Tinker951

This blog is my outlet for my struggle though depression, divorce, my poly relationships and love. I am currently separated from my husband and in an open relationship with my boyfriend Coconut.

[blythebaird]

I am trying to see things in perspective. My dog wants a bite of my peanut butter chocolate chip bagel. I know she cannot have this, because chocolate makes dogs very sick. My dog does not understand this. She pouts and wraps herself around my leg like a scarf and purrs and tries to convince me to give her just a tiny bit. When I do not give in, she eventually gives up and lays in the corner, under the piano, drooping and sad. I hope the universe has my best interest in mind like I have my dog’s. When I want something with my whole being, and the universe withholds it from me, I hope the universe thinks to herself: "Silly girl. She thinks this is what she wants, but she does not understand how it will hurt.

THEORIES ABOUT THE UNIVERSE by Blythe Baird (via kuttymolle)

[hplyrikz]

Clear your mind here

[tinker951]

Feeling rejection/mixed messages

Feeling rejected sucks. Telling someone you feel rejected and not getting reassurance sucks even more. Especially if that person claims to love you, want you as a companion in every way, wants to stand next to you and hold your hand. But the next day avoids any kind of intimate contact with you, finds activities to keep you out of the house so no sex is even possible. Flirting has not been reciprocated, and when it's pointed out the only response is that he in a rut and it's not me. Then why are you avoiding me? Why can't someone say, I've lost sexual interest in you, can we remain friends? The unknown rejection hurts way more than the growing apart, the changing of feelings. Of course I am probably reading the situation all wrong, but feeling rejected fucking sucks.

[infjadvice]

There’s a really good ‘How to love an INFJ’ post out there and I thought I’d like to add to that by making a similar list of relationship tips that I hope other INFJs and their partners can relate to! Every relationship has it’s own challenges but here are a few things I think a lot of INFJs have...

[tinker951]

This is spot on.

[augiesaysshit]

INFJ THINGS: INTJs are always there for me. Never speaking. Always listening. They have always been there when I'm upset or crying and they just wait until I speak, they make me laugh, or distract me. Other times they analyze my issue until it's no longer frightening. I love them. Even if some people find them cold or evil, I love them anyway.

[moodyehudi-deactivated20180519]

Everyone who suffers from social anxiety needs a friend who will

help them order food when it’s too scary

walk with them through crowded places

help them laugh it off when they make a mistake

not get tired of answering “no, you’re not annoying, silly goose! You’re adorable and I love you” no matter how many times it’s needed

and if you’re that friend, bless u for being fab <3

[shippingtronnor-deactivated2017]

this is too accurate 

[kimchicuddles]

Whether or not someone runs away is less important than whether or not you feel whole yourself

[tinker951]

Surprise...

I got a key to Coconuts place!! Not really a big deal, but it's a huge deal! I was in shock and excited and confused all at the same time. He always surprises me when we hit a new level. And the thing is, I'm good where we are at, or if we keep building. On that note, he is leaving on vacation in a couple of weeks to go see his ex-girlfriend/friend for a few days. His relationship with her is one of the reasons him and his wife went poly. I am excited for him, as he only gets to see her once or twice a year. He wanted to wait until him and I had a chance to get away, but I encouraged him to go. It has been on my mind, but I am feeling good about it.

[tinker951]

In youth, it was a way I had, To do my best to please. And change, with every passing lad To suit his theories. But now I know the things I know And do the things I do, And if you do not like me so, To hell, my love, with you.

Dorothy Parker, The Complete Poems of Dorothy Parker

[tinker951]

It's me!!

[purplebuddhaproject]

It is so much safer not to feel, not to let the world touch me.

Sylvia Plath (via purplebuddhaproject)

[larmoyante]

One of the risks of being quiet is that other people can fill your silence with their own interpretation: You’re bored. You’re depressed. You’re shy. You’re stuck up. You’re judgmental. When others can’t read us, they write their own story—not always one we choose or that’s true to who we are.

Sophia Dembling, The Introvert’s Way (via larmoyante)

[tinker951]

[purplebuddhaproject]

Growing apart doesn’t change the fact that for a long time we grew side by side; our roots will always be tangled. I’m glad for that.

Ally Condie, Matched (via purplebuddhaproject)

[purplebuddhaproject]

The conversation between your fingers and someone else’s skin. This is the most important discussion you can ever have.

Iain S. Thomas (via purplebuddhaproject)

[purplebuddhaproject]

That’s who you really like. The people you can think out loud in front of.

John Green, An Abundance of Katherines (via purplebuddhaproject)

[hplyrikz]

Clear your mind here