Inexcusably Late, Long Overdue, Obnoxiously Overlooked
I pledged to myself that I would produce content for this blog fairly regularly. Regularly being, once a month, which in the grand scheme of things is a pretty small commitment, 12 posts a year guaranteed, a post every 30 days or so. However in the last few months my life has been topsy-turvy and tumultuous and I have definitely broke that pledge numerous time. A few new changes have taken place and as a result I have struggled to get time to make content.
1) I began to cohabitate with my partner, we finally moved in together after almost a year and a half of long distance.
2) I have moved to a new condo. It feels like a grown-up home, and homemaking has kept me quite busy.
3) I started a new job in the Federal government, also a very busy position keeping me quite occupied.
4) I got engaged and I have been wedding planning.
All of that aside, I know they are just excuses. Because if you truly love something, you make time for it, you set aside a part of your life for it. But that amid yoga and recently completing 12 weeks of the BBG (Bikini Body Guide) program have kept me on my toes. Also trying to keep on track with my reading challenge and a social life also take up the other chunks of my time. So I am left with barely any time for myself to pursue the things I love.
On the note of love. My partner and I were discussing recently how on date I believe four or five we decided to do the New York Time quiz on Love, mostly as a joke but it also served as a decent ice breaker to get to know a person better. And looking forward, here we are a year and a half later, happily (for the most part) engaged! And I mean I am not attributing our success to that quiz but it is quite intriguing that we did it and here we are. It makes me wonder the validity of these kinds of things. Is it the whole baring your soul to each other thing that is actually working or are the questions set up in such a way that there is no helping the situation. In any case we are a couple that I guess fell in love after taking the New York Times Love experiment quiz.
Speaking of commitments. Why is it so difficult to maintain friendships in adulthood? For one everyone is soooo busy, work does not help. But somehow even if being in school felt like having a full-time job’s hours not to mention the exams, midterms, assignments and homework, we still had time for social calls. Yet, in this day and age with just work for roughly 8 hours a day, it feels like we never have time for one another. Let alone time for ourselves. I text much less being out of school, I feel like I am on my phone much less. I rarely have daily conversations with people, I am lucky if they are weekly. I try to initiate conversations but it always feels so difficult…so contrived. My conversations that are long-term are often with my long distance friends. Those close by I only speak to in order to initiate a face-to-face meeting. Weeks fly by and every weekend just seems so busy, I just miss having free time. And yet that seems like a joke, when are we ever going to have the amount of freedom and free time we had again, unless we are students.
Adulting is hard. Having friends as an adult seems hard. Relationships get in the way, people decide to spend their time in other ways.
My next challenge these next few months is to try and be conscious of the time that is going by me. To try and cultivate friendships and be present, enjoy my time as it passes me by. Until then wish me luck.
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