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butneverstoptrying

"Okay, so here's why girls don't get flattered when guys comment on their bodies."

A few months ago, you said I looked “objectively really hot, actually, you’re definitely the hot one of us.” I laughed and thanked you because we have the kind of relationship that allows for that kind of banter. Your phrasing amused me. I took a little bow.

You asked me why girls get upset when guys comment on their bodies, and wondered why my reaction to you was different than, say, a girl’s reaction to a random guy on the street. Why I was mildly flattered, instead of scared or angry. You honestly didn’t understand, and wanted to know.

I tried explaining, but I think I left you more confused than I found you.

I have a better explanation now.

The first time I can remember a guy staring at my boobs, I was in eighth grade. I didn’t even notice; I was still a kid and was largely oblivious to such things. My dad, however,didnotice, and started glaring at the twentysomething stranger ogling his thirteen-year-old.

I couldmaybehave passed for fifteen back then. There was no way anyone would have mistaken me for an adult. That wasn’t the issue, though. To that guy, it wasn’t about who I was or how old I was. I was a set of boobs to him, not a person, certainly not a child.

My experience is pretty common. Girls start getting unwanted attention at a young age, and it happens for the rest of our lives. Men yell things at us on the street and invade our personal space on the bus or trolley when there are plenty of other seats. They try to look up our skirts when we sit down. They don’t listen when we try to rebuff them. We see reports of yet another girl raped on her way home last weekend, another woman whose body was found in a ditch. We’re told not to go out alone at night, to take someone with us even if we’re only driving to the store or the library or the gas station. We’re told to carry our keys like weapons, to park in the lot instead of the structure because it’s better to get rained on than raped and murdered. We’re told not to walk alone even during the day. We’re told close friends might rape us if they’ve had a bit to drink because they’re men, that it’s wrong, but it happens sometimes and we should be on our guard.

Imagine hearing that from the age of five. Imagine being told from childhood that men are more likely to hurt you than women are. Imagine knowing that, though you might be smart and well-trained, men will almost always be bigger and stronger than you, and you wouldn’t be able to beat most of them in a full-on fight. I can best my brother at arm-wrestling, yeah, but that doesn’t have many practical applications.

Now imagine that one of the people you’ve been taught to regard as a threat to your body says he wants your body. If he really does, you’ll have a hard time stopping him, and people will treat you as an object lesson for others, like you’d done something wrong for “letting” him hurt you. They’ll ask why you didn’t do more to protect yourself, why you wore that dress, or walked into the parking lot at that time, or talked to that person. Why you went out after dark or flirted with someone at a party.

I’m not saying all men are awful. I’m saying that decent men should be the norm, but there are a lot of men who aren’t, and who make us feel unsafe in our normal lives. We can’t tell the difference between decent people and potential rapists by looking.

What you said to me was meant as a compliment, and I took it as such. That’s because I’ve known you since we were kids, and I know you didn’t mean any harm. We have the kind of relationship where words like yours are appropriate, and you’ve never strayed outside the bounds of what’s okay. I don’t have that kind of relationship with the car full of drunken guys I walked past on the way home from D&D last weekend.

Girls get upset when guys comment on their bodies because we’re being treated like sources of pleasure, not people. We get angry because we can’t go about our business without having to worry about sexual predation. We get scared because, when it comes down to it, if a guy tried to act on his shouts of “Hey baby, nice tits, keep it up” we probably wouldn’t be able to stop him, and some would blame us.

Girls get upset because we’d much rather be seen as people, not just bodies.

afternoonsnoozebutton

memorian

I love Guillermo del Toro.

sounddrive

@andromedaprime @acteon-carolsfeld

shevathegun

WEDNESDAY, MARCH 22, 2016. 12:34 LOCAL TIME. DESPITE THE FACT THAT ARIZONA’S DEMOCRATIC PRIMARY HAS ALREADY BEEN CALLED IN FAVOR OF HILLARY CLINTON, RESIDENTS OF ARIZONA ARE STILL WAITING TO CAST THEIR VOTE. MANY HAVE BEEN WAITING IN LINE FOR UPWARDS OF 6 HOURS. AS IT BECOMES CLEAR THAT ARIZONA VOTERS HAVE BEEN MISLED, RE-REGISTERED WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT, LIED TO, DEFRAUDED, AND TURNED AWAY FROM POLING PLACES TOO CROWDED TO ACCOMMODATE THEM, MANY SOURCES ARE BEGINNING TO CITE VOTER SUPPRESSION AS THE TRUE REIGNING CHAMPION OF TONIGHT’S ELECTION.

cannabiscomrade

https://petitions.whitehouse.gov/petition/investigate-voter-fraud-and-voter-suppression-arizona-3222016-democratic-party

Here is a White House petition to get a federal investigation into voter fraud/voter suppression in Arizona. Please sign this!! It’s speculated that Bernie Sanders voters were targeted and we deserve a chance at fair voting.

refinery29

If these tweets don’t send you into a cold sweat, you must never have had your period at a high school. But a new NYC program giving out free tampons to students might change the misogynistic school culture girls deal with every month.

Photos: Creative Commons and Rex

mrskaaay

Tampons and pads are kept in my mom drawer. Boys get over seeing them when they really want a band aid and I won’t give them an office pass to get one. The girls notice they are there and occasionally come to me at class change and ask to come in my room during class change.

general-anxiety

I always have a couple tampons and pads in my bag, so last year when the nurse was out and I couldn’t find hers and a student really really needed one (and a change of jeans and she cried really hard, she was so embarrassed because they don’t have a female gym teacher so she had to tell the male gym teacher and he tried really hard to let her know it wasn’t something to be embarrassed about, it’s just something that happens…) Anyway, I was glad I carry them even when I don’t think I’m going to need them.

lovelikesummer

Being one of two female teachers at my school means my mom box is always stocked with pads and tampons. Because being at school during your period is the worst whether you’re a student or a staff member.

hithertokt

Stocked and ready, right next to the granola bars, bandaids, and hair ties.

fuks

astronomyproblems

Idk if this counts as a peeve more of an art-astronomy pet peeve

but when people draw the cresent moon and where the dark, shaddowed part of the moon is they put in stars

like studdenly that part of the moon is invisible instead of just being in the shadow

like wtf

pastelmercutio

wait no peOPLE ACTUALLY DO THIS???

parfaerie

really stupid question though but like, aren’t there stars in front of the moon??? like??? space isn’t two dimensional so someone putting a couple stars in front of the shadow wouldn’t necessarily be wrong?? because aren’t there stars all around in space and?????? im just going to be confused forever frick uvu;

killer-pineapples-blog

hun if there was a star infront of the moon we’d be fucking dead

achillesvevo-deactivated2020090

i’m fucking crying

floralls

by P.S. Mildred

Feeling pretty at midnight.

Yes, I made a flower crown for my dog.

It's my face. I like it. #nomakeup #nofilter #ineedtogetmarried #becauseimonlyprettyat10pm #thatwayicanbugsomeonetotellmeimpretty #withoutbotheringyoulovelypeople

#nomakeup #ineedtogetmarried #thatwayicanbugsomeonetotellmeimpretty #withoutbotheringyoulovelypeople #becauseimonlyprettyat10pm #nofilter

Channeling my inner @itsashleyperez.