the out-of-place nigerian

Toké {toe-kay} 18|Atlanta|GSU '18

[fyblackwomenart]

“Sis” |14x17| Dont chase the butterflies. Mend your garden and let the butterflies come to you.

ig: okaytoke

[tokeit]

ig: okaytoke

[tokeit]

Difficulty letting go

I lost a friend. Cut her off and everyone associated because we don’t see eye to eye when it comes to certain principles I hold to be top priority like self-respect, honesty, and perseverance. However it’s so hard to let go of the good memories we shared and the bond. I’ll always be a loyal person that’s in my heart without any thought… but I refuse to be taken advantage of over the countless times I chose to be loyal despite her wrongdoings. I can’t be made out to look foolish,for anyone.

[tokeit]

Old shit that I wish I would've said but I didnt

If I don't say anything that doesn't mean that I don't care it just means that I silently oppose,can't relate, or I don't have anything nice to say. I don't know why people ask for my opinion if they KNOW well before asking the type of outspoken person I am. There is a limit to my honesty; I won't say anything if I think it's going to offend because then that would be considered rude or even careless...seems like I can't win lol. In the same respect you should withhold your judgement of dismissing me as a person who does not care. I just have more respect for people who tell the truth based on plain site and evidence, not feelings or intuition. I don't always have to speak on situations, don't pressure me into it.

[willow]

Can’t wait to die in 2012

[nevaehtyler]

Mother of Alton Sterling’s son: “I will have to raise a son who is going to remember what happened to his father".

#BlackLivesMatter   #AltonSterling   #SayHisName

[veryfemmeandantifascist]

make this viral instead of spreading the video of his death

[tokeit]

Yknow what I have to stop doing and start accepting...that not everyone has the same heart as me. Just because I was there for them doesn't mean they'll be there for me. Just because we laugh together doesn't me we can cry together. I've always said I admired people who do without expecting so I guess it's time to be that person.

[tokeit]

Growing up

I keep replaying a series of events of when I should have been 100% myself regardless of the consequence of hurting someone else’s feelings. I don’t know what hurts more being hurt or hurting myself by silencing my own voice. At this point in my life I continuously have doubts in someone’s true intentions yet I play along giving people the benefit of the doubt only to be proven right in the end. The people who I have considered to be close have taken on new faces. Perhaps it’s just the process of growing up. No one told me exactly how lonely growing up feels. It seems that Im only deemed useful to someone during a specific season in their life, then as the sun rises I’m apart of the shadows. It’s hard not to be upset with myself for allowing myself to become background noise when I always saw myself as the bass. Once I notice that discrepancy it catalyzes insecurities,dishonesty, and paranoia that causes other relationships to come into questioning. Can I really trust them, are they worth looking a fool for, am I being taken advantage of? Eventually those questions accumulate itself creating a barrier that encases my sense of freedom while blocking any pathway for recovery;creating a familiar safe place for self-pity. Better to be alone than surround by people who I’m not sure of, I always tell myself. Blocking myself from the opportunity to create new bonds because of uncut ties. But anyways, atleast I know that this is the process of growing up

[tokeit]

In reference to Brock Tuner "party culture"

I don’t have anywhere else to vent, or anyone else to have this conversation with so…

It’s very odd to me how people are so quick to play the victim instead of own up to their actions and accept the repercussions. Instead, they rather blame their emotions or the situation. I once had a friend,who I considered to be close, lash out after having a heart-felt conversation of how we’re going to be honest and more attentive to each other’s emotions. That went out the window within 20 mins. Later on she apologized and blamed it on the fact she had a few drinks.

Personally, I don’t feel like blaming your behavior on your of drinking,smoking,etc. You took the time to make the choice to drink, to feed into the hype. So no, I can’t accept that excuse. As much as I party, I can’t say that I would take any of those moments back because of ‘risky behavior’. I think that young people are so bent to do ‘grown folk’ things,yet when it comes down to the outcome they want to point fingers at everyone or everything other than themselves. When you do 'grown folk’ things you have to also know that there’s a level of responsibility to your own actions. This is why I can’t relate to having dumb,sloppy drunk friends who rather say “OMG I was so drunk last night ” just to tell of series of stories to their other dumb friends for laughs just to make them feel like it wasn't a big deal..then afterwards they wanna play the victim. Instead of being introspective, and realizing they made a set of mistakes that they'll never doing that again.I think that's key to actually growing up,even the smallest details matter because if you don't correct your behavior initially you'll continue to do such a thing that will eventually create a bigger thing. I can’t stand when someone play the victim just so they won’t be painted in a negative image.If you did something wrong, you did something wrong period point blank. Fuck how you feel, if you felt like you didn’t do anything wrong…if your actions were wrong,you are wrong,period. & If you do something wrong saying sorry isn’t enough you must change your actions. Actions will always speak louder than words. You can’t control what people do to you, but you can control how you react and handle situations. Grow the fuck up.

[tokeit]

I hope and pray that in 2016 I can forgive those who have wronged me and release the feeling of shame and guilt for allowing that to happen. I can now confirm that putting others feelings before your own is a terrible idea because in the end they'll bite you in the ass.

[itsalison]

gotta find myself again. i know i’m in there somewhere..

[tokeit]

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[fyblackwomenart]

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: : submission : :

[tsunamiwavesurfing]

[blueklectic]

He gone. He’s done.

[alwaysbewoke]

FYI, I’M REBLOGGING THIS SHIT 3 MAYBE 4 TIMES A DAY FOR THE NEXT COUPLE OF WEEKS. 

#RIGHTEOUSFIRE

[yeezys-girl]

✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿

[tokeit]

[iambaby-j]

African Americans Appropriating African Culture

Listen before you make a judgement on what I’m about to say. Lemme just start off by saying that me being Nigerian , I have absolutely no problem with African Americans wearing traditional African wear , if anything I encourage it . Like yes! Embrace your cultural diaspora. Because African Americans were ripped from the opportunity to partake in any type of ancestral identity . Here’s where it becomes problematic , every African kid growing up in the U.S. remembers being tormented for being African. (African booty scratcher is the most famous term of them all) . I remember being ashamed to say my last name because nearly everyone in the room would frown. My only concern is that with the growing popularity in waist beads and dashikis and things of that sort , is this appreciation of African attire and culture just a fad ? That’s the main grey area that I’m concerned about. All of a sudden everyone loves my last name and wants to figure out how to pronounce it, but years ago I hated myself .

[crypticassault]

i just wanna live my life happy and not stress out about shit that don’t matter. Me being in a relationship doesn’t matter. Other people’s views of me don’t matter. The only thing that matters is me working on myself and my happiness. Fuck everything else.