Benny

22 and odd

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Simple intro

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「 About me 」 ⋆ ☄︎.·˚ * 🔭

☆ name // Ben

☆ age // 22

☆ pronouns // he/him

☆ identities // bi + aroflux

「 Info 」 .𖥔 ݁ ˖ִ🛸༄˖°..𖥔 ݁ ˖

☆ pro/com/darkshipper

☆ pro-para + complex contact

☆ not a radqueer but i don’t mind them

☆ diagnosed w/ hpd + npd

☆ kodocon

「 Paras 」 .𖥔 ݁ ˖🪐.𖥔 ݁ ˖

☆ necrophile

☆ (non-offending) MAP

☆ sadomasochist

☆ mysophile

☆ suicidophile

☆ frotteurism

☆ biastophile

(When I say I’m complex contact, I mean I’m anti-contact for paraphilias that goes against someone’s consent but pro-contact for harmless ones)

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“Omggg im a paraphile and i can’t talk to my mom about wanting to rape her and I can’t talk to my friends about wanting to kill them and I can’t talk to my teacher about wanting to fuck her dog and I can’t talk to daddy about wanting him to control me and abd and I can’t”

“Oh I don’t feel bad for my para it doesn’t call me distress the paramisia does”

Y’all claim to want help so damn bad but all conversations I see of anyone saying “separate the art from the abuse” be the same fuckass paraphiles minimizing the harm, the real life dangers, moreover wants acceptance for their attraction and normalize that it’s okay to be into these things and never really much talk about distress of having a para disorder and how it affects them. Like yo. How tf y’all want help? Because most of the conversations sound the same to me. “Accept that we like kids, poop, murdering people, incest, beastiality and let us live” not “hey I want help because I’m into unethical things and it fws my livelihood”

When did I ever claim that I want help?? 😭 I feel like you just ignored the entire post bc I stated that not all paraphiles have paraphilic disorders, but many people with those disorders DO talk about distress and ask for help and their feelings get pushed aside because people only focus on demonizing them. I personally don’t want any help with my attractions because it has no effect on my mental state, and many other paraphiles who don’t have paraphilic disorders feel the same way! You act like it’s bad that people want to be accepted. Also yk not all paraphiles fantasize about people their family and friends, right?

Side note, when has anyone ever said “separate the art from the abuse” bc I’ve never seen that LOL. Did you mean “separate the art from the artist” or have paraphiles secretly been saying this without me knowing

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Maybe in a perfect universe, paramisia is taken as serious as other forms of discrimination are and paraphiles don’t have to deal with the constant backlash and predator allegations

The fact that paraphiles have to hide their attractions from those they love because they know their loved ones will abandon and shame them is disappointing, and we need to stop normalizing that shit. I’m tired of people claiming to be woke and progressive while not taking any chances to listen to the para community just because we happen to have paraphilias the public finds “icky.” Perhaps they would stop acting like this the day they learn that not everyone acts on their attraction (in the case of “harmful” ones) and that we should still be treated as equal despite what we’re into, but until then we’ll have to deal with the constant demonization of paraphilias

Also want to add, can people PLEASE stop assuming that all paraphiles have a paraphiliac disorder. A paraphilia can only be classified as a disorder if the paraphilia causes distress in the paraphile (or if the paraphile has actually acted on it in the case of some paraphilias) but many paraphiles do not feel distress due to their paraphilias. I’ve found that my distress often comes from paramisia instead of my paraphilias!

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I just realized I didn’t pin my intro until now

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Cold, bloated corpses that are filled with maggots and halfway near active decay >>>>>> Warm, freshly dead corpses

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Have you guys ever been in a fandom so small there’s not even shipping discourse

I have and they’re amazing

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I actually don’t know why I chose this username now that I’m thinking about it

[myunmyunni]

Yes, you can be profiction or into "problematic" kinks and still be woke, still be queer, still be trans, still be a POC, still be aroace, still be an ally, still be a valid victim, etc.

Your morals and identity do not disappear by reading toxic yaoi or whatever. As long as you're having fun and not hurting anyone, you're doing just fine, honey. 💛🤎💛

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I love dubcon and I think we as a society don’t make enough dubcon fics

Contribute to all your fandoms by making more dubcon fics NOW