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MBTI Theme Series: ENTJ and INFJ // Couple

for @queenofcrowsandblood

[thewindblownhair]

*sigh* This is PERFECT 😍

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When you cleverly toss out a literary reference in a conversation, but no one catches it. :sigh:

[thewindblownhair]

The struggle is real

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I’ve always wanted to write. But when do you find the TIME?

In a moving car, in the woods, on an airplane, in a hotel room, beside a pool, in the bathtub, at the park, in the living room, literally every moment of the night and day,in an art studio, on friends’ couches, at conventions, in waiting rooms, on my birthday, in a restaurant, in a loud indoor public place, on benches, on boats, on buses, on trains, in a room full of toddlers, while people are talking, at the dentist, in urgent care, at coffee shops, on the front porch, on the back porch, while sick, at the garden, in between panic attacks, at a train station, while dressed like a mascot, during tornado warnings, during heat waves, when the power’s out, after being stung by a manta ray, with pneumonia, while hiking, during cramps, on Christmas Eve, and anytime I’m not dead.  

them: I don’t think I’d be willing to do THAT.

me: Then you don’t want to write. You want to imagine yourself writing. 

[thewindblownhair]

So much truth to this. Especially when I mention I don’t really watch television because writing takes that time

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CARING FOR ENNEAGRAM TYPE 5

I’m a Type 5 and most of my friends are Type 5 or have a strongly active 5 wing. So I’m making this guide for anyone being around of and sharing with people of this type that would like to promote or - at least - respect their well-being and growth. What to keep in mind about the type: The Type 5 is curious, investigative, analytical and able to detach from people and situations to assess and organize information with a certain degree of impartiality. They are much of the time, if not always, learning and evaluating what they’ve learned and often search for novel ways to look at things - even when that challenges their and others’ conceived views and beliefs. They may have troubles tolerating misinformation as they are compelled to deconstruct and clarify concepts and may feel responsible for informing and educating both themselves and others. They might be or become overwhelmed and lost within circumstances they have little or no understanding of as this might cause them to perceive themselves as incapable of facing and surviving them - unless it is safe to proceed at a thoughtful pace. They require space and privacy to retreat into their minds and to make progress with their research and other practices. What they enjoy: - Exploring and examining subjects they have taken an interest in. They may be enthusiastic about gathering and collecting data as well as dissecting and inspecting it. When it comes to it, they may strive to be broadly and deeply knowledgeable. If they’re comfortable, exchanging and discussing some areas delights them. However, while possible, it’s unlikely that they’d enjoy constant gossip and mindless chatter. - Appreciating well constructed and polished works. Whether it is work (in various forms) done by humans or by more in nature, they may be intrigued and fascinated by it - especially if it’s something innovative and/or difficult to accomplish. - Gaining perspective and stretching their minds. While they might not be willing to recklessly jump out of their comfort zone, they’re usually happy to enrich and empower themselves with fresh ways to look at and interpret phenomena. At times it’s fine by them if an idea seems incoherent or unrealistic as long as it’s interesting and stimulating - they may enjoy trying to make sense of it and finding the truth (or lack thereof) in it. At times ridiculous and absurd notions amuse them. - Making discoveries and being insightful. When allowed room and other resources, they may go for and dig into that which has been overlooked. This may be done for its own sake, for their sake and/or for others’. - Fighting lies and ignorance. Well, this can be exhausting depending on the amount and how much of a hopeless case it is. Nevertheless, they tend to find purpose and fulfillment in contributing to illumination. What helps them: - Keeping an open mind. They may be unusual and even somewhat eccentric, and they’re possibly fine with this if you are as well. Being ‘normal’ (whatever that is), may be low in their priorities. Let them be harmlessly or rightfully ‘weird.’ Something worthwhile might come out of it. - Having few demands and expectations placed upon them. Although they may be capable of accomplishing much, they value autonomy. They need to experiment and try new and different things as well as to improve and perfect their actions and projects in original ways. Let them do their thing; they probably wouldn’t ask you for much, either. - Ability to be distant and silent. There may be instances in which they’re closely and outspokenly engaged, but this may vary and they do best when they retain the ability to withdraw. They might be gone for long, but this is not necessarily an indication that they should be interrupted and pulled back. Be patient and let them take the time off that they need. What to watch out for: - Cynicism. They might not be the most optimistic of people, especially if their findings seem to suggest that there are no alternatives or solutions to problems. Sometimes they are being accurate in this, other times they are lacking in scope and grasp. - Nitpicking. As critical thinkers, scrutinizing is something they often can’t help doing. Sometimes they mean well and/or this can be helpful, other times it comes from a place resentment. - Prodding. They want to see and to know more, even though they may be secretive themselves. Sometimes this is okay, other times it’s not. - Sarcasm. As though it’s an automatic defense against ‘stupid,’ they might naturally express themselves with sarcasm. Sometimes this is not hurtful or damaging, other times it is. Sometimes they’ve just had enough, other times they simply cannot be bothered to be more considerate. - Dismissiveness. They may be engrossed in their own interests and standards and fail to see worth and value in that which they deem to be ‘below’ them and what they would prefer. Sometimes it’s hard to argue them out of this mindset, other times they are open to recognizing the significance they missed and become less prejudiced. However, although they might realize they were biased by what were only their personal preferences, they might still keep them if reasonable to have. What to really be concerned about: - Depression and nihilism. They might struggle with finding meaning, particularly if they come to believe that they have already seen everything there was to see and that nothing better awaits them. This can be a complicated and delicate condition that might be out of your hands to fix. Find ways in which you can truly be helpful without making it worse or losing yourself in the process. - Crippling feelings of inadequacy and incompetence. They might judge themselves too harshly, and others might as well. Be understanding and reassuring if you can. Be on their side as they work on their shortcomings if it is an option - help inspire, motivate, encourage and guide them if it’s not counterproductive and they welcome it. - Disturbingly distorted outlooks and twisted approaches. They might have gone too far and become too confused, losing their sense of reality and good judgment. This might be too much for you to do anything about and maybe only they and others can save them. Step away if you must. Why should you bother to care? Whether your relationships with Type 5 people are intimate or not, putting in, at the least, a bit of effort on your part (as much as it’s appropriate) can go a long way in making things better for everyone involved. Note: These are only a few things to consider when caring for a Type 5.

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MBTI Terms vs Conventional Meaning

One of the main problems with MBTI is that this theory uses rather common words to indicate types, but these MBTI “jargon” actually have completely different meanings from their conventional usage. This leads to misunderstandings of what the actual MBTI theory is about.

Moreover, most MBTI tests give you results based on percentages of I vs E, S vs N, T vs F, and J vs P. This creates a misunderstanding that the theory is based on the dichotomies between each letter pair, and that someone can be half J and half P, for example.

Let’s explore what MBTI terms really mean, and how they differ from the conventional meanings of these words, and the misinterpreted stereotypical/dichotomous “MBTI” meanings.

Introvert (I)

Introvert (conventional & stereotypical/dichotomous MBTI)

Someone who likes to spend time alone, preferring to be in their own room reading books

Someone who dislikes parties or any kinds of social gatherings

Probably shy and doesn’t talk much, may have social anxiety

Has few close friends, or, no real life friends

Has low energy

Introvert (MBTI)

Having a dominant introverted function (Ti, Fi, Ni, or Si)

A preference for focusing their energy inward e.g. tending to their own thoughts alone, analyzing themselves and their environment

A preference for formulating complete thoughts or theories on their own first before sharing them with other people

An MBTI introvert can be outgoing and sociable, but they still feel more at home being with their own thoughts and get worn out faster when interacting with people than extraverts

Extravert (E)

Extravert (conventional & stereotypical/dichotomous MBTI)

Someone who’s outgoing and a social butterfly

Loves parties

Has a large group of friends and large network of acquaintances

Great at networking and making new friends

Talkative and socially confident

Energetic

Extravert (MBTI)

Having a dominant extraverted function (Te, Fe, Ne, or Se)

A preference for focusing their energy outward e.g. interacting with the outside world by talking to others or taking actions and interacting with their surroundings

A preference for formulating their thoughts as they talk out loud to other people without having completely polished thoughts beforehand

An MBTI extravert can have social anxiety and dislike spending time with a large group of people, but they still have a preference of interacting with the outside world. An MBTI extravert may only prefer spending time with their few close friends, but they need to interact with those few close friends a lot to feel fulfilled and balanced.

Ambivert

Ambivert (conventional)

Someone who has both qualities of the conventional introvert and the conventional extravert in moderate amount

i.e. pretty much everyone on earth

Ambivert (stereotypical/dichotomous MBTI)

Someone who gets 50% E and 50% I on MBTI tests

Ambivert (MBTI)

This is a trick. It doesn’t exist in this theory.

Why? Because of each type’s thought process works based on 4 cognitive functions (out of 8). You can’t be half this type and half the other type because you’d have conflicting cognitive functions - i.e. constant cognitive dissonance with every single living thought, so you’d not be a functioning human (get the pun?).

For the more advanced MBTI enthusiasts: Yes, introverts and extraverts with the same last 3 letters have the same functions (e.g. INTP and ENTP), but you still can’t really be half-half because Ti-Ne and Ne-Ti approach the world differently. They experience different problems and stress factors (Ti-Si loop and Fe grip v.s. Ne-Fe loop and Si-grip).

If you don’t know what cognitive functions are, start with this.

Intuitive (N)

Intuitive (conventional)

Knowing something to be true without conscious reasoning or the need to go through information

“Women’s intuition”

Having an almost psychic ability to “get” people

Fluid intelligence (e.g. an intuitive learner)

Intuitive (stereotypical/dichotomous MBTI)

An intelligent, interesting person who gets all the funny jokes and subtle hints that people give

Imaginative, creative, artistic, explorative

Intuitive (MBTI)

Someone who prefers to use interpretations of information they receive from the 5 senses - e.g. possibilities of what these things could be, their theoretical usage, and what they relate to (Ne), or what these things symbolically represent and will become in the future (Ni)

A preference for discussing theoretical, abstract, symbolic topics

A preference to understand the global, overall picture before getting into details

Being an Intuitive does not equate being intelligent. There are plenty of boring Intuitives around. It depends on how you develop yourself.

Sensing (S)

Sensing (conventional)

Quite similar to the conventional meaning of intuition - having a feeling that there’s something going on beneath the surface (e.g. “I’m sensing something wrong here”)

Perceiving or becoming aware of something

Sensor (stereotypical/dichotomous MBTI)

An unintelligent, boring person who always misses hints and has no sense of humor

Bland, boring, dull, mediocre

Sensing (MBTI)

Someone who prefers to use direct information they receive from the 5 senses - e.g. what these things are and what I can use them for right now (Se), or what these things are and how they have been used effectively in the past (Si)

A preference for discussing practical, applicable, immediately relevant topics

A preference for learning details first, then build those details up to an overall picture

Sensors can be intelligent, creative, and artistic (yes, even SJs)

Thinking (T)

Thinking (conventional)

The process of considering or reasoning about something

Directing one’s mind towards something or someone

Thinking (stereotypical/dichotomous MBTI)

Someone who thinks a lot

Making decisions based on logic and rationality

Someone who is calm and intelligent

Someone who is robotic and stoic, and doesn’t have any emotions

Someone who is doing something technical like hard sciences and maths

Like a stereotypical man

Thinking (MBTI)

A preference for making decisions based on facts, truth and logical analysis (Ti), rationality and empirical evidence (Te)

MBTI Thinkers can learn to be considerate and not offensive to others, especially if their feeling function is in the tertiary position.

MBTI Thinkers have emotions, and can act emotionally/irrationally, especially in times of stress or if immature

MBTI Thinkers are not automatically good at science and math, and may not even like those subjects. They can be amazing artists and musicians.

Feeling (F)

Feeling (conventional)

An emotional state or reaction

Experiencing an emotion or sensation

Feeling (stereotypical/dichotomous MBTI)

Someone who feels a lot and doesn’t think a lot

Making decisions based on emotions

An emotional person; someone who’s dramatic, may be animated, sweet, and nice

Most likely unintelligent, not academic, and incapable of logical thinking

Someone who is doing something involving arts, languages, or humanities

Like a stereotypical woman

Feeling (MBTI)

A preference for making decisions based on what is morally just, personal ethics (Fi) or keeping social harmony (Fe)

MBTI Feelers can be logical, think empirically, good at science and math, and does not act emotional

MBTI Feelers can be bashful and inconsiderate, especially if immature or under stress

Judging (J)

Judging (conventional)

Forming an opinion or conclusion about something

Being judgmental; determining whether qualities someone or something has are correct or desirable

Judging (stereotypical/dichotomous MBTI)

Someone who is organized, responsible, structured, neat, clean, tidy

Someone who is always on time

Someone who loves schedules and needs to plan ahead

Judging (MBTI)

Having a dominant (if extraverted) or auxiliary (if introverted) extraverted judging functions (Je) - Te, Fe

Judgers can be messy, spontaneous, and always late (especially in leisure). These are learned behaviors/habits. Their external behaviors do not dictate their MBTI (i.e. thought process).

Perceiving (P)

Perceiving (conventional)

The way the brain processes external information through the 5 senses

Becoming aware of something

Interpreting something in a particular way

Perceiving (stereotypical/dichotomous MBTI)

Someone who is messy, scattered, disorganized, lazy, unreliable

Someone who is always late

Someone who is easy going and always go with the flow

Someone who is spontaneous and loves surprises

Perceiving (MBTI)

Having a dominant (if extraverted) or auxiliary (if introverted) extraverted perceiving functions (Pe) - Ne, Se

Perceivers can be outwardly organized, tidy, and always on time (especially in the work place or if they grew up in that environment). These are learned behaviors/habits. Their external behaviors do not dictate their MBTI (i.e. thought process).

If you want to know more about MBTI, visit MBTI Resources - a compilation of the well-written, informative, and accurate articles on the web.

-eilamona

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Really excellent breakdown. This stuff causes so much confusion.

[thewindblownhair]

INFJ confession #21: I am a people person...sort of. I'd rather sit and talk with one person, getting to know them intimately. The idea of a party, filled with lots of small talk and surface matter, doesn't appeal to me at all. I'm likely the person hiding in the corner on the phone, befriending the household pets, or hovering uncomfortably by the snack table. The best parties I've been to have been parties where I ended up forming a sub-party of like-minded individuals. Everyone is inside, dancing and drinking? Except for the odd balls sitting on the porch and baring their souls.

[thewindblownhair]

INFJ Confession 20: Love is such a conflicting emotion for me. I want to be someone's everything, for them to feel the universe rotates around me. And I want to feel just as enmeshed in them. Yet I don't want to be that person. I don't want to break into pieces if they leave me. I don't want to devastate them if I leave. The desire for privacy, for space, for independence all push back against that level of closeness. There is a part of me that I always want to keep for me alone. I'm not sure how big that part is.

[thewindblownhair]

INFJ Confession #19:

I’ve always been writing stories, long before I put my pen to paper.

[thewindblownhair]

INFJ confession #18: Beauty and the beast was, hands down, my favorite childhood movie. I loved the beast, I identified with Belle, but most of all, I wanted the library

[thewindblownhair]

INFJ Confession #17: Love. I don't share every part of myself, but I do share the important parts.

[thewindblownhair]

INFJ confession #16: Yet another reason why INFJs can pair amazingly well with INTJs and ENTJs. We've got the same drive and sense of purpose.

[thewindblownhair]

INFJ confession #15: I strongly suspect we are the least idealistic of the idealists. I feel hope and optimism for the future. But I also believe in base human nature, in flaws and black hearts and greed.

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The Museum of Broken Relationships is a museum in Zagreb, Croatia, dedicated to failed love relationships. Its exhibits include personal objects left over from former lovers, accompanied by brief descriptions.

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[thewindblownhair]

INFJ Confession #14: This. This is the reason why I can listen to a song for years, and suddenly become obsessed with it. When my life and a song meaning collide, it can be an amazingly powerful moment.

[maralloli]

The Bells Of Saint John Prequel

[thewindblownhair]

Eleven wears his age unlike any Doctor I've seen before :'(