It was the third of August 2014, stood in the bathroom with the positive test, it wasn't a planned pregnancy but I was happy, my partner and I were scared but over the moon. The next few days we discussed what we were going to do and when we would tell people. We decided to tell just our parents just in case things didn't go to plan. We had our first appointment with the midwife, our estimated due date was the thirtieth of March 2015, we were given our bounty pack and our yellow book. We were also given the date for our first scan on the fifteenth of September 2014. We could not wait to see our little baby for the first time. The next couple of weeks we started planning, working out what everything would cost and what we needed to buy. We kept saying we shouldn't get ahead of ourselves just in case we did miscarry, but you don't think it will ever happen to you. We couldn't help but get excited, even baby names were being discussed. Then on the eve of 12th of September 2014 I went to the toilet and I was bleeding red blood, I called my mum up who phoned the midwife who proceeded to tell me to come into hospital, me and my partner went up to a&e. I was called into the examination room and seen by the gynaecologist, she examined me and told me my cervix was still closed which was a good sign, she also told me she bled throughout one of her pregnancies and her baby was born healthy. This gave me some piece of mind, I was sent home but booked in for a scan Monday the 15th the same day I was due my dating scan. I was told if the bleeding gets worse, and I start passing blood clots I am to come straight back. The bleeding slowed down, I started to think everything would be okay, we went through Saturday okay and Sunday. I decided to have an early night on Sunday but woke up around midnight in agony and passing small clots, I phoned the hospital who advised me to come in. It was around 1am when we arrived, I was taken to the back of a&e, at this point I was in so much pain, I was asked to give a urine sample, but as I stood up to go to the toilet I could feel the blood leaving me, when I got to the toilet my pad and underwear were soaked in red blood, I was also passing clots the size of golf balls. I knew deep down I was losing our precious little baby. I was given paracetamol through a drip and a pethidine injection to ease the pain. After 2 hours I was finally admitted onto the ward where I was put in a room of my own, I was given gas and air to also help the pIn but it didn't do much to help, I was examined again and to my amazement I was told my cervix was still closed, the gynaecologist had to remove some of the clots as I could not pass them myself. I had to wait until 9am for a scan to see if our baby was okay. All through the early hours I kept bleeding and passing clots. It came to 9am and the scan showed our worst nightmare, the scan showed I had passed our baby, I would have been exactly 12weeks. Our world was crushed at that moment. Walking back to my hospital bed I felt numb I couldn't speak.. The doctor came round just to give me the okay to go home. Let's just say he showed no empathy, I know they see this everyday but a little companion wouldn't go a miss, he said to me, 'your baby is dead, you have passed everything, it looks like the fetus stopped developing a while ago, you can leave now' That was it I was discharged with no support whatsoever ever, I was 20 (now 21) my first pregnancy so I had no idea what to do. I could help blame myself. The next few weeks were horrible, I hid myself away from everyone, one night though I decided to research miscarriage and came across an amazing charity called The Miscarriage Association, who I contacted for advice and support, let's just say they were amazing! They really helped me understand miscarriage and it wasn't my fault! I would really recommend looking at their website, I will put a link to their website here for you to take a look at. In. Y next post I will talk more about The Miscarriage Association, what they do and how they help. I will also be talking about my second loss and why I have decided to fundraiser for The Miscarriage Association! Love Chelsea xx http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk