The Stuff That Matters

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The Ego is NOT Bad

From my own observation:

The Ego is always alive and never dead. 

It comes in different forms and expressions. 

Imagine a room. 

One side is lit, the other side dark. 

Your standing in the door way, and you have the choice to move to either side.

Regardless of which side you chose, YOU are still alive. 

YOU are Ego. Living and breathing it. 

Learning to utilize and ascend the darker parts of your Ego may be beneficial in understanding and coming closer to yourself.

Ego is what drives competition, passion, success, expression... and if we listen closely,

You can hear the whispers of turmoil begging to be nurtured. It wants to be apart of the stuff that matters.

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Lovey-dovey Should Be The New Trend.

When people associate a lack of intimacy in a relationship with maturation of two individuals from "infatuated" interaction; it can be disheartening.

Yes, the rose-colored glasses do fall as time passes.

The need for constant stimulation diminishes.

The desire for sustained sexual interplay lessens.  

However,

Expressive appreciation for one another shouldn't be avoided.

Quality time should still be enjoyed.

Immunity towards affection may indicate underlying turmoil.

Lack of communication may represent uncertainty in many forms. 

Honestly, 

Being in touch with your feelings and expressing them (whether it be towards someone or yourself) isn't a bad thing! Some feel the need to suppress themselves.

In my experience, it can do more harm than good. It’s a part of you, the stuff that matters.

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some of my favorite things

frost covering grass

texture

the smell & feel of paper

tired eyes

snow crunching beneath your feet

foggy windows

all shades of blue

the steam from a cup of coffee or tea

pink-stained lips

shadows of light on the wall

dancing in the shower

daydreaming

wet, reflections on city streets

clouds hiding in trees

moving water

empathy

messy hair

drunk laughter & crying

barely holding hands

candles when lit

baggy sweaters & scrunched socks

soft things

the color white

elders with love in their eyes

kisses on the body

a warm, hearty meal

smile lines

painting and getting it all over yourself

lemon water

wrapped & sleeping in each others arms

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Ace at Authenticity

Authenticity, [aw-then-tik]

Adjective.

Representing one’s true nature or beliefs; true to oneself or to the person identified.

“Nothing is more valuable than your authentic self; there is no reason to justify a synthetic being.” – s.f.  http://tasting--words.tumblr.com/

 A state of consciousness in its rawest form would be energy manifesting without circumstances choking it around the neck.

In my opinion, our community takes this quality lightly. I find it dismissed constantly.

Being authentic doesn’t mean you always wear your heart on your sleeve. Or disregarding others to accommodate your need to voice your opinion.

It also doesn’t mean you should know precisely what you want out of life.

What it does mean:

-          You take accountability for your strengths and weaknesses. You exercise your talents and accept criticism in any form.

-          You live what you preach. You will adapt, change, and grow from different morals and ethics; but you stay true to yourself.

-          You learn to forgive the part of you that wants to fulfill someone’s standards and accept you for… you.

-          You learn to fight your own standards you’ve conditioned your mind to aspire towards and live from your true desires.

-          You find a way to accept every part of yourself. Your body, mind, spirit… everything.

The point is,

Authenticity to me… is part of the stuff that matters.

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Ensoul Matter

“Most of us move through the natural world not realizing that the forms we encounter are not the apparent superficial objects we think they are. They are condensations of meaning, wild poetry created from the dreaming of Earth.” – Stephen Buhner Ensouling Language – The Art of Nonfiction

Buhner’s ardent approach to language emphasizes the power of “invisible happenings” between life forms in our world. He takes you into a world deeper than your psych and shows you how to access a “golden thread” of creativity. That thread leads a writer into touching the vein that holds blood containing the essence of “wild poetry created from the dreaming of Earth”.

In other words, the stuff that matters.

Buhner focuses on environmental and physical studies attributed to self-healing. In this book, he branches out of such topics and addresses the imperative talent a writer must possess. That is, to build a connection with your readers one must learn how to become in-tune with their true essence and allow the words to guide creation instead of directing it. By accessing that part of ourselves, it gives you an ability to connect with your reader. You get to show that you understand and embrace everything they are; cultivating genuine interest of the most authentic part of their being.

My desire is to bring that concept into awareness and emphasize the value it holds. I’d like to implement the morale hidden within his teachings into everyday life.

To me, it’s part of the stuff that matters.