How do you define success?
Most of us might fall into the trap of the common definition of success as defined by generation. Some of those definitions might be to own a house and have a family. Others might see success as being rich and popular.
But what about those people who really dig deep into themselves and find a different idea of success that isn’t so... generic?
I for one cannot accept success if I hit a million dollars. Sure, it would be AMAZING if I did. I would be able to afford to take care of my family, buy nice clothes etc. But we are human. We are designed to keep wanting more.
I’ve been thinking about this topic for a little while now; going back and forth on what really matters to me.
When I was younger, I thought helping people would be the greatest accomplishment. Making a positive impact in the world would really make me feel success. My idealistic idea of helping others involved being a philanthropist maybe building a public health program that will improve the lives of the unprivileged. Now, as I move through life with whatever discipline I had, resources, support or lack there of, I’ve come to realize that achieving that can be easy and difficult.
I can make it easier for me by believing that I have achieved success by being a part of a volunteer program and being a good influence to a group. Which I have done, so tadaaaa....I’m successful. But it wasn’t enough because everyone else around me didn’t seem to notice my efforts. Everyone else was graduating, getting married, making money.... and I...well.... I felt behind.
I suffered and came to an understanding that we normally compare ourselves to people. This is a toxic behavior that we apply on ourselves. I learned about self compassion and currently try to remember to apply it to myself. I fail at it some times but at least I will always trial. *survival key*
Now, after thinking about the topic of success a little more and having more experience in life, I’ve come to realize that I define success to be a level of strength and endurance to move through life. Life is difficult enough as is, throw in some goals and you’ll be sure to find obstacles on the way. I realized that when I meet people, I immediately want to get to know their real self. What shaped them to who they are and or what are they constantly struggling with?
It is true that our biggest enemy is ourselves. We stop ourselves from growing, from choosing what feels right. We complain and do nothing thinking that it will all fix itself. No, we need to get up and move. We need to change those toxic mindsets. We need to listen to our higher self.
I personally believe that a person is successful when they have learned to counter their inner demons. No matter how rich and powerful a person can get, there will always be another problem. How do they approach it and move forward? I think this type of success just comes with time and experience. The older and more experienced, the better you will be at facing life’s adversities. How do you see life? If you complain about it being the same damn boring day, why not push yourself to see it in a different perspective? This is a mental exercise that only the emotionally strong can do. And that is what I admire.
Don’t forget to start small....have gratitude. Remember that life is beautiful. Feel your emotions. I know I have a lot maybe especially because I’m a hopeless romantic of some sort? Idk.
Whatever it is im going through with right now, I have faith that it will pass.
Although, I don’t want to say that the rewards will be amazing because i dont know what the future holds. but LAWDY i pray it will.
because the fuck is the point of life. idk im young...i dont want to live a life of pain.
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