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Baby radfem, 21

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Friendly reminder that the superbowl inspires some of the highest domestic abuse and sex trafficking rates of the year. So be careful, and check in with your friends

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Human/sex trafficking

Non-academic (ie, regular news articles):

https://www.espn.com/nfl/story/_/id/28607449/the-super-bowl-remains-target-human-trafficking

“ According to human trafficking data compiled by the Institute for Sport and Social Justice's "Shut Out Trafficking" program, there's consistently a spike of reported incidents in the U.S. around January and February (when the Super Bowl takes place). “

“ In recent years, the increased visitors in host cities tend to encourage the criminal activities of human trafficking and sex trafficking. It is often found that criminally organized sex rings will travel from one location to another to meet the demand of large sporting events.“

https://time.com/5762475/super-bowl-human-trafficking/

“ They noted that events such as the Feb. 2 Super Bowl, with all its attendant parties, are ripe for human and sex trafficking. “

https://www.miamiherald.com/news/local/crime/article239767408.html

(Trigger warning for this source, it includes personal accounts of rape, assault, and trafficking)

“[Pimps have] placed ads on sex-for-hire and adult entertainment websites and they’re trolling lobbies, pool decks, bars and Super Bowl parties to find johns ready to pay $100 cash for 30 minutes in a room with a person they may think of as a prostitute but who is more likely one of 40 million victims caught in the $150 billion sex and labor trafficking industry. It is second only to drug trafficking as the world’s largest criminal industry, according to the International Labour Organization and the nonprofit Polaris Project. “

“ Calls to trafficking hotlines increased 23 percent before last year’s game and two dozen victims were rescued, including five in one day as a result of tips from hotels. “

“ For the organizations fighting the crime of trafficking, the Super Bowl is prime time because of the connection between sports and the sale of sex. “

“ Florida ranks third nationwide in human trafficking cases, and Miami-Dade County is the biggest trafficking hub in the state, according to a report by the Miami-Dade State Attorney’s Office, which estimates that the average sex trafficking victim may be forced to have sex 20 times a day, seven days a week. “

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/sex-trafficking-super-bowl_b_816618

(Trigger warning for this article too, for semi-graphic descriptions of rape, assault, and trafficking)

“ One such trafficker, Manuel A. Walcott, was sentenced to 20 years in prison for offering a 14-year-old girl as a “Super Bowl Special” during the 2009 game in Tampa. When undercover investigators inquired about the special, they were quoted a price of $300 for two girls — a 14-year-old and an 18-year-old who had been a prostitute for two years. “ (emphasis mine)

Academic:

Leveraging Publicly Available Data to Discern Patterns of Human-Trafficking Activity

This is a study done on online ads for “escort services”, etc. It did not find an increase in ad activity big enough to set the Super Bowl apart from other large fluctuations in data, but it did find the Super Bowl had an effect on the type of ads observed. There was an increase in new-to-town ads, shown in the chart below. This could suggest a jump in activity due to the influx of people, which may not be reflected as clearly in this form of data. 

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0033350614003023

“ the United States Super Bowl, the largest annual sporting event in the United States, has been labeled the ‘single largest magnet for sex trafficking, child sex work in the U.S. and possibly the world’.19 The scale of sex work at the last few Super Bowls was described by government agents as ‘incredible’. “

This source does define a difference between sex trafficking and “sex work” that I found a little ridiculous, but it is an excellent delve into various research on sex trafficking with regards to sporting events in general, legal issues, public health concerns, and more. Note that it does not have empirical data specifically related to the Super Bowl.

https://heinonline.org/HOL/Page?collection=journals&handle=hein.journals/dpjwglaw2&id=155&men_tab=srchresults

“human trafficking has long been associated with large sporting events, conferences, and other large venues involving a great number of men. Human trafficking generates $32 billion a year and is tied with the drug trade as the second largest and fastest growing criminal industry in the world. Regrettably, there is a strong correlation between missing children and underage sex trafficking.”

This source discusses methods used to prevent and stop sex trafficking, as well as addressing some of the myths around it (see pages 147-149 for that bit specifically)

https://arxiv.org/pdf/1602.05048.pdf

another study on ads

“ The Super Bowl events, except for 2014, are on par with the other events that were correlated with the most significant increase in ‘new-to-town’ ads analyzed in this study “

“ Our analysis has shown that in some cases such as the Super Bowl (in particular, of 2013, 2015, and 2016) or Consumer Electronics Show (2015), one can see a correlation between the occurrence of the event and noticeable and statistically significant evidence of an influx of sex-workers, and, we may imply, sex trafficking activity. However, in using publicly available data to analyze the broader context of sex trafficking in the United States and Canada, we have identified multiple other venues, events, times, and locations that show a more significant influx of sex advertising than the Super Bowl. “

Tldr: They found other events inspired larger spikes in the gathered data, but that the Super Bowl is still a significant spike compared to the norm of the area it’s held in

Domestic Abuse

Academic sources (there is a reason I’m not including non-academic sources, see source 1):

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/0193723515594209

“A “Google search” on domestic violence and football will yield over three million “hits.” An Internet site devoted to verifying or debunking myths—snopes.com—sums up its response by flatly calling the subject an urban legend. The site says in essence that calling Super Bowl Sunday the most dangerous day of the year is a myth. This statement unfortunately dismisses as myth an extremely complicated and dangerous topic. It is reflective of a frustration that researchers in social science face that perhaps researchers in the natural sciences do not—the topics are readily available to the public and are, therefore, vulnerable to uneducated scrutiny. In addition, football’s popularity is so widespread and overwhelming that this concept seems like an assault on a sacred cow, an assault on the American way. Football is perceived to be as wholesome and American as apple pie and only those who truly hate America (or in this case, American men) could suggest that it carries a deleterious effect.“ (emphasis mine)

“ What was found is that football gamedays produce higher numbers of domestic violence arrests than the comparable, non-sports Sundays (n = 22). This was the largest comparison set and the most significant, because it ruled out some confounding factors. In addition, the study found that football gamedays produced higher numbers of domestic violence arrests than the other three major professional sports. The average football gameday is more dangerous to women—as victims of domestic violence—than the other days of the year “ (emphasis mine)

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/088626000015011006

Note, this is an old study, and I’m merely including it to show it also backs up points made by the other sources listed here

Found correlation between football game days in the 1993-94 season and an increase in domestic violence dispatches in LA. However, information on the Super Bowl does not seem out of line with other football games, although I would argue they needed more data, and that the data surrounding the Super Bowl they did collect was inconclusive. 

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/0887403404267771

“ But New Year’s Eve, New Year’s Day, the day of the Super Bowl, Memorial Day, and Independence Day are dates with total domestic violence reports higher than the normal daily average.“

“ Some interesting research has documented the increases in testosterone that occur among both men and women when football, or other violent sports, are watched (Walsh, 2002). In turn, heightened testosterone levels have been linked to violence (Mazur & Booth, 1998). We think it possible that such factors as proximity, opportunity, alcohol consumption, and possibly heightened testosterone levels all coalesce on some holidays, creating a natural incubator, or the right chemistry, for more IPV. “

I will add more sources on DV later, but I have a meeting to go to right now, and I want to go ahead and post this for those of you curious about the subject.

[user87262893]

sorry if this is a rlly rlly dumb question but i’ve heard a lot of ppl talk about men who were falsely accused of rape getting their lives ruined by the accusations, and i wanted to know your thoughts on this.

I’m here to take all questions, as long as the person who asks them is willing to listen and learn. So I hope you listen closely.

The most commonly cited figure says that 5% of rape allegations are false. This figure comes on studies done on college students, of which it is reported roughly 90% do not report their assault to the police. So, if we take the number of rapes that occur and the number of false accusations, that means false accusations occur at a rate closer to around .005%.

So then we must ask, what makes a rape allegation deemed ‘false’? The classic example in popular media is “young girl regrets sex, claims rape”. However, we’ve found in research that simply isn’t the case. What’s more common is a teen girls parent finds out she’s sexually active and files a rape claim, that qualifies as a false claim. Also common is grown adults caught cheating, rape claim filled, often then redacted when the truth comes forward. That counts as a false claim. You know what counts for the majority, though? Let me give you an example. In one case, the police determined that a rape had to be a false claim because people had seen the accuser let her eventual rapist help her take her ski boots off. This classified her claim as a false one. The police saying your claim is false gets it classified in those same fake rape accusation statistics.

So how many false rape claims lead to convictions? A study found that of 216 complaints later classified as false, only 6 led to arrest, and of those 6, only two faced charges. And then those charges were overturned. There is simply no evidence to support the idea that false rape accusations routinely result in serious consequences.

So then how do false rape reports compare to false reports of other crimes? Let’s run some numbers. Over a 25 year period, 52 convictions were overturned due to false rape claims. In that same 25 year period, 790 convictions were overturned due to false murder claims. So that means you’re about 15 times likelier to be falsely convicted of murder than of rape.

So in conclusion, false rape claims aren’t this massive issue people pretend they are. Additionally, if a man you know is acting very concerned that he’s going to get falsely accused of rape, you probably want to avoid being alone with him…these men don’t fear lies, they fear the truth of their actions. They fear accountability.

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[buzzcutbulldyke]

Thank you for this! Sure, true false accusations are bad and shouldn’t happen, and they can hurt people, but it’s in no way the massive issue people act king it is. People will lie about all sorts of crimes; false rape accusations just get the most media attention.

[phalloid-destroyer-deactivated2]

Men don’t get troubled over false murder/arson etc. accusations now are they? They fear they will face consequences over the things they in fact, did. It’s the predictable male reaction to #metoo

[tervenish]

lesbians who like dick stand up!!!!

congrats you’re bisexual.

lesbians who have dicks stand up!!!!

congrats you’re heterosexual.

here’s your daily reminder that lesbians are female homosexuals :)

[dick-obsessed-dykes]

Found another one!

[tervenish]

you’re a fucking troll. we’re out here defending ourselves because y'all seem to think lesbians can learn to like dick. our entire definition is the fact that we DON’T. you want me to stop talking about dick? then stop telling us males with dicks are lesbians. fuck off.

[dick-obsessed-dykes]

You can’t go five minutes without being obsessed with dicks. Can you not go five minutes without mentioning them? Bye bye, bi.

[celean0]

People have been pressuring lesbians into liking men, persecuting them for their same sex attraction, correctively raping them for centuries and now they're being pressured to accept transwomen with penises as sexual partners and being called bigots if they don't. And when lesbians rightfully complain about it and defend themselves, you wanna accuse them of being dick obsessed? You're trying to shame them out of talking about their own oppression and it's not working.

[vulvapeople]

Jonathan Yaniv files 16 Human Rights complaints against women who don’t want to wax his balls

Gallus Mag has outed the scumbag sexual harasser and TRA opportunist who’s using the BC “Human Rights” Tribunal to extort self-employed women for thousands of dollars for their refusal to let him sexually harass and assault them.

A little tidbit that will shock no one who isn’t a TRA: Yaniv is a pervert who has harassed teen girls on Facebook with his pedophile fantasies, all involving intruding on women’s spaces to harass and assault young girls.

[misshorrorotaku-deactivated2024]

@Cis Lesbians

Which term would you rather trans lesbians use? “Lesbian” or “Sapphic”?

I’m asking because trans lesbians face a lot of opposition to them using the term lesbian. So I was curious, if not lesbian than can they use Sapphic? Or is that a term only for cis lesbians and cis bi women?

Why or why not?

I’m alright with answers from anyone, even if you’re gendercrit. I’ll remain civil so long as you remain civil.

[kweerluigi-deactivated20231126]

Heterosexual will suffice

[pond-scum-princess-deactivated2]

Straight is a fitting term

[misshorrorotaku-deactivated2024]

No, It’s not.

But thanks for the input.

[pond-scum-princess-deactivated2]

Trans women can never be lesbians.  A male individual, regardless of gender identity, who likes female individuals exclusively is a heterosexual. 

[misshorrorotaku-deactivated2024]

Many lesbians disagree with you.

Trans women are women, and they can be lesbians.

That doesn’t change just because you say so, hun.

But thanks for the input. Echo-chambers are annoying, so It’s nice to get different opinions on this.

[an-angry-lesbian]

“Many lesbians” still only makes up a tiny percentage of the overall lesbian population.

Gynephillic, female-attracted, straight, heterosexual are all accurate for transwomen attracted to women. Tbh I don’t even mind wlw or sapphic but lesbian refers to exclusive same sex attraction in females.

[ignis-divine-eleison]

sapphic does too tho

[misshorrorotaku-deactivated2024]

No, it doesn’t.

Sapphic originates from the Greek Poet Sappho, who wrote love poems for men and women both. Her poems about women were more popular, hence why she is seen as a lesbian icon.

But bisexual women use “Sapphic” as well. It is not only about exclusively same-sex attracted women.

[ignis-divine-eleison]

source?

[misshorrorotaku-deactivated2024]

On what? Sappho?

You’re telling me you can’t Google a famous fucking poet????

[ignis-divine-eleison]

lmfao on her being bi considering sapphic/sapphist literally means lesbian

[misshorrorotaku-deactivated2024]

Sappho was still bi. Bi with a strong preference for women, but still bi. Just because “Collins dictionary” defines it like that does not mean That’s how it is actually used. Because bi women use the term sapphic as well.

Maybe look up Sappho herself instead of looking up how some random internet dictionary defines a term named after her.

Btw, look for an EDU next time. .coms are very unreliable for academic research.

[ignis-divine-eleison]

bi women use the term sapphic because they love erasing themselves. they also largely call themselves gay.

the term “lesbian” also stems from sappho, as she was sappho from lesbos, a greek island.

you still haven’t shown me a source of sappho being bi.

[misshorrorotaku-deactivated2024]

They use gay because It’s so often used as an umbrella term.

Why are people on Tumblr so lazy? GOOGLE HER.

[ignis-divine-eleison]

lmao as i said, it’s only an umbrella term because bi people forced us to make it into one.

also:

she’s a lesbian that people tried to straight-wash now!

the reason i asked you, you specifically, for a source, is because almost everything i find says she’s a lesbian. so which source are you using?

[cisthoughtcrime]

Hi, classicist here. @thalia-the-vampire-queen @ignis-divine-eleison

I’ve read Sappho in the original Greek. The two excerpts people point to to “prove she was bi” are grammatical flukes. If you want to get technical, for some nouns the genitive singular case looks the same for masculine and feminine. When a translation says she is overcome with longing for a “boy”, the word is actually “child” in the genitive case and it could be masculine or feminine. Contextually, any good classicist will tell you that it should be “girl” because of how the poem progresses. (straight male) Classicists in the early 20th century took advantage of the grammatical ambiguity to argue that Sappho was actually straight. There are no contemporary accounts or evidence that she was interested in men.

I can whip out the Greek itself if you’re really keen, but I’m on my phone.

[celean0]

Also the issue is that, even if transwomen get the word lesbian and actual female homosexuals use another word, they would want that too. The issue isn't specifically about the words lesbian or sapphic, but about the unwillingness of male people to let female people exist seperately from them, be it physically, linguistically or any other way.

And this is a problem because it leads to lesbians (female homosexuals) to be pressured into sleeping with males, which can and does (re)traumatize them. Lesbians shouldn't be morally obligated to be in unfulfilling relationships to validate others. And female people are a category of their own, regardless of how male people identify or what brain sex they have or whatever. There are real physical differences between the two that you can't opt into or out of, and therefor you should be able to have spaces where you can be surrounded only by people of your own sex (not gender), especially since female people can be (and often are) assaulted by male people who are bigger, stronger, more violent and have the ability to forcibly impregnate them. And we can't read minds and magically tell which ones are dangerous. Even so, I and a lot of other women don't want to constantly be around males, change clothes around them and so on, even the nice ones. Everyone deserves privacy. So having female only spaces is important, especially for trauma victims. Also when it comes to things like sports, where transwomen have an unfair advantage. We also should be able to talk about female issues like abortion, menstruation etc with people who go through the same things and understand them, without being shut down and be called exclusionary. Same goes for infertile and intersex women, because there's a difference between not menstruating and not getting pregnant because you were born female but have a medical condition and not menstruating/ getting pregnant because you were born male, xy chromosomes, penis and all.

And why don't transwomen want to make their own words and have their own spaces without taking away female only spaces? Because transwomen and 'cis'women are different, and have different experiences and there's no way around it. There are experiences that transwomen have that we don't and couldn't understand either. And this is also not equivalent to seperating women on race for example, because I often see trans activists say that saying transwomen aren't women is like saying black women aren't women. But things like race/sexuality/class are social realities (although sexuality is biological and innate but it doesn't change your sex) but not biological ones, unlike sex, which is the difference between 'cis' women and transwomen.

[enoughtohold]

All 19 Black Women Running for Judge in a Texas Race Won Last Night

Looking for some great news after Tuesday's midterms? Meet the #Houston19.

[starstuffandalotofcoffee]

additionally: they pushed out these two assholes

https://www.chron.com/news/houston-texas/houston/article/Harris-County-judges-responsible-for-1-in-five-13322222.php

[enoughtohold]

Two Harris County judges accounted for more than one-fifth of all children sent to the state’s juvenile prisons last year, driving up the county’s Texas Juvenile Justice Department commitments even as those figures fall in the rest of the state.

The two courts — overseen by Judges Glenn Devlin and John Phillips — not only sent more teens to juvenile prison, but they also sent them younger and for less-serious offenses than the county’s third juvenile court, where Judge Mike Schneider presides. And, from all three courts, the kids sent to state lockups were almost all — about 96 percent — children of color.

wow, getting rid of them is DEFINITELY good news!

[happibeans]

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[kittiesatemypronouns]

YAY!

[vladtheunfollower]

12 non-threatening leadership strategies for women.

From Sarah Cooper's 'How to Be Successful without Hurting Men's Feelings'

[spencer-shayy-archive]

This is satire, right?

[kittiesatemypronouns]

Yup.

[radfemetc]

[section8babe]

when he say “if u leave me ima kill myself”

[skyakafreckles]

Everyone. Please, let this be your reaction. Anybody who says this is abusive AF and most likely has been abusive before they said this

[aaliyah-apollonia-deactivated20]

Yupppp

[venusdryad]

laugh before you hang up

[spanish-g0ld]

this is sooooo fucked up. i’m livid

Click here to support Help bring justice to my son & I organized by Alina Chantrice

I was raped in 2016. That is how I got my son. As of yesterday, the jury decided that my case wasn’t enough so they dismissed all the char

[mlleclaudine]

Baroque Underwater Photography by Christy Lee Rogers

Photographer Christy Lee Rogers produces luminous scenes of swirling figures swathed in colorful fabrics. She creates a painterly quality in her large-scale images not by using wet pigments, but rather by completely submerging her subjects in illuminated water and photographing them at night.

[boredpanda]

1800s-1900s Portraits Of Native American Teen Girls Show Their Unique Beauty And Style (15+ Pics)

[tikkunolamorgtfo]

I love love love seeing historical/archival photos of people who are not white Christian Europeans :)

[lavenderpoetryx]

[karrakazz]

possibly controversial opinion: i think “natural” makeup is, over time, more damaging than bold, obvious makeup

[solacekames]

I don’t think that’s controversial at all. 

[solacekames]

@qualr sure I’ll explain :-)

Mainly because makeup itself, the generic concept, is an integral part of human identity. People have always done it (even Neanderthals used makeup) and we’re always going to keep doing it. The concept of decorating our faces/bodies with colored pigments is practically hardwired and on a deep level just plain FUN (look at how much kids love to get their faces painted at fairs and carnivals and so on). The concept is also totally gender neutral. In some societies, men traditionally do it more than women, for example. Using your own body as a canvas for art taps into a mystical, childlike sense of wonder. First you look one way, then… another! Like magic. 

But mainstream commercial makeup culture as it exists today is incredibly exploitative, misogynist, colonialist, colorist, and hurts women, especially poorer women and women who don’t fit the racial ideal as expressed by the mainstream corporate beauty industry. And a big part of that is pushing “natural” looks. All women are supposed to look “naturally” poreless, for example (which isn’t realistic or healthy) and are punished socially and often financially if we aren’t. Another example: contouring is supposed to accentuate the “natural” lines of your face but for me and a lot of other Asian women with moonfaces, it’s the furthest thing from natural! The further you are from the rich thin young lightskinned bigeyed straightsmallnosed highcheekboned look, the more weirdly artificial the word “natural” becomes. We’re supposed to sink all this time and money and resources into achieving this bullshit “natural” look until it all feels a bit like Sisyphus rolling the stone up the hill. 

Putting a bright blue streak on your eyelids and walking out the door might take five seconds and probably makes you feel expressive and happy and good about yourself, even if it seems “tacky” through the lens of mainstream makeup culture. But taking an hour and trying soooo hard, using all the latest expensive products to make it seem like you’re not really trying at all, makes a lot of women feel worse about themselves, not better. In fact it leads to a lot of women feeling insecure about their real face and their real skin. There are many ways to look garish, but only ONE way to look “natural”. Instead of turning your own face into a canvas where you’re the creative artist, you’re following a ruthless set of instructions and doing a sort of strict paint-by-numbers that you’re never going to do right anyway. So it represents giving up more power over your own face/body than you’re actually getting back. Subjugation to the social norm, not creativity.

[gishifu]

If ‘makeup’ looked basically more like war paint, or woad, or other examples where humans just put patterns on their faces to look cool and it wasn’t something enforced on women to appear acceptable and sexually attractive for men, yeah I’d be all for it.

[nishnasty]

#Repost from @junglebarbiejulia FULL STORY. On the night of August 10 2013 I went to DC for my birthday to go to “Park Place”, an upscale restaurant. Upon my arrival at the entrance, at 11:30pm, before going to stand in the very long line I went to ask a patrolling officer where a nearby restroom was and before I could utter the words, I was met with an elbow and a right punch to my face. I was instantly knock out. My police report (which has changed numerous times this year) say I was arrest and processed at 1:50 am which is 2 hours that I was unaccounted for. I was left on the floor and when I woke up I was bleeding in multiple places with drag marks on my toes, my wrist were cut by the cuffs, the back of my head and arms were lumpy. The officers wouldn’t tell me why I was in jail and I overheard them saying what should we charge her with? We can’t say domestic, we don’t know who she is with. After pleading and begging to go to the hospital, I was met with more hostility before they finally let me go to the hospital the next days upon my release I had a rape kit done because I don’t know any thing that happened to me while knocked out and it came back positive for semen. They sent messages from my phone while I was detained. Internal Affairs came and confiscated my clothing (they never returned them) and they stole my rape kit. As of today I am facing charges for fighting a bouncer outside of the Lima Club, I was never there and its 5 minutes away from Park driving, also 5 officers that responded after I punched the manager to I was apparently Mike Tyson because when I woke up in jail I had the strength and gumption to fight some more officers in there. When the video was requested both clubs said they lost them. They follow me and stalk my home to this day, I have caught DC police trying to get in my home when they thought I had left, even the Baltimore cops help protect them, one in the rape department even asked me out on a date while my face was still battered. I have been trying to tell my story on IG only to find that police officers or this hired by then have been spamming my hashtag #justiceforjulia with blasphemous pictures. Please share her story.

[queerlyblack]

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[crayonsarchive]

HOLY SHIT

[oohmai]

this shit is ridiculous 

[vortexsophia-deactivated2022110]

Rocky Horror star Richard O’Brien: Trans women can’t be women

Rocky Horror creator Richard O’Brien has caused controversy by speaking out against transgender women.

Understand, Rocky Horror has been making trans women ashamed and uncomfortable since it’s inception because the creator of it LITERALLY hates trans women. Please Sit The Fuck Down when you here us complain about this movie and LISTEN….   

Rocky Horror- “A  -Recursive, -Verbose Transvestite from a transsexual planet goes on violent rampage when their forced non-consensual sex to “tame people” is met with resistance’

[lavender-hopes-dreams]

The time was the 1970s. Times were, in general, pretty good. The Vietnam War was recently over, Nixon was out of office, the first oil crisis had come and gone, and the Iran hostage crisis was still in the future. The trauma of assassinations and racial tensions of the 1960s had largely settled down. The young audience that made the film into a cult classic was, for the first time in more than a decade, not preoccupied with conflict, protest and social change.

Back then nobody saw RHPS as transphobic or problematic. It still isn’t. There are so many of you who are too young and too offended at everything to fully understand how much of a positive impact RHPS had on the LGBT community. The live shows where the audience is encourage to actively participate, the music, Tim Curry’s performance and the all of the gender breaking stereotypes were all very positive things.

Richard and feminist Germaine Greer are absolutely right. Trans women will never be actual women. You cannot change your biology or your chromosomes. Trans women do not go through menstruation. Trans women are not born with a vagina. Trans women can not be lesbians. Trans women have not been socialized the same way that women have.

[darthvatrix]

Trans women won’t have a come to Jesus moment where they make peace with the limitations of the transition. And know you can’t change biological sex.

[old-school-butch]

I struggle to think of a single article, story or even autobiography about trans people written more than a decade ago that modern trans people wouldn’t find ‘problematique.’ Even the story of Brandon Teena ‘Boys Don’t Cry’, which was heavily revisionist to align her story with the trans narrative of the time, was heavily critiqued in my social circles, and that was done in 1999.

[gahdamnpunk]

A mood.

[knifefightscene]

Shout out to all my straight sisters I’m so sorry 😞

[nerdymouse]

Jesus, leave his ass.

[iammyfather]

We learn fast to be very kind and attentive, tho.

[pbrim]

My mom, who got her degree in Marriage and Family Counseling when she was 60, says studies show that women will sometimes sometimes leave a long term relationship to live on their own for a while before seeking a new relationship, but men will almost never leave a long term relationship without having a new relationship either in progress or just beginning.  They don’t want to give up the caretaker they have without another one on deck or in the wings.

[yekkes]

This is so sad

[w0rldweaver]

This isnt cute or quirky. This means hes a fucking hopeless user

[jennikeatts]

Please date a man who actually acts like an adult.

[aria-jane-cherry]

Ok I lived with my ex for 2 years and he literally wouldn’t be able to get his own food if I wasn’t at home, I’d get home from work and he’d be angry at me for “making him starve”

My current partner has lived on his own for 8 years and the absolute most I have to help him with is maybe sending him $20 so he can make a bill payment on time

It made me realise for 2-4 years I wasn’t a girlfriend I was a fucking mother

[lettersfromeleanorrigby]

Men who have been independent are capable of reverting if given the slightest excuse. When we married, my ex husband was 10 years older than me and had lived on his own for 8ish years. Yet (and I allowed this until I finally got fed up and took us to counseling) I did 80% of the cooking, because I was better at it. Same with the cleaning, shopping, social planning, etc.

After I left, in the first six months I got texts or calls asking me to please tell him:

The online banking password (dude, I left you, you should really change that)

Where I ordered his special-wecial organic underwear

Where the good cutting board was (my dad gave it to us at our wedding, genius, I took it with me along with the rest of the stuff from my family)

What brand butter we bought

What brand of local kielbasa we bought

Who his doctor was

What RMV office had the shortest lines

Where the old tax returns were (in the fucking box labeled tax returns)

The phone number for his best friend

I shit you not.

Then he had a heart attack (mild) and none of his family or friends were around to take him to the hospital. But instead of calling 911, he called me, who by then lived 45 minutes away. He lived 5 minutes from an EMS dispatch location. He called me, despite the fact that he didn’t believe me 8 months prior when I was feeling suicidal and I had to call a cab to go alone to check myself into the hospital for a 72-hour hold. I told him to call 911, hung up on him when he whined about “making a fuss”, called 911, called his siblings and then texted them “your brother is having a heart attack, I called 911 for him, come home,” and washed my hands of it.

Emotionally vacant men who won’t do household labor or emotional labor are not Nazis, but they aren’t good people, either, and you don’t have to put up with their shit.

[tarot-sybarite]

Millennial women of Tumblr, please read this post.

And then please: make the decision for yourself to never stay with a man who expects you to be his mother and servant.

[gwinrivers]

Yeeeaaaaaaah I remember being in a relationship like that.

[lovelymedusa]

@ straight women blink twice if you need help