My Heart Hurts....

Taekwondo. Law Student. Capricorn. Asocial. INTJ. Dreamer. Thinker. Writer. Lover. Me. Kik: IAmNightVision Twitter: @thinkerscanvas Email: [email protected]

[robert-nash]

[ray-marisha]

I’m willing to wait for it.

[thedarkperidot]

Me: I’m going to be SO productive today

Also me: *dissociates for five hours*

[buzzfeedlgbt]

The national conversation about trans identity and community tends to focus on the newest crop of trans youth. But why don’t we hear about older trans and gender-nonconforming individuals who manage to overcome the at times seemingly impossible odds and survive — and thrive — in America?

Photographer Jess Dugan’s latest project To Survive on This Shore aims to bring attention to those voices. For over five years, Dugan and social worker Vanessa Fabbre have traveled across the United States photographing and interviewing older trans and gender-nonconforming individuals to ensure their stories, largely untold, are finally shared.  See more here (x)

[inkskinned]

not to be fake deep but gay culture is having a complicated, flawed relationship with the people who were supposed to be there for you. the blood relatives you refuse to come out to, the ones you regret being honest with, the ones who give you that sharp, knifeblade smile like they know they’re supposed to be fine with you being gay but fuck they’re upset about it

gay culture is finding a new family. rewriting the one that you lost. the sliding sideways glance of two people in a room “i got you”. replacing the bits of you that fell out and finding - oh, oh, this is what love was supposed to be, isn’t it, where i open my heart and the teeth don’t come out. where you can say “i need help” and a hand opens and not to take. a house, sometimes; more often just a series of shared spaces where cat-like you lounge with the weirdest people you’ve ever known, the most beautifully honest human beings who let you be weird too (they’re not actually weird, you realize one day, it’s just weird to you that they aren’t angry, and that idea makes you drop what you’re holding). no, we can’t talk honestly with our dads and don’t bother with our moms. we feel what is unsaid like a second person we carry with us, a hand over our mouths. it’s okay, and it’s not okay, and when it’s not okay, you say: i need a hug. and you get one, always.

[onlyblackgirl]

[persephone-is-here-omg]

WRECK THEM QUEEN!

[spearmint-milkshake]

i just saw a fb post where a man was arguing with a woman about the best way to make macarons and he kept insisting that she was wrong, and then eventually he was like “I’ve never personally made macarons, but if you think about it what I’m saying makes sense, i’m simply stating the obvious. i’m sure there are plenty of youtube tutorials that would show you the same thing.” and the woman replied by linking him to her instagram business page and she makes fuckin macaron towers for parties for a living and i’ve been laughing about it for a solid 5 minutes.

[cocksmasher69]

Men automatically assume they’re more of an expert on something than any woman on account of their dicks. I’ve never met such an ignorant and narcissistic creature as a male

[cheekless0nion]

I’ll never forget a time when a fb friend of mine posted that she’s on her way to hospital to give birth. Women commented with “good luck” and other encouraging messages. A man’s comment was advice on how to give birth. 

[celean0]

You have got to be kidding me

[wreathedinscales]

So I was talking about Jekyll & Hyde (the book) at a writer’s museum while we were looking at an Robert Louis Stevenson exhibit. I was giving my take on Jekyll, and my brother tried to counter it. I countered back easily, and then he said “well I’ve never read the book”

My dude………..stop

[under-dark-stars-blog]

[lavender-ice]

please.

[wyvernchild]

That is the exact spot my parents found a stray kitten. Nice little addition to the family, but would have been a terrible addition to the pavement had she not been very vocal OTL

[keepmywhiskeyneat-deactivated20]

No joke, the place where that cat is resting in this picture is called a “dead cat hole” it’s an automotive term.  Don’t believe me, look it up.

[theforestbeneathme-deactivated2]

This is also where I found a stray cat, she was up in there during a thunderstorm and I begged my dad to let me being her inside and that’s the story of how I got my first cat.

[deanplease]

Please don’t skip over this without reading it and making a mental note. Even if you don’t have a car, tell your parents or whoever, and make sure to do this. You think that’ll never happen but that’s what everyone thought who had this happen and didn’t check, and that poor cold cat met with a terribly sad end.

[sargentsnowy-blog]

REBLOG WHETHER YOU LIKE CATS OR NOT

[sparrf-blog]

i keep thinking about that tribe of baboons where all the alpha males died from eating poison garbage and then the baby boy monkeys were taken care of by the lady monkeys and never got socialized to be aggressive so they all just live peacefully and groom eachother instead of fighting and killing eachother and its been generations of that, it only took 1 wipeout of the aggressive males to change the whole social order of the species i am crying they must be so much happier

[theclassykindoftrasy]

……….I have an idea.

[geoclaire]

don’t we all

[fluffmugger]

You’re missing half the story. When adolescent males from other groups came to join, they learned very rapidly that being an arsehole baboon was not fucking tolerated, and completely stopped the behaviour and integrated with the group.

Arseholes only thrive when you let them. 

[elljayvee]

Only the aggressive males died; the non-aggressive ones didn’t go on garbage dump raids and so they survived just fine. This was about half the adult males in the troop. The suddenly-without-mean-competition males didn’t get aggressive and take over and start being giant jerks; they stayed the same pleasant baboons they had always been.

The researcher studying this troop was asked what he had learned about stopping violence in society and he said “Kill all the aggressive young males” and I think about that a lot.

[boringangel]

[kacey-bellamy-deactivated201503]

nobody hates glee more than people who have sincerely loved glee at some point in their lives

[emotionalempowerer-blog]

[mrdsc1010]

Same Energy

[trademarkednothing]

Examples of Stockholm Syndrome in Disney

 Frollo and Quasimodo

Mother Gothel and Rapunzel

Frollo and Mother Gothel convince Quasimodo and Rapunzel that their lives are dependent on them. The two villains claim the outside world is a terrible place even though they know this is not true. They also constantly emotionally abuse their victims by implying their worthlessness and destroying their self-esteems. Quasimodo and Rapunzel sympathize with their captors and even believe their captors are protecting them and treating them with kindness. However, both captors are merely using and manipulating their victims for their own selfish purposes.

NOT:

The Beast and Belle

 Belle does not sympathize with the Beast when she is treated poorly. She becomes angry and leaves the castle, only returning by her own wish so that the Beast (who saves her) does not freeze to death. She does not respond nicely towards the Beast until he treats her with respect. In this situation, Belle has control and is not manipulated into feeling for the Beast, nor does the Beast treat her disrespectfully after the first night. While the Beast does have an underlying motive as to keeping Belle in his castle, he abandons this idea and sets her free to make her happy. If anything, this story is a case of Lima Syndrome where the captor starts to sympathize with the victim.

Check out this post which refocuses the purpose of Beauty and the Beast from merely (and wrongly) being about Stockholm Syndrome to it’s original purpose.

[onlyleigh]

FUCKING FINALLY

[spiritsonic]

I don’t usually reblog stuff like this, but Beauty and the Beast is my favorite movie and I’d like to have this on my page!

[toasterlyreasons]

this is actually a very good analysis. I take back all the times I’ve called Beauty and the Beast a ‘stockholm syndrome’ romance. 

[goobra]

i feel very targeted

[packtheammo2]

Wow this is oddly specific

[thestagedweller-deactivated2021]

But oddly relateable…

[siahposh]

We all have that damn list!

[feministfangirl]

the more time i spend with men, the more my brain cycles back to this post

[yamino]

🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈

[showerthoughtsofficial]

It’s a little unrealistic that movie characters never have to sit through a Windows update or close out Adobe update pop-ups when using a computer at a critical plot point.

[itchycoil]

No offense but your friends are your soulmates too and not just people to complain about your romantic relationship to

[wnq-writers]

“Night is beautiful when you are happy—comforting when you are in grief—terrible when you are lonely and unhappy.”

— L.M. Montgomery (via fy-perspectives)