transcendent. extraordinary.

💪🏻ftm, trans* activist, mental health advocate, substance abuse recovery counselor, transgender dad, pit bull dad, agnostic with an insatiable spiritual side and deep desire to find ones own "truth", fascinated with Buddhist beliefs and how they correlate so magically (and logically) with what would be considered "modern day, western mental health treatment" (i.e. CBT, DBT). 

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#ftm #ftmtransgender #ftmfitness #ftmtransition #femaletomale #topsurgery #cutetransguy #ftmpride #chesthair #bellyhair #mancub #imtoocute #imtoosexyformyshirt https://www.instagram.com/p/BueUp_zBCJe/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1fkc723h8rugv

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Posted @withrepost • @exhaustedhedgehog #mentalhealth #failing #youregreat #yourestrong #recovering #recoverywarrior #positivelife #loveyourself #metime #boundaries #anorexia #bipolar #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #mentalhealthawareness #selfharmrecovery (at Middletown, New Jersey) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bubf3QUgKVk/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=ord381ov6kdx

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A better, more positive Tumblr

Since its founding in 2007, Tumblr has always been a place for wide open, creative self-expression at the heart of community and culture. To borrow from our founder David Karp, we’re proud to have inspired a generation of artists, writers, creators, curators, and crusaders to redefine our culture and to help empower individuality.

Over the past several months, and inspired by our storied past, we’ve given serious thought to who we want to be to our community moving forward and have been hard at work laying the foundation for a better Tumblr. We’ve realized that in order to continue to fulfill our promise and place in culture, especially as it evolves, we must change. Some of that change began with fostering more constructive dialogue among our community members. Today, we’re taking another step by no longer allowing adult content, including explicit sexual content and nudity (with some exceptions).  

Let’s first be unequivocal about something that should not be confused with today’s policy change: posting anything that is harmful to minors, including child pornography, is abhorrent and has no place in our community. We’ve always had and always will have a zero tolerance policy for this type of content. To this end, we continuously invest in the enforcement of this policy, including industry-standard machine monitoring, a growing team of human moderators, and user tools that make it easy to report abuse. We also closely partner with the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children and the Internet Watch Foundation, two invaluable organizations at the forefront of protecting our children from abuse, and through these partnerships we report violations of this policy to law enforcement authorities. We can never prevent all bad actors from attempting to abuse our platform, but we make it our highest priority to keep the community as safe as possible.

So what is changing?

Posts that contain adult content will no longer be allowed on Tumblr, and we’ve updated our Community Guidelines to reflect this policy change. We recognize Tumblr is also a place to speak freely about topics like art, sex positivity, your relationships, your sexuality, and your personal journey. We want to make sure that we continue to foster this type of diversity of expression in the community, so our new policy strives to strike a balance.

Why are we doing this?

It is our continued, humble aspiration that Tumblr be a safe place for creative expression, self-discovery, and a deep sense of community. As Tumblr continues to grow and evolve, and our understanding of our impact on our world becomes clearer, we have a responsibility to consider that impact across different age groups, demographics, cultures, and mindsets. We spent considerable time weighing the pros and cons of expression in the community that includes adult content. In doing so, it became clear that without this content we have the opportunity to create a place where more people feel comfortable expressing themselves.

Bottom line: There are no shortage of sites on the internet that feature adult content. We will leave it to them and focus our efforts on creating the most welcoming environment possible for our community.

So what’s next?

Starting December 17, 2018, we will begin enforcing this new policy. Community members with content that is no longer permitted on Tumblr will get a heads up from us in advance and steps they can take to appeal or preserve their content outside the community if they so choose. All changes won’t happen overnight as something of this complexity takes time.

Another thing, filtering this type of content versus say, a political protest with nudity or the statue of David, is not simple at scale. We’re relying on automated tools to identify adult content and humans to help train and keep our systems in check. We know there will be mistakes, but we’ve done our best to create and enforce a policy that acknowledges the breadth of expression we see in the community.

Most importantly, we’re going to be as transparent as possible with you about the decisions we’re making and resources available to you, including more detailed information, product enhancements, and more content moderators to interface directly with the community and content.

Like you, we love Tumblr and what it’s come to mean for millions of people around the world. Our actions are out of love and hope for our community. We won’t always get this right, especially in the beginning, but we are determined to make your experience a positive one.

Jeff D’Onofrio CEO

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I think this is fantastic. It was just a few weeks ago my daughter asked me if she could have a tumblr account and I had to say no bc of the easily accessible adult content. Now, I will feel more secure - over time - allowing her to participate in one of the most creative, free speech blogging communities on the internet. Pornographic material is not inheritantly bad or “evil” (if there is such a thing), however it does not have a place in a community where young children are the predominant users. Bravo Tumblr and Jeff D’Onofrio!

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please make this be canon 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💙💚 @rebeccasugar

original GIF by @timehuntress

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TEDDY BEAR

I love how serious Lapis is hehehe ;3

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My god am I #blessed to be loved by the most incredible woman alive. Sexy, brilliant, funny, supportive, no bullshit - everything a man like me could hope for and then some. She is the epitome of what a woman the most ideal woman (in my eyes) could ever be. Her contagious laugh, her ocean blue eyes I lose myself in every god damn time, her excellent grammar, enhances vocabulary and dry, witty humor - sorry if it’s TMI but I’m instantly turned on 😂. Let’s not even talk about those boobs, those curves - keeping me warm ( sometimes I pretend to be cold). She knows what I’m saying when I grunt full on sentences at this point. Her hair smells like I’ve fallen into heaven. I snuggle and nuzzle into her neck and always try to sneak a hickey even though we’re both “too old” but fuck it, I NEED to imprint on her, no one can steal this precious woman from me. I waited LONG ENOUGH for this - my twin flame 🔥, my soul mate (that I stopped believing in after someone who shall not be named), I pushed her away, sometimes I still do - but she stands her guard, and takes the proverbial “hit” so to speak (I’ve never lay a finger on anyone I love, unless it was gentle and loving and sweet). I had no idea what intimacy was, no idea what romantic love was, Hell I had no idea what it was like for a man to love a woman TRULY and completely. Without excluding the queerness of who I am, and our relationship - which makes me proud. I can’t lie - feeling like a real man in her arms, there’s nothing better. I need her. Please God, I pray forgive me for all my flaws and sins and punish me if need be but don’t take my baby from me. https://www.instagram.com/p/BpnmirAhQEx/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=3hhcl53attx8

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Costume trouble with my mustache doesn’t stop my lovely Linda from smooching me, despite my slobbery kisses too. (Don’t worry I went online and got some kissing tips. She said, “oohhh Bobby...!” We scarred the kids for life). #bobsburgers #bobbelcher #burgeroftheday (at Hazlet, New Jersey) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bpnk5vBhJW7/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=pnybt0d2xsrh

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Who’s my baby for #Halloween? That’s right! #lindabelcher #bobsburgers #bobandlinda #cantlivewithoutmylinda https://www.instagram.com/p/BpnkjRchYOH/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=sz5vgi4vh94p

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Who am I for Halloween? Happy Halloween 🎃 folks #bobsburgers #bobbelcher #bobbelcherismyspiritanimal https://www.instagram.com/p/BpnkSblhMq3/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=hkytm4entd60

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#Repost @elephantjournal ・・・ “Life is as dear to a mute creature as it is to man. Just as one wants happiness and fears pain, just as one wants to live and not die, so do other creatures." ~ The Dalai Lama 👉🐘 Animals our People Too (join our Facebook page by the same name—we have over 5,500,000 million fans on 60 pages like Elephant Green, Elephant Family, Elephant Wellness, Mindful Travel, Right Livelihood, Elephant Meditation, Elephant Bicycle...) 🙏 https://www.instagram.com/p/BpEE188BVso/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=11n0evmiwe9t6

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She keeps me warm. #loveofmylife #cutequeercouples #ftm #itgetsbetter #shegetsme #shesmyperson #shesmyperfection #iloveyou . . Angela, It’s so hard for me to put you into words, because I love you in ways I have never loved anyone else. (Clearly, why I can’t write love poems about you.) . . . . You are the first and last thing on my mind every single day. #mytwinflame #soulmate #weexist #webelongtogether #neverleaveme #illneverleaveyou #wce #wcw😍 https://www.instagram.com/p/BpEErnABCfU/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1xmmf89o54jll

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You can never spend too much time with your kids. #familytime #parenting #timewithkiddo #tgif #fall2018 #minime #mypreciousgirl #icantbelieveshes12 #suddenlyshesemo She asked for black nail polish and wants black clothes now. I see the beginnings of the “finding herself” phase and I can’t wait to watch what comes out of it. I’ll let her do and be anything (within reason), to help her discover herself in a safe and valid environment. If I seems silly to us to be wearing goth type clothes in 2018, doesn’t matter. It’s new to THEM. Everything is for the first time. I feel like a kid myself experiencing these things with her all over again. BUT I do love when she comes to me and asks me for genuine advice and opinions, knowing I’ve “been there, done that” and she values my words. She might not always agree, but she takes it into consideration. Unless it’s dangerous, illegal I’ll let her find her own way - if she falls, she’s learned on her own. . . . As a parent you HATE it when they choose the wrong path that YOU knew was the wrong choice and now they’re hurt. You hate to see them in any kind of pain: physical, emotional, whatever. Sometimes, that’s the only way they’re going to learn though. By going THROUGH it. Sometimes, our words as mom or dad just aren’t enough. As long as we’re there to help pick up the pieces after they fall. As long as they KNOW you’ll always be there to comfort their broken heart 💔 or drive them to the emergency room lol. Being a parent is a an instant and eternal panic attack from the second they hand you that baby until the day you die. My mother quoted me that before I had Daniella and still reminds me now, as if I’m unaware. It’s true though people. If you LOVE your babies, you’re constantly “on guard” waiting, watching, like a sniper somewhere in the trees lol. Daniella, my love, I got your back always and forever. Ride or die. I’ll never leave you or forsake you. I’ll never turn my back on my child. #truelove #love #ilovemykid #rideordie #unconditionallove https://www.instagram.com/p/Bo50WV4BOpQ/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=i61l0i08jg2b

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I’m finally smiling for me again. . . . . #beardlove #instabeard #fueledbythc #sexystoners #420 #thcfarmer #youbeyou #neverconform #fucklabels #instadaily #malefeminist #transinclusive #fuckgenderroles #heirtothethrone #onedayatatime #humankindness #isingthebodyelectric #gratitudeeveryday #givenofucks #saturdaze #motivation #realtalk #bedeeplyrooted #strongincharacter #choosewisely #magicalAF #nostigmanoshame #trueyoutribe #warriorofweird #wanderlustboy . . . . . •Peace ✌🏻Love ❤️ Humility 😌• - Jordan Ryan - Remember: Transcend ALL Shame; wear your “weird and unusual” like the crown it is. We are the heirs to the throne, and no one can take that away from us. (at Cheesequake, New Jersey) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bo5xtNcBbpX/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1fqtptarpl4ky

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Corn 🌽 Maze fun on a crisp, Fall day #autumn🍁 #saturdaze #cheesequakefarms #newjersey #spendingtimewithfamily #familytime #mindfulactivity #instagood #instafun . . . . At first, I was apprehensive 😫 because I’m a little claustrophobic and the sign said “enter at your own risk, it IS difficult” blah blah blah - but the kids dragged us in. (at Cheesequake, New Jersey) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bo5kmObBoL9/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=av0z3i2ta22h

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#Repost @the.gentleman.wolf ・・・ A healthy relationship means that the two of you are on the same side. You don't work against each other or compete to see who's right and who's wrong. The goal should be to create a "safe space" for communication, where you can share your thoughts and feelings without feeling attacked, criticized, judged or belittled. You both deserve to be acknowledged and treated respectfully. You did choose each other, after all, so honoring each other is actually honoring yourself and your choices. When having a discussion, focus on the outcome that you want (not on the fear of what could happen), try not to have an emotional reaction to anything being said and try not to take anything personally (sometimes your partner is feeling hurt and scared and doesn't know how to express that and it comes out as an accusation about you). Express your feelings in a way that makes your partner want to help you, not run away from you. You both just want to feel better and feel loved, and you accomplish this by helping each other feel understood and cared for and by letting your partner know that their feelings matter. -Joel Clemons • Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf • Photo credit: @geschichtenvonsimon https://www.instagram.com/p/Bo1VUG-h4O9/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=a9ffs4lzkee7