[were--ralph]

You doing ok?

[sss]

[king-joaquin]

Lol “he was just doing his job” So were nazi soldiers

“Its the law” It was once illegal for black people to read

Fuck out my face

[minuty]

[hotgirlsasuke-deactivated202011]

what is your cishet male trait mine is being a car fan

[zdf-deactivated20251121]

[alien]

[beewishing]

777

spiritual growth, good luck, fulfilled dreams, miracles

[skinoutqueen]

Where the thick boys at, hope y’all had a good day, looking like a big ol cute ass teddy bear I love y’all

[pathologising]

actually you will not enjoy hearing this but you literally have to abandon your self deprecating humor. besides the fact that it can drive people away you literally are only hurting yourself by constantly making jokes that further cement the idea in your head that you are not good enough. I do not care that you think its a good coping mechanism it is absolutely not and you need to start challenging negative thoughts instead of feeding into them.

[vomitpixie-deactivated20210608]

life gets so much better when u accept urself for the weird little bitch that u are

[alexazombie]

Not to hurt anyone’s feelings but legalization of marijuana means NOTHING if it doesn’t come with the release of the millions of black and brown people, who have been in prison for DECADES because of it.

[pibgeonart]

im sorry.

[tear-dropp-deactivated20241031]

i do a thing called what i want

[brandysmellville-deactivated202]

girls after saying something smart: So yeah

[skybluelipgloss]

Girls after giving a concise and completely sensible thought on the matter, with well thought out arguments:

... If that makes sense?

[jasmiinitee-deactivated20210610]

Girls after expressing a personal opinion: if you think that's okay haha maybe

[labradorduck]

Girls saying something they know to be absolutely correct and spent years studying: if I remember correctly

[one-pointperspective-deactivate]

Alternatives for each of these to practice:

instead of: “so yeah” -- silence or “do you have any questions?”

instead of: “if that makes sense?” -- “does that make sense or can i clarify further?” or “do you have any questions I can help answer?” 

instead of: “if you think that’s okay haha maybe” -- “that is my recommendation/opinion, though I am open to further discussion” or “Does anybody have reservations about this course of action/decision?”

instead of: “if i remember correctly” -- “to my understanding” or “I have found, through xyz”

the goal of these alternatives is not to shut down dissent, but to change the level of confidence and authority you give yourself in discussions. 

the original statements essentially position your opinions and knowledge as by default “probably incorrect” and seeking confirmation. 

the updated statements position your opinions and knowledge as being confirmed by you considering the information you have available-- others can voice their concerns and disconfirm, but this requires them to logically explain with facts/evidence why they disagree with you. 

[softgrlfriend]

the scariest, most liberating thing is that it’s all up to you!

[batcii-archive-deactivated20210]