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@tollytolin
Hi! I'm Elara, 30s transfem lesbian living in Colorado. She/her only thankies. Polyamorous Plural system. If you've read this far and still use "they" for me, you suck. I will frequently reblog NSFW stuff, potentially including kink stuff that I absolutely will not tag I do furry art, rarely. You can see some of my stuff (more easily) on my FA, or under the #my art tag. https://www.furaffinity.net/user/elaramoon I also am a 3d artist so that might show up occasionally as well.
This Pride, make sure every trans woman that you follow, are mutuals with, goon over, or consume their work in general, has a roof over their head, their bills paid, and food in their kitchens.
You wanna call yourselves allies? This is the work. Do it.
And yes, I'm putting my links on here because I still have to get around 1800 in for rent and bills.
Donations: http://paypal.me/tormentedartifacts
Or https://ko-fi.com/tormentedartifacts/shop
And yes, if you're transfem of any kind, you're welcome to add your own links on here when reblogging.
paypal.me/miscling gonna be posting later today but it usually posts a weekly £100 fundraiser to buy food with
https://www.paypal.me/incubidisaster
I need help. I'm sorry for asking.
c*shapp is $PMastro97
venmo is pmastro97
www.paypal.me/brightredneon
venmo: Ellie-Wright-69
haven't been getting much work as a painter and that's all I have rn so a little bit to help with food would be appreciated
CA: $ElaraCorsaro PP: elaracorsaro at gmail dot com Me and my girlfriends are facing housing insecurity and risking ending up on the streets this pride month, anything to help us secure housing would go incredibly far
why are you always bitching about cis women having boundaries and not cis men who are the ones who are statistically far more likely to murder you? god forbid women don't spend all their emotional labor on centering you 24/7. go after the transphobic politicians or something, those are the actual fascists who want you dead.
those "boundaries" get us murdered lol. trans women who can't access women's shelters or other forms of housing because of cis women's "boundaries" are left on the streets to be assaulted and murdered
if you want trans women out of women's spaces, and the rationale for those spaces existing is to protect from violence, then you are saying that trans women don't deserve protection from the same violence despite being at an even higher risk of it than you
terfs have gotten crazy good at framing discrimination through the language of consent. systemic discrimination is not "boundaries"
the emotional labor of being asked not to discriminate against one of the most vulnerable groups of women
Feminine men existed and were part of the queer community long before people built an entire identity around a transmisogynistic slur. Having a problem with a culture based around the degendering fetishization of trans woman isn't "increasing binary expression".
If people had chosen shemale, trap or ladyboy instead of femboy as their new label I'd be arguing against those instead. Hell, tme people do call themselves traps, which is extra disgusting considering what that word implies.
Put on a fucking dress. Grow your hair out. Wear eyeliner, it looks great on everyone. I encourage it. Gender is a scam invented by bathroom sign companies.
But stop building an identity off fetishization of me and stop acting like I'm the problem for being upset by it.
"afab only housing" is honestly beautiful. it's #progress to use inclusive language when discrimating against trans women
you might as well just say "no men, and yeah I think men includes you trannies (but trans men aren't men you ladies are welcome 🥰)"
^^^
It really is one of the best examples of them compounding. Cause when I was in a really bad spot housing wise, a few times I applied to those anyway and made a point about being like "oh I'm afab" and it felt so fucking gross. But I didn't wanna be homeless. So I made myself uncomfortable (and for nothing as it turned out, I would not do the same thing again if I went back in time)
But even then, and even more now, I was so conscious of the fact that, as uncomfortable and gross as it felt.... It was an option. And if I was a trans woman, no matter how desperate I was, it would not BE an option. It's a way of understanding privilege more people need to take on IMO, cause it's not about whether or not I think of it as a privilege. Course I dont. That's not the point.
"It isn't socially acceptable to hate on trans women"
The entire political order of every western country has been calling for the eradication of trans women for almost a decade and no one has faced any negative repercussions for it. Trans women have no serious federal legal protections. It's entirely legal for anyone to fire a trans woman simply for being a trans woman and nothing bad happens to them, and it happens all the time. Every single one of us knows multiple trans women personally that has happened to, or it has happened to us personally, or both. Usually both.
After some years of HRT I've been left with this deep, low simmering rage. Because what do you mean it was always this easy to be happy
I take a shot once a week, and even if that was too much, I could do it as pills, and so many of my problems just evaporated overnight.
And not one person thought to bring it up.
When I was talking about how horrifying puberty felt. When I was cutting myself. When I was in inpatient care. When I attempted suicide. When I talked for YEARS in therapy about how dissociated and trapped I felt in my body. When I felt like I never truly fixed something that was deeply wrong about me that started at puberty.
Not one person said it was a possibility. No one thought "hey, maybe this kid should go to someone trained to identify dysphoria". No one mentioned that trans people weren't some weird other group of people. It didn't have to be pressure. It didn't have to be "forcing" me. Just mentioning that trans people exist and it could be me. That it was possible and it was easy. No pushing, just laying the option out there.
HRT is treated like this last ditch option. This horrific, mutilating thing that I GUESS we can give to you if you have NO OTHER options. Because did you know it's permanent? Did you know you'll be on it for the rest of your life? Did you know the health risks? Did you know it'll make you infertile? Did you know that it's deviant? Did you know that it's an alternative lifestyle for other people?
No one said it was okay to WANT it to be permanent. Or noted that most people are reliant on the medical system in one way or the other anyways (and it's not even necessary for HRT). Or that the health risks are the normal parts of having that hormone, even in cis people of your gender. Or said it was okay to not want kids, or mention that you can just freeze gametes. Or acknowledged that the "deviant" people are just people, living their lives, that have been violently pushed out of "normal" society.
I grew up in an area that Republicans mock for being a kind of "woke central". And even then it's just. Not treated as an easy option. It was never on the table if you don't specifically already know you're going through gender stuff, and no one will help you get to that point. At which point, it's still treated like the last ditch option. Did you know you can be a feminine man? Did you know you can slap a "she/her" in your twitter bio and be done with it? Did you know that you're oh-so-valid without it? Did you know that you shouldn't take HRT? Maybe don't take HRT? Don't take HRT? Don't take HRT? Don't ta-
When you've been in it a while, HRT is the easiest, most casual thing in the world. Just pop a shot on a Saturday as part of your "everything shower" routine and you're done.
Anyways. Support trans kids always and forever.
And if anyone comes swinging in here with "but Sierra you don't have to take HRT to be trans this is toxic" I'm going to fucking scream, because that is the status quo. "Just do this without doing this" has become a "give them an inch" refrain when making ourselves "acceptable" to the cis. Of COURSE you don't need to take HRT. I'm only reminded of it a dozen times a day.
Trans & disabled household in need of urgent help
We've got a household with four trans women and we are currently being threatened with eviction:
I lost my job recently and my unemployment benefits have now run out and despite constant searching I've not been able to get new employment yet and the amount of income we've had hasn't been enough to cover expenses, utilities, grocery, etc. Our landlord won't work with us and is demanding we pay the full amount by May 11th or they will start the eviction process. We've so far managed to put together a couple hundred, but we are still extremely short of our goal. Anything you can donate will help keep us off the streets, as we have no family or support system outside of ourselves. 400/1625 CA: $ElaraCorsaro PP: elaracorsaro at gmail dot com Please share or help if you're able, thank you 💜
Unfortunately we weren't able to raise enough to stave off eviction by the deadline, so it seems that it's inevitable at this point. We attempted pursuing rent assistance with a couple local organizations as well (although none of them could have covered the full amount needed), but we were repeatedly denied because our landlord may be committing some sort of fraud, with there being inconsistencies with the lease, ownership of the property and property management company. While that's making us feel hopeful about the possibility of being able to push back in court with the help of local pro bono legal services, it really isn't a huge help in keeping us housed in the immediate term. So we are prepping to leave early and rent a new place before our lease is up and (hopefully) before we can be removed via court order, but we need money for a new place and for moving expenses. So far since this post we've raised an extra $190 from a couple of donations. I'll lower the goal from 1625 to 1000 as that may be more realistic in the timeframe, but we desperately need the help. several of us here have spent time unhoused in our past and we REALLY don't want to end up there again. If you can help or just share this post it would really mean a lot!
We were able to pay some and prolong the date until the eviction, which is helpful because we haven't been able to find another place to rent yet, but it's unlikely we will be able to push it back any longer. Seeing as we won't be able to entirely vacate in the next week, we will end up in court facing eviction with an unknown timeframe until we're out on the street. Any mutual aid here would be immensely helpful in helping us secure housing and help ease the little bit of sickening stress we've got this pride month :c
CA: $ElaraCorsaro PP: elaracorsaro at gmail dot com
TRANSMISOGYNY EXEMPT PERSON: Anyway this is why calling me “transmisogyny exempt” is exactly the same as being a TERF. If you point out I am unaffected by transmisogyny that is actually literally the exact same as being part of a group of people with an ideology founded in transmisogyny.
TRANSMISOGYNY EXEMPT PERSON 2: Asking me if I am trans feminine or not is basically the same as demanding a detailed description of my genitals. I will not let you know if I am trans feminine or affected by transmisogyny in any way, if you’re a trans feminine person who asks me this I will double down on the “you’re asking me for a full-length, detailed description of my genitals” part in order to rhetorically construct an image of you as a sexual predator, which people are inclined to believe about you, a transmisogyny-affected individual, even regardless of a total lack of evidence, because of transmisogyny, which I refuse to clarify my relationship to despite the fact I am currently enacting it.
could you imagine if it happened this pride month
casual survey: reblog if you want to kiss a girl right now
public service fucking announcement.
f*tanari is a transmisogynistic slur, do NOT use it to refer to ANYONE! this includes fictional characters! don't fucking use it how is it this difficult!
like i wish i could live in a world where a straight girl telling me "i don't normally like girls but you're so hot" would do it for me because i love straightbreaking kink compliments and attention, or where any queer person telling me they don't normally fuck with girls but i'm hot was a compliment. but it just feels like you're associating me with maleness, or like i'm some kinda weird third-gendered bridge towards female attraction for you :/
that "wait so RUPAUL would be TME??!?!?!" post is so hilarious to me and really exposes how people will try to engage with this terminology without actually understanding it at all, because RuPaul is maybe one of the best examples of transmisogyny exemptedness I could think of 'cause he plays the part of a queen publically but crucially, at the end of the day, he gets to stop playing that part. transfems don't! we're just transfeminized for realsies 24/7! that's the difference!
they should make a version of socializing that doesn’t make you feel like you’re still the weird 12 year old kid that doesn’t know why she’s not normal like the other kids
"[thing associated to trans women] but for transmascs :3" and other ways of making something immediately worse on multiple levels
asking for the blue version because you cannot possibly just relate to women once in your life
usually transmisogynistic
even when talking about something like art, and even if not done in an explicitly transmisogynistic manner, self-evidently derivative and i've yet to see somewhere where it didn't become instantly less interesting than the original concept
have you ever had a single original thought
"what about men :("
there is absolutely nothing barring you from engaging with transfem culture as a non-transmisogynized person btw. i read countless books and articles from trans women and transfeminized people, follow multiple comedians, go to events where non-transmisogynized ppl are allowed, etc etc etc. they're neat. and turns out when you don't go around whining about the poor forgotten men nobody has a problem with it
i just can't imagine, say, reading a novel by torrey peters, and instead of relating to the characters (or feeling towards them one way or another, regardless of relatability) thinking "but where are the boys from my exact demographic so i can care about this :(". for christ sake how misogynistic do you have to be
gonna go for drawing #148732918 of a cowboy with mastectomy scars and comment "this but for cis people! :)"
Can you fucking TMEs stop with this fucking shit oh my fucking hell
"I've hit the stage of transition where I notice that everyone is transmisogynistic but I get not to care because it doesn't affect me :3"
