Reimob/Ritmob/Other problematic ships discourse
Actually, my main title was: I think I’ll be inactive or delete my Tumblr permanently…
A main reason for that is I am just so busy in real life and for a while the MP100 is just letting me down rather making me happy that I am in a fandom.
So before I leave, I would like to open the can of worms discourse that had happened so far and place my opinions on it. These discourse and the opinions of the people who participated just left a fairly bad taste in my mouth.
I would be posting per discourse/topics and tag them separately.
Warnings: The pedo word is mentioned.
FIRST DISCOURSE: Shipping Reimob/Ritmob/Any other dark problematic ships
There are usually three kinds of people that are truly affected and is the main cause and effect with this discourse.
PERSON A: “I am very uncomfortable and disgusted with this idea due to a personal event that happened to me and I get attacks and flashbacks whenever I see it. I wish people would stop posting it.”
PERSON B: “I am using this ship as a coping method due to a personal event that happened to me because it helps me to objectify that event, move forward psychologically, and other more reasons.”
PERSON C: “I am truly and utterly disgusted with this ship because it is just not right! It is pedophilia and abuse! And anyone who ships this is not human and is mentally ill! I would do everything in my internet power to serve justice and help who are affected. Think about the minors in this website! How could they see this monstrosity!?
If you are PERSON A, I am very and truly sorry you have seen it. But I’m afraid to tell you that people are going to ship it regardless you tell your backstory (you are never forced to) and you can’t force it to stop because persons like PERSON B exists. The best thing everything in your power that you can do is…
“… I am going to block these tags and the people who make this so I can’t ever see them because I understand that even though this is attacking my safe space here, I would be no better than an attacker if I shame the people who do so for how could I know that that was their safe space”
If you are PERSON B, then you don’t owe anyone your backstory for justifying this ship. I repeat, you don’t owe anyone your backstory for justifying this ship. But please remember that people like PERSON A exists so the best thing everything in your power that you can do is…
“I am going to organize and responsibly use the proper tags on my ship and all the discussions and posts I made related to it because I understand that this ship is truly dark, dubious, and debatable and is certainly not suitable for all fans to see for it might hurt some of them.”
If you are PERSON C… you’re usually way more crazier than that but hey, I gave you a benefit of the doubt that you could be an intellectual of some kind. Am I being too harsh? Heavens, no. But if you feel disrespected then just so you know, you never had mine.
Also…if you are PERSON C and is aware that PERSON B exists but you firmly believe and announce to the whole world that PERSON B’s method is “unhealthy and hurtful to others (specifically to PERSON A)”, let me remind you:
You are not PERSON B’s therapist. You do not have the professional background to even have the right to utter these things and shame/attack PERSON B. Your clinical experience with one (if you did have) is not a basis because people are different and is not you.
And again, you are not a therapist.
If you are, gladly prove me how wrong I am and I’ll respectfully accept it.
How dare you throw the word and accuse someone as a pedophile so lightly? You know why it’s “lightly”? Because you used it for something that never existed and is fictional in the first place.
Pedophilia is used for a real person committing such horrendous act. It is a dark term for what is transpiring behind locked doors where real children could not escape. It is used for the live disgusting acts caught on tape that is presented to be marketable. It is used when a family member is sick in the head and decided to do something horrible to minor/s available to them.
It is not used over a fucking 2D drawing.
Telling these shippers to stop shipping them won’t help the real children affected by that term. Telling them to die, choke, and kill themselves isn’t making you a better person either and is still not helping real children affected by that term. If you truly care for victims, then be a positive influence not a negative one.
Search for the shippers blog not to harass them but to tell people like PERSON A who to avoid. Remind people to use their tags properly. Don’t use and throw such heavy terms casually and accuse anyone of it because some people of PERSON A and B could be harmed in doing so. There are a lot more but in general, DON’T BE A FUCKING DICK.
Also, if you are a pro-shipper that acts like a banshee like PERSON C, then you are not any better than PERSON C is. I’m too worn out to make a whole set of advice for you so just kindly follow the CAPITALIZED phrase in the last paragraph.
And finally, all my advice is going out to all the people in-between this discourse, whether a casual shipper, casual non-shipper, regular fans, obsessive fans, and etc.
Be the person whom PERSON A and B could rely on.
Be a civil human being to other human beings.