I hate how some people treat every single thing that has even a hint of friction as a “the only solution is to try and meet them halfway” kind of thing

Yes, we should be mindful of other people and yes we should be trying to cohabitate with people peacefully when we can

But sometimes the solution when someone asks something of you that you’re uncomfortable with is just to inform them that that’s not something that will be happening, politely but firmly

[theshadowrealmitself]

Like yeah if you want a good relationship with anyone you need to be working with them and that means negotiating a lot of times, but an occasional hard boundary isn’t going to destroy that relationship

And if it does, then it sounds like that’s not actually a relationship you should even want to be maintaining

[theshadowrealmitself]

I’m not gonna articulate this well but I hate how some people treat every single thing that has even a hint of friction as a “the only solution is to try and meet them halfway” kind of thing

Yes, we should be mindful of other people and yes we should be trying to cohabitate with people peacefully when we can

But sometimes the solution when someone asks something of you that you’re uncomfortable with is just to inform them that that’s not something that will be happening, politely but firmly

[theshadowrealmitself]

“If the fic looks like this it’s probably ai” and then it’s just how a lot of people have been writing fanfiction way before ai and are still writing it because ai was trained on our fucking fics I’m so mad I’m so fucking angry, just beyond pissed that not only are people posting ai generated bs to ao3 but that people who aren’t are still catching flak for how they write when we were here first

[theshadowrealmitself]

Other soulmate idea I mentioned in my tags in a previous post related to “soulmate lies showing up on skin”:

You are involved in a plot to kill the king and overthrow the monarchy

You also have no idea who your soulmate is and every lie you tell (which have all been related to this future rebellion recently) is showing up on their skin, and you have no idea who’s privy to their skin and couldn’t potentially put 2 and 2 together and stop this whole thing in its tracks

(Please don’t let your soulmate be anyone in the castle, please please please-)

[theshadowrealmitself]

Related to the tags I added to my reblog on a previous post but y’know what I think it’s good enough to be its own post

For the “every lie a person tells it shows up on their soulmate” trope:

Imagine you’re watching a live feed of astronauts answering questions after coming back from visiting a far off planet, and when asked about aliens, one of them says “No, unfortunately we didn’t find any signs of intelligent life out there”

And as they’re talking, the words they’re saying start showing up on your arm

[theshadowrealmitself]

What frustrates me about the “every lie your soulmate tells shows up on your skin” is that it never includes the hyper specific or the regular lies people tell, it’s always just angsty vague ones (at least in all the ones I’ve seen)

It’s always “I’m fine” or “it doesn’t hurt” and never “[Name] did that, I was completely uninvolved” or “I can’t come in to work today, I’m sick”

[theshadowrealmitself]

Do you think if you faked a cough that would show up on their skin too?

[narwhalslikessprinkles]

Ooo and how would lies by omission work?

[theshadowrealmitself]

I would love to know too!! If anyone has seen that let us know 😭 because genuinely all I ever see are the sad vague lies 😭

[theshadowrealmitself]

What frustrates me about the “every lie your soulmate tells shows up on your skin” is that it never includes the hyper specific or the regular lies people tell, it’s always just angsty vague ones (at least in all the ones I’ve seen)

It’s always “I’m fine” or “it doesn’t hurt” and never “[Name] did that, I was completely uninvolved” or “I can’t come in to work today, I’m sick”

[theshadowrealmitself]

Do you think if you faked a cough that would show up on their skin too?

[theshadowrealmitself]

What frustrates me about the “every lie your soulmate tells shows up on your skin” is that it never includes the hyper specific or the regular lies people tell, it’s always just angsty vague ones (at least in all the ones I’ve seen)

It’s always “I’m fine” or “it doesn’t hurt” and never “[Name] did that, I was completely uninvolved” or “I can’t come in to work today, I’m sick”

[theshadowrealmitself]

Keep accidentally turning ocs into eggs, just get a little too far into “this character doesn’t want to have to perform their gender all the time” and it starts turning into “this character considers their gender a performance” and suddenly it’s “this character wants to be a different gender”

[theshadowrealmitself]

Saw a take on the internet that annoyed me cause in my opinion it came off very ignorant and seemed to just be people using excuses to justify internalized biases and I was like “well maybe I’m the one being ignorant, let me talk to my sister, get some outside opinion” and she responded back with some stupid shit that showed she hadn’t actually read my messages and now I’m doubly annoyed with no answers

[theshadowrealmitself]

Anyways there are people who are ignoring the “East” part in “East Asian men are feminized especially in fandom spaces so you should be wary of your internal biases when deciding who you think is the top/bottom in ships that include an East Asian man”

So they’re going around saying that no Asian men should be bottoms in ships

And oh! they just so conveniently happen to be applying this to a man who’s Lebanese being shipped with a white man

And instead of just saying they like when the white guy is a bottom and wish there was more of that (and maybe also examining in themselves why they want that character to be a bottom so badly) they’re turning into a moral thing saying anyone who puts the Lebanese guy as a bottom is contributing to racism/the feminization of (EAST) Asian men

So I personally think this is some bullshit by people who either think Asia is a monolith or know they’re misrepresenting things to deflect people from their own internal biases by claiming it’s the other people who need to examine theirs

But maybe I’m wrong and I should be wary of my own internal biases when considering any Asian man as the bottom in a ship (even tho colorism is a goddamn thing and making the white/paler characters automatically the bottom is a symptom of that)

I did not articulate any of this as well as I wanted to but I’ve been pissed off for the past couple of days and needed to get this off my chest

[theshadowrealmitself]

In wild news today apparently one of older siblings has been getting poisoned by their coworker for the past 2 years and it sounds like they aren’t going to take any action against this coworker at all??

Which I get it’s hard to prove stuff like that but like. you should try to do something about this. I feel like. You’re just gonna go back to working with this woman knowing she’d let you die in a heartbeat??

[lenacraft]

Holy shit that horrifying. I hope they take legal action.

[theshadowrealmitself]

Unfortunately it doesn’t look like they will, but they did get a new job away from that creep!

[theshadowrealmitself]

Saw a take on the internet that annoyed me cause in my opinion it came off very ignorant and seemed to just be people using excuses to justify internalized biases and I was like “well maybe I’m the one being ignorant, let me talk to my sister, get some outside opinion” and she responded back with some stupid shit that showed she hadn’t actually read my messages and now I’m doubly annoyed with no answers

[theshadowrealmitself]

Been mentally “joking” with myself forever that my ideal body would be to have both a penis and a vagina and I finally looked it up to see if that was a surgery that actually exists and now I’m sobbing at almost 1 am that it actually exists that there’s actually a way for me to feel seen in my body but I just don’t think I’ll ever actually be able to financially achieve it or even have the courage to take the steps to make it happen

[theshadowrealmitself]

Picturing a hench that always gets forced into dressing like Alice to fool the Mad Hatter (happens a weirdly consistent amount), they obviously don’t like it since it’s only a matter of time before it backfires on them spectacularly

(God, especially if the plan goes so off track that Batman ends up saving them, thinking this is a real hostage situation, it’s happened a couple of times and their “I’m totally an innocent civilian not an evil hench 🥺” voice + acting is not that good, he’s gonna put it together at some point)

Anyways, so it happens again, they’re tied to a chair, the plan has gone way off track (again, who would’ve guessed 🙄) and now there’s gun fighting and other weapons going off and fuck is that joker gas in the distance?? they need to get the fuck out of here now, they are way too vulnerable like this

Luckily, since they’re not an actual hostage and the other henches who tied them up weren’t that concerned with making it look authentic, their legs weren’t tied down

So they just,, rock themselves forward onto their feet and start slowly walking away from the chaos, chair still tied to their back and arms

[theshadowrealmitself]

I will forgive a non-dubious cheating fic (like if there’s no sex pollen or sudden mating cycle) if it’s like. a short fic, just got swept up in the emotions y’know?, but if it’s a medium to long fic? I feel like the character had plenty of time to talk to their partner and end things before starting a new relationship, you had no word constraints!!

[neonshroudedgraves]

Discord planned to introduce age verification worldwide – and it's about to go live. | Tuta

Popular chat platform Discord plans to roll out age checks globally starting in or after June 2026, opting people into teens settings by def

[dragonmarquise]

Discord is supposedly saying this is going to affect "only 10% of users", but I really don't believe them at all. It's always going to be way worse and affect more people than what they claim.

So in case anyone needs it:

This browser-based tool can fool facial age checks using 3D avatars

After Discord announced plans to require age verification for all users, a free, HTML-based tool emerged that aims to bypass facial scans on