AWARENESS POST ABOUT @lobo-otomy / @death-and-cinnamon
i never could have seen myself making an awareness post in my life, and if you had told me i was going to be making one about wolf within the timespan i lived with him i would have laughed
MASSIVE TW FOR PHYSICAL ABUSE, EMOTIONAL/PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE, SEXUAL ABUSE, AND FINANCIAL ABUSE
i have known wolf's system (previously @/zomdead on tumblr, currently @/lobo-otomy on tumblr, @/death.and.cinnamon on bluesky, @/twili.cream on instagram) since around october of 2025 and started unofficially living with him beginning in january of 2026, officially living with him in April of 2026, until last week on wednesday (may 6th 2026) when I packed a bag i threw together and executed a hasty plan to escape back to my hometown. in that time span he has physically abused me in multiple ways (biting, beating), emotionally/psychologically abused me (intricate, will explain throughout this post), sexually abused me (licking, grinding), and financially abused my ex-girlfriend (intricate, will explain throughout this post), who we were also in a relationship with
i will try my best to lay out a timeline of events in order of when they happened, hopefully to paint a cohesive picture of what happened to me and my ex-girlfriend in the timespan i knew wolf's system
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OCTOBER-DECEMBER 2025
i met wolf back in october of 2025 on a dating app, at that time one of his alters, del, had been fronting for at least a few years. I was not told she was plural or about wolf's existence until he showed up for the first time in several years in ~December, which i welcomed happily because i myself am plural too. within the timespan i knew del she would bite me until I begged her to stop, and most times she would keep going. i was left with bruises littered on my arms and would frequently ask her to not bite me as hard, as it hurt and was actively leaving me with bruises, to which she always said she would try to but never really made an effort to. after talking to wolf for the first few times, i learned apparently del was very well known for having done this in the past as a physical abuse tactic. it was covert, and I never really pieced together that it was physical abuse until after del went dormant following me and my ex-girlfriend breaking up with her. I learned multiple things through wolf about del, such as the fact she had sexually assaulted someone in the past and was secretly a zoophile. she has not fronted since as far as I am aware
JANUARY 2026
in january of 2026 no abuse of any kind happened towards me, in fact I was not in contact with wolf for a small chunk of it. though we did start hanging out then and I got to know him more now that del was gone, we bonded over shared interests, and inevitably due to my housing being unlivable at the time due to an infestation the landlord refused to deal with he offered to let me and my ex-girlfriend unofficially move in with him
FEBRUARY 2026
this situation happened between his alters clover and ozra, and my alters nattalie and kerry. clover and nattalie were in a relationship at that time and were showering together. nattalie started feeling blurry and told clover as much, to which clover said it was fine and they agreed to keep showering together. kerry switched in while on the shower bench while clover was under the showerhead and stood up to stretch. I dont know exactly why, but at the time clover was an ageslider and from what wolf explained to me at the time ageslid back to an age where they had at one point been assaulted, and had a panic attack. kerry, not understanding what was happening, bent down to try and comfort clover to which ozra switched in and asked what was happening, obviously confused. kerry backed away, admitted that they didnt know to which ozra punched them so hard in the face that kerry's head hit the back of the shower wall and blacked out for half a second. ozra then left the shower, leaving kerry alone in shock
EARLY MARCH 2026
this situation happened between me and his alter ozra while we were drinking together. me and ozra had something of a relationship at the time and had thought that getting drunk that night sounded fun as I hadnt gotten drunk since before I dropped out of college. im an extreme lightweight who self admittedly is an angry drunk, and I dont remember what exactly i said to ozra but I did say something snarky to him. he was extremely drunk at this point, and responded with something along the lines of "youre so hot when you act like this" and proceeded to punch me in the face so hard that my glasses broke and my nose went bloody. I asked him what the fuck was wrong with him, which is probably the only time I ever had the courage to stood up for myself against their abuse. I dont remember what happened past that, but I know nothing more physical happened that night. in the morning though, wolf told me not to tell my ex-girlfriend because he was afraid she would "freak out". so I didnt
MIDDLE MARCH 2026
this happened shortly after the situation with ozra, and it was while wolf was rapid switching while we were both high together. for lack of awareness as to who was fronting I will be referring to them as ???. me and my ex-girlfriend and ??? were all in the kitchen and I dont know how we got onto the topic, but we were talking about del's ex who had previously abused her in multiple ways which I will not get into in order to not air out her business. anyways, ??? was leaning on the kitchen counter and suddenly said something along the lines of "if you ever do what (del's ex) did to us i will fucking kill you", turned to my ex-girlfriend, pointed at her and said "especially you". I believe looking back this was because this was shortly after I had lost my job and my ex-girlfriend was the only money maker in the house. this as well as wolf on a few occassions saying that he would take his own life if he lost his house were very purposeful tactics against her to financially abuse her and manipulate her. wolf was maybe employed for 4-5 weeks for the entire time I knew him for added context and my ex-girlfriend worked her ass off the entire time until she escaped as well to make sure she could pay his bills
LATE MARCH 2026
again this happened between clover and nattalie, but also involves another one of their alters named faith. the whole situation between faith and nattalie and clover was incredibly complicated and messy. but came to a head when faith manipulated clover into believing her only purpose in life was sex. nattalie was attempting to comfort clover on the floor while she was naked during this time, and clover crawled to her and tried to lick her face while grinding against nattalie's leg. nattalie started crying and tried to back away and gently push clover off of her, and clover persisted. after the fact nattalie tried to call faith out for what she felt like at the time faith made clover do, to which faith said that she "didnt explicitly say no" so it wasnt sexual assault. nattalie did punch faith in the face for this, which i will admit was wrong to do and i take accountability for, hence why im bringing it up. the situation was never addressed past that
EARLY APRIL 2026
nothing particular happened in this part of the month, but I feel like it should be stated that this is when me and my ex-girlfriend officially joined wolf's lease. we had been paying for his bills the second del's ex stopped doing as much and figured with our previous housing being unlivable that we should go ahead and move our stuff in considering how often we were over anyhow. on top of this, wolf convinced us to stop paying rent at our previous housing in order to pay rent at his, as my ex-girlfriend's job and her savings were not able to sustain both places anymore and we could barely put food on the table anymore
MIDDLE APRIL 2026
this happened between my alter joe and wolf's alters clover and addison. after dropping off clover at work, joe opted to go get a mint milkshake to treat himself while clover was out of the house. for context, their body is pretty severely allergic to mint. joe on the way back to the house got a call from clover saying to come pick them up, and that it was just a training. joe told them that they had gotten a mint milkshake and that theyd be on their way and if they wanted him to throw it out when he got there to which clover declined. after they started driving, clover pretty quickly started having an allergic reaction to which joe didnt know what to do about so he tried to drive them home as quickly as possible. multiple times joe had asked clover if he should pull over and just throw out the milkshake and that that would be fine, and they insisted that he just get them home. pretty close to getting there, addison switched in, announced himself and said "i hope you know as soon as we get inside i am going to beat the shit out of you". joe stayed quiet, and as soon as he tossed the mint milkshake out in the dumpster he ran inside and locked himself in the bathroom for an hour, scared that if he came out that addison would do what he said he would
LATE APRIL 2026
nothing particular happened around this time but I figured i should bring this up as well. around this time me and wolf were high and I had a ptsd flashback to when ozra hit me back when we were drunk in early march. I was inconsolable for an hour, sobbing and screaming that I was sorry and begging anyone to tell me what I did wrong and that if I did something wrong to please just tell me. my ex-girlfriend was present at the time and the only one who tried to help me while wolf sat on his phone, and about half way in he got up and silently left the room
MAY 2026
since the incident in late April I had been extremely suicidal, and had finally orchestrated a plan to take my own life. in a last ditch attempt, I asked clover, who was fronting that day, if they could cancel a date that wolf had planned with someone he met online and watch over me, because admittedly I did not feel safe alone with myself. i had done the same several times in the past for wolf, and in fact almost got fired from one of my previous jobs to take care of him when he was suicidal. i do not hold this against him, and would in fact do this for anyone in a heartbeat. however i was told that it was "unfair" of me to ask that of them and soon clover left pretty quickly that night and told my ex-girlfriend that I was emotionally abusive and manipulative, and to not expect them to be home anytime soon. wolf came home later that night and we talked, and I begged for his forgiveness because I was at the end of my rope and needed any kind of support he could offer, and he told me what clover had already told me and my ex-girlfriend. that i was being unfair, and emotionally abusive, and manipulative. the next morning, my alter giles started fronting, snuck into the garage while wolf was asleep, called my parents and told them everything that had been happening to me. all of the physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, financial abuse, all of it. he then went back upstairs, prodded wolf awake, and told him that he told my parents what he had done to us, and that we were going to be staying with our parents for a while. he then packed a bag, and was out within the hour. wolf asked for some money while giles was on his way out, saying it was for bills and giles gave him some. I haven't been back in that house since unless its to collect my belongings
NOW
I have not completely moved out all of my belongings but I aim to finish by Thursday due to wolf's recent behavior towards me both in person and over text. ive asked him to leave me alone in person and only speak to me over text, which he has gone against and actively done in front of my ex-girlfriend's mother for some reason. he has also threatened to sue me for accidentally leaving his cat locked in his bedroom when I was so distressed from him having spoken to me that I left in a hurry and completely spaced my mind on her, which is obviously something he can't do. he has also been calling me mentally unstable, which is kind of astounding considering everything he has willingly put me through
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wolf has attempted to tell my ex-girlfriend multiple lies about me in the timespan between me escaping and her escaping, as she left only a few days after I did. some of these include that back in february in the shower kerry had threatened to sexually assault clover and thats why ozra hit them, that another one of my alters named dakotah had forced clover into a locked room and screamed at her while pounding on the door over fucking tomodachi life, and that giles had woken him up the day he left by screaming at him and threatening him. none of this is true, and im so thankful that both my ex-girlfriend trusts me and that wolf is a sloppy enough liar that she saw through what he was saying
I am not the perfect victim, I have tried to take accountability throughout this post for that. I dont think nattalie should have hit faith, and I think joe should have pulled over during clover's allergic reaction instead of rushing them home. and I am so sorry those things happened, and i have apologized to wolf for these instances and I wish they had gone better to begin with. I have also been very bitter throughout our relationship in an attempt to process all of this, which wasn't healthy for my sake or what me and wolf had. im now actively in therapy in an attempt to both better myself, my tendencies and recover from everything that wolf put me through. in fact, my first appointment is today
while hauling our last bit of furniture to the house back when we had solidified our lease, me and my ex-girlfriend were the only ones in the uhaul. she said something we found funny at the time, but is incredibly eerie now that I look back on it. she said she cant remember the last time we had this long of a conversation alone together. and she was right, I have known my ex-girlfriend for nearly a decade and I think the last 7 months was the least we have interacted with one another despite living in the same house. that's how seperated wolf kept us. she didnt even know about the abuse until recently
in the end im making this post because wolf and his sytem are incredibly manipulative and dangerous. he is active online primarily in the my little pony community as well as the anthology of the killer community and the last thing I want is for someone else to get as hurt by him as I have gotten. me and my ex-girlfriend are back in our hometowns and staying with family to recuperate, and will be completely safe and out of wolf's life by thursday
SCREENSHOTS
woke up from my nap to find all of his blogs deactivated
it turns out he has been progressively over the course of our relationship been stealing from my ex-girlfriend and selling her things because he "has met doormats with more backbone" than her. some of these include her childhood video games as well as a gift from her grandmother. that and hes refusing to pay for the electricity bill that I unfortunately had put under my name for convenience sake, despite me relenting and giving him money for "bills" before I left. cant make this shit up unfortunately