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Are your paras completely made up or based off real people,characters etc ?

Some of my paras are original, and I usually mix real people/characters into daydreams with them. It just depends on what tv show or media I'm into at the time. Two of my paracosms are completely original.

ineachmaddworld

They're based off of books. I usually implement aspects from what media im into but after a while they go back to being their original aspects.

valyrianrosevance

I hate to ask this, but I need help.

I have no food for myself or my cats. No job, no unemployment.

I've cooked all the meat in my fridge for the cats to eat and all I've had to eat for myself is popcorn for the past week so they can eat.

I need $100 to get cat food and groceries for myself and I'd greatly appreciate literally ANY help

#not madd #important

Anyone else can't decide on their paracoams aesthetic. Like should it be grunge, edgy, dark academia, the wholesome shit from Disney films, and you just can't decide so it changes every 2 seconds??

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id-daydream

I know of only two movies that might count as movies about MaDD: the secret life of Walter Mitty and I’m thinking of ending things. They’re also both books if you rather read them instead of watch them, I haven’t read either but tell me how they are if you do read them :)!

Ive only watched some of The Secret life of Walter Mitty but it had an interesting set up, I just got distracted from watching it and forgot to finish watching it. But what I gather from it it’s about Walter who after discovering a missing photo reel, goes on an adventure in finding it all the while daydreaming fantastic scenarios and such. This movie feels a bit more light hearted than the second film but I never got to finish it.

As for I’m Thinking of Ending Things I really liked this movie! It’s not supposed to be horror but it has some elements of it. The gist of what it’s about is a girl is thinking of breaking up with her boyfriend while going on a trip to meet his parents with him. It’s gets pretty depressing so if that’s not your thing then I wouldn’t recommend it.

Spoiler warning plus tw for suicide⚠️ for why I think it’s a movie that could considered to be about MaDD: basically, if you pay close attention to the film, you’ll realize the whole movie takes place in the daydream of the old man who is seen throughout the movie. He uses this daydream scenario of bringing his imaginary girlfriend to meet his parents to escape from the thoughts of suicide *the thinking of ending things aspect* and cope with the fact that he feels like he wasted his life. There are even things within the film that show realistic ways that daydreams sometimes work *not for everyone but for some*, such as the main girl *who could be considered a para* having her back story constantly changing, her name being changed, her appearance/ accent changing, etc. and other stuff such as things the old man sees in media like poetry and irl paintings that he uses in his daydream. I guess that’s basically all I can say on how it could be considered immersive daydreaming without spoiling too much, so if that sounds interesting to you check it out!

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fallingmaddlyinlove

Do y'all's paracosms have a main color scheme? Mine is pastel purple for some reason shhsbhs

talkaboutmadd

lowkey like one of my paracosims have a brownesh orange yellow type thing going on and another one i can think of has a blue color scheme

ineachmaddworld

Oh yeah, my paracosms are just AUs of each other and each has a different colour scheme. Mine also change depending on the timeline of each.

Currently I have one that's red, green, grey, and black (Canon one), then it becomes brown, dark blue, dark green, black and grey (pure angst).

Another AU that's red, yellow, green, orange, light blue (wholesome), which later is red, orange, brown, black and white.

#madd #paras #paracosms #para #maladaptive daydream disorder #maladaptive daydreaming

maladaptive-daydreaming-aphant

Has anyone else gotten really good at coming up with very believable excuses entirely due to having to lie so damn often because things like...

- "I didn't get anything done because I spent the whole day daydreaming."

- "I don't wanna hang out today because I'm emotionally wrecked from planning out an entire tragedy within my own daydream world that no one else knows about."

- "I'm lonely as hell and starved for real human connection, but I'd literally rather spend time with the love of my life that exists only in my head than hang out with my real, tangible friends today."

...aren't really acceptable answers, or is that just me?

ineachmaddworld

I just say I had to do homework which isn't a lie because I do have to do homework, I just wasn't doing it at the time.

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What maladaptive daydreaming isn’t: just daydreaming a lot and having ‘‘original characters’’

What maladaptive daydreaming is: loosing track of time, not being able to make/keep up relationships, not being able to do things, not being able to get/keep/sustain a job, feeling like the world is like a dream/not real or strange or feeling like an alien, feeling disconnected from yourself, your experiences and emotions and body/face, pacing until you can barely stand, crying yourself to sleep cause you want your paras with you, daydreaming about extremelly disturbing things and then feeling gross and terrible or triggering yourself, repeating the same scene over and over and not being able to stop, not having control in your daydreams, loosing your life and not knowing who you really are, your paras/daydreams feeling more real then relaity, wanting to die so you can daydream all the time or be with your paras in another world… and so much more….

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sustanciaequis

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fallingmaddlyinlove

Do y'all ever try to change the appearance of para but your brain keeps changing it back?

talkaboutmadd

YES like once i was trynna make a para have blonde hair but it kept going back to brown and my favorite para was supposed to have straight hair but it ended up curly cuz my brain changed it but i don’t mind i’m happy with how they look😭

addicted-to-daydreaming

This happens to me a lot so what I do is draw my para's new design and look at it and it then I'm able to actually change it. If you can't draw you could make your para in a picrew or something so you're able to see it and then start imagining your para with their new design. (I also do this other things such as the layout of a house so it'll start making sense instead of my brain making up the weirdest looking house)

ineachmaddworld

Yessss. I kept trying to make my character blonde but it would keep becoming brown. Now it's strawberry blonde but keeps changing to blonde

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obscuritiesoffbeat

I don’t usually soap-box, but I’m going to for a hot sec since this has been on my mind:

Cults are getting better branding, prettier leaders, hipper-sounding cosmologies, and wider reaches due to social media. They’re not all deity-focused. Thoughtful, intelligent people can get sucked into them. Just…stay safe out there, guys. Do your research, look at all your options, and trust your gut, not groupthink.

obscuritiesoffbeat

I’m glad this is resonating with people.

I do want to emphasize, again, that cults (and toxic groups with cult-like attributes, I’m using this term pretty loosely) don’t usually look like what you’d expect. A lot of toxic and dangerous religious movements are tiny and you won’t find much about them via Google. Cultish non-religious movements are the same way.

Start-ups, multi-level marketing companies, activist groups, fan groups, political groups, and internet mystics who run retreats can all be cult-like and dangerous. Tune your BS detector, ask family, friends, and experts for advice.

Here are some warning signs:

Pressure – pressure to make quick decisions, to give (or pledge) considerable amounts of money, to move in with a group, to abandon family or cut off friends. Elevated Leaders – anyone claiming special insight, special powers, or that they aren’t human. Demanding special treatment (compared to other followers). Misuse of funds or money collecting at the top. physical, emotional, and/or sexual abuse. Lack of accountability or oversight. Isolation – encouraging (or requiring) members to cut off family relationships, friendships with those outside of the group, leaving jobs, moving to isolated areas, taking away communication methods. Strong “us-vs-them” mentality. Vilification of ex-members. Love-bombing. Altered states of consciousness – long work hours, sleep deprivation, lack of access to adequate food or water. Otherwise unproblematic activities like meditation/prayer/chanting, but done for hours. Discouraging doubt – discouraging or punishing doubt and critical thinking.

(Source 1, Source 2, Source 3)

If these send up red flags for you or loved ones, here are some collected resources: one, two.

#important #not madd

themadd

For my madders:

How do you feel about having a career/job? I’m entering into a formal career setting and the thought makes me sick. Having to put real effort into a job and work seems completely impossible because of my madd. I’m conflicted and frustrated and having a bad time, tbh. I’d love to hear your thoughts/opinions and any advice you may have...

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memesforthemad-d

MADDers who don’t pace b like

ineachmaddworld

I pace to certain daydreams and don't pace to others

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maladaptive-daydreaming-recovery

My Step-By-Step Guide to Resisting the Urge to Daydream

The most common question I get asked is how to actually stop yourself from daydreaming. This is the process I go through when I see something that makes me want to daydream. It saved me; I hope it can do the same for you. Resisting it gets easier every time.

Take a deep breath in; one, two, three.

Hold it.

Think to yourself (or say out loud): I am in charge of what I think. I do not have to engage with this.

Breathe out: three, two, one.

Immediately redirect yourself into a new activity. Some things that I have used to distract myself include (but are not limited to):

Talking to a friend/family member/co-worked/commenting about the weather to a person on the street

Starting an online sudoku game

Playing a game on my phone (I recommend something that takes brain power, like Two Dots or CodyCross)

Listening to a podcast

Talking to a friend/family member

Doing a jigsaw puzzle (which there are apps for)

Opening a news article or reading a newspaper

Reading old texts and emails

Looking at family photo albums

Baking something intricate

Reciting my mantra (see my previous post about this)

Doing some uni work I’ve been putting off

Playing a board game (or solo card game if you’re on your own)

Watching a documentary or TV show that isnt connected to a daydream

Repeat this process every time you feel the urge. It’s hard, but I’ve found that it really works.

Keep in mind that this is something I devised based on research and experience, not medical information or expertise. If a mental health professional recommends a different approach to you, PLEASE follow their advice. If you’re just looking for some amateur help from someone who’s been there, this will hopefully be of use.